I “cheated” on my girlfriend last night. Should I tell her?

If you really loved her, you could go sexless. If she really loved you, she'd give you HJs and BJs and ZJs which wouldn't require the use of her pusstwat

You don’t argue or fight because your gf comes home emotionally and physically spent after gagging on a gangbang of cocks and having people spit in her mouth all day

Bro aside from the obvious lack of sex you’ve really got it good. Most people have sex and still don’t get along as well as you two do.

I quoted cheating because it was just sending photos and flirting, I know it’s still cheating but I haven’t physically fucked her.

She sent me pictures of her pussy

Reading comprehension is a skill, you dumb cunt.

Bury it, bro. I’ve done it too. But you really love your wife. Bury it and promise yourself you won’t do it again. Make yourself be honest with yourself, pretend it never happened. Just don’t admit to it. Ever. Keep it under wraps.

If you’re religious, ask your God or you’re ancestors to help you stay on a good path. You’re not a bad person, OP, you’re just a human. Just keep it to yourself, and it gets easier, trust me,

Oh, I mean that's not as bad as fucking her, but yeah cheating indeed. Have you been honest with your girlfriend about your libido?
This almost makes sense, maybe she just doesn't realize you need stimulation?

I suppose, we’ve had about 3 arguments in over two years an they’ve been drunken non-issues that we’ve laughed about the next day. That’s the thing, If the relationship wasn’t so good everywhere else I’d be out the door in a flash. She’s a kind girl and exactly who I’d want my daughter to be like, but sometimes it’s like I turn into this primitive animal when I’m horny and I think about how I can’t fuck her and it sends me off the rails, crazy. The girl from the office isn’t even anything special either, this trance just came over me and now it’s beating me up

Honestly if I were you, I'd break up with your current chick and get with the office chick. She clearly wants the D, and that seems to be the conflict. The answer seems pretty clear.

Consider getting over the guilty feeling and just continue doing stuff with the office slut.
If your gf has no way of finding out, then you get your sexual relief and she is none the wiser.

Alternatively, if sex is important to you in a relationship, then just end it. It doesn't sound like she'll want to have sex anymore, so whats your options? Stay with her forever and never have sex again? Or break up with her because she can't fulfill your needs?

She knows the sexless situation beats me up, and to be fair she helps out when she can. I probably get one BJ a week on like a Saturday morning which was good at first but now it just sort of feels like a service. I can tell she’s rushing me sometimes and it puts me off. we used to have sex about 2-3 times a week, there was just this sudden shift that’s baffled both of us ever since and I don’t know how short the tether will get before I either do something else I regret or end it all.

Think I’m just going to have to take this path, in a weird way I’m happy it was only internet sex that’s kicked me in the nuts, if I ended up fucking her in that crazed horny state I probably would’ve told her. If this is making me feel this bad god knows what anything else would make me like

I feel like this was my thought process for a while. This office chick has always gave off sexual vibes since I’ve known her, I’ve always dismissed it because I’m just not interested but obviously in recent months it’s been difficult.

It has ran through my head that I could get sexual relief from her while being in my happy relationship in every other avenue, but thinking when you’re horny is just a completely different ball game as we all know.

Bro, y’all to her about your needs. Bring the Snapchat incident up if you want to place all your cards on the table and tell her how you feel. That you don’t want to disrespect her or hurt her bit that you have needs and urges and you don’t know how to go about them properly.

If that ends up not having a good enough solution where she’s still in pain and you’re still unsatisfied sexually get a escort. They won’t say anything and you won’t have feelings it’s just a means to an end.

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Can’t tell if bait but nah the office chick is a boring dull cunt, she’s 24 and has a child and it’s all she ever talks about. She is just one of those lonely single mothers who need some attention, she’s nothing more than fuck and dash material and that’s at best.

You're living the dream, user. Teach us how!

Show the office chicks pussy, why haven't any of you faggots requested this yet??

I almost went into a Thai massage place near me a few weeks ago but I shit out last minute and drove home.

