It's time to tell us, user. What's hurting you inside?

Her telling me she thinks i'm settling is actually a result of trying to have conversations about the issues we're having. But 100% right, I'll try using the specific way of saying BOTH of us have to try.. Problem is both of us are poor, hence the co-dependence, so moving on with life isn't exactly the easiest path.

>I truly love my s/o but she doesn't initiate or put out nearly enough
tell her this then.

Actually did. she told me it turns her off to start shit. and it turns /me/ off to start shit but i do anyways. I'm legit just echoing all the conversation i've had because i'm actually hurting inside trying to find solutions to this.

Thank you folks again for your input. I really appreciate your not just saying "well dump her if she doesn't put out"

Girl I love only wants me for sex.

Why does it turn both of you off? Is it the awkwardness? Have you both grown to become unattractive in each other's eyes? There's an underlying cause beyond the surface that you have yet to figure out.
>I really appreciate your not just saying "well dump her if she doesn't put out"
If you both love each other then you shouldn't give up on the relationship so easily if it's something that can be fixed. Also, you're not the only one that has to find solutions, she does too. She can't just pout and moan about how she pales in comparison to others when she's not putting in any fucking effort to fixing the issue. If you're a lazy fuck then literally everyone else is gonna look more appealing, and this goes for both of you.

I've come to harbour such a deep-seated hatred for life that I'd rather be dead. I've stopped caring about friends and girlfriends and whatever the fuck, I just want out.

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Buy her some sexy lingerie TODAY, and tell her “tonight’s the night!”

Bro and sis got molested by dad years ago. Shits been tearing me up inside and it's been getting worse. I don't sleep much and I feel sick all the time. Being edgy and thinking bad thoughts makes me feel better for a short time but before long I feel even worse. My sister is going to put the cunt in court and take as much money as she can from him and my bro is going to do the same, but I'm not sure what to do after. I'm thinking of killing him when they've gotten their part of their revenge.

Well, it's only a moderate turn-off for me, purely because i /know/ she's just waiting for me bring all the action (she gets rockin good orgasms super easy so she just kicks back and i go digging)

For her, she mostly says it's because she doesn't like her body. to which i say we've been together 6 years, so what's there to be lacking in confidence about.. i practically worship her and legit can't stay calm around her, but that's not good enough apparently

>Also, you're not the only one that has to find solutions, she does too.
And that's definitely the point that i've tried to get across to her, and that's what has resulted in her saying she doesn't like how she looks. I've re-assured her in all ways i can figure out, and it does sometimes feel like she's just sitting back and pouting.. maybe i just need to help her reflect on herself and actually see the position she's put herself in by having no confidence.

She's terribly insecure. Insecurities may be inherently irrational but they're surmountable with enough positive reinforcement. In her case, she seems to be almost too far gone. She stopped caring about what others think unless it validates her own bias, it seems like. What is it that she dislikes about her body?

I don't even know. She won't talk to me about it, and when i ask she usually give the response of "i don't know.. i just don't like looking at myself". If i had to guess, we've both gained a bit of happy weight since getting together, so maybe she's off about that.. but even then she does less than jack shit about it if it /was/ her problem.

So yeah, i'd agree that she's stopped caring about what others think, and that's definitely what is twisting my guts into knots.. Even if i left her i'd never stop caring so i fucking /need/ her to break this irrational streak... I've even talked to the chick from 10 years ago about this, and she's even said it sounds like i'm settling..

I wouldn't say you're settling if you love her so much that you'd want to fix the issue rather than dump her while she's being so unwilling to talk things through or get some help. Setting would be you staying with her if you didn't love her while knowing you could do better. If you love her then you're not necessarily settling right now, you're simply expending twice the effort you normally would have to with someone else while trying to fix someone else's issue while that same person seems to be unwilling to fix it themselves. Her issue seems to be way above your paygrade and skillcap, only a good therapist or someone of equal skill and patience would be able to get the truth out of her. You mentioned you're poor and thus paying for one is simply out of the question, so you're just gonna have to be patient and keep trying. Honestly, tell her what I just told you. Tell her you're not settling because you love her enough to try to fix the issue rather than leaving her for someone else that's more emotionally capable of dealing with their own baggage without expecting someone else to do all the heavy lifting. Maybe sugarcoat it a bit so she doesn't throw a hissy fit. Frankly, I find it incomprehensible how someone who has all the love, reassurance and help they could want to deal with any issues decides it's better to clam up and let the problems fester instead of being an adult and talking things through. She's either lacking emotional intelligence and maturity or she's just trying to find an excuse to break up with you.

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Thank you so much for your input. You've basically told me what i've been failing to put together in my own feeble mind. I'm going to tell her just that, naturally in my own words. ;) if that doesn't get through to her, then nothing will.

>She's either lacking emotional intelligence and maturity or she's just trying to find an excuse to break up with you.
This is.. this is the other thing that has me twisted and worried. and why, now, i've become even more glad that i just say what's on my mind, because even in this desperate shit-hole i got some genuine advice, thank you.

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I'll never be able to find someone who loves meso I cope with spirit guides I don't care of it's an angel or a devilI want love

you're gonna have to walk on egg shells because women can't take criticism without thinking it's an insult so be careful how you get your point across. Good luck