Will I regret not having children ? Right now I don`t really care and have no instinct for it...

Will I regret not having children ? Right now I don`t really care and have no instinct for it. But later in life will I be making a big mistake ?

Any anons just become dads ? hows it feel.

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Are you a fucking faggot?

Nah, bro. You're a dude. You can always have kids. David Letterman and Jerry Seinfeld are still popping them out.

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Having a kid was the best thing to ever happen to me.
Also, no one is ever "ready". Just try to make sure you get a girl that will be a good mother figure pregnant.

Personally, I believe that unless you have your mind set on kids from an earlier age, you likely won't ever develop into wanting any. I've always been an antinataist and considering how hard and shitty my life has been thus far, I probably would have offed myself years ago had I taken on the insane pressure of fatherhood. Literally fuck that noise.

To be honest, I didn't want children at first either. I thought I'd be a terrible dad, and I was worried that the pressure would be too much. When my wife found out she was pregnant I got excited but nervous. Then it was a miscarriage. another year down the line and another miscarriage. That shit hurt. Still does. But we eventually had our first son almost 3 years ago and I can say that it has changed me for the better. I used to be a depressive fuck with no goals and no real purpose. But since we had my boy, and subsequently his brother just last year, I have found that joy and purpose that I was lacking. I think even if you don't feel ready for it you sorta become ready when you see them. There's nothing in this world like the love I feel for my kids and I hope that if you choose to have one that you'll feel the same. Just be patient with them and don't be a nigger. Spend time with them and teach them. Yeah, it's a lot of responsibility but it's worth it when they love you back. But if it isn't for you, there's no judgement there. Don't have them if you won't be willing to put in the effort for them.

I knew since I was young I never wanted kids, then I knocked my neighbor up (I had only met her a few weeks prior). We’ have a 5 year old now and honestly I pretty much hate it. My finances are ruined, I have no freedom and am trapped working a 8-5 and living in Suburbia (don’t want her going to a shit school). It feels like my life is pretty much over. If you KNOW you don’t want kids go get a vasectomy, wish I did

Don't mean to offend but you sound very selfish. Every complaint you have is how you feel slighted from something you caused. And the only thing you brought up that seems remotely selfless (sending her to a better school) is still pretty shit because you're just feeding her to the state propaganda machine because you won't take time with her and her education. I agree that you definitely shouldn't have reproduced but now that you have you might consider taking more of an active role in her life, lest your sacrifices of free time and freedom be wasted on yet another mistake.

my life is shit, i'm worse off than my folks despite being college educated and in a profitable field because of high costs. idk about you OP but i'd rather live with regret than have a kid who is just going to struggle like i have as an adult through no fault of his own.

how old are you user? I'm going to assume

That sounds awful, I really feel for you, my man, and feel pity for every dad out there. I agree with the vasectomy comment too - I should have done that in my younger days. Unfortunately, I didn't dodge the bullet when I comes to marriage, but at least I didn't have any children.

Google Peter Pan Syndrome. I'll wait.

IMHO the only way to pull through is to have at least two income streams if you're going to make it. We live in CA and with 125k combined, I feel like we're barely making ends meet.

(It's a lot easier to bum off your parents)

Yea, 125k in CA is really low, especially with rent jumping up dramatically.

No you probably won´t.
Most people who have kids to take care of them when they are old end up in nursing homes anyway.
And if you don´t really have a desire to have kids why even bother?
Parenthood regret is a very real issue as well.
You have so much to lose when having kids: your freedom, your time, your money, your (mental) health.
There is also the possibility that despite your best efforts your child will become fucked anyway.
They might be retarded, they might disagree with you on everything, they might become a horrible person etc.
Its just not worth it user.
If you have ever been through some really rough shit, ask yourself would you want another being to have to go through that aswell?

I just became a dad 4 months ago. I fucking hate children but I love my son more than anything. I knew that I hate kids but wouldn't hate my own. I know people who aren't having kids because of the financial aspect of it but I'm in a position where I can afford to have a few little fuckers running around. I agree with other anons that you should wait until you find the right woman, you don't want the product of sticking your dick in crazy. I started having kids now at 26-27 because I don't want to be an old faggot as soon as they become adults. But that’s just me

This, pretty much.