I don’t know what her reaction would be to the Snapchat incident I couldn’t even guess, I don’t think she’d break up with me but I couldn’t be too sure. One thing for definite though it wouldn’t help at all bringing the sex back into our lives

OP here, it was on Snapchat and obviously I wasn’t about to screenshot it.

It wasn’t anything special, kind of gross to be honest. A child has came out of it

What do you mean

Ouch...that does take a twist on things...I was imagining she was some sex hungry vixen waiting for your D... in this new light, I'd say hold out for your current GF, keep seeking answers for her pains. I'm sure she's not the only one with this problem, there's gotta be some discussion or at least someone else's experiences with overcoming it.
The chance of consistent pussy beats a pump and dump with a loose vagina that had a kid passed through it. You can always tell when a chick has had a kid...

oh shit user, i think i'm on the way to do this kind of stupid shit, too. same situation, 8/10 wife, sex basically once a month or less. talked to her about it a couple of times, she said she wants to do it more often, but is too tired in the evenings or too busy during the day. i think she just loses sex drive. fucking is mostly standard stuff, no anal or other kinky shit i used to do before i met her. i get really depressed and aggressive after a week without sex. jerking off is not the same. think i gonna pay a hooker in the near future when i'm on business travel.

Your relationship is dying. If you loved your gf nothing would make you cheat. This girl offered you no strings sex and you took it. You didn't exactly fight the urge, did you? The new girl isnt gonna be a long term thing but you're young so don't worry. As for the pussy thing, my ex had similar. In a sub conscious way she doesn't want your peen inside her. She will soon realise this and dump you. Stop over analysing.

Leave your girlfriend. If you think that pussy is off limits now, wait until you fuck up and marry her.

The occasional BJ beats having none at all, don't tell her about the Snapchat thing unless you'd prefer to get zero BJs a week

I know right, I jacked off over the picture she sent me and I remember looking at it after I’d cleaned up before I clicked it off and I noticed the stretch marks she still had from pregnancy. The pussy just looked like shredded ham and I remember lying there thinking what the fuck have I just done. I definitely would not do it again but I just don’t know how long it’s going to beat me up for, I’m hoping I can just forget and take it to my grave.

The issue she has is something called Vaginismus, you could look it up. Crazy condition women get which is literalynpain for no reason at all, the only effective method of treatment is therapy and vagina “trainers” both of which she probably wouldn’t try. We’re both secretly banking on wishing that her anemia was the cause but we don’t talk about it, we’re both so tired of talking about it t just makes it worse.

I imagine it to be like erectile dysfunction in men, if you have one bad experience it’s hard not move past it for some

Sorry user. I wish I had some better words of advice to give.

Sluts asking you for sex. No dating. No paying for dinner. No chasing. No games. No bullshit. I'd give my 3rd testicle for your "problem". user, You're a Yea Forums god.

Post pic.

Not all fun and games when you have a gorgeous girlfriend who you can’t appreciate, touch and explore the way you want to. There’s been times I wish I was a single virgin beta like some of you just to rid myself of the pure emotional exhaustion it brings

Yeah I’ve told her this. If your girlfriend doesn’t want sex the first instinct reaction is that she doesn’t love you anymore. I’ve gotten so anxious that I’m not sexy enough anymore, or I’ve let myself go, I’m not doing something right, she doesn’t love me, she’s cheating. We’ve gone around the roundabout so many times and she forcibly insists she still loves me, she says she cries about the sex thing every night and that she wishes she was just the way she was about a year ago. I do believe her when she tells me but the nagging thought at the back of my mind is exactly what you’ve just said, that she hasn’t truly come to terms that she just doesn’t want me.

