>why am I so obsessed with sex
I am a 32 year old married man. My wife is relatively hot (7/10 was a 8/10 before kid), we have sex more frequently than most couples in my position (4-7 times a month). However I constantly think about fucking, all I wanna do is eat ass, cum in pussy, get my face sat on, anything I just love sex. How can I not think about this constantly?
Stab in the dark: you're getting closer to 40 and maybe something inside you realizes that sex doesn't compensate for it anymore. So you try to have more but the need doesn't go away.
Could you describe how you remember the relationship with your parents? Between them?
OP is not a faggot
Have you had children yet? It may be instinct to breed
You're like the guy from Family Man Craig Meyer
post pictures of your wife
Damn. I’m in the same boat. Except my wife and I do it every day except for random 2-3 day dry spells. We do fucked up shit sometimes too. Lots of public fucking
I have been this way forever
yes
I dont remember writing this post. wtf
> I have been this way forever
Still this may come from emotional issues you had in your childhood.
For instance, would you say you had enough/too much love from your mother?
Did you endure/witness fucked up sexual stuff?
>For instance, would you say you had enough/too much love from your mother?
Nah, I had a pretty normal relationship with both my mom and dad. Honestly I would say my childhood was perfect
>Did you endure/witness fucked up sexual stuff?
Nope
How were your first times being sexually active?
Were you able to "build" your sexlife at a satisfying pace? No rough experience?
On other aspects of life, any cause of anxiety? (Work, relatives, beliefs, illness, death,..)
Most importantly: are you fine with it? If yes and your parter is ok with it, well, good for.you user!
While I'm at it, the same questions could be asked to your partner...
>How were your first times being sexually active?
Pretty average 16 year old getting some pussy, awkward the first few times but fairly normal.
>On other aspects of life, any cause of anxiety? (Work, relatives, beliefs, illness, death,..)
I have an incredibly low stress life in general. I am a very happy person.
Not OP, but I was eating pussy and trying to stick my dick in a girl's slit when I was 5. I called it bottle on cap, and I would ask girls in the neighborhood to try with me. I didn't think it went all the way in, I go my first boner playing bottle on cap one day and I ran to the bathroom crying thinking I broke my Weiner. I never had anything wrong happen to me, loving family, went to church. I just have always loved pussy. It's more instinct for me. Busting nuts is fun now that I am older. I fill my life with fun things like gold. My buddy gave me a great perspective on women not wanting to do it like men. He asked, how would you like some big hairy guy pounding on you. It was an eye opener, because I would hate that.
Do you fear this might end?
If not and you're at peace, like I said: just enjoy!
After all you don't have to answer to anyone for being happy. Plus, happy people are better to be around so..
Who is this?
Honestly what you're describing happens more often than anyone would like to admit. The most important thing is that it stays at a "child level".
After, whatever your backstory, if you feel like you're "enduring" your sexuality more than you're enjoying it, it might be interesting to seek therapy. I did and it was the best investment in my life.
Should have asked that last question first, mall therapist.
I’m the exact same way. Probably just the way we’re wired as men.
Idk man but I'm in a similar situation. I'm 23 and have been with my gf for almost 4 years now and we're planning on getting engaged soon. It's a great solid relationship, we're both very much in love with each other and she's a 10/10 so I feel like I lucked out extremely hard.
The thing is that I'm obsessed with sex with her, we were fucking multiple times a day every day until things started to slow down a little around year 3 (busy with work and school). We still fuck almost every day, literally all I think about is eating her ass, pussy, licking her feet, etc. to the point where it's like I'm consumed by it. It also doesn't help that she's pretty sexual too, we started selling her feet pics online for fun which is only making me more horny.
My thinking is deep down something is wrong with me. I think I derive a significant portion of my self worth from sex, I don't do any other substances but I have extreme fetishes and kinks. It's like an outlet for me, I don't think it's healthy so I try to keep it under control. I don't think there is any fixing it and I worry if I tried to fix it I might turn to substances or violence to fix that itch in my head. I had a fucked up childhood and that probably contributes to it as well.
