Give it to me straight married anons, is it worth it...

how would I know if I was mature enough to get married?

The fact you're asking the question probably suggests you are

Not that dude but that's not always true. Look at Pierce Brosnan. Dude stayed pretty fucking fit even at 68 yet his wife is fucking whale mode.

Likewise even my fiance is gaining weight while I'm in the best shape of my life, which, yes, is making me reconsider along with other factors.

When the world is against me Id rather just be alone honestly. I enjoy the quiet, it brings me peace

Congrats OP. On balance it's worth it, as long as you cover your ass and handle your business. I have two great kids, I eat a hot meal every night after work, and I've been able to triple my income with her handling all the life shit behind the scenes. Sex is fine... I still enjoy it. We got a post-nup so she can't rip my eyes out in a divorce. It sucks having to spend time with her idiot sister and mom, so I just get shitfaced and play Mario Kart with the kids when we go over there.

The kids didnt get in the way of sex? Also, do they cost you a lot of money?

decided not to have kids

wife turned 40 and sex-crazed

i have problems getting it up because of health issues

sigh.

Of course they do

Dont get married for pussy idiot. Case in point, you're too immature

Get her into adult clubs, may take a few years but marriage is what got my wife to feel most comfortable with fucking other people publicly!

Can you blast rope into a cup and have them give it to her with a turkey baster or something? Or have you guys just decided "fuck it" when it comes to kids? Nothing wrong with being sex-crazed as long as the expectation isn't pregnancy. Get stuff like the Satisfyer 9000 and keep it hot.

can you tell me more about the post-nup, in terms of the areas that it covers you? Also the idea of the tripling the income sounds nice, its one of the reasons I thought getting married might work for me. What does she handle that allows you to focus on income? I absolutely get it about the family though, I dont really care for hers too much

how old are you now? What kind of health issues?

based

how they worth it if they get in the way of fun things then?

You are a sad, strange little man

the old depreciating asset argument - you'l just have more that she can take, she will likely start to wane (she has you, what are you going? dump her and lose a ton?).
sex will dry up especially if you have kids.
less money - especially if she's a stay at home mom - it will be amazon shit all day that never gets used and just adds clutter and expense. Shit won't get cleaned up around the house - 'i' tired let's get skip the dishes, let's hire a maid - there's too much mess'.

i would be further ahead if i stayed single - i could save and control spending - or go apeshit because i know how much of my time is needed to create that money so i can justify it to myself.

Married 10 years.
Sex is fantastic but rarely happens. Once every 3 to 5 weeks.

Money? Haha. Once you have kids you will never have money again.

Would I do it again? Absolutely.

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>is it worth it?
it is literally the exact same thing as not being married except you dropped a bunch of money on a piece of jewelry to make her happy and maybe a party. THATS ALL.

If you live near Derby we visit the attic adult club every Friday :D

Depends. If she's your first dump that shit immediately and run through at least 2-3 more women before making the plunge. Not so much for the pussy as for your own sanity later on. That was my mistake, but now it's far too late. Learn from this dumb old user's mistakes.

Can you please tell me why exactly you would do it again? I really value sex and money, and not having that sounds awful

Not if that’s her.

I am an incel and 26 year old virgin. I wish I could have a wife and then I would kiss her soft soles every night and make her feel like a princess.

yeah.. literally no improvements, only negatives

And that's why you're a virgin

Yeah man. So alimony and child support would be fixed based on a percentage of my income now, and wouldn't scale as I earn more. She would have to buy out my equity in the house if she wants to keep it. She is not entitled to any of my investments, even though we're in a community property state, so my entire retirement plan isn't at risk. She has no say over the kids' trusts or their college accounts and never will. If we divorce, she realizes she won't be the beneficiary on any of my insurance policies. Mostly it's financial stuff, meant to prevent me from getting assraped by a judge.

As for the career stuff - she cooks, cleans, manages the bills, gets the groceries, plans all the social events, does bedtime for the kids, everything. I literally work and transfer part of my check to the joint account and occasionally cook dinner for the family. It freed me up to do my MBA and attend meetings late at night, shit like that. I've gone from a code monkey data scientist to a director. I had to job hop a few times, but I am 100% remote making 400k after equity grants and bonuses. None of that would have happened if I had to change diapers or take them to piano lessons or any of that bullshit.

I dunno, it's pretty great not being alone and sharing the burden of mortgage, cooking and cleaning with.

Yeah fuck that. A woman who’s pushing kids, and not even married yet is a serious red flag. Run away bro.

mid 40's

hormones are fucked up (not a testosterone issue)

wife is patient

You haven't the slightest idea about what you're talking about, you little faggot zoomer. If this truly is your experience then you have absolutely no one else to blame but yourself for being a soft little faggot that gets treated like one.

I'm 36 and have been married for a decade. I'm a fucking man and get my shit done. My wife and I respect each other equally and are both madly in love. I get more blowjobs and pussy than I did in our first years of dating. My actions as a man in my day to day life compells her to desire taking care of my needs in the same way I take care of her. If you're low-tier garbage then that's what you'll receive back. Getting married was one of the best thing I could have done and do not regret it for a second. You sound like a faggot incel, lashing out and speaking out of ignorance. Anons, don't be like this loser. Just point and laugh, ridicule is all he deserves and will get.

Anons, find you a based woman, handle your own shit and be a good man. Don't be this faggot.

