Been a neet for a year now. Do nothing but browse Yea Forums, watch anime, read fantasy books of The Lord of The Rings and articles about mythological creatures and whatever I find interesting on Wikipedia, and play Fallout New Vegas... I rarely go outside anymore. Day go by so fast, so redundant, can't tell if I'm awake, sleeping or dreaming at times... am I even alive anymore?
Ever been in this situation? Ever felt like this? Serious answer only, please.
How old are you? If you’re under 25 there’s a chance you can redeem yourself
Yup
Get a job and start socializing, go the gym and work out
You’ll stop coasting
and that's the moment you finaly get why people get jobs and you hopefully start being a functioning member of society
aww fuck my spelling
you could use the time to figure yourself out, your goals and the change you want to see in the universe. even if its as simple as volunteering more ^w^
I was in the same situation from age 18 to 23. Doing absolutely nothing productive and especially not leaving the house often was the cause of all my mental issues. Especially with sometimes (or most of the time) not feeling real, you develop derealization/depersonalization and are at risk for anxiety and depression.
Once you’re in a hole, it may seem impossible to jump back out. It might seem overwhelming but that’s just a response from your damaged mind, you can take it one day at a time and you’ll eventually get back at being a functional adult. It’s all about pushing through your shit irrational mindset.
OP here. Being a neet is boring, but working and being "productive" sucks. People sucks. No matter if it is a blue or white collar job, you still have to put up with passive-aggressive and outright harassing and teasing assholes and cunts... fuck that, nigga. I want to watch all the anime in the world, eat cereal and do nothing! :D
ive been like this op for the last 3 years actually, started at 17 when i quit high school, the truth is you won't be ready to get a job, you won't be ready to start higher education, you have already had so much stimulation then the lack of it that at a certain point the only thing left to do is leave, you might even get lost in psychosis, but you have to find a breaking point between the rock and the hard place, ask your family or friends for work, find out what you interest you, i know you may not like people seeing you at a stage of weakness like this but its going to be constant if you can't escape, then the night will be your only friend like how i am, but yeah like consider getting help or whatever
Damn, nigga. You must be from a very rich country or family to be able to be a neet for so long. I'm one second away from going homeless (or HAVING to get a job) because my parents can hardly sustain themselves. No need to tell where you're from if you don't want to. I'd really like to hear what kind of event (heartbreak, disease, death of a beloved one, etc) made you snap and say Fuck it, i'll be a neet. In my case it was the crazy prices of college (I started neeting as soon as i finished high school as a straight A student, ain't that ducking ironic and hopeless inducing? lol)
This, I say just keep riding the gravy train, if all you want in life is to sit in your room so be it.
You're lucky enough to have people who enable that behavior.
If you want more, your gonna have to work for it.
My parents were middle class, they could afford rent and food. So I just stayed with them. I didn’t really use money. My mom would cook for us everyday and my wardrobe wasn’t too bad though it was pretty old.
I basically did nothing. Just sit around in the internet. No need to spend money on anything. So no need to have money at all. Parents were comfortable, so was I.
But yeah, then I hit the breaking point and had to get my life started. I could’ve technically been a NEET my whole life if it wasn’t for school K-12.
Almost
Been a neet for almost a year after uni
I was looking for a job and not playing games
Came close to go nuts and killing myself or entering an insane asylum
But I found a job and I'm not a neet now
Wasn't expecting it tbqh
Unfortunately I'm still a permavirgin
Good luck
im dirt poor and so is my family, im just a leech and am living at my grandmother's and using part of her aarp checks, i don't feel bad though because im a horrible sociopath
This was me from age 19 until age 31, and I'm 34 now.
Two important differences for me though - for one, I was depressed before neeting, and the solitude simply made it worse.
Two, I had the opposite feeling as it went on: that time seemed to slow down, and it's probably because rather than "coasting" I used each day to turn inward and think about myself and the world. Introspection.
It felt like I lived a whole lifetime or two, and I can remember many specific moments very clearly, even though many days' activities weren't that different.
Couple years ago I got an opportunity to move out, and took it on a whim. Scenery change and being with different people who treated me better for a while changed my life.
