My gf and I have been together for almost 2 years now and we live together. She is an insecure person and during the beginning of the relationship she’d constantly get on my head for fucking this girl before we got together. And she would get on my head for being friends with this other girl whom I used to like. There was nothing I could do to make her understand that I only wanted her. Until about 6 months ago. She told me that I could no longer be friends with the girl I used to like. So I said that in return she can’t be friends with her one guy friend I’ll call x. I understand that’s retarded and what not. But I figured a compromise would be fine. Well about 2 months ago she was going behind my back hanging out with x. When I caught wind and asked her multiple times about it she would deny everything. She would deny it to her grave! So I sent some screenshots of mine and x’s conversations and she started to cry and tell me she’s sorry and blah blah. Things were going okay again after that. Until last weekend... when she was hanging out with him again. So I pressed her about it and asked her multiple times to not lie to me and yadda yadda. She lies to my face and then I show her some screenshots and she starts crying and saying she’s sorry and “it will never happen again”. Things have been rocky between us since and I just feel weird about being with her now. Am I just being a pussy here? What do I do. I’m so lost
To be honest user, ik she may be really nice etc. but lying is not acceptable in a relationship (especially if she's insecure). Won't happen again? It shouldn't have happened in the first place.
Asher Rodriguez
Do you happen to know if she has borderline personality disorder? You seem like a nice guy so please lose hope that she's going to change and stop lying, she's not. Two years is commitment time so really start thinking if you can trust this woman with your life and life changing decisions. I'm jaded but I went through the same shit recently after a 6 year relationship. Cheers user you deserve someone you can trust.
Robert Wood
I'm not relationship expert, I married the 5th girl I've ever been with. But that sets an example of what your future will be like. She's done this to you twice. Do what you need to, you probably deserve better.
I don’t think she has a borderline disorder. Two years is commitment time; I’m dumbfounded that she actually lied to me about what she did. Not to mention that she would constantly go through my phone. By no means am perfect but ffs. 6 years? My heart goes out to you user and you deserve someone you can trust as well. God speed.
William Lewis
It shouldn’t have happened in the first place you are correct.
Adrian Hernandez
Maybe you should beat her and see if she develops Stockholm syndrome. Real talk tho just leave her
Leo Diaz
Fuck bro thats heavy. I hope the best for you man. Legit i will pray for you, you need all the strength you can get man. Honestly nobody in any relationship should be hanging with anybody of the opposite sex alone when they are committed to someone, even if there is no physical contact, it will always look shady and it will always cause a disruption in the relationship. I hope man that you guys evaluate what her deal is man. Godspeed bro.
Aiden Gray
go look for another girl, yours is damaged goods
if a girl lies once she will cheat on you when you will have children with her and she will destroy your life