That’s sort of why I entertained the office slut, I had this chain of thought that if she’s going to dump me at least I’ve got a plan B to go and get some easy sex for the distraction but I’ve realised it was a mistake

My ex was gorgeous. I was punching. But it's like having a Ferrari but being forced to catch a bus. She'd have this pain 95% of the time but it'd magically disappear when she wanted sex. Anyways I'm an oldfag and after 20 years she dumped me. Found out she fucked others and even had a lesbian affair with her best friend, no pussy pain then. I was blinded by her "beauty" and I wasn't prepared to "downgrade". Fucking huge mistake. Makes it even worse if you cheated with someone who you don't even like. Hard choices user.

I feel like I'm having the opposite of your problem, OP. My latest girlfriend dumped me because she said she didn't have the emotional capacity to love me as much as I loved her. She offered to be friends with benefits because we fucked like savages. It's been about 2 months and we fuck on Sundays due to conflicting work schedules, but I'm feeling pretty dead inside..

Is she telling you or herself? Lack of sex is not a strong enough reason for you to cheat on its own. There's other factors, maybe you don't realise yet. Are you in denial? You've invested an awful lot in your relationship and you don't want all that work to come to naught.

That’s insane. The Ferrari analogy is such a good way to put it.

My GF is a 10/10 to me, I watch her get dressed out the shower and I get a physical pain in my heart when I realise I can’t truly take advantage of what I’ve got. I tell her every day how beautiful she is, it’s even more frustrating because she’s a typical young insecure girl. She isn’t happy with herself which could be another cause for the lack of sex.

I’ve posted the sex issue on here before over the course of the year, people have always asked me if I’ve thought about whether she’s cheated or not but I just don’t think she has.

I’m pretty sure I’d know, the only way she could cheat is if it was some stranger in a nightclub, we have the same friends and I always know where she is and who she’s with. There’s no one she could cheat with.

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As far as I’ve interpreted it she’s telling me. It’s pretty obvious to me she does still love me but obviously you can’t articulate through an internet message the extent of your love for someone. We are literally like best friends I’ve never connected with someone of the opposite sex quite like her.

As far as the other factors, there really isn’t. It’s just a mixture of sexual frustration and emotional exhaustion. We are happy in any other scenario that isn’t us lying in bed of a morning and I’m horny. I never thought of myself as a cheater and I’m so surprised at myself. If somebody asked me a year ago if I’d ever cheat on her I’d say no before the sentence was even finished. I’ve never done it before or with any previous girlfriends. Obviously my behaviour demonstrates that lack of sex is certainly enough to cheat

This isn't cheating. Bang her, don't tell your gf, see if your gf changes in a few months before dumping her. But don't ever fucking tell her, there is nothing to be gained

Have a long hard think about whether you could live with it - or you’ll be in my shoes later on.

Give yourself a trial run is what I’d suggest. Try and make small talk with a girl if you go out while you’re working, maybe find a premium Snapchat and get escort services that way instead of fully going through with it.

It's been established that she's foul AF and is blown out from having a baby...

If you live in a legal weed state, get her some edibles. Having sex while stoned is amazing, she will be completely drenched and will be very relaxed. It's honestly how we conceived our child after a year of trying, she did an edible every night to relax and my cumshots were extra powerful from it

Joking aside, If you really love her you'd have the respect to tell her about it, tell her how you really feel and call it quits. You're probably not a bad guy, but you did a bad thing and should feel bad about it. At least for a little while.

I concur.

I'm getting a sense of possessiveness? Not in an explicit way. Underneath, you expect her to cheat? Knowing where your gf is all the time, isn't healthy. Lots of times it your friend how the gf ends up fucking. Think about it, your friends often have the same interests, outlook, views etc. It's very common. I'm not saying that is happening. But I think it's not got to her cheating yet. Her pussy pain is her sub conscious speaking. I think she is realising but again she's invested time etc. Also if she's insecure she may be worrying that she won't get another bf? Like some people get rashes when stressed or some people get what used to called "hysterical blindness", compensation syndrome. Her body is acting up due to psychological stress.

You want the whole, fall in love, have 2.4 kids, Volvo estate, Labrador, Semi Detached house etc? That's what I wanted and had. It's a very tempting ideal. It's better to put that on hold rather than lose it for real.

