>be me
>Fall in love with childhood friend
>she's 10/10, literally my dream girl
>Manage to land her after trying for 5 years
>with her for 3, happiest years of my life
>slowly start fighting more, grow distant
>do my best to communicate with her and try and save the relationship
>She's having none of it
>ends up leaving me for a friend i introduced her too a year ago.
>moved back home, family is no help in recovering
Why fucking try, Yea Forums?
Never let negative people affect you negatively. Force yourself to think of positive outcomes of this.
1. You haven't wasted more time with her, she clearly wasn't the 'the one' or she would have tried harder and wouldn't have gone off with your 'friend'.
>continued if you haven't abandoned thread instantly like everyone else does on here
Still here bruv
2. you have learned a lot from being with her, how to deal with women, and so on and so on, stuff you don't even realise. you also know better what to look for in a woman, as in, avoid any negative personality traits that she had, especially the lack of communication. think about why the fights happened, meditate on it and other things about your relationship and know to recognise them and avoid them next time in yourself as well as the girl.
>continued if you hang around
trust me, Im not going anymore
>be me
>be brown
Why live?
3. you are now free, you're still young and you have time to sort yourself out, and take a step up to the next plateau in life. use this time, as it will take some time to recover from after being with her for 3 years, to work on improving your state in life.
study, apply for a new job, take a professional training course to put yourself in the next wage bracket up, exercise, learn a practical skill and become good at it, learn a musical instrument, work some extra hours and save your money for a project or a long trip or moving somewhere you've always wanted to be.
keep yourself busy, and turn all of this energy, the sadness, the frustration, the anger, the disbelief, into positive efforts to raise yourself up. do it for yourself and work hard.
this will rebuild you as a person, remember that part of you, three years of you was with her, so you need to rebuild that missing part with NEW stuff.
the more new stuff you do, the more yourself you will feel again, and you will realise that you don't need her to be yourself again.
this mood will pass, and it will pass quicker if you do positive, constructive things and keep yourself BUSY.
>moved back home, family is no help in recovering
This is the line the concerns me. I don't know you situation, nor your family. But you should keep in mind that there is very little somebody can do for a broken heart, no matter how much they love you. They can't talk you through it or give you sort of magic bullet advice. Only you can heal yourself through time and self-growth. And also keep in mind that while this is probably devastating for you, from everyone else's perspective its a very normal and common situation. And you'll come to see it the same once you get over it. I've been in that situation a handful of times and every time it feels like the end of the world. But then you realize its just the same normal drama everyone goes through. Appreciate your memories and good times and move on. Sorry if that sounds cold. You'll have more good memories and more good times with more people. That's just how life goes.
4. to follow on from 3, join a social activity, something new that you could become interested in, something that takes skill. sports, outdoors group activity like hiking, martial art, dancing class, etc. make sure it is something where there are both males and females in decent amounts. chat with people, go regularly at least once a week, work hard at becoming good at the activity, read up on it a bit, ask for advice from people who have been doing it longer, learn from them. then when you are halfway decent, share your knowledge with the ones who are just joining. you'll make new friends and stay in practice talking to girls, even while not pursuing them. this is important. female contact will help you.
This is the first helpful advice ive received in weeks. Idk who you are but bless you user. This legit put a smile on my face