So I'm beginning to realize, at the age of 35, that I probably have some sort of psychological disorder.
I don't make strong interpersonal relationships with people. No real friendships, no real romantic relationships. I think it's because I simply can't relate to others. I don't dislike people, per se, and I seem to have adequate amounts of empathy for them, but I just can't make any meaningful connections with them. I do, however, suffer from social anxiety, but this seems to be wholly separate from that.
I've done some research on different disorders, but nothing seems to fit. What's wrong with me?
>What's wrong with me? Did you spend your life on the internet and playing video games?
Aaron Morgan
Congrats. You sound like every 3rd male in the crowd. Grow some nuts, grab a few beers, watch a season of ANY sport and make some fucking bar friends.
Andrew Torres
I do some of those things, but it doesn't take up a significant amount of my time. I work too much for that. I have plenty of interaction with others. It's just that I don't care about them beyond some base-level empathy which I assume most everyone has. For instance, if I never saw any of my "friends" ever again, it wouldn't bother me.
Isaiah Johnson
You don't understand. I do those things. I interact with people. See
Easton Bennett
Then there isn't a problem. Quit trying to find one. You're thinking to hard. Find a hobby.
Evan Cooper
Why do you say you can't relate to others?
Brandon Taylor
There may not be a "problem" I suppose, but there IS something different about me compared to most people. I imagine that most people make strong interpersonal relationships, keep and maintain them. I don't. It's like there's something missing in me, something that makes others human.
I've always felt like I was "on the outside, looking in". Peoples' behavior, their emotions, their aspirations, etc. seem alien to me. That may sound broad and nebulous, but it's the best I can do.
Kayden Kelly
>Asociality refers to the lack of motivation to engage in social interaction, or a preference for solitary activities Do you relate to this? If you do, you're an asocial person. Not to be confused with anti social. Being asocial might be a symptom of some personality disorders but if you don't think you have any personality disorders or can't relate to any, then your personality is simply that of an asocial person. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with you but you could always get make an appointment to speak with someone if you can afford it and are truly worried.
Owen Thompson
>I imagine You'd be wrong. Most people couldn't give two rat turds about their friends once they are out of sight.
Justin Howard
Thanks for the response. That sounds like a pretty decent description, but what I experience seems deeper than just lack of social interest. This is almost to the point of not seeing people as actual people. Not quite there, but close. Like I said, I have some semblance of empathy for others, but it tends to manifest more in the concerns I have for the human race, or groups of people, rather than individuals.
Mason Flores
Aquarius
Xavier Adams
you have Aspergers Syndrome, aka High Functioning Autism
Hm, that's deeper than what I'm qualified to speculate about. I'm somewhat asocial myself but it's mostly because I got used to being alone during adolescence and started enjoying solitude so much that social interactions are mostly a pain in the ass. I'm perfectly capable of interacting with others like every other normie can, but I'd rather be alone. It sounds like your case is a deeper from of asociality, but there's definitely something else too. Definitely spend a few bucks shopping around for a decent psychology and talk to them. Getting a good diagnosis would be quite helpful, even if you need to resort to an actual psychiatrist for it should it be deemed necessary. If it's bothering you or you're so curious that it bothers you of course.
Julian Rogers
What about this bothers you specifically?
Dylan Wilson
Everyone thinks they are the exception... the anomaly... the special one. But in reality you are just another boring cunt with an internet connection and a little too much free time.
Source:
>it’s the truth >your normal as shit
Adrian Price
Also this.
Benjamin Hill
You’re a whore
Christian Davis
I've been thinking about seeing a psychiatrist about it, but I'm not sure I could afford it with my insurance. Anyway, thanks for your thoughtful responses.
It bothers me because I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of what makes people human. I'm missing out on intimacy. Feeling connected to a person who you love. Etc. The main joys in life seem to always just over the horizon.
I was wondering about that. It's the closest thing I could find to what my experience is like.
David Smith
Might be alot of things, depression, generalised anxiety, some kind of high functioning autism perhaps..? Im any case I think you shoud go talk to a professional, your GP if you trusit him/her or even better a psychiatrist if you can.
Chase Phillips
Do you use drugs or alcohol in excess?
Jacob Richardson
I agree. Thanks!
No. Other than drinking alcohol about two or three times I year I don't do any substances. No smoking, no drugs.
Logan Price
An annoying, but oh so useful advice (I know because I have been there) EXCERCISE. Just google the benefits. I know it sound annoying, and dont trust me, just read about it yourself, it does all kind of good.
Eli Sanchez
Exercise is actually my main hobby. I workout at least 3 times a week.
Nathan Thomas
My friend would tell you to try psychedelia. I wont, because I cant handle them. But they tell me that lucy and shroms did all kinds of wonder to their self consciounce and bladibladibla. Just dont be stupid and know what you are going into first, and im all for it.
Ah, well, it is a good thing, but no easy fix then i guess. I am an optimist, and inherently dont think there is anything wrong with you (and i know im naive, but bear with me) baybe take a break from whatever youre doing and try somenting completely different for a while? It worked for me
Caleb Smith
You need psilocybin in your life. It should help break out of the aversion your mind has relating to and having empathy for others, assuming you do it in a comfortable controlled environment with someone you trust and can connect with.