This was probably my plan last night when I was diamond at 4am pissed about my girlfriend for the 60,000th time this year. I thought I could’ve banged her and lived with it, were actually due to go on a work night out in about 3 weeks, we’ll both be there.

If I said thanks and went to sleep last night without hesitation I would’ve, but the fact I’ve showed my dick to another woman has seriously shaken me up. I don’t want to be a bitch about it but I do genuinely feel terrible. I definitely won’t talk to the office slut again, and I probably won’t go on the work night out just to cut off the possibility when alcohol is in my system.

I understand nothing is to be gained, only lost - just a consience thing isn’t it

Nah no possessiveness at all but I see where you’ve came from after reading my message back. We just have the same friends that’s all, I don’t physically track her whereabouts I just know who she’s with and they’re all good people. It’s not often there’s an occasion and I’m not out with her just because of the way our circle is, if she is out and I happen not to be there I’m never worried.

Your message has just made an example of the emotional wreck some women can be. I’d never even thought about if she’s insecure because she thinks she couldn’t get another BF, I don’t think that’s the case but the idea is there.

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We’ve actually tried CBD, it didn’t work.

She wouldn’t take edibles, she’s pretty anti drug and it took a lot of persuasion to start CBD supplements.

I’ve read somewhere that CBD Lube is amazing, that’s next on my list but I’m not going to tell her. The concept of trying something and expecting results isn’t working, it needs to be natural.

Have you tried any CBD products?

>resulted in me sending pictures of my dick and her sending some back.
oh yeah? How big is her dick?

Very funny. Already been done

Love is complex. Does she love you but not be "in love"? Being "in love" is what you want. It sounds gay but it makes sense. Are you in love with being in love? It's hypnotic and addictive. The buzz is from the feeling and not the person. The physical aspect just makes it worse. My ex was like Kylie Minogue. Small, lithe and an arse to kill for. I used to just look at her and get steel butterflies of lust. Is your relationship stale. I don't know how old you are but I'm getting early twenties but then you say something that makes you sound 90. That's no criticism. I imagine you sat watching TV with her, slippers on and cup of cocoa. Is that what you want?

If the relationship was viable, sex is not a reason to cheat. Nothing could make you cheat. The root cause is the relationship is over and you've both acted in a physical way to say the same. When you mentally catch up, you'll agree.

It's all placebo.
Most cbd products today have hardly any cbd in them, because it's an unregulated market

Someone else beat you to it.

I’m 23

It’s an interesting thought and it’s came across me before. I’ve asked her in simpler terms if she genuinely does love me, or is she just attached by schedule and habit. I don’t know if she just enjoys my company but the actual love of the individual is gone. I really don’t know what she’s thinking or what her subconscious tells her, all I know is that she insists she loves me and wants to marry me. All of the affection is still there, were constantly kissing and cuddling and being cutsey, were like children sometimes. It just doesn’t progress beyond the waistline anymore.

That is what I want, but I still want more. I want our life to be exciting, we’ve just got home from a trip to Morocco which I booked and paid for to try and spice things up, I like going out drinking and having fun, but I also love staying in watching a show with a pizza. The main thing for me is that I love being with her, no matter what we’re doing. I don’t need materialistic things to enjoy my life with her, maybe she does.

Lol at asking this degenerate shit hole full of morons for actual life advice. Do whatever you want, bitch.

People find sexual partners anywhere. My ex worked with a fella and ended up fucking. I sort of knew but I didnt want to be "that guy". I had that feeling. She'd go out dancing, I'd stay home cos I ain't gay and she'd rock up at 4am, saying she'd gone to her friends. I knew all her friends and these ones weren't known. I had a job cabbing and I used to pick her up from her parents on a Saturday. Her dad is prick and wouldnt do shit for her but suddenly she said her dad was going to give her a lift home. I knew it was bullshit. But I was a twat. Anyways, we started trying for a baby but she didn't get caught for 6+ months. Since then we had 2 more kids and she was caught in a month. I know now she was still on the pill. We had a row once and she said "how do you know xxxx is yours!" Thankfully he is the image of me. I ignored her cos I knew, i knew! But on morning of her caeserian she was hyper tense. I put that down to the operation but it was because she had unprotected sex. I'm tall, fair and the guy was short and dark haired. My ex was strawberry blonde. It would have been obvious. Shit happens.

