So I have always been terrified of approaching women. Common enough problem, I figured I would grow out of it once I got into shape. But lately I have come to the realization that I am not just terrified of approaching women, I am terrified of women approaching me as well.
A couple years ago, I started going to raves a couple times per month on average. Mostly trance and techno shows, with the occasional tech or progressive house show thrown in there. So these shows are usually sausagefests, I figured only Chad types would have any luck at them, I mostly just go to stare at the lasers and immerse myself in the music.
I used to be fat, but in the last year I have actually becoming pretty healthy. More and more, I have found girls are grinding up against me trying to dance. My reaction to this has always been the same: I move to the other side of the dance floor. I don't know why, but this freaks the fuck out of me, even when I am rolling, which I don't get at all because MDMA gets rid of all my other social anxieties.
In the last few months a few girls have followed me to the other side of the dance floor and in every case I have just gone outside to escape.
Last weekend something really weird happened. The cute girl who had been trying to dance with me followed me outside and tried talking to me. Not knowing what to do, I pretended to not know how to speak English.
This turned out to be a mistake. She was mutual friends with some regulars I hang out with, already knew my name, and knew I was full of shit. So I feel like a total asshole.
I would have loved to dance with her/fuck her. I don't know why her approaching me freaked me out so much. What the fuck do I do about my fear of women approaching me, Yea Forums? I'm at a complete loss. I've never even heard of anyone having this problem before. I just freeze up and run away every time it happens.
So I have always been terrified of approaching women. Common enough problem...
Tl,dr
that's fucking weird, but just make it a goal to start talking/dancing. There's no other option m8. u can do it
t. going to lost lands
Girls keep on trying to dance with me at raves and I keep on running away like a little bitch. How do I stop being such a pussy?
Maybe you're just uncomfortable with things physically escalating so quickly with someone you don't know. I'm the same way, I'll be comfortable making a move on a girl if I've been talking to her for an hour and we're clicking, but not at first sight.
Haven't tried any festivals yet, the city I live in has one of the best scenes in the US so I have never bothered. Are they worth it? My friend is trying to get me to go to ADE this year and haven't been to Yurop in a while so I am consdiering it.
>What the fuck do I do about my fear of women approaching me
Steal some of your mom's blood pressure medicine and take it. It mellows you out and makes you a little dippy so you are willing to take chances talking to women.
I wish I know.
All my life, many girls has been clearly interested in me but I'm too much of a fag to even attempt anything...
>I just freeze up and run away every time it happens.
Literally the story of my life
You might be right, but that would be really weird because I fuck prostitutes all the time and that doesn't bother me at all. But then I usually screen them for a while and chat them up before fucking them, so you could be right.
Usually on a bunch of other drugs, don't see how that would help.
Yeah I've never seen a prostitute, so I can't exactly compare, but I doubt I would be nervous in that setting. I can't imagine there's any uncertainty to get nervous about when you both know you're paying for sex.
honestly man, women are kind of a joke at this point. i get where you're coming from, but if you have the ability to; get ya dang beak wet. if you really are a turbosperg or don't have a huge ding dong, don't bother cause that's pretty much what women are looking for these days
Beta blockers reduce anxiety.
it seems you are a child in a mans body. Are you seriously going to keep saying you don't know what to do? Even after everything the media advertises about mental health help etc daily. After all the articles, studies, news where help is given for free you don't get it? Now days it is impossible to go a day without some sort of reminder about how to get help if you have social plaa plaa mental problems.
And it's ridiculous idea that an adult man doesn't know by heart how to live a balanced good life and how to deal with problems in his life.
Jesus fuck i hate people who whine about being scared of social situations with a being that is the same race as he is (human) and is nothing more special than he is.
I'd imagine MDMA is supposed to be a lot more effective at reducing social anxiety but even that doesn't work.
Confidence man, it's all about showmanship. Amp yourself up about anything. "I tell the truth even when I lie."
Another weird thing. Coke usually turns people into cockie assholes, which would probably help in my situation. But it doesn't do that for me. Am still as mellow as ever.
You’re a fucking retard, I hope to god for your sake this is a cuck LARP
If not then enjoy being an ubervirgin your entire life lol
By killing self
i manned up around 18 and would approach random girls at community colleges. first girl i went up to i couldnt speak and my eyes watered up. didnt matter i would force my self to approach 5 girls a day even if it was just asking for directions. the year i lost my v card i fucked 14 girls most below average but 4 of them were smokin. just suck it up and keep trying face your fear.
What a retard kek.
How old are you op?
I wish I could.. too late for me, tho.
I'm not a virgin. Just have really weird social anxiety with people I don't already know.
Lower 30's
How too late are you, you're 30 are you?