Parentfags, how established were you before having your first kid? Do you have any regrets? What would you change, if anything, before you decided to have children?
Parentfags, how established were you before having your first kid? Do you have any regrets? What would you change...
Alexander Taylor
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Andrew Sanchez
Well established, but that doesn't mean shit. There is no guidebook. It's the emotional cost that'll get you. Money is easy to come by, but damn the feels. Prepare to see the world very differently.
Austin Miller
As far as we know she’s not pregnant yet but we’re trying. Thank you for your input.
Did having a baby strengthen or possibly hurt your relationship with your partner? Perhaps both?
Grayson Brooks
Kids are both the greatest gift and your worse nightmare.
No longer is your life the most important thing in the world.
You live in constant fear something happends to them, especially when they are very young and the most vulerable.
Be prepared that life is always about them, your needs come second. They will wear you out, day and night. You live by their schedule and their rules. It's fucking hard.
Obviously good side is you get genuine love form them and you can see yourself in them. It also give you the opportunity to guide a new life into a good human being, too many assholes in this world already. You have the change to make it better by raising a decent person.
Leo Scott
At 32 I think I need to do it now while I still have enough energy to deal with the lack of sleep. I’m scared but I love my partner and this is something I want out of life.
Juan Gomez
I did the same around that age. It's very very though believe me. Especially in this day and age with both partners working probably. Know that the relationship with your girl will become harder as well, kids always come first and they are around 24/7 .
If you have some babysitters like grandma and granpa that can watch the kids for a night, it's easyer. Also 1 kid is pretty doable, the challenge starts with 2 :)
Aaron Gutierrez
Thanks for that advice. No grandparents unfortunately. I expect the first year to be really tough.
Wyatt Peterson
Both. At the end of the day she was a whore. Raised my kid alone. He's in his now and doing well.
Evan Mitchell
This is a bit exaggerated, my kids are 4 and 9 and I certainly dont live in constant fear. But yeah it can be stressful, for instance having them learn about traffic and actively taking part in it while riding bikes to school etc. But my life is certainly not just all about them. I still have a life, friends, my wife. You need to make time for that too, otherwise you make it so there is nothing else in your life except the kids. They are an important part in my life, I love them to death and the joy I get out of making them happy is immense. When I feel down, making my youngest laugh out brightens my day. Just let it happen, you will flow into it naturally. First few months are rough because of interrupted sleep and stress, but once that passes, its great. Just dont become a stress-parent, one that jumps out of bed whenever their kid peeps. Its fine to let it cry for a bit every now and again without instantly jumping at the attention.
Aaron Jackson
We were well established. Nevertheless, we aborted both of ours. Still a happy couple,