> I just get curious if someone isn't telling me something, so I wanna know why they're having a good time or a bad time. I do care if they're sad, of course, but to ask why they're sad stems from wanting to know first.
That still shows you have concern for them, right? Look, any action you ever do can be spun as being only in your self interest and I suppose that is true for all humans (see hedonism and enlightened self-interest; armchair philosophist here (: ). Just don't let that get into your head too much.
> I keep a lot to myself until I absolutely have to divulge it.
Sounds a lot like me. For me that stems from trust issues which ultimately I can't pin down the origins of. I know how hard that is. You just need to take a leap of faith sometimes. But even one sour experience can really fuck you up for a long time.
> You've helped more than any reply ITT.
Glad to hear. Feel better user and hope things get sorted with your friend.