a girl who works at the gym has asked my name before and today she seemed to remember it saying "hey user!" when I walked by and literally breaking off conversation with another girl to say "bye user!" as I walked through the turnstile.
seriously guys what the fuck did she actually mean by this???
What does she mean? What do you mean? She just seems interested in you dude
>She just seems interested in you dude
that can't be true right? this scares the shit out of me
are you serious?
either way when someone makes a point to use your name in conversation they are typically interested
I think he’s serious
DON’T FRET! The female may be scary but she’s as human as you!!
fuck man, that is what I thought too. it is a little odd to be addressed by your name from someone you haven't formally met I guess? to be honest I have asked about her and I know her name but she hasn't given it to me. I can't just respond "hey femanon!"
Why does the gym have a turnstile?
Also, you gotta come up with something non-spahgetti to say next time she says hi. Keep it simple, pause for a second and ask how her days going. Don't fuck it up user, I swear to god. You got this
yeah it is, due to some experiences it makes me wary when people do it
but next time you talk to her just casually mention that you never got her name. just talk to her like a normal person
>Why does the gym have a turnstile?
because they count people going in and out I guess? they don't have like security or anything you buzz yourself in with the card, but if they didn't have a barrier people would just walk in and out wouldn't they?
also, we have had little interactions before if I walk in and she sees me she might say hey how's it going/how are you? and I usually just say good and stuff etc... she did change her hair kind of recently, is that safe to compliment?
it has been a long time since I have tried to engage anyone like this. but you are giving me strength user, and I thank you for it
That's perfect, man. If she's had it for a while already, tell her something like "I like the new hairstyle you started doing". Make sure she knows you're not just now noticing, and that you noticed it for a while.
Where i work i say hello and goodbye to every customer they come before any converisation i may be having no matter what. Thats how raises are gotten try to fuck but im pretty sure thats just customer service. Why do you people think that just because a girl talks to you shes intrested in you?
she's clearly interested
don't sweat it and just talk to her like you would anyone else. don't expect anything but just know if she's already shown her interest you'd have to fuck up pretty bad for her to change her mind
read the thread dummy
using someone's name twice in a short, casual conversation is usually a sign of interest
damn user that is pretty good, I like that punch up. It implies that I have taken notice of her change, I thought about just saying it looks "cool" or "good" but not to hype it up too much.
I was curious as to why she would remember my actual name when she sees hundreds of people a day. And I spent 10 years working customer service but I never cared about peoples names unless I really had to
Maybe she is just nice to customers in general. Are you the only one, who she calls by name? I mean people in the same situation as you.
Just being friendly? Are you fucking autistic?
>Are you fucking autistic?
probably most likely yes
You're going to get OP banned from that gym and possibly arrested and put on a government list.
yeah I've worked customer service for years and even when I had regulars, even at a bar, I never called them by their name
not necessarily saying anyone who does is trying to fuck whoever they're talking to but in my experience it's usually indicative of that
now I can't tell are you gassing me up here? I don't even want to fuck her honestly she is attractive to me but I think she is nice and I want to get to know more about her and stuff
are you fucking stupid? or just ignorant?
she literally gets paid to keep your retarded ass coming back, sure she knows your name, but she probably knows alot of names bevause guess why, shes getting paid to remember stupid shit like names, go ahead, test it out, shell probably cringe at the thought of you asking her out or play it off cool and laugh about it later when she tells her friend this creep at the gym tried hitting on her at work
Because some inept fatsoes on the internet says that it means “clearly interested”, it’s fact?
Man you guys should get out more. It’s perfectly normal and it does not equal interest
He wouldn’t really know
nothing wrong with having a conversation with someone
nah I'm not lol I'm being honest man. like I said just treat her like someone you want to get to know, like a friend. no pretenses or any expectations involved. worst case scenario you just have a decent conversation with someone but trust me you will regret doing nothing more than you will regret getting shut down
well maybe I am interested? would it be so crazy to just talk to a person? how else are men and women supposed to get together?
in my experience it does typically mean that there is some interest
you can provide good customer service without using names, trust me bud I've done it in many different environments
it's not like she gets tips or anything for being overly friendly like a waitress or bartender
Might be actually good at her job. Customers love that name remembering shit when they are regulars its like a fucking tip magnet. Like I said earlier i highly doubt shes intrested but try your best to smash see where it goes and dont be a fucking creep.
just talk to her man you'll be able to tell how she feels about you. if she isn't interested then that's fine and you can just leave it there but you never know until you try
Maybe you just sucked at it?
To me: Bartenders at the local bar does it, receptionists at repeat places do it(including the gym), hairdresser does it, even local fucking grocery store does it.
do you think people working at the gym get tips? I got plenty of tips as a male working different customer service jobs and never once called someone by their name, I just did my job well and was pleasant to interact with
and I've been making the same point as your last one, just initiate some casual conversation and see what happens. no harm in that
This is absolutely what will happen.
Reading all of OPs responses through this thread, he’s obviously socially awkward as fuck, and girl at gym has no doubt picked up on this
nah I'm pretty good at it actually even though I hate it
well I guess we have different anecdotal experiences. not saying you're wrong but that doesn't mean I'm wrong either
You clearly weren't meant to procreate.
>he’s obviously socially awkward as fuck,
what ways would you capitalize on a situation like this. Are you saying you aren't socially awkward but post on Yea Forums regularly?
