How do I talk to people when I have nothing to say?
Usually my mind is blank or full or random chatter. I can only agree with people or acknowledge what they’re saying but I can’t add anything valuable without sounding like I’m just spewing facts. Also my awkward body language makes people uneasy. I think this might be a result of never making friends growing up but trying to act normal is exhausting and I feel like my social skills aren’t improving. What do?
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Yeah I can really relate to this feel. I honestly haven't the faintest clue as to how people have normal conversations. I can occasionally talk about my interests like history or Yea Forums, but only with very close friends and even then I struggle. I have no hope at all if it's with anyone else. I just sit there awkwardly until it's over.
Depends... What kinda person do you consider yourself to be now? Gotta know where you're starting out before I can say with any degree of confidence what your next step should be. Everything you've listed thus far are just behaviors that can be corrected.
I just talk to myself. I have little imaginary characters in my mind that talk throughout the day and I banter back and forth with them. People I've told this to think it's crazy but I honestly prefer the voices to real people and their stupid bullshit.
The only problem is that now I'm literally talking aloud to them.
Stop trying to find the correct things to say user, you just seem really concerned not to sound stupid. But when you go out of your way to not sound stupid, you also stop thinking about things to talk about. It makes you trite and predictable. Just talk about what comes to mind, and if you cant think about stuff at the moment, just ask them shit.
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This is easier to work with than OP, so hopefully he replies by the time I finish this post.
You need to focus on self-confidence first and foremost, and the only way to do that is to put yourself out there. Don't be afraid to get into different topics, because you're not going to be able to talk to everyone about Yea Forums. Engaging with people in different conversations expands your potential to carry on other conversations. For example, you meet me, we talk about a specific album I suggest listening to. Two weeks later, you talk to someone who mentions listening to that same album. Now you've got something to talk about, because you're not completely unfamiliar with the topic.
just thinking about this now, I can totally relate to you OP
>Has nothing to say but must speak
Keep your trap shut until you think of something to say. And lurk more.