>be me
>be 22
>ask friends if they want to go out
>all say they've got other plans
>be 4 hours later
>I check social media and see a pic of them all at a club together
>why did they lie to me?
im feeling fucking sad here Yea Forumsro's. I aint posted here in about 8 months. can we get a /feels/ thread going please?
I just got a bj from my girlfriend a few minutes ago. Feeling pretty good right now.
good for you friend. my gf broke up with me a few months ago
Clubs are depressing anyways. Literally just got off off the phone with the gf who is in Seattle on a "WAS supposed to be wedding" but is now a un bachelor party. At 26 we are preparing to have kids, saving, good job, full blown adulting and her friends might as well be 19 with fake ID'S getting drunk af. Clubs are just sex appeal and the disfunctional parts of drinking culture.
Find new friends closer to the thing you are persuing in like. If you can't do that you need to peruse something different that makes you interesting and get friends. Or just more responsible or older friends. I've always blown off friends for work and it's something I wish I hadn't done as much too.
>Clubs are depressing anyways.
that they are, but its what my friends like going to, and i just wanted to hang out with them.
>Find new friends closer to the thing you are persuing in like.
these friends are pretty close to me in my interests, they just like clubs, while I'd prefer a bar or something just to hang out with them
nice pic btw.
Maybe you're a cringe fest? Obviously uncomfortable? Needy? Can't handle your liquor?
>Maybe you're a cringe fest?
maybe
>Obviously uncomfortable?
im not sure
>Needy?
they usually ask me, or include me in the invitations
>Can't handle your liquor?
I've had countless nights where ive carried them home cause i can outdrink them all
I just dont know why they never even invited me tbh. its the fact that they all said they were busy and I saw the pic of them thats fucked me up the most.
Why not just go to a bar and make friends for the night by yourself? Knowing cheesy jokes and being witty always worked for me. In a college town with like 45k people with students. I dont even drink anymore though. Forces me to be more creative and use the time. Different spots in like kind of thing.
Here is a feels though. Mh best friend and I haven't really talked in 2 years. Friends of like 20 years too. He is a bit older. Once I started doing better in life and not depressed he didn't like hanging around as much. I know he constantly thinks of suicide softly and we both need a good friend but our childhood rivalry just wont allow him to be friends. We hang out like once a year for a hour or so but that's it. Feels like I lost my brother.
Are you a buzz kill in a rational way? I am that way and rarly get in the ignorant fun mood.
the only bar near me has a reputation for people going there to just drink and be alone. these are my friends from school and they've started to ignore me more and more often nowadays. I thought i was a bit of a geek in school, but theyve seemed to like me more and more since we've left, even asking me if its only one of them going out as well. I just feel that they've been ignoring me a bit recently and im not sure why.
Maybe you should distinguish yourself from them. Figure out which interests are unique to you, and lean into them. Figure out how people see you, and let yourself flourish unapologetically. Make your money, do your thing, keep your head up, and say fuck them if they don't respect you. Don't be needy, and never apologize unless you're being a cunt. You got this dude, alright?
If they aren't the people you could count on in an emergency are you really losing anything? Ego problems in the friend group including you?
thanks man. thanks a lot. ive always seemed to get more support from here than anywhere else. at the minute, im pretty drunk, but still thinking of trying to just find new friends in general to give me an alternative to them, but I'll probably see over the next few days if they actually say anything about them ignoring me. ive already asked them and waiting for messages back. I feel I may be in one of those stages where you end up rebuilding your life at the minute, and those are always the hardest.
thats the thing, I thought i could count on them. its only been the past few months where they've tried to start phasing me out. they've never shown any animosity towards me before then. some of them were even considered "cool" back in high school and still kept me around and talked to me like i was an actual person.
Maybe one started talking shit about you and the others just kind of jumped on board?
thats honestly one of my fears about this. not that they're just talking shit about me, but that they'll keep talking shit about me. the worst thing about having this fucking anxiety is how much it warps your sense of how people feel about you. I fucking hate it.
I think it's a good thing to try and picture how others see you every once in awhile. It's so easy being the center of our own universe we think there is no way we in bad remarks. Its healy and rational but not a way to live and isn't genuine. Try making better friends. Worst thing is you just find out they aren't worth your time. Have they started fucking up collectively with drugs and ach more and are just keeping you away from it? I've had that happen since I've only ever drank and 22 is when I started.
im gonna try a 2 week detox of social media to see if that makes a difference. Whenever they take drugs like lemo, I either take it with them, or buy it for them. they talk a lot about heroin and I honestly would try it the first if they got some. I dotn know if thats the problem. Ive said taht a few months back and they kept inviting me after that.