Anyone here is a psychologist?

Improper sentence structure while complaining about grammar AND you're a niggernigger? Kys

Aerospace engineer here, wonder what that reddit's career is looking like kek

That's easy stop trying to validate yourself with a relationship. Until your fine being alone you don't deserve anybody. I'm in the same boat as you. I've been working on it for awhile. Its....somthing fucky in our brains. It does get easier once you realize why you latch on like that it's easier to not latch on like that lol -a fellow loser 29

>Aerospace engineer here
Why do you have the best girls user? I'm on Electronics, going to take the medical emphasise after, almost no girls and the ones available are trash or are taken.

>wonder what that reddit's career is looking like kek
Same, these people forget that a lot of /sci posters (the ones that didn't invade from /x) go here frequently too.

I'd be willing to bet she doesn't consider *you* her best friend.

Your lack of confidence is what's toxic. Women find confidence attractive, sure being a stud with a mountain of cash makes it easier, but women will rationalize ANYTHING, even dating a fat ass like you.

If you honestly think you're capable of dating a woman, you need to date someone else, because clearly she doesn't have that kind of interest in you.

>I'm an engineering student browsing here, so I'm sure there are tons of at least psychology students around
What the fuck kind of logic is that

Everyone wants to waste their time somehow, many of us do it here regardless of degrees or jobs.

Why would successful person come dwell with losers? The only reason I can imagine is for all the pedo porn

Having a degree doesn't make you successful.

ill take shit that has nothing to do with topic at hand for 300
if you have feelings for her go for it. dont think, just act on instinct. i fucked things up like you are about to 2 times already. you will never get over it when its too late.

It makes you one hell of alot more successful than me. The last time I "accomplished" something in the eyes of the world was nearly a decade ago when I graduated 5th grade (though, ironically I am far better educated than the vast majority of people with highschool diplomas)

BA in Pyschology reporting in, its not much but its all I got. You gotta fish or cut bait. Either sack up and tell her how you feel or fucking distance yourself from her and get out of your social routine. Its not fair to you to torture yourself for no reason, its not fair to her to act like a goddamn weirdo every time she is trying to get some dick and its not fair to the other guy who might be genuinely interested in her but she has this weird "friend" making their relationship strained.

Believe me having a degree and a stable job means nothing if you know your bloodline ends with you because of you being a massive virgin.
But at least I can do cool math tricks kek.

Have you tried not being a virgin?

Bruh, your grammar is also shit
also nobody gives a fuck

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BA psych here,

Sounds an awful lot like a case of not nutting up, and dealing with your emotions in an unhealthy way.

The feelings are obviously there when you have a GF, but when the GF is there you don't need to expend the energy since the best friend will always be there regardless. In that sense, your best friends become a safety net for your insecurity, and you subconciously don't want to make a move because once she's no longer a valid option the safety met will be gone. That said, the attractionis largely after the fact when you are alone and she is not, which suggests insecurity and attention seeking behaviour.

Ergo, by not identifying with underlying emotions, commitment phobia, and subsequent rationalization, you are unintentionally manipulating this individual to help manage your own lack of self esteem and need for approval. This is a common tactic of Histrionic Personality Disorder; manipulate people into being emotional/physical backups due to fear of abandonment, intense insecurity, and an unsatisfiable need for attention.

I recommend nutting up and telling her how you feel, and dealing with the consequences. Either you get her as a gf, or she takes a dive from your life, and honestly both of those are absolute wins.

How do I protect myself from manipulators like OP? I generally suspect ulterior motives whenever someone is nice to me

Thats not to say that Histrionic Personality Disorder is found in all cases of this behaviour, but a constant and repetitive pattern of it. In this case, its more likely you are simply jealous and manipulative due to insecurity and low self esteem.

Some manipulation is neccisary for healthy social behaviour; social norms, hygene, respect, and boundarys to name a few.

The problem with OP is he's unintentionally manipulating, and the way OP is doing it is almost entirely utilized by women to control the men in their lives. The best way to protect yourself from being manipulated is to set healthy boundaries, be vocal and forward with what you want (within reason, or as the norms of the situation dictate), and be willing to walk away from unhealthy situations and people. If someone is being toxic, call them on it, set the boundary, if they can't respect the boundary they can't respect you. Walk away.

I think people are afraid of "nice" because they don't know how to handle it; they don't believe someone can that thoroughly adore them because deep down everyone has that hidden insecurity that picks at them. Nobodies that nice, what if it's a trick? Wouldn't they rather be with somebody else? Most people aren't totally convinced of their own loveability and it manifests itself in paranoia when they don't get the reactions they're looking for; is there something wrong with them?

"Nice", in itself however, is inherently the masterful repression of harmful thoughts, words, and ideas, but those desires are still there. The deep, dark pit of desire that they refuse to acknowledge is simply locked away in their brain as they struggle in conflict with two opposites of their personality.
Maybe that's why people don't trust "nice"; it's a lack of Honest expression in what they want... Except it's not. The root of "nice" is the inability to hurt those around them, so they repress and censor themselves for the ones they care about.

People love assholes because they treat people more in line with how that person views themselves; they don't value themselves and feel that it is the proper way that they should be treated. Furthermore the asshole doesn't care about the people around him so he is honest with himself and others, making him appear more trustworthy even if they know he can't be trusted. They tolerate the toxic environment because they don't know how to handle anything but that.

The easiest way to make yourself valuable is to value yourself. Once that happens you know what atmosphere you can breath in, and adjust your environment accordingly.

Don't be afraid of nice people for being nice, most of the time they are actually like that.

>People love assholes because they treat people more in line with how that person views themselves; they don't value themselves
It can hardly be blamed in my case, I'm really not a valuable person, I'm a terrible person, and I deserve to be hated and miserable, that's the reality

If you think that's what you deserve, that's what you'll get; if you don't value yourswlf nobody else will, either.

I don't tell them that's how I feel. I don't want to be an attention whore so I shut up about it and keep it to myself

Being assertive isnt being an attention whore, its setting healthy boundaries and respecting yourself enough to enforce them. Anyone who tells you otherwise isnt worth keeping in your life because they want to see you below them instead of an equal. Take your place as a man, its your destiny.

>assertive
I wouldn't call being a whiny downer cunt "assertive"

Naaw fam don't be a whinny downer cunt, but def stand up for yourself

Women can't be best friends