How do you stop being cynical and thinking everyone is dumber and less complex than you?

by realizing half the people who surround you are thinking the same damned thing

I had some friends but all they do is smoke weed and my good friend died so now I'mm alone
It's not my fault I think too much. It's harder for me to not think too much than most people. Anxiety sucks
Most people really are stupid though, but atleast they don't have crippling anxiety

stop thinking you have to enjoy life thats what show me weed

>half the people
Most people are nice and don't overthink things. I'm an asshole and think everyone is out to get me and constantly think about random things

you are going to want to dumb yourself down a bit. you are to become a drugfag. smoke weed 3 times a day. eat only fast food. take 2mg alprazolam after every meal. guaranteed results ive seen actual smart people become retarded this way. good luck

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anxiety? even better, come to the drugfag side user

>crippling anxiety
It's not crippling because I still try and get up every day and work and don't get neetbux or state care and coupons despite having no hope or confidence.
Be happy though you don't have "crippling anxiety".
It's not the worst thing that can happen to you by any means but it's better to think that you are better than everybody even if you are shit than thinking you are worse than everybody and shit despite being good and some people even seeing the goodness in you
>talked to a girl in office the other week
>probably she already forgot me
>how will I ever talk to her

mennn i know what u mean i feel the same idk what to do in my life im the worst in everything and it sucks

I know you probably don't want to hear this but I think you're a bit of a narcissist. I think what you need to do is humble yourself and pursue some form of struggle whether mental or physical. For example, I love Brazillian Jiu Jitsu. I'm not bad at the sport but not the best; I still get tapped out on a daily basis. And through losing, It humbles me by showing me my limitations as a human. It helps reveal my flaws while simultaneously seeing others. However, instead of looking down on others, Jiu-Jitsu is a gateway for me to connect with those flaws.

Anyway, that's all. good luck Yea Forumsro. Try not being a miserable piece of shit. You'll end up killing yourself. Seriously - a dangerous path you're walking down.

Also, read the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck." A book I highly recommend to people like yourself!

I've smoked weed for 5 years and it just makes it worse. Xanax would help but it only works if you have a low tolerance
No I just want to be a boring normalfag with a job
It's not crippling only because I don't have panic attacks but it's still a real problem that I deal with daily. Even after months it doesn't get better. Thinking about going to work slowly breaks me down until I feel like quitting and usually do
Shitttt

double up with a strong research chemical benzo until you are retarded, or stay drunk and take a lower dose of any benzo

I'm not a narcissist because I fucking hate myself. I have no self-esteem. I just think way too much and most people seem to be more relaxed and normal which I consider to be boring. I'm not a narcissist, just an asshole

>I fucking hate myself
>Not narcissistic
That's the definition of narcissist.
Do you even know what narcissism is?

do you feel like you whant to meet someona but when you meet peple you thing that they are like everyoady woring about their cloathes or school and that really dosent mean a shit bruh ?

Yeah, narcissists love themselves and think they are perfect. They have extremely high self-esteem despite usually not having done anything to achieve it. I know what I am, and it's not a narcissist. I'm just a neurotic little asshole that wants to fit in
Yeah, kinda, I feel like most people are boring and want to go do things while I just want to stay in and watch movies

i feel like im wasting my time but no matter what i do its boring and i lose interest in it what can i do , i can not even watch a mowie couse i feel like shit doing it ????? bruuuuuuuh

>not knowing what a narcissus is
Being afraid of what others think about you, constantly aware, thinking they give a shit about you is peak narcissism

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soo basicly you thing that i care what others think about me ?

Just realize that you are much of an idiot like everyone else.

Go do stupid shit and open yourself a little. That's what life is for.

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>I know what I am, and it's not a narcissist.
Okay...
>I'm just a neurotic little asshole that wants to fit in
Yup, you are a narcissist.

Listen, I really want to help you, admit to yourself that you are a narcissist and you care so much about your image and how other see you that you ruin your life.

>Go do stupid shit and open yourself a little. That's what life is for.
It's this simple

Good book

>satanic trips

I stop acting like I'm a fucking God among men, and I remind myself that I have flaws just like everyone else, the biggest of which is
>arrogance

You don't know more than everyone else. You only think you do. The surest sign of immaturity.