Got a baby on the way, I'm excited for that. It was really cool how much she enjoys my cum bc never met a girl like her before, like, she REALLY likes cum, and I cum buckets everytime and naturally got her pregnant. I'm excited for my kid.

Financially it's rocky bc im putting away money for baby stuff and medical bills. We're okay but i miss having my own money to blow on whatever. She works and i have full use, she let's me budget bc she hates math, so i have double my income but it doesn't feel like it bc im being responsible.

We don't really have sex anymore bc im legit too tired after work and sports. She wants to constantly have sex, i offered for her to fuck other dudes or girls cause im not monogamous or straight, and i wouldnt mind having a 3rd for the utility aspect when I'm not feeling up to fucking or when i want to fuck another hole but she doesn't want to. She's constantly wanting to fuck. I wish she would take up my offer but the dude or girl has to not be a threat to our relationship because i want to be with her forever but thats for another time ig. Where the cute femboys @ tbh lmao

Marry a woman with a daughter. 2 holes for the price of 1.

>i would be further ahead if i stayed single - i could save and control spending

Thats what Im afraid of losing. Im really good with money, and I know if its just me with how I budget I could retire in 10 - 15 years. With her, that probably goes away

You want otherbmen to fuck your pregnant wife? Where do you live?

Imagine tying yourself to a woman and not wanting kids. It's probably the most legit reason to get married today.

Fucking retards itt

How often did you get laid when you were single? For me I had a 1 night stand every few months if I was lucky so this is actually an improvement.

I like having a support system. I like knowing she's home waiting for me. She's my best friend. If you don't have that, don't get married.

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This, my current gf has a step dad who fucks her sister and her mum

Nah it's because I'm shy and don't try hard enough. I probably could lose my v card if I actually put in the work. I'm too black-pilled though.

Also, I have 2 children and life's only getting better each day. She's fit, smarter than myself and driven as fuck. Geez, I wonder why she likes me? Maybe because of the same traits she holds dear. Get fucked, enjoy your shitty life, loser.

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>I'm too black-pilled though.

get rid of that asap and never look back

That you? Nice obliques bro. I'm mirin.

No, sex decreases and with kids sex becomes none existing. Kids are great though.

>so i have double my income but it doesn't feel like it bc im being responsible.

well that and you have a kid coming kek. Im sure they will take up a fair amount

Speak for yourself. Once those lullabys are done it's time to yodel into her clam. Or send them to Grandma's for the weekend and fuck yourselves into dehydration.

You guys need to be more inventive.. our sex hasn't dropped since having a kid. Just means getting up early or quickies in the kitchen or bathroom

Yes, that's me and my girl. Not bad for almost 40yo. Thanks, user!

Got married a few years ago, but we've been together for 10+ years. In early 30s now. We got fat early on, then lost it together. We've grown together and apart at times. No real changes because of being married, it isn't fucking magic and suddenly everything changes like some autists are saying here. Relationships will ebb and flow over time, make sure you and her are good communicators and you'll be fine. Honesty will also make things stupid easy. With that being said, do not get married just because "it's the next step". It's a financial and business decision. Love can exist with or without legal paperwork to prove it.

I don't hate women at all, I want to fuck one so bad. I am just shy, too self-conscious, and also unattractive. I'm black-pilled from being on /r9k/ but I don't WANT things to be this way. If a girl gave me a chance I would be very happy.

All of that sounds pretty cool honestly. Im pretty financially driven, and the idea of getting divorce raped scares me like nothing else. Do you mind if I ask what percentage its fixed at?

It sounds like a pretty sweet arrangement with her about the kids too. But that's another fear I have. Im always working on side hustles, looking for investments and so on. Ive scared of having kids in part because I dont want them cutting into my ability to grow my income. As far as I can tell, your set up might be the model Ive seen for actually making this work

Yeah, if they're good looking lol. They will be lesser than me by design though kek. But no, trust, ive offered my other poly friends and she declined. Sorry bub

>How often did you get laid when you were single?

okay fair point my fren

>I like having a support system.

I can see the benefits of that. especially as I get older. I worry about something happening like not being able to walk or whatever, and having no one to help me. That is a bit scary

Then scrap the plan, if she doesn't tolerate it, better she chimps out now, rather than with the assistance of a divorce lawyer.

My monthly net is around 17750, and she will get 4k/month of we ever separated. 1250 for alimony and 2750 for child support. I would carry health insurance for all of us, pay their tuition, and handle their college needs.

I think when it comes to side hustles, you have to be realistic about what you can do at the same time and what else is important. So like I can do a few side consulting things during the work day for a couple hours and still do my day job. I'm not about to go work a second job or anything. Money is important but you can't neglect the wife or the relationship. And you have to think "do I want to be the dad who misses dance recitals and travels 40 weeks a year?" You also have to keep in mind that you don't want her to feel trapped - encourage her to have her own shit, hobbies, a blog, volunteering, part time job, whatever. Otherwise you get a resentful shrew of a woman who feels like you think you own her, even if it's what you agreed to ahead of time.

Oh I know she's going to chimp out hard. I'll take it as an absolute win if I dont get physically assaulted. I worry you're right though, I guess part of me is looking for a reason or way that it can work, like the other user with the post-nup. But there's always been a little voice saying leave

Lmao yeah basically. Luckily in 2 years we'll be at about 200k a year annually before taxes rape us