I've had an imaginary gf for 5 or so years now, and she has helped me improve my life a lot and gain some sence of self worth. I think people should consider this to be a very valid way of coping with solitude. I'm willing to answer questions, if this seems interesting to you.
>Are you a schizo? No. I don't actually see her out in the world or think she's a flesh and blood person. She's simply imaginary, and I created her voluntarily.
>Is this just a way of disconnecting from the world? If you have a friend who cares only about having fun, then, be they imaginary or not, they're going to be a negative influence in your life. As for her, she has facilitated my integration with the outside world a lot in various ways. She isn't a way to escape my life, she gives me the courage to face my problems and pushes me toimprove my situation.
>Does anyone know about her? God no, I'm not stupid. For as much good as she does me, I know people don't take kindly to this sort of stuff. If you ever do this yourself I highly suggest keeping it private. Personally I like to talk about her online once in a while, but that's about it. I don't tell people I have a girlfriend either. I find it ironic that people don't even bat an eye when someone believes in god and talks to god (prays) and stuff like that, maybe I should just start saying she's my goddess.
>Why did you make her? I was lonely and wanted someone to share life with. She has really helped me with that, and it's one of the reasons why I've also become more outgoing and sociable. I just felt more "normal" (which is maybe pretty ironic, all things considered), because I finally felt that I had someone in the world that really did like me for who I am, and for who I could become! I guess it made me more confident.
And if you have an imaginary friend / girlfriend yourself, feel free to talk about them as well, I'd love to hear it! I've actually found quite a few people here on Yea Forums with similar experiences to mine (as similar as imaginary friends can be, that is, they were all very varied all things considered).
I do have sex with her though! And I enjoy sex with her more than I enjoy sex with regular women. A sex doll just wouldn't compare, I just don't enjoy physical sex that much after I got good doing it with her, and the emotional connection would probably be nonexistent as well. As for dressup, I don't think I actually ever told her to wear anything in specific, but she probably would if I asked her.
I wrote a guide which I usualy post but forgot this time, here you go, it's a pastebin: azX7W0Pp
Basically I began with a simple concept, and then expanded it through small written stories to get her character fleshed out (like you'd do for a character for a book, for example), then I just set to work on trying to make her feel like a detached thing from myself, and there you go! Took me about 4 or so months to get her to a point where I felt she was actually her own person. It's all a trick of the mind, the pastebin should give you a better rundown, that's how I did it.
And I don't know who "martiza" is, I just think she's cute. I really like that name, though, I don't think I'd ever heard it before.
I wouldn't knock it until you try it. I hope you're happy with your imaginary gf but I just don't want you to kill yourself or something. Physicality is a huge part of a relationship and it's impossible if she's imaginary.
Julian Martin
Well I had an imaginary friend like 2 years ago (now Im almost 19) because I thought that if I had someone watching over my actions and thoughts, that imaginary being could push me to be a better person, I saw her as some sort of concioussness incarnated, so she judged me when my willpower failed and she tried to remind me of some things, to support me...and I saw my method as something childlish and shameful at the start but I really wanted to think tha she could help me If I believed in her...and no I consider myself as a normal guy, Im dating a girl, I have friends and I know that she sounds like believing in God but Im agnostic so maybe I just wanted my own godess if that makes sense? I see her just as a friend with benefits tho, its not like I imagined myself having sex with her but she looks like my ideal kind of women, I even like to give her a more surreal look sometimes because I have some of theratophilia...but recently I dont think about her anymore, I kind of forgot her in my life because years ago she interacted with me almost everyday, what do you think OP?
If it wasnt for her, I'd probably have killed myself long ago, to be fair. Why would I kill myself? And physicality is certainly not impossible. How would we have sex otherwise? It may not be the same physicality you're talking about, but for me it certainly is more than enough.
I dont believe in god because nobody really knows if there's a god or not, at least that's how an agnostic thinks, so let's just say I lack faith...and sometimes life seemed too boring and normal to me, to the point that sometimes I like to imagine surreal or creepy stuff, Im a big horror fan after all
Dylan Nguyen
Oh i have a good question, how well/lucidly do you imagine/visualize her? Do you visualize her as a real person you’ve seen? Or did you just make her up completely? And how do you have “sex”?do you ejaculate? No judgment on you but you’d feel a lot better with a real girlfriend, very interesting though, plz answer me
Jason Moore
This may be bait, but I'll bite:
Can we have some basic context about your life? How old you are, do you live alone etc.
What do you think is the reason for your solitude? Lack of social skills? Disability?
