Fuck me i genuinely don't know whether i should break up with my girlfriend. We've been having some big problems recently, mainly with me not feeling reciprocated in our relationship due to how much I've sacrificed and changed for her and how she hasn't done the same for me, but that's a long story. We talked about considering a breakup since I finally told her how I didn't feel reciprocated, or as cared about. She told me that she was gonna do her best to me, and actually start to open up to me, which she hasn't until after a year and a half of being together due to her past abusive relationships. I genuinely don't know if she can change for me or if I'll ever be returned all that I sacrificed for her. She then told me that if we were to break up, she'd regress to her past drug and alcohol habits, which I genuinely don't want to happen since I still care for her and love her. I genuinely don't know what I should do guys, break up with her so that I can feel better, or try to wait until she can possibly change and get through this rough time. I genuinely felt like she was the one but after talking to her about this, I just don't know anything anymore. I just need some outer opinions on this shit.
Fuck me i genuinely don't know whether i should break up with my girlfriend...
Sounds like she's just using the drug excuse to string you along and not change.
You seem like a nice guy. Find a girl who is nice to you. Don't let yourself suffer and try to fix someone who isn't willing to really change. Found someone who loves you like you love them, user.
give her a time limit without her knowing of course and if she continues not being the girl you wanted to find in a relationship fire her
I feel like that's true, but I'm not exactly sure. I know how bad her past has been and I do know that that will genuinely happen. It's happened with all the other people she thought she could trust and love, and she said that I've been the best relationship to ever happen for her so I know for sure this drug relapse will be horrible
I had a situation like this around a year ago minus the drug/alc habits. I genuinely loved my ex and really wanted to make things work, but I just didn't feel loved in our relationship after 3 years and couldn't do it anymore. Make the effort to care for yourself and find someone who cares about you too. It sucks being alone those first few months but I've definitely changed for the better since then. Try thinking about your relationship as objectively as possible and see if you can make it work. If you don't think you can, drop her.
That sounds like a great idea, only thing is I'm not sure how long I should give
Great in theory but hard in real life. I really am not that attractive at all so basically no one is interested in me that I know of + I was really lucky to have someone as attractive as her see to actually something within me
this ^
You will feel guilty if you don't try at least once to see if it gets better with time. Change does not happen over night. Give her like 1-3 months, TELL her if she forgets and fall back to old patterns (habits and jargon can be hard to shake off). If it does not get better with time. You should leave. that's my five cents.
Yeah I've sorta become mostly concerned about her well-being throughout our relationship that I've forgotten about my own. This is especially difficult since she has been both physically, verbally, and emotionally abused by one of her previous boyfriends, and I really try to be caring and understanding of that circumstance.