Anyways. You sound like a decent bloke. I wish you all the best user.

Some of us want to help other anons. Just because I also want to see women getting shat on, doesn't make me less human.

I don’t fully understand your story. Did you find out before she had the first child? Why would she say something like that to question the biological parent? Sounds like scum of the earth whoever she is.

I understand the possibility and maybe she has cheated, but to my knowledge she’s never gone to a friends house after a night out, she always comes home. She’s always sending me fun Snapchat’s if I’m ever not there and keeps me in the loop when she’s out. I feel like “I know” she’s a good girl, the same way you knew she was full of shit. But naivity can get the best of people and maybe I’m one of them.

If I had to make a list of causes she doesn’t want sex anymore, her cheating would be at the bottom, and now it’s resulted in me cheating. I don’t really know what I’m going to do but I guess advice from strangers comforts me enough to think on it

oh no, what ever shall I do?

edit: thanks for the gold

edit 2: man this really blew up, I guess I should plug my snapchat

>thinking sending pics is cheating

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I say tell her man, gets it off your chest. Talk about why and ask her if shes been to the doctor for her pains yet

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I know man, it’s jusy the worry she’ll split up with me and I’ll regret it

Part of me wants to end the relationship because I know that I can’t theoretically go the rest of my life without regular sex, but the other part tells me to appreciate what I’ve already got

I found out after we divorced. I always knew but now I know for sure. We divorced. Both had new partners. Both of us split up around the same time. I develop cancer. She offers to house me so kids could see me and they'd be someone there to nurse me (chemo vomiting etc). Anyways, I was in the kitchen and out of the blue she said "so, did you ever cheat (during our marriage)". Me "No"
Her "Oh" in a oh shit way.
I walk out of kitchen and just carries on if the conversation never happened. What good would it have done? I had a stage 4 cancer and I wanted to spend as much time with my kids as I could. If I'd said I know you slut, I'd have walked out and then what? She was a bitch. But love is stupid. I was even more stupid. In hindsight it's all so clear. I can see some similarities with you. Not identical.

The time I found out about her muffing her friend, I had suspicions, i asked her and she just told me in Tesco car park. It was like she was saying, do you want chips for tea, without a care. I was a real twat.

I don't want anyone to go through any shit. Life is hard.

If she splits well its meant to be that way man. Cant blame ourselves for falling to impulse, we are only human. If she does just go to the gym, get them gains, and go do something with life. If she doesnt split (which is statistically more likely) then work things out and see if you two can patch things up

you don't really love her as much as you claim

i would make a plan to
if i will be revealed
otherwise no,it will cause much more harm to everyone

Ahhhhh she had a dick, faggot.

I lol'd. I wondered about the girl's dick pics too, hehe.

Jesus christ, this man is ruthless

If there's no sex in a relationship, you're basically good friends, not lovers.

At the same time, every relationship will have dry spells and you've just proven to yourself you can't be faithful to this person during a dry spell.

You should break it off.

She sent You back some dicks??? O_o

>Never had a gf nor has the scope to even imagine how he'd feel if he did and she was sending guys pics of her tits and twat

End it with gimpy and start dating slutty McOfficeslut

I feel for you OP, my girlfriend has vaginismus, but she doesn't want to do the treatment. I'm in a weird situation with my relationship since we are both in law school together and live together. I've kind of just tried to lose myself in my work, but holy shit does it suck.

Bang her in the asshole?
Į can guarantee you will be fucking her pussy in no time