They ended up betraying and using me, but I came out of it with the positivity and confidence I needed, fully realized.
Now I'm active and successful in life, just a few short years later. Even found things to live for outside of my own mind.
Going through something bad is still better than doing what you’re doing, I honestly can’t imagine being in that position again I think I’d rather be dead
my cousin has been a NEET for years, still lives in his mom's basement.
age?
My girlfriend is a NEET because she has PTSD and other anxiety disorders
Oh and possibly important background info, I live in a very small town in poor southern rural United States. Cost of living is so low, a single man could live well on minimum wage here easily, as long as he didn't have any expensive hobbies like smoking and drugs. Hell, my brother is the biggest pothead I've ever heard of and he still gets by and has enough extra to continually buy stupid gadgets off amazon.
I was able to work for less than a year and buy a very decent used car, decent gifts for all my family's birthdays and holidays, and still have thousands left in savings to live on while I'm unemployed for multiple months
Not bragging just trying to give an idea of how insanely low the cost of living is here that facilitates this kind of lifestyle. Hell, I bought a 1500 dollar laptop while unemployed and I didn't even feel the impact on my savings before buying my car.
20 now, was 17, i thought it was the absolute tits, turns out doing nothing in a house all day is dreadfully boring
Was like this after college for about 3 years.
Got desperate to change, found a shitty physical labor job. The job was hard but I was happy to basically be paid to workout. I got strong, working outside and sweating all day made me tan and handsome. Girls noticed, I started fucking a lot. I was working so much (as much overtime as I wanted at a low hourly wage) and fucking so much I didn't have time for many video games.
After too many fuck buddies, I met the woman who eventually became my wife. I realized I was tied down to a shit labor job, working too many hours, and started looking for something else. I found a job in retail management, as it turns out after about 4 years of the physical labor job, I actually learned a lot about running a business.
Working 80+ hours a week turned me into an unstoppable machine in any other field. Within a year of the retail management job starting, I crushed all expectations and was made a district manager. Kept crushing it, and after 3 years of starting was made the sectional manager of an entire state.
That woman who eventually became my wife is 6 months pregnant with our first child (daughter). We are buying our first home (it's beautiful). My income is significantly more than my bills each month, so we vacation and buy nice things.
My advice would be to just stop. Stop video games, stop all of it. Go get a job that will make you a man. Go get a job that pays you to work out. Become a man, then look for something that is a job for a man. Go work for the state paving roads, or in a factory - or if you're good with people, work through retail until you move up the ladder. Keep fluid over time and find something you like to do. A woman will notice all of this, and find you. Start a family, and own a home. It's better than any achievement awarded I'm a video game.
My question to you is, how the hell do you meet women while working so much? I work a hell lot, and even if there were women I could talk to at my job, i wouldn’t have the time or energy outside of work.
I didn't work Friday or Saturday nights. I would go to bars and buy cute girls drinks, see how they responded. When you work so much, even at low wages, you have extra money because you don't have time to spend it. I would drop $200 on a Friday night at the bar buying shots etc, and take home girls and just fuck. No attachments.
Ahhh, the bar approach. Have tried it myself but I’m not the type to connect with people over loud music and drinking. I have met people through meetup groups but can’t go to most events with my schedule. Meeting girls really has been the biggest problem for me, when I don’t enjoy bars or go on tinder
I've been thinking of using bars for random hookups, problem is I don't drink so it would be pretty obvious what I was there for. Suppose I could just get really into billiards.
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I would also use online / dating apps. I had a perfectly worded message that I would copy paste to initiate conversations - something a little funny, a casual invite to buy them a drink and dinner. These tended to be a little more serious than fuck buddies, but there was a general understanding of moving on if it wasn't working after a month or so.
This is actually how I met my wife, on a dating app. She gets my humor and thinks I'm the funniest thing on the planet. She's hot (blonde hair, blues eyes like me) has a good job that is awesome for a combined income, and basically lets me get away with anything short or murder.
Try dating apps too, but really it came down to getting very fit from a hardcore physical labor job. I'm a good looking guy by nature, but I got pudgy playing video games 18 hours a day. Once I got, not only slim, but muscular, I had to beat the girls off of me. Even just walking through Walmart, I would get heads to turn. It feels good, man. And it wasn't always that way.