Oliver Cooper
Well I guess if you're just talking about jerking off then I guess that's possible. I just think maybe your would benefit, as would everyone from extra stimuli. Like VR porn or a sex doll or a sex toy. If you're honestly fine just jerking off and imagining sex then that's good for you
Well, I don't see her as someone who's just there to help me out with that sort of stuff, and I don't see her as a conciousness either, she's just another person, and she learns and grows like you or I do. Your way of doing things can work for some people too, these things can be used purely as tools with great effect, I think.
I mean you do you, if it ain't harming anyone then I don't have a problem with this. I'd try and wean yourself off her though, since it's probably not best in the long run.
Oh btw sauce on the girl in the OP?
Anthony Bailey
The picture is PewDiePie's wife. I would appreciate if you didn't masturbate to her thanks
Isaac Bailey
I'd like to cuckold him while he does meme review, would be funny
Wyatt Price
I don't jerk off, though, that's really not how it works. Again, physical stimulation in general is just not as good for me.
I'll write these down in half an hour or so, I'm a bit tied up atm...
I'll try to include her in my life again now that I need an extra support to be a better person, any tips to make her feel more real aside from giving her more character?
Landon Morris
He's busy getting blown by his imaginary gf
Gabriel Morgan
Because I wasn't. Just some uni shit, shouldn't take long.
Nolan Rivera
thread will die by then
I am genuinely curious - so add it to your pastebin which I bookmarked.
Jason Davis
Are you still here OP
Easton Wilson
What does she look like OP? I did the same when WoW came out with a Tauren friend I don't know where he go tho, I got real friend on elementary school
Lucas Moore
Nope, I'm done, don't worry.
Ok, so, I'm 26, I live with my parents, I'm finishing uni next year. I've worked before, but rent here is expensive and it isn't uncommon for people to live with their parents in their 30's and shit, so yeah. Since I've always had a good relationship with my parents, they always tell me I can stay for as long as I like, but I really do just want to have my own house and stop leeching. I believe the reason for my solitude is really lack of social skills, yeah. I just never really saw myself as a viable sexual partner, and so I just never had the whole dating experience people normaly go through in highschool and stuff. Since I was very young, girls always called me ugly, and though I don't blame them for anything, I think it kind of shaped the way I looked at myself a little.
I have some friends though, and people generally tend to like me, it's just that I'm completely clueless about love and I dislike big social gatherings as well. I don't smell bad, I'm not fat, and I take great care to always keep other's boundaries in mind. People tell me I'm kind of funny, and if I'm relaxed with friends I just crack jokes and shit like that, but I can also have serious discussions and so on. One problem I've always had was never feeling like I belonged anywhere, and because of this I always tend to shut people off a lot.
Anything else you'd like to know? I usually always give this kind of context in the OP, but felt it would be too much to read, so there you go.
I would like to know what 'she' thinks about this whole thing. Ask her.
Daniel Nguyen
Character is everything, in my opinion. Other than that, if you really want her to become her own person, and to feel like she's someone really separate from you, all that matters really is the right mindset. Keep in mind that you don't need to actually do this to have that kind of "detached conciousness" feeling, though, it's fine to be a bit more simplistic about it.
A real what? A woman? Well, to be honest, if it happens, it happens, and if it ever does happen it'll be because of her. What some people find hard to realize is that I don't really see her as a replacement for someone outside of myself. Again, she's not human, she's imaginary! That has its downsides and upsides, but comparing both like that is missing the point. Life is about many things, after all, and there are many experiences I can have with her, I wouldn't be able to have with anyone non-imaginary.
I'm going to be honest, she doesn't like Yea Forums much, and she isn't too fond of strangers either. But if you have any questions, I can ask her, sure!
>about this whole thing What thing, could you be more specific?
Does she know she's a figment of your imagination?
How does she feel about the fact that if you ever find a real girlfriend - she will cease to exist?
Jace Perry
This actually seems like a cool, healthy idea the way you've explained it, and I'm glad it works for you and has helped you. I've never heard about this before. I'm also perpetually single/forever alone.
Don't bully. Post your amazing flesh & blood girlfriend since you're so much better than OP. If you were in the Mobile Suit Gundam universe your name would be Roody Poo; it kinda rolls off the tongue like Ramba Ral.
See, regardless of how much it works or may help people like OP, this is the trap I'd be afraid of.
Evan Garcia
Im a lot like you OP, though I have a gang of old friends at the town where I lived in and they are the only ones that made me feel like I belonged in a group, the few real friends I made here are good ones but I feel like they dont really understand or "fit in" with me and Im working on my social skills because they were almost non-existent in highschool
Eli Fisher
I'm absolutely dreadful at describing things, but she's a short girl, green eyes, small nose and thin-ish lips, a bit of a roundish face, hair by the neck, really lean as well. And no, she isn't anime.