Kids are extremely overrated. And most people are average at best, meaning their progeny will likely be average at best. There are too many people in the world. The only people who should even consider breeding are the top 1%. The world has more than enough trash people. Unless you're filthy rich and incredibly intelligent, talented, etc, just do one good thing in life and NOT produce another Yea Forumstard.

Well, 125k in idk, kern county? will go a lot further than orange county. but as a socal resident it feels like everyone is either balling with high paying jobs in tech or some shit, or they bought years ago.

Unless you have genes worthy of multiplying, don't bother. The world is going to become more and more of a rat race. That's like forcing someone you love and care about to play pubg.

You’re right, I’m definitely selfish, which is why I never wanted kids and knew it wouldn’t be good. I try to be a good dad but it’s not what I wanted out of life

>be me
>31
>married
>own a home
>both have good jobs
>do nothing in spare time
>life is good but feel the pressure
>everyday death crawls closer
>nothing to show in life at this point
>the pressure to procreate increases

I feel you

I just turned 28
My 3rd child will be here in june, my first son. Pretty excited

I love being a dad. It's pretty awesome. Lots of work but it's worth (nearly) every second.

> nothing to show in life at this point
who ever said there was a need to show something? lol unless you have a burning desire to be a parent, don't, i certainly wouldn't go into it with a "because i was getting old" reasoning.

That's fair. At least you're honest. Sometimes all we can do is try. Hope your girl grows up and appreciates what efforts you make and comes out a good person.

In my experience, small schools out in the country side are far superior compared to your average crowded urban school. Raising kids out in the country is better overall actually

Fuck suburbia in general.

It's almost like we have a drive to create and multiply, but it's being stifled by kikes that are telling us to just keep consuming

you dare call him selfish when he puts trough despite hating it? fuck you fucking hypocrite

google faggot, I'll wait

because following biological drives without consideration for your ability and commitment to provide for and raise that kid has never backfired. but yeah, it's the kikes telling us to buying shit.

Those types of posters can safely be ignored. With them, everything is "DA JUICE DID DAT!"

there is no biological drive to have kids?
It is completely unnecessary for humans to have such a drive as the orgasm during sex already accomplishes that task.
In our modern society, where contraception is available, it´s just the societal norm to have kids.
Ask people that have had kids for their reasons to do so and a large enough portion will just tell you they did it, because it´s expected

No. I'm 47, childfree and happy. I travel a lot and I am debt free.
Having children destroys your life, ends your joy and your sex life. Don't fall for it. Parents are going to tell you life is GREAT, don't believe them, it's Stockholm Syndrome.

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how old are you?
what's your situation in life?

Playing the field was awesome, even after so many years.
complete freedom and sex all the time with different women.
then a married buddy invited me over for Christmas.
shit was tasty af.
end of evening, buddy and wife at door with the kids waving good-night and wishing me a Merry Christmas.
I look back and wave, wish them a Merry Christmas.

As I walked away I realized I'd be going home to...what?
Play vidya and get high? again?
maybe find a fwb, to fuck? again?

and there was my buddy probably tucking the kids in and doing shit i used to think was corny.
now i see it is wholesome and life-affirming.

shit got lonely fast, tBh.
every year more friends got married, but what I hadn't realized is that with every year that passes, there are fewer and fewer suitable women to marry.

I don't want a 21-year-old who does nothing but post social media shit and talk ablout herself endlessly.
Lack of life experience is not interesting to hear about.

tl;dr I waited too long bros...

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>Having a kid was the best thing to ever happen to me.
You sound like a huge fucking loser. Not just because your comment was in a passive voice i.e. "was the best thing that happened to me" instead of "was the best decision I ever made", but also because if having kids is the best thing thats ever happened to you, youre existence must be so sad. What Im trying to say is Im glad Im not you.

Not having children has nothing to do with being alone. You can have a wife, friends, etc. You can be WAY happier than someone with children, in fact, they don't look so happy to me.

People tend to fill their empty lives with children.

Read the studies. People start being REALLY happy when children LEAVE HOME.

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sounds pathetic

having and raising a kid is the same as having a pet.

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Trust me, even just being married without kids can be some fucked up shit. At it's best, it can give a small boost to happiness but at it's worst, it's life-destroying. Also, keep in mind you can be married and still feel very alone.

but a pet is actually cool. loved my dogs while they were around.