OP if you want hurt continue what your doing it seems weird but stay distant and say hi and if she does like you that’s all it will take to move to the next step of conversation and figure out if she likes you or not, just use common sense
Like her* I’m tired and high
She just said hi you stupid faggot
If you’re interested, just go talk to her.
Don’t analyze any minute thing she does or says and put all this meaning into it that simply isn’t there.
Go spaghetti all over her (which you will), and take it from there
Kill yourself faggot
>what the fuck did she actually mean by this???
Nothing at all.
She's just being social and she doesn't know (yet) that you are a social retard.
No harm as long as he isnt fucking like a massive tard like going on Yea Forums for advise in talking to women. Maybe its not for tips its to keep him coming back and maybe telling a boss that this specific person is doing really good at their job and getting raises because you are really good with customers. Once again OP try to smash but dont be fucking weird please. Please dont be weird so maybe we can get some fap material from you.
yeah because you are all so nice and supportive in this thread I should definitely share with you. but seriously a few anons were nice at first but now the consensus seems to be that I am a social retard/creep and you are all experts on this matter
OP here, I was just fucking with you retards. Thanks for the irrelevant advice dumb fuck.
you aren't me, those shoes are too big to fill
Could easily be a cultural difference.
But here in Denmark, people don’t react that well to generic small talk that could be applied to anyone (coming from a CSR, that is). It seems to us “dishonest”. However, include the person’s name, and suddenly it feels personal (even though it still isn’t to the CSR)
Dude seriously kill yourself. Don't ever breed, if you do may your future children have cancer
>I am a social retard/creep
You are though.
She just said 'hi'
>and you are all experts on this matter
Nope, I'm a bigger retard than you and a 39 year old virgin
Thats exactly what im saying Yea Forums isnt for advise its for degenerates and socially awkward fucks that have no clue about anything related to women. Dont be fucking weird and go get us some fap material. Even a one time hookup can get some good pics and vids.
>Nope, I'm a bigger retard than you and a 39 year old virgin
I may have trouble sharing my feelings with people but I am not a fucking virgin lol you should kill yourself
You don't know shit you dumb faggot, kill yourself.
Exactly. This man goes to a fucking gym and hes out here asking us virgins for advise on women like we really know what the fuck is up. Lets get this man to get us some fap material!
That's rude man, I was trying to help
THATS EXACTLY WHAT IM SAYING. But to be fair not a single person on Yea Forums knows what they are talking about i never claimed to be an expert i just said it probably wasnt anything but go try to fucking smash.
>what ways would you capitalize
Right so I’m not saying the “advice” that people give is wrong - if you’re interested, you absolutely should go talk to her, also compliment her hair. Just don’t put some deeper meaning into her using your name and getting your hopes up.
>are you saying you aren’t socially awkward?
Absolutely. I’m a very extrovert person that will always find strangers to talk to when I’m out on my own.
You have no reason to believe me, but luckily, I have also no reason to care that you do/don’t
I hear ya and honestly agree with what you're saying
my main point is just give it a shot (but definitely don't be a fucking creep and dont expect anything). who knows she could turn out to be a good friend
in the us people love the small talk lol but I've learned to fake it very well because I really never give a shit about customers
good point tho, it may be cultural but I get what you mean about kind of feigning interest by using their name
based on the length and frequency of some of the replies ITT it seems my little anecdote has at least sparked conversation between anons, some support me a little and some say I am reading into this situation. This would only be the second time in my 27yo life that a female has expressed interest in me, so I am a little confused on how to proceed
So yea, that’s the consensus, so what?
You won’t get out of being a social retard (which you are, but that’s okay) if you don’t go out and actually practice social interactions
Ultimately all I want from this man is some fap material later so he definetly should give it a good shot. But my "advise" or more appropriately input is for gim to be as not socially inept as possible so he can share the nudes.
chaotic good in a post lmao
My point is you need (waaayyy) more confidence. You don’t need the woman to show you some interest before approaching her. In fact, her interest is completely irrelevant for first interaction.
The only thing that matters is YOUR interest. If you’re interested, approach her, and you will find out of the interest is mutual.
However, gauge if your interest is genuine. A common mistake is getting interested just because the girl shows interest. Out of some sort of desperation (be it sexual, attention or something else)
you are making a lot of good points here user. I probably never had a chance and I deserve to be alone forever
Deserve to be alone all you want OP but use any opportunity to smash. Dont be fucking weird and make sure to share nudes. Then be alone all you fucking want socially sheltered and the whole nine yards. Just. Get. The. Nudes.
you are all hellbent on these mythical nudes. what if you don't even find her attractive?
Nudes are nudes my guy tits are tits ass is ass. Speaking of which any creepshots of her? I dont doubt you have them but are you willing to drip feed me with the sauce? Go get laid my man and share everything you get go slow if you need to as long as the ultimate goal of nudes or possibly vids are reached.
I admit I looked on social media but wasn't able to find anything
All im going to leave you with is never listen to us retards and do your best to get her snapchat or some shit she uses and go from there if you even get there. Dont be creepy and get them nudes! They are out there you just have to be skillful enough to get them. You got this and when you are done go back to the basement where you think you belong.
Was the other girl another employee?
This is information is crucial, dumbass
I think it was another employee yeah, what do you think about that?
Your name is user?
What a cool name.