I know this post is going to sound beta but I really need some help bros. It's a dumb and uninteresting story, but any advice on the situation would be greatly appreciated. Skip to the end if you don't want all the details.
>I'm 19 >Been playing the Oboe ever since freshman year of highschool >Pretty good at it, receiving all kinds of praise from my peers >Parents suggest I major in music >Eh why not >Enroll in community college as an Oboe performance major >Parents spend like 6 grand on an Oboe >letsfuckingdoit.jpeg >Start semester >Fucking hate it >All every music teacher talks about is how difficult being a music major is and how shit the pay is >They constantly complain about never finding work >Have 3 hour rehearsals every tuesday, along with tons of music classes >Despite all the shit, my music teacher sees me improving >Constantly tells me how proud he is of my progress >Is like a second dad to me >He hypes me up to his colleagues, and wants me to join orchestra at the start of the semester next week >I don't want to do it >Want to quit music all together
I haven't been practicing at all and I have a lesson in an hour. I want to tell him that I don't want to pursue music anymore, but don't want to disappoint him. The backlash from my parents is going to be even worse considering how much they spent on my Oboe. My tuition is next to nothing thanks to it being a community college but the Oboe is still the most expensive thing in the house. Am I being a cunt for wanting to quit something that people I care about have invested so much in? Should I even bring this up today? Thanks for everyone who made it through this essay of garbage. It's my first post so it's a mess.
if it isn't what you have a passion for then don't do it... i really think you will be miserable if you keep doing this just to please other people.
if you are doing something to just please others, at least go be a doctor or a something that would actually make currency and not be a leech off someone.
Ian Bell
Yeah it's pretty important, it's an instrument that solos are usually reserved for
i play doubble bass, man just tell them "mom/dad, i feel the passion falling out of my life, i know you bought this oboe but i just dont feel the drive anymore, im sorry........ etc etc" but keep practacing whenever you can, it was just a hobby for me, than a side gig, once it was my part time job during the recession. tough it out, but tell them, "i dont feel the magic anymore"
What do you hate? That they tell you it’s gonna be hard when you graduate? Of course it is. I’m an artist. It doesn’t pay well (or at all usually), so I have to do other stuff to support it, some of it I don’t like. Yeah it sucks but I like being a creative, and if you enjoy playing oboe then you’ll live with it. It’s gonna be hard to find work in whatever field you study in, just be grateful you have supportive parents and teachers and an actual talent
James Ramirez
Hey user, I've been in a similar situation before. What I've learned throughout the years is that you can get used to anything with time. Even if you hate the oboe now, with enough desperation, you'll eventually learn to love it.
Also, if you worried about your future prospects, try to branch out in other interests to fill time. Learn to monetise other interests.
Easton Barnes
I still have no idea why no one tried talked me out of it.
Henry Rivera
Oh Bo, play that oboe.
Matthew Jones
P.S. orchestra is soooo much better than solo practice, keep it up user
BECAUSE YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE A FUCKING ADULT AT THIS POINT. By your age, people can chose to die for their country. Take some responsibility for your own life.
I'm just saying that I was surprised no one called out how dumb a decision it was. I don't resent anyone for it. On the contrary, the fact that my parents supported me through such a risk speaks volumes about how much faith they have in me. You're correct about taking responsibility for my own life though. I'm still reliant on my parents for every decision I make, which is why it took me this long to even think about quitting. It's something I'm working on, but your reply made me realize how much I need to get on it. Thanks for the response
Dylan Ortiz
I think this is what I'll do. I don't want to dump the instrument entirely, I just need a break from it. Thanks for the response
Daniel Jones
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the instrument and am grateful for my talent. I just don't want to make a career out of playing. I want to treat it like a hobby if anything else
Julian Taylor
I'll give a couple weeks of orchestra a shot, thanks for the reply