Had twins at 38. Yes I’m an old fag.

Greatest thing to ever happen to me and can honestly say I’m glad I waited until that age. I don’t want to go to bars anymore and watched a bunch of zoomers hopped up on whiteclaw tickle each other’s dicks for attention on tic toc.

If having kids is the best thing that happened to you, your life was pretty empty before.

too young to get it
or just not suited to being fathers

maybe just don't have kids and be a wee Peter Pan man, like this guy:
(unless he's on a mission to convince users of this site to not have children for some reason)

>hows it feel.
Mama has zero sex drive since the second which was 4 YEARS AGO. All I get is basically starfishing once a month and I should be happy to get even that.

YOu've made a mistake here, user:
you think that's because they're RID of the children, when in reality they feel happy because they have strong family bonds that are bolstered by the feeling they've raised their children well enough that the children can go out into the world, survive, and prosper.

Which is the ultimate job of a parent, after all.

My advice:

Go to a mall on a Saturday afternoon and look at the parent's eyes. Try to look for happiness.

fuck off, kiddo

So having children makes you happy.... 25 years later?

>a mall
because I live in 1995? lolwut

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you will

becoming a caring dad and guiding my kids into life was one of the good things in my life, even if I had to fight for it (its still common that people believe kids belong to mothers, and they might not let you in...)

Now that my kids are in their early twenties I get back to what I thought when I was 18, wanting to have kids their age to be cool buddies, but its different.

I am actually more afraid about them now than before, because now its their own lifes they are struggling with - and I had some part in what they had become up until now, so its like an ultimate test of my wisdom, too...

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pls don't have children based on your misunderstanding of a graphic posted on 4chin

>I am actually more afraid about them now than before, because now its their own lifes they are struggling with - and I had some part in what they had become up until now, so its like an ultimate test of my wisdom, too...
did they go to university?
how do you deal with wokeness, etc?
how did you teach them about terrorism, racism, and that shit?

Yes have kids.
People that don't want or have children are selfish and worthless.

You'll end up in a nursing home anyway.

>My advice:
>Go to a mall on a Saturday afternoon and look at the ANYBODY'S eyes. Try to look for happiness.

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Having kids because that makes you happy IS selfish.

As long as you don’t have a daughter you’ll be fine, i’m 23 just had a son, don’t plan on having anymore, kids are a must for when you’re old otherwise you’ll die alone and uncared for, not to mention your legacy dying off.

true ...my granpa has 6 kids

Not having kids then becoming an old fuck crying about population decline and having less younger people to wipe you old ass isn't selfish?

> legacy
what is this, medieval times? are you some kind of lord? don't flatter yourself.

Been to over a dozen countries, own 3 houses, had all the weird sex I want abd started a company. I’ve lived a full and rewarding life.

But feel free to project your feelings, neckbeard. I’m sure your fedora is slammin’

There's nothing wrong with having a daughter unless your a useless fuck that doesn't know how to raise her right.

stupid selfish reasons for having kids lol

No

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what should he do, retard? homeschool the kid while hes homeless because he'd have to quit his job to do so?

not having kids because they will end up here wasting away like all of you retards

But having kids really is the only real purpose of life you can point to
you realize that right

I’m not going tk have children but thats for safety reasons

>As long as you don’t have a daughter you’ll be fine
dumb
raise your kids with proper vales, avoid degenerate TV ads and previews (buy your tv shows and movies), no sleep-overs ever, be involved in their lives, be loving but strict, be their father not their social media bestie.

Hitler was stupid and gay

This. They might kill you.

What are “proper values?” Voting Republican? Believing in a fake God? I want my kids to question society in question what you consider “decadent “

No

You are too. Stupid. And definitely gay.

if you have kids and you are here on b wtf is wrong with you be a better parent and gtfo Yea Forums for fucks sake be a better role model

I just want to get married and have no more than 2 children

Why are you still on Yea Forums then? The most cancerous fucking board. You're looking at gore and porn threads instead of being with your wife or kids? I hope to quit all this way before I get married (If I ever even do lmao)

No, its for their safety. Not mine

Why does everyone who tries to sell you on having kids sound like they are trying to get you to join their pyramid scheme. So much positivity seems fake