Not trying to sound like an edgy faggot I just have thought about this before and came to that conclusion.
Your a man. Programed to procreate. It's in your genes as a male to do so and being 32 your in your "prime".
Sounds like addiction. Unlike what mall therapist suggested, it probably has nothing to do with traumatic or unusual sexual experiences in your past. Human sex drive is strong, and if you repeatedly reinforce those pathways in the brain it's just like any other dopamine booster. If you feel like it's getting to the point of obsession, you'll have to cut back and stimulate those pathways more naturally.
How often do you look at porn, user? Jk I already know. It's the instant gratification aspect of it that makes it so addictive, and maybe somewhat problematic if it starts to bleed into your everyday life.
Tl;dr - if you wanna get over the obsession, stop looking at hot as fuck naked women all the time.
Because it is hard wired into you much like is eating and drinking. It serves as a good distraction that everything is meaningless and that you are dying with every breath you take.
It might calm down once you have kids
Is she as happy as you are?
Or at least not having inner fights against past traumas?
It's a long shot but maybe you're unconsciously compensating for her wounds.
Happiness-wise, if your childhood is far from her, you both might have to work on it. Wounds from the past don't vanish, sex eases the pain but nothing more.
"Are you fine with it?"
Also nice dubs. What do you do for a living?
>How often do you look at porn, user? Jk I already know. It's the instant gratification aspect of it that makes it so addictive, and maybe somewhat problematic if it starts to bleed into your everyday life.
Ironically I look at porn maybe 4 or 5 times a week. I am at the point and I can see a decent woman walk by and I instantly start fantasizing about sniffing her ass
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What the fuck are you talking about enduring their sexuality? They said they have fun.
Read his fucking post numbnuts, he said he had a kid with her.
OP, you're good. Enjoy your libido, it may not last as you age. I have a similar experience, I was not into sex until like 29, and now I'm pretty much permanently horny.
I have a useless job to pay the bills and I'm giving shiatsu massages for people in need on the side. It made me realize that sexuality is more important and meaningful than I had imagined. That's why I'm genuinely interested in such threads.
> What the fuck are you talking about enduring their sexuality? They said they have fun.
Agreed, but why all these interrogations from OP then?
Maybe the issue is not centered on OP, maybe there is no issue at all, but since he came to discuss let's discuss.
>8/10 before kid!
>have you had children yet?
...fucking tard..
if you want a short term symptom-treating solution, that would be to jerk off more.
Anything longer term will require some "sort" of talking therapy and maybe a divorce.
Searching for truth and happiness is great but it's not very convenient
Because Yea Forums oscillates between turning simple people into either insecure faggots who think they're "addicted to porn" or racist tranny pedophiles. OP is in the former category, though one step removed since his pornography is imagined and serves a similar purpose, mainly arousal.
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I tend to judge that kind of reasoning as cynical but right now I don't find anything to disprove your point.
Congrats! I've been married 4 years, have had sex 3-4 times. TOTAL. Prior to being married, girls I've dated that would have been weekly.
Once on the honey moon. I don't even get the courtesy "birthday" sex. BJ's? Yea, right.
Every time I try she's not in the mood, or feeling sick, tired, some excuse. So I say, tell me when you're in the mood. For which she says she doesn't want to be the initiator. A catch-22 situation.
I wouldn't even know what to do with 7 times a month. That seems like a fantasy.
Get divorced you say? The house is in our names, our cars, I would lose it all. No children, thankfully. That would require sex.
Bro I really don't care. Porn addiction can be a thing, yes. You can be addicted to anything. But 99% of you retards are not addicted to porn and you're perfectly healthy thinking about things however you do, until they cause social dysfunction.
Not trying to be right lol. Just an observation.
Just take the financial hit. Or go bankrupt before divorcing. Nothing is worth losing your mind over shit. Look how you post, please seek help.
Divorce her and cut your losses, she either has zero sex drive or is getting it from someone else
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At the risk of sounding like a cold asshole, user could you give some advice to others to prevent from meeting the same fate?
