tldr; Starting to feel like pure shit because of a loss of sex drive (male btw) would honestly appreciate some advice
I used to have a very high sex-drive and would jack off 3 or more times a day, normally to porn. I then got a girlfriend and just lost the sex drive completely, couldn't even get hard if it wasn't morning wood. Girl and I broke up, went back to the porn and the sex drive is back again. I'm now with a new girl, I find her really attractive and for the first couple days the sex drive was normal, no worries. Recently though it's just completely gone again, I can't get hard and don't have any sexual thoughts. It's making me feel like less of a man and having to turn down sex is making me feel terrible because I know i'm denying her pleasure too.
Anyone gone through this? Is it just because i've stopped the porn again and am readjusting? I'm not stressed or nervous, nothing to worry about right now either. Only thing going wrong for me seems to be the sex drive
Yeah maybe; might borrow her stockings or something. Let her pound my ass like a bongo drum
Camden Turner
its the porn dude i have the same problem and im 27 i watch porn a lot of porn and i masturbate a lot and when i get to be with a girl although i wanna fuck her very much my dick doesnt get hard at all searched around a lot and its all the porn viewing and the masturbation dont remember specifics but its about dopamine dependence and you have messed up with your brain and stuff its fixable but it will take 6-9 months of completely NOT WATCHING PORN or anything porn related if you want solutions RIGHT NOW you can fix the erection problems with a simple viagra/cialis/tadalafil since your problem is more of psychological than physiological but if you wanna go back to your normal state, just completely quit porn i know its hard to do cause of loneliness and shit but you can also be open with your girl and talk to her about it and if she understand you can work it out together and it will be easier just stop porn watching porn dude...i know its nice but we are literally porn junkies at this point and we have to go to rehab or we just gonna be sad for the rest of our lives
Jose Thomas
This is pretty accurate. I'm 27 and my sex drive is dead despite wanting to fuck the shit out of women still. I really gotta develop some self control and find a hobby or something.
Hudson Martin
Thanks the reply guys, I appreciate the honesty and i'm glad it's not just me. 6-9 months is fine, I just hope she is understanding ; not really a conversation i'd like to have with her but it is what it is.
Andrew Martinez
Well it might not take 6-9 months. For me it's a couple days with out watching porn and I want to rip my wife's clothes off
Christopher Nelson
You're not alone dude. I'm getting married next month so I gotta fix this issue asap. It'd be a pretty fucking stupid reason to lose someone after all.
Luis Nelson
What are you guys even beating your dicks to? It would also help to know what your girls look like because guys will exaggerate how attractive women are especially when they're dating them.
Dylan Price
Which if I watch porn to much I get that not being able to get hard
Robert Rogers
It's called getting older bro. Smoke some pot or pop a blue bomber and dick her down.
John Wilson
No it's not. If he was like 50 I would understand but most men dont starting have dick problems till 40s. Unless addicted to porn
Dominic Anderson
Need a Fem twink
Ethan Bennett
Not really dick problems per se but just not as intrested in sex. I can get hard fine but really dont have much drive to bone since I turned 30. Of course having kids at home doesn't help. I dont look at porn or fap much either. I'd rather just do something else most of the time.
Nathan Lopez
You are lazy. Happens in all relationships.
Cooper Bennett
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Jayden Johnson
Still here if you want to ask anything
Congratulations on the marriage brother; hope you're happy together
Ayden Carter
Scarred by the Internet.
John Morales
I've been taking adderall and beating the ever living shit out of my dick. 3 things that keep me going while fucking the wife: making out, sucking tits, and thinking about giving her the ol cream pie. Gotta get in your head man.
Camden Martin
this. stop watching porn and jerking off. start working out. get out of your house and meet women
Adam Bennett
Get your T levels checked by a doctor.
Cameron Russell
Give your cock to your girl. As in ownership. Your balls too. She owns them now. If she wants to fuck with her cock you had better make it happen. If she wants her cock to cum, then obey and let it cum. If she decides you should fuck her but her cock doesn't get to cum, then that's how it's gotta be. I bet that would fix your problem.
Adam Wright
hey faggot , i hate to tell you but you are getting to an age when your test is starting to lower,-
remember to exercise, eat right, and for the love of god stop watching porn. its mental poison. also try socializing with women, if you can, u dont have to fuck them, but having women around changes your brain a bit. and no porn is not a substitute.
-no porn -exercise -no porn -get protein
Nicholas Brown
If you're still beating your meat and you have an active sex life, stop. Have sex every other day and stop masturbating, try it for 2 weeks and see what happens.
Daniel Reyes
Married, 37 here, with kids,
My pride was my sex drive. From 12 until a year ago, I never said "no" to whatever girl I was with, be it BJ or sex. Then, it changed almost overnight.
Suddenly I just wasn't horny. I couldn't understand it. I'm a handsy guy: I do stuff outdoors, am fit, love woodworking, and my wife loves my muscles. I just started thinking what it could be.
Turns out that despite a good diet (meat, grains, legumes), I was deficient in some vitamins. Imagine, never took those shits before but I do now.
Maybe I'm getting old but I didn't expect it at 37. 45? Yeah I'll give myself a break. I want another 10 years of good fucking at least though.
Tl;dr: how's your diet? Might want to add vitamins.
Adam Hill
This could work. Exercising and being around women is a big thing. The exercise works your brain as mucj as the body and interacting with women you likely won't get to fuck, even flirting with them, is a major confidence and libido booster. I like porn, but my wife owns my cock and orgasm so I only use porn to self-tease when she's sick or on her period and she's not interested in maintaining my libido herself. Cumming without permission is unthinkable though. There is never a moment that I can't drop my pants and perform if necessary. But it hasn't always been this way. I used to watch porn and jerk it too much. Even if I wasn't jerking it I wasn't that interested in sex with my wife. Had to do the deed with a half-soft dick just to do what I was supposed to do. Now it's much better.