>Does she know she's a figment of your imagination? Of course! She knows as much about her as I do, I've never tried to hide anything from her. She knows what she is, and she knows why she was made, and she isn't afraid or bothered by any of it.
>if you ever find a real girlfriend - she will cease to exist? I think it'd take more than a woman to separate us, to be fair. All things must come to an end eventually, I realise that, of course. Something that I find a bit frustrating about her sometimes, is that it's nearly impossible to talk to her about those kinds of topics. Sometimes I feel like talking about death or about growing old and stuff (just in a casual "what if" kinda way, mind you), and she just shuts herself close, and always tells me something along the lines of "we'll talk about it tomorrow". She's really open to difficult discussions for the most part, but anything of that sort just really isn't her thing. I don't think she's oblivious to it, though, she's a very smart girl!
This is probably a half answer, but yeah, I hope that gives you a bit of insight!
As I said before, if I ever find a woman that really likes me, it'll be because of her.
More than a trap, it's a self made "trip to Japan by digging a hole" work You are effectively cutting all ties with your humanity, in the most insane way possible You can be inhuman as a psychopath, which has NO empathy, understands the rules of society and takes personal advantage of it You can be inhuman as an incel, which understands the rules of society, fails to accomodate but still seek a place innit. Even the ones that don't and end up massshooting, do it out of spite for not being able to BE inside the society.
Then you can be OP, which doesn't understand society, and makes his own reality. A reality that is flawed on it's basis, as it's formed out of the flawed mind of OP. If he really could distort his reality to his benefit, OP's imaginary girlfriend would coach, push and help OP into getting into a real relationship with another human being, the sane course of action. But it's not, it's only getting him deeper in the rabbit hole, because OP is retarded, both mentaly and logically.
Henry Torres
If you can't describe her, post the pic. I'm sure out of the thousand hours you spend searching for porn and reaction pics, you came across something that resambles a lot like her
Christian Rodriguez
don’t be a dick, the world can be a shitty place props to OP for bettering himself
Carson Turner
I enjoyed both this post and the thread but this guy is on to something. This isn't just autism, it's advanced autism and OP should probably get help.
Isobelle, Alice or whoever the fuck this bitch is won't be helping you the more you stray from humanity the more of a husk of a man you will become. What a world we live in that these people exist though.
Aaron Phillips
It looks a lot like Inception's plot OP just want his comfy waifu, and the waifu (that's only on his mind) wants OP to be with her. IIn his dreams. Forever.
William Evans
This bro. I think I posted here before, i have had my imaginary girlfriend for a while now too. Makes me happy. Pic very much related.
I did describe her, and no, I don't have a pic, sorry.
This is exactly the thing I was talking about. It doesn't really matter if I say she's helping me improve and get better integrated with society. It doesn't matter how much of a shut in I was before her, and just how much I've evolved since then because of her. Since she's imaginary, this whole thing is just dismissed as useless, and I'm dismissed as crazy.
Izabella is actually my favourite name, and Alice is a beautiful one as well. Thank you for the input.
Probably! I've been making these threads for a while now. How long have you two been together?
>I say she's helping me improve and get better integrated with society I'm but thank you on skipping my post, it proves me that this thread is utter delusion and you have little excuses to sustain it's flaws
Wyatt Lee
I kinda understands you. You can laugh but it happens that I imagine my ex-girlfirend (or, an idealized version of her) when I lack motivation or when I really feel sad. And she helps me.
It's easy for me as I didn't had to create her, she does exsits.
But I don't really like to "summon" her as she's based on my ex, it can become dangerous (the real version of her made me suffer a lot, not voluntarily, but still. We'll probably never be together again)
Anyway. I'm curious about your gf, as she is totally your creation have you ever had a conflict with her? Are there things you don't like about her? How does it works?
Camden Walker
Ignorance is bliss I guess. I'm still fascinated that you exist as misguided as I think your views on it are. You could get these things and more in life but are denying it based on your own complacency with the immaterial. You're making it 'special' by putting it out of reach and reinforcing this whole: I want what I can't have mentality.
Your dedication is something but if this keep going on you'll end up being committed in more than one way. I thought you'd like the names but that's just because you remind me of someone.
Your post was basically that one, but less condensed. Same thing, really, you also think I'm cutting "all ties with my humanity" while ignoring the part where she actually pushes me to get better integrated into society completely. Don't give me that bullshit.
> have you ever had a conflict with her? Yes, of course! We do fight sometimes, it's not like she's absolutely perfect and like we're always 100% in sync all the time.
>Are there things you don't like about her? There are some I'm not too fond of. I don't like how cold she can be towards others, for example. I wouldn't say she's a mean person, but she just doesn't really care that much about strangers, I guess would be the way to put it. She is also very very stubborn, and while that can be a good thing, sometimes it gets really tiring arguing with her.
