Question for all the Yea Forumsros that moved on from a big tough heartbreak. how did you do it? need help bros

I dated a girl for 7 years. We had a house and a small child together.

She starts acting distant and then she leaves.

She was fucking some guy she met at a bar and left me for him.

Four months later she was pregnant with his kid.

She kept my daughter from me for 2 years.

I felt extremely low and depressed and heartbreak was an understatement. It made me hate women.

I spent a lot of time with friends and family and keeping myself busy. It hurt so bad. You’re going to get through it no matter what but try to do it right and I’m a healthy way. Keep your mind busy. Alcohol didn’t help me it made it worse.

i got old

Imagine her cumming as she swallows another guys load.

Focus on some other shit, get high/drunk or whatever it is you like
I personally like to talk to other women, get high 24/7 and play a lot of competitive online matches- better angry than sad.

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Well personally I eat better, exercise etc etc

Integrated meditation when I can. But the most important thing I think is to hone a craft. I personally draw and play music so I focus a lot more time and energy into those and it’s really paying off. Not to mention I have a shit ton more time on my hands. Not to mention money

Also it helps to just go out by yourself. Take yourself on a date you don’t NEED a girl to find fulfillment. I have fun just going to to mall and giving random girls the googly eyes and watch them play with their hair a bit. Feels good. You’ll be ok my friend

So similar to me wtf

Thanks user. That made me understand that it can always be worse.

shit dude I'm not OP but I'm fucking sorry
I have a 1 year old kid and her mom is a slut- still in love with me, but I'm not betting that will last long
I'm so goddamn afraid that she's going to take my son, I'd kill her if she did

Good question bra.

The 1 thing that made it for me was meeting new people.
At first it's gonna suck because all you want is your old person, but gradually over time you're gonna learn to appreciate the company of new faces, which is going to lead to new experiences.

From then, before you know it you'll catch yourself basically not even thinking about the past.

How about the phases prior to that?

Like if I don’t want to have a crush on a girl again should I just be a full degenerate and fap / go to strip clubs nonstop so I can convince myself I just want sexual pleasure?

Haha yeah man I feel you. I crochet and play music. I actually just started really connecting with someone special, alas I quit my job and the money has run the fuck out. How do you stack the credits?

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That whore had one more child with him.

It was miserable and I fought so hard mentally with myself but I pushed myself to take classes and be a better person. I met someone else that I’ve been with for three years and we have a beautiful son together. She makes me happy and I pick my daughter up from her mother and no one can keep her from me.

My ex’s boyfriend ended up being a methhead with a drug related record. Guy is a piece of shit and doesn’t work. She is the only one who works and her husband does drugs still.

Karma is real.

I’m happy and work for myself in my small business and have all the free time to enjoy my children.

Got into alcohilism and drugs.

Meditation. You must learn to recognize that the internal cacophony of noise inside your mind, including thoughts, memories, emotions, the sensations they may elicit, and even the flow of sensory data are inescapable but also inconsequential aspects of your being. You will still feel the pain, and you will still experience life in the same way, but from a new perspective.

tried to kill my self than got anti depressants so yea

Bang her sister

Quitting your job for a girl is a huge no no

Made that mistake already. The one thing I learned is that when it comes to women, them ‘loving’ you just isn’t enough. They MUST respect you also. They don’t know it consciously but they are made to be led, which is why she will leave your ass in a heartbeat the second something better comes along at any old fuckin bar like Keep on your grind and follow your dreams. I’m it one of those dudes that say to ignore her and have her chase you, but you need to maintain a balance of ‘hey I think you’re cool and I want something with you’ and ‘ aye I need to focus right now leave me alone’

Back in the day we would leave our women at home for months at a time, being around them too much builds resentments whether the know it or not

1) Do not give into vice. No dating, no drinking, no drugs for 6 months (1 year if really serious).
2) Focus on making yourself the best you.
3) Come out a better man.

A little over a year ago my wife left in the middle of the night for fuck knows why. We'd been together for 12 years through my undergrad, medical school, and residency. I was devastated.
2) I responded by losing 80lb, running, lifting, focusing on my long-term research projects, and focusing on being an awesome guy at my work.
3) The result was that I'm now healthy, got 2 key grants, and as of 2 months met a woman I think it the love of my life, who is amazing in every way.

Hang in there. Make yourself perfect. Win

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Humans were meant to suffer. Agreed.

delete anything related to that bitch
forget that bitch ever existed
use amphetamine to feel better

at least, thats what ive been doing for the past 10 months. and im doing alright now.

