I had the possibility to have sex for the first time some time ago. I'm 22, she's 18

Absolutely this

>not like getting drunk but 3 beers or so should do the trick

This will probably help a lot.
If you drink too much it'll just make it harder to get hard though.

It's normal OP. This happened to me off and on for the first year of the relationship I'm in now. Weve been together for 6 years now. I have severe anxiety and if I thought even for a split second she wasnt into it or wasnt completely enjoying herself I would lose my boner so fast. It got easier for me as I got more comfortable around her. High stress situations still are hard. Like one time on valentine's day she wanted me to fuck her on her grandparents couch and I had to fight hard to keep it up. But I wouldn't worry about it. Your nervous cause you care what she thinks about how you fuck. Theres nothing wrong with that.

it takes practice

i used to get so excited/nervous that i would, like, shiver. it was weird

Happened with my first real gf of 3 years, couldn't have sex for the first 8 months, I could get aroused to porn or on my own time, but when I was with her I felt child like happy, with no need for sex. The sex part felt societal, a pressure that in my subconscious made it difficult to even be aroused around her.
This issue has followed me forever now, im 28 now and had been around 19 and 20 at the time, we ended up having sex frequently and the relationship suffered towards the end, sex took away all the mystery, all the reason just to love one another's company, long story short, that new found boredom and sexual routine led to the wandering eyes situation, and further crumbled the relationship.....sex is the devil.
Good luck out there buddy.

same thing happened to me.
do you take Adderall XR or any other drugs?

Never really considered performance anxiety, but of course it is a mental thing. Spending more time together will hopefully do something.

Don't really drink that often, but I'll give it a shot.

You're right about that actually. Her having 5 previous partners made me kind of nervous. She also has never had an orgasm (might be BS), so maybe that puts some weight on my shoulders too.
I'll just try to not hype it up in my head next time.

Nope. No drugs.

Thanks. I thought I would love sex, but after this hurdle I don't know anymore.
Sorry to hear sex had such a bad impact on your relationship, bro.

Hey, keep your head up man. It happened to me a few times in my life too. My advice is to just keep kissing and feeling her chest until you start getting there. That can help, or maybe ask her if you can watch porn together to spice it up and help you out. There's nothing wrong with you jerking it until you get there. Good luck.

Calmed me down now knowing how many others have had this happen to them.
None of my friends or female friends have ever talked about this topic, but now I feel a little better.
I must be more nervous about sex than I was first aware of.

Well, when I was a virgin and got my first gf, we tried it but couldn't get it up either. Tried again a few weeks later, this time we were staying overnight at a cabin and we drank a little wine before, so I guess it took some stress down from my body (my mind was calm both times) and we fucked.

Now, 4 years later this summer, I finally got a virgin girl into my bed. Two days before that I had fapped after trying nofap for two weeks. We tried it but I couldn't get it up again, I think I was nervous since a virgin girl was my obsession. We never met after that, and I think I would have smashed if I didn't fap 2 days prior. Haven't fapped since that, and it was over a month ago.

I'll stay off porn until I see her again just in case that has something to do with it. Been a while since I've had a 2+ week break anyway

Yeah I mean I don't know if it will help, nofap is mostly a meme and has a placebo effect but I just let you know that I'm doing the same thing now, I took the incident with the virgin girl as a sign that I shouldn't touch myself anymore.

Anyway, the best advice is as I said from my experience and as others said before - drink a little bit prior.

same thing happend to me while getting my first bj. i really enjoyed it, but everything was new to me and i was kinda tense. just talk to her and tell her about how and what you feel. keep on trying nothing is wrong with u. if it does not work next time, dont worry, calm down an try it again later. good luck!

OP.

I had the exact same problem. Ignore everyone else and take my fucking advice.

It's performance anxiety, even if you don't FEEL NERVES. I didn't feel nervous at ALL but subconsciously there was this anxiety about it being my first time and wanting to really impress this girl / make her feel good.

Nofap doesn't help. It might make you slightly harder, but don't bother. Nothing's worse than trying to have sex with a half-limp dick.

The ONLY THING that worked wonders for me is medication. Order some Cialis pills off the internet, take a pill one hour before she arrives. You won't have to worry about a fucking thing and you'll be rock-hard.

I'm 100% being sincere here. Cut the bullshit, don't try dumb shit. Buy some Cialis pills. The first couple of times you need that confidence of a rock-hard dick and afterwards you'll be good.

I don't know about this, man. Read something about pills making it harder for you to get naturally hard in the long run.
As much as I would like to take the easy route, I think it'll end up biting me in the ass later.

Also, I'm 22. Taking meds for getting hard is going to be my last resort.

Glad it helped you though!

Look, I told you what I wish I knew all these years ago.

I went through the same shit a number of times, thinking nofap would help me. I wasn't gonna do pills. Guess what? I kept having the problem with that same girl two more times.

I never got to fuck her the way I wanted to. Don't make that same mistake.

Taking a pill once isn't going to harm you. Your body isn't made of sugar.