Should i always be this damn disappointed in a romantic relationship Yea Forums? When its good, its amazing...

There is no balance

What?

Wish I had some advice for you bro, and / or ma'am.

Unfortunately, I don't.

My most recent was a complete blindside two days ago, where for 10 months, things were perfect, outside of tiny spats over ultimately inconsequential things. The all of a sudden, two days ago, boom "I'm unsure about us, I need time to think" followed by "I decided having you in my life isn't the best thing". I mean, on the bright side, she ended it, I guess, instead of it been some long, drawn out, lingering thing, but fuck me. The 180 is jarring as fuck.

So, I really have no idea where that balance may lie, if there even is one.

You probably won't find balance, because she is manipulating you bro. Without knowing any details or circumstances of your relationshit i can just tell by what you are saying and how you are saying it. It'll take you years to probably figure out the lies and how you got fucked over but it seems like on some level you already know your getting screwed over.
My guess is she has a cuntzilla time bomb and your commitment will be the detonator switch. But you already knew that.

She is a slut.

Probably. Not gonna lie and say that isn't a real possibility. That I was only there for a time and purpose, and that had come to pass.

Sorry to hear that bro, breakups are always hard. I don't get girls either. Like one I'm talking to she's totally into me and the next she's super cold. Did she ever go into what was wrong? Sex not good?

basically
>be me
>be her
>bond over the exact same shit, same ideals, morals, interests, childhood, whatever the fuck else
>weird as fuck coincidences
>catches both our attention
>crazy about eachother
>perfect
>sweet as fuck
>time goes by
>i see her insecurities, she sees mine
>she still holds on tight as fuck
>heart eyes and uwus
>reciprocated everything
>more time goes by
>less communication, less of an effort to interact with me
>stupid excuses
>notice small lies here and there
>her passion is basically gone
>mine is still there
>desperately try to make it work
>she tells me shes still there, says shes not going anywhere
>talks about future shit
>talks a lot but actions dont match
>almost feel shes leading me on incase she chooses to stay
>moody
>pissed off at the slightest thing
>takes what i do as me trying to argue
>lolimsadasfucklol.exe
>sudden mood change from her
>amazing like she was in the beginning
>whoops i said something wrong
>shit mood again
>do things to make her happy when she seems down
>she ignores
>be optimistic towards her hoping she'll somehow catch onto it
>she's pessimistic as shit and crushes my uwus
>be me again
>cri
Sorry for the shitty greentext
>tldr: Optimism vs Pessimism

Gotta stay optimistic. You friends with any of her friends? I need to do that next time so I can get the scoop and leverage it better in my next relationship. Was she on any birth control? Really weird stuff. Maybe you were trying too hard and stopped being you

A lot of the times females are indecisive as fuck. You say one thing that raises a red flag and they go back into hiding to analyze the situation better. Either that or she's manipulating you and using you for her own entertainment. I've seen both. Theyre sneaky ass creatures

>commit 100% to whatever you have decided
>be humble
>take ownership of everything! (your actions flaws situation, w/e)
>be open minded
>Don't be a betabuck bitch, be a fucking man
>develop mental toughness.

Yeah, that doesn't work.

Alphafag bullshit is archaic and outdated.

>oh, and detach and assess. That's a big one too.

Hmmm, probably the red flag one. I dropped some jokes like poking fun at the new church she went to so maybe that was it. Granted I like banting a little. I don't think its entertainment because we don't talk a ton, more so when we hang but at the same time I don't feel it clicking.

you're focusing in on one aspect. Beta bitch.

says the beta

Be more aloof. Begin to release you grip on the relationship. If she isn't putting the effort into the relationship don't reward that with even more effort on your part.
Detach and assess your relationship. Where is it leading you to? Can you lead it to where you want it? Is this really the best thing for you?

women have shit sense of humor, you have to treat them like kids.

A guys happiness doesnt correlate to a a girls happiness. If your girls happy than you are, but if you arent happy, she couldnt care less. It's not her job to make you happy. Find what makes you yourself and keep that. She obviously fell for you for a reason, you cant lose that because you ultimately become someone who she didnt fall for. Best of luck next time my friend

Sounds like a clinical depression sufferer. You've got your hands full on this one. If you really want to be with her, research the fuck out of depression, learn what to say or not to say to a depressed person.

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>tfw youre depressed as shit too but put it all to the side completely just for her because trying to make her happy is more important than staying sad
Feelz gud

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Thank you user
great responses
uwu

As long as she appreciates your efforts I see this as a good thing for you too.

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