If you dont then don't. It's alright to want something more fulfilling. I'm slowly realizing how just by coming on here as a form of socializing exposes us to way more porn than the average individual

I'm not a religious man but have you ever read the book of Job? You're story mirrors it quite well.

Yeah haha that's what caused the initial heartache. I was dating this girl and quit for unrelated reasons but shit just really fell apart after that. That's why I'm trying to challenge my preconceptions of relationships and gender roles. That shit is ingrained in both men and women and I think it does a disservice to everyone. No one should have to play mind games. I find relationships are the best when both people share a certain comfort with each other and allow each other to express their love in a variety of ways. That being said no one likes a lover controlling your financial independence. Been there. Done that.

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The key is figuring out who and what is worth suffering for and who/what isn't

Yeah haha that's what caused the initial heartache. I was dating this girl and quit for unrelated reasons but shit just really fell apart after that. That's why I'm trying to challenge my preconceptions of relationships and gender roles. That shit is ingrained in both men and women and I think it does a disservice to everyone. No one should have to play mind games. I find relationships are the best when both people share a certain comfort with each other and allow each other to express their love in a variety of ways. That being said no one likes a lover controlling your financial independence. Been there. Done that.

I hear you man trust. I was annoyed at first having to play the ‘mindgames’ Until I realized that they really aren’t mind games at all. It’s more just the way we’re physically created. The thing that really sets us apart from women at the end of the day are the two stones dangling between our legs. I don’t wanna get into the metaphysics of things but our nuts are far more powerful than we think. Look into nofap and shit related to it you’ll learn quite a bit if you research with an open mind. Women love men with a sack full of semen cause it’s the ONE thing that no matter how hard they try they can never attain. Use that semen and make your life fuckin great. I’m saying this to you but also to myself, cause like I said I’m tryna navigate through this bullshit just like everyone else. Women are fickle creatures and truly do not think the same way that men do. It’s our job as men to keep them in line. I know that sounds bad but it’s the truth haha

Cool mister dubs. You sound like you have a pretty legit support structure. Glad life is treating you nicely.

Hey did you have a kid or two with 's wife?

So you're telling me that who is both worthy of suffering for and not suffering for? Surely if you were to say who was and what wasn't that would make sense but you've put who in quite the superposition and whom for?

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liars are less than nothing to me, why feel for nothing?
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music helps

I dunno man then it seems like you're putting the family jewels against the cradle of life and that's how you end up with shit like this making you pissed enough to get into fights with your bros about "sex positivity"

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Love to hear your thoughts on it. Far as I'm concerned if there is a god it probably doesn't have a gender and I'm all for equal representation but the way its portrayed makes me cringe.

Yeah boooiii

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From what I’ve gathered god is DEFINITELY not a woman lol. Think of existence as energetic and not just the physical. There are two principles of energy in existence: the masculine and the feminine. Neither is greater than the other for they both need each other to exist. Both men and women embody the masculine and feminine energies, but men embody more masculine and female feminine. That being said you should check out what the energies actually MEAN. For the same reason men don’t want a nagging bitch for a girlfriend who is over dominating (masculine nature), women don’t want a man who is too submissive (feminine) and unwilling to exert his will in the world. But yea it’s a lot of Mumbo jumbo and only worth looking into if you have a genuine curiosity and open mind. Otherwise it would be a total waste of time lmao

And just to touch on the ‘god is not a woman’ thing let me just say it like this. God is the phallic paintbrush, and he paints in the feminine canvas. Males give and the woman receives. It’s a basic principle. Masculinity brings order to the feminine chaos

Some say time, some say drink, some say start the path on improving yourself. The truth is some things you never fully recover from,it's part of the human condition. You may into heal and be able to be normal again...but there will be a part of you that never forgets. To this day I remember the scent of the perfume one of my ex's wore...Everytime I smell it, it makes my clench my fist in anger and then I feel sad for a while.

You're going to grieve for a while, just do it. But don't sit idle, you'll only wallow in it. If you have a hobby immerse yourself in it, if you don't get one. Keep going to work, keep moving. If you stop you'll rot.

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Oh so you're on some "Destino" shit. bruh I'll let you in on a little secret: when you recognize both energies within yourself and gain the capacity to move freely in between the mean and expand the extremes, sex and reproduction just becomes but another expression of a universal love transcending any boundary or label. That being said uniting with that is a total rush I wouldnt wish on my worst enemies.

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