My gf just told me she is into bottom bdsm, so i wanna prepare a special night for her. Ill be buying some toys (money is not a problem) and thinking about what a dominant should do, not only like commanding and punishing her but how to really trick her mind to get into the role.
Im asking for some ideas and advices from experienced people, and if everything goes well Ill be sharing some videos Ill be recording.
>LTDR asking for some bdsm ideas
Give her subdrop
dont looking for breaking her emotionally
Get any ideas yet?
Golden showers and scat
I know what kind of things i can do, i've been watching porn for the last 15 years
what i want is what to do to get to that mental state, like the warmup, and what toys i should be buying and things like that
Discuss your and her (soft and hard) limits first and don't approach them during the first play.
Agree on safeword(s). I use green-yellow-red code with blue as stop because of emotional reasons.
Discuss your plan on aftercare. Have a blanket, wet wipes, water and chocolate prepared.
Ask her what is dominant for her - some like sadist-Doms, some caregiver-Doms, some leader-Doms, etc.. Try different vibes and see how she responds to that.
Toys aren't the most important thing. Your headspace will have more impact.
Do your research first. Subdrop is not a way to emotionally break someone - it's a mood drop after all the hormones drop. Domdrop is a thing too. Dark chocolate can ease the drop.
Forgot what that file was without the thumbnail.
Your girl probably isn't interested in that.
You don't need ideas, you need to understand what gets her going, through some kind of psycho sexo interview.
Tough part is that very often, bottom girls get off to domination itself, almost regardless of what kind of domination you put on her.
I'd advise to drop the toys (except for a Hitachi magic wand, by one asap) for starters, as they complicate things, and go for psychological domination.
Be assertive, command her, tell her you don't care if she likes it or not, berate her if she is a lazy sucker.
Make her say stuff like "i'm your slut", wich she'll like bc she bonds with you, but then correct her, tell her to say "I'm A slut", "I like cock" (instead of "your cock")
globally just see how it goes, but do not forget to keep your head cool cause you got to keep analysing whats happening along the way to decide where you go next.
Rinse and repeat
Sauce?
Few things my gf has enjoyed a lot are
>tied her up like in my pic and wrote "______'s whore" in sharpy across her tits. Then I bent her over the bathroom sink and fucked her from behind so she could stare at herself
>tied her up on the bed with a vibrator against her clit and a plug up her ass, making sure the knits weren't too tight or anything. I told her she'd been a bad slut that day for wearing a bra when I told her not to and that this was her punishment. I then told her I was going to be back later. I left and got a coffee
Whoops forgot to post pic
What you see in porn don't always play out best in real life because those are meant to look hot as fantasies. Also a lot of skill and knowledge is usually needed to pull off those things enjoyably and safely.
Start warming up with dominant talk, and gentle but firm touch. Don't go straight into choking if you don't know the difference between air- and blood-choke, how to do it safely-ish and how to do cpr.
For the first play your hands and cock can be enough to be creative. I wouldn't suggest paddles or floggers because it's easy to go too intense without enough experience.
You can try blindfolding as it enhances the submissive feelings.
The more she trusts you, the more submissive she'll get.
This is all good advice
so watching this clip i realized that these BDSM people suffer from massive inferiority complexes, just look at all that bullshit gear that guy needs just to get this whore off.
I bet he doesnt even surf.
rough or light bondage? not the same
Never leave a tied up person alone
op here. this is gold
I thought about buying some furry handcuff and collar to tie her to the bed and get on some sensory deprivation (blindfolded with some earpods) while ticking and touching her before going rough
is that too much for the first time?
I think i will start with the light one and see how the thing is going
It really depends. Sensory depravation can be really rough on some people, so observe her reactions and regularly check how she feels. Other than that it sounds good.
Remember that huge part of bdsm sex life is educating, researching and experimenting. I had hours long plays dedicated solely to check how certain things work out for us and try new techniques with my girl not tied up and constantly giving feedback (it can be hot too).
kek'd
sensory dep and mild strangulation to get her in the zone, then e-stim on her nipples and clit
Just treat her like shit while you do what you want how you want it and make sure you dehumanize her. Buy her a pet collar and let her know shes not a person and that shes property. Call a whore, tell her shes your whore etc.
Its not just about him you virgin fapper. Its about her too. Some women get off feeling helpless or like property, being treated less than a human etc.
but he gets off from her getting off from what he's doing to her