She's young then, cool! Just remember (both of you) that there's more to life than fooling around and having fun, and you should be fine. Wish you both the best.
>I want what I can't have mentality. This pretty much sums up how absolutely shut you are about the whole thing. You just cannot fathom that it's not really about replacing something you "can't have". You just cannot understand how she could be a positive influence in my life without all that bagage added on top. This whole thing is much simpler than you seem to think.
>I'm still fascinated that you exist as misguided as I think your views on it are. I'm fascinated that someone who has never gone through this and has effectively ignored half of the shit I wrote has the audacity to call me misguided. You do you.
I run those scenarios in my head every day. Real relationships are just a bother, I don't mind being alone. I am a rock, I'm an island.
James Lewis
>she could be a positive influence in my life without all that bagage added on to That's what makes you mentally handicapped, and something you are failing over and over to realize using the "you just don't get it" argument Noone has never, ever, found a "100% match" for themselves. That's you. You are a 100% match of you. People is different. You grow thru conflict, difference, and opposition. Choosing to be forever mentally patted on the back IS nice. Of course it is. It's just that's not sane. The "bagage" you say your girlfriend doesn't have, it's what's lacking on your mind. A DIFFERENT OPINION OF YOUR OWN.
Nathan Fisher
>Choosing to be forever mentally patted on the back IS nice. It's the last time I'm going to say this, this is not how this works. From the OP: >If you have a friend who cares only about having fun, then, be they imaginary or not, they're going to be a negative influence in your life. As for her, she has facilitated my integration with the outside world a lot in various ways. She isn't a way to escape my life, she gives me the courage to face my problems and pushes me to improve my situation. I don't mind people being skeptical about this, but when you ignore everything I've said so far so blatantly, it gets pretty tiring, sorry. Like you literally just ignored the part where I was talking about how she was far from perfect, and how we differed a lot from one another. I did not make her to be my 100% ideal mate because that's not what life is about, I made her to be their own person. Again, it's like you just cannot think outside the box you've locked yourself in. "It's an imaginary friend, therefore it works like this." Please, if you don't like keeping an open mind, at least read before you post.
And show some humility, for fucks sake, you just spent the last 10 minutes schooling someone on why something you have no idea how it works is bad and should be avoided. If anything you're the one who seems to have some unresolved issues, from where I'm standing, it almost feels like you're projecting or something. It's fine to be alone, user, life doesn't need to revolve around women.
>you're projecting or somethingIt's fine to be alone I have a gf, 4 years this June
And of course i'm skeptical You claim to her being "her own person" and how she "facilitated my integration with the outside world a lot in various ways", while at the same time, failing to explain such affairs at every chance
Can you point two of those "various ways" you've "integrated with the outside world"? If your gf made it so you could go grocery shopping alone or drop a cv, then she's not only far from perfect, but utterly overrated
Elijah Phillips
If this is real, dude you need to see a therapist asap.
Parker Davis
> while at the same time, failing to explain such affairs at every chance I was unaware anyone had asked, you could've just asked me from the get go, you know?
>Can you point two of those "various ways" you've "integrated with the outside world"? She helped me get my first job ever. Just having someone push you along when you're feeling like shit can do a lot for you, I find, so yeah. And she especially helped because I was feeling really anxious about the whole thing, and having her near kinda helped me keep my cool and going through with it. She has pushed me to start working out. I started about 3 years or so ago, I'd never had even entered a gym before then. It's really fun, though, and I like it a lot! I miss running, but I'm trying to put up more weight and everyone tells me not to do it, so I just lift right now. She is a pain whenever I go to bed too late, and it's incredible how many times she manages to pry me off the computer to go to sleep, it gets me every time. She's also really helpful with things like eating properly and studying and stuff like that, and I did mean it when I said she was stubborn as fuck. Whenever I don't want to go out with friends, she always tries to make me go. She always tries to remind me of how much fun I had whenever I did go with them, and sometimes that actually works. That's a good example of something she does despite it not being that fun for her, just because she knows it's good for my health.
There are lots of little examples, to be fair, but I hope this clears things up a bit more.
>I have a gf, 4 years this June We wish you both the best, by the way!
I second this. I was initially skeptical, but when you explain it, it sounds healthy. I definitely understand keeping it private. I think this is an interesting, seeing how malleable the mind is.
Kayden Flores
Of course user. You've helped me feel much better about this. You two make a lovely couple as well
Thank you both, I'm glad I could shed some positive light onto this. Just to be perfectly clear, I do think there's a very wrong way of going about this, pretty much nailed the things I urge people to avoid in the head, but at the end of the day they're tools (in the sense that they are made with a purpose, not to diminish what they're capable of in any way) and there's always a right and a wrong way to use any tool.