Oh yeah, shooting pool and playing darts is key. It's easier to talk and flirt than sitting at the bar. Meet at the bar buy offering to buy a drink, but after initiating contact always move from the bar to do something else. It gets you on your feet and moving, and just about any guy can beat that girl at darts. Give them a little hug when they have a good throw, or make a shot on the pool table. When they give you that look, maybe a little kiss too. Next thing you know, it's doggystyle for the rest of the weekend.
I did it from 2013 to 2017. I went back to school for electronics engineering technology at a trade school and I graduate this year. I've decided that I want to look for shift work (1 month on 1 month off) in the Canadian arctic. After a few years you can easily make over 100k and you only work 6 months of the year. The time of will be spent playing video games in the house that I plan to buy, on a godtier pc. Being poor fucking sucks and being a true NEET isn't worth it.
I should also mention that for my NEET years I was basically agoraphobic. I read online about exposure therapy, so going to bars and forcing social situations with strangers was good for me. Just don't become an alcoholic, and don't drink and drive.
Aww man not OP but Im a 25 year old neet
Am I beyond redemption?
I have had jobs throughout highschool and after I dropped out, but after I hurt my back I quit and lived with my dad for 6 years rent free and now I am out of shape to work. He kicked me out and now I live with my mom but he still gives me money. Am I hopeless? I don't
You make being attractive seem amazing. In reality I’m not a good looking dude and I’m only 5’4”... it’s no joke when I tell you I never get looks from anyone in public. Never felt desired or had anyone of the opposite sex go out of their way for me. And I understand why. Shits just out of my control. I have a lot of friends I wouldn’t say I’m weird but it never works out. I guess gaining some muscle would help my physique a little.
First part sounds very similar to me, after college I was a NEET on and off for like 3 years. When I say on and off I mean I had a relative in the construction contractor business who I would work for whenever he needed me so I would do shitty construction work alongside illegal immigrants and white trash.
Because I had no practical skills I was given only grunt work, and yeah it made me stronger, but I was never eager to work I dreaded it most of the time and the pay was like $8-10 an hour in a really high cost of living area, so it was shit.
During this time, around 6 months after graduating college my father passed away and it was too much for me because he was my best friend. I couldn't handle the emotions because I guess I am naturally weak or something so I instinctively killed my emotions and just became a hollow emotionless husk.
I eventually stopped working completely and was full on NEET for over a year. My relative who I had worked for was pretty surprised, he thought I would man up from this experience and meet the world head on with new determination.
Instead I was totally crushed, defeated, and empty. I was already pretty fucked up long before my father's passing, but this just cemented my nihilism.
Days, weeks, months, years flying by without any meaningful experiences whatsoever. I wish I had been able to turn it around like you, but I guess I'm too beta, never had a gf, couldn't make progress with girls I had interest in.
Honestly I didn't have that problem, I'm 6'3" and at my peak was ripped at 195 lbs. If I was 5'4" I'd make being in great physical condition a major priority. Even starting by doing push-ups, situps, and squats in your room until muscle exhaustion would be a start. When you begin, you'll only be able to do a couple of each, bit if you max everyday you'll be buff in a month.
Brother that's tough but I put myself in a very similar place, although I didn't lose my father - which I can't imagine, because my dad is awesome too. I was agoraphobic, afraid to leave the house, and had immense anxiety and depression.
It sounds like you had the same opportunity as I did, but can find it easier. My physical labor job was with white trash and illegals too. That's what helped - by default I was often put in charge on job sites. Use anything as an opportunity to be the best at that time, if you're doing shit physical labor be the hardest working shit physical laborer on the site.
Maybe with time, and showing you're putting in the maximum effort, your uncle can move you into a foreman position? Maybe he's seeing if you have what it takes to move up?
Sorry for typos I'm banging this out on my phone.
Unemployed, throat destroyed
Get as comfy as you can, then kill yourself. You're going to get so accustomed to the comfort that it will become unbearable to exert yourself later once you see how blissful it is to be NEET. Get death over with before the rug is swept out from underneath you.