Small signals you ignored, things you wish you did or had known...
Also, sorry for you.
Also, wanted to say, talk to her about having kids. Since she clearly seems disgusted by either you or herself and doesn't like sex or is otherwise mentally unwell and won't seek therapy, then she probably may not want kids. If she doesn't and you do, that's grounds for divorce and you keep everything.
I would say someone else, but we got married during covid and she was home with me for 2 years.
Even masturbation she doesn't do. I think she's just asexual, no sex drive.
Signs. Tons of anti-depressants. We waited until marriage. Worst idea ever, you may get a freak, may get my situation.
So my life is mostly just toy machines I can find.
No, that's the thing. She desperately wants kids.
I'm like, you know we have to regular sex for that? For which she's like, can't just you just masturbate into a cup. I get so mad, I'm not some f-king sperm donor.
Not OP or the other reply, but I think people see "porn" a lot more than they might say. I mean porn comes up every time you open Yea Forums. Near nude women pop up in ads, Instagram, your facebook feed. The stream is basically constant even if its not you actively going on porn sites and watching videos. So you kinda have to go out of your way to limit it.
HOLY SHIT. Bro, she absolutely hates you and is only using you for financial support. Please leave.
Why else do you think she desperately wants kids but nothing to do with you. Either she thinks kids will heal her depression or she wants to baby trap you.
I’m 36, I feel you bro. Life at this point for me is all about sex and drinking. I don’t want to be an alcoholic so I lunettes my drinking to weekends, about 4-6 beers each night. I get lucky if I have sex once a week, usually Sunday nights. My wife is still very attractive at her age (42) so the sex is good when he happens. When I’m not fucking or drinking it’s all I think about. Work keeps me distracted, and yeah I do enjoy hangin out with my kids, but they only distract for a short time.
Have you started working out or changed your routine for physical training? That could be it.
When i started lifting weights i was always horny
You aren't old and neither is your wife lol. Try and spend more time with her if you can afford babysitting. Bet sex increases frequency.
>Have you started working out or changed your routine for physical training? That could be it.
I actually thought about it less when I worked out daily. Although I still thought about it very frequently.
You said you got married during covid but on your previous post said that you had been married for 4 years? So even with a sexless relationship you still married her? then that's your own fucking fault, get rid of her if you want sex but she doesn't. Don't live an unhappy life because of some sexless cunt
4 to 7 times a month isn't a lot wtf are you talking about lol
Either way that would be horrible to have kids with such a mother
Jesus dude, my wife is ace and we have sex that many times in a month.
What do you even like about her that overrides this problem? Or are you just drifting along out of inertia and convenience?
Genuinely leave, especially before you have kids. You think the financial hit from a car and house is bad? wait till you see how much children cost. is dead on, money's not worth this.
Can't you go to an attorney and have an estimate of your loss?
She makes the same as me and her paychecks go into my bank account.
Yes, C-19 was most of the marriage from 2020 so that's 2 years. If she was cheating beforehand, I'd assume the sex would go back to me.
She's sweet in every other area. Financially strong, cuddly, romantic, just not sexual.
Maybe it is just drifting along. I toss it all away, homeless with my dogs, to get back into the dating game. What if I meet someone fun sexually, then it fizzles anyways years down the road.
Then you'll have been happier for a few years instead of less happy for longer. Don't listen to any of us. You seem like you know what you're doing. She seems like a nice lady. Try to spend more time together. Enjoy.
>homeless with my dogs
>She makes the same as me
I think you'll avoid homelessness.
You know what you're getting right now, and it's not going to dramatically improve. IF I were you I'd bail before she finds a turkey baster
Literally every guy is like this. It doesn’t matter who you are with or how hot they are you will always want to fuck other women.
Let’s see a pic and decide if she’s really a 7/10
For all the guys in the thread worrying about addiction, emotional issues etc don't.
I want to fuck every little piece of ass I see from young to old, it's called being a man don't worry about it.