You just said, "How do you stop being cynical and thinking everyone is dumber and less complex than you?" You're an entitled narcissist because you think you are somehow more complex than everyone. There is nothing complex about you. news alert: you are not special - and you think everything is borning because again, You haven't found a struggle worth struggling for.

to me, you're lame as fuck. But you don't have to be lame. Go do something with your life that your passionate about. If you say you can't find something then you are dumb and really not as "complex" as you think you are.

I'm not trying to hurt you, just trying to feed you reality. Stop being entitled.

he's in denial. He needs to face the truth if he wants to get better.

this generation uses this word too freely to describe a concept they have no experience with themselves, aside from watching a malignant one run the country.

narcissists hate themselves, but they don't have the self awareness it takes to consider themselves part of the fucking problem.

The fact that he can examine his own behaviors is evident enough that he is NOT narcissistic. Just 12.

I'm kinda the same. It helps to exercise and get so tired that you just feel like relaxing and watching a movie or something
That might be a symptom, but it's not narcissism. I think you're trolling
I'll try
Just because I'm self conscious does not mean I'm a fucking narcissist
I just worded it badly. I just think I'm not as well-adjusted as everyone else, so I use words like normal and boring. I know I'm just anxious, not smarter. I haven't accomplished or learned shit since high school
I just worded it badly. No going back now. RIP thread. I always make stupid little mistakes like this. Whatever
I know the truth, just didn't express it well. Thanks for trying. You can all leave now because I'll never get credibility back now

This guy gets it...

dude ... no. Think of Narcissism as a spectrum. Like being a fag. You have narcissistic tendencies. You can hate yourself but simultaneously find people dumber or less complex than yourself.

You're a Narcissist. That's OK! today is the day you get over that hill!

>I haven't accomplished or learned shit since high school
How long ago was that? Because it sounds like you haven't given yourself enough time to.

No. By definition a narcissist is in love with themselves. Just because someone has narcissistic tendencies doesn't make them a narcissist. There's no spectrum. Like said, I'm just immature and angry at people that are more well-adjusted than I am

Nice trips
Like 5 years ago. I'm too anxious to to accomplish anything even if I tried. I just want to be able to hold a job like a "normal" person

im really thankfull for your help you did really help me bros

This generation? The fuck you talking about? this is Yea Forums you fucking candy ass. There is no "generation" here. just a bunch of anonymous fags saying what the fuck they see.

this kid is an entitled, narcissistic asshole. No, he's not on the level Donald Trump, but he still has those tendencies. I'm telling him what he needs to do. He can listen to me or get circled jerked by people like you.

What he needs to do is find a struggle worth struggling for instead of sitting around thinking people are dumb and he's just way more complex. THAT'S IT

Also not accurate. At their core, they despise themselves. But they're trying desperately to fit in, which means appearing "normal" and unremarkable. But they take this to an unhealthy extreme, projecting an image of power (over circumstances they had no control over in childhood) and perfection (so others won't hate them as much as they hate themselves). Its why criticism is met with such an extreme reaction. The mere implication that they're NOT normal "just like you are", that something IS "wrong with them", makes their defenses fly back up. So they see it as a personal attack rather than a simple observation. All criticism is an attack, so they start attacking you in response. Not excusing their behaviors like "I'm just an asshole", like "you're the biggest piece of shit on this planet and let me list all the reasons why you're disgusting human garbage that no one will ever love" etc.

What they're doing is projecting their internal dialogue onto you.

how old are you?

You just said that you think people are dumber and less complex than you ...... THE FUCK YOU SPINNING THE NARRATIVE FOR?

Is the pill im trying now user, a nice bluepill
After all the taste of the stake is nice

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wut?

>you just said people are dumber and less complex than you
>so allow me to condescend to you like you're 5 about the common misconceptions of NPD presented as absolute fact

yeah ok.

>stop watching anime
faggot

sheesh man. Your narcissism is really coming through.

Not him. You're just a pedantic moron, calling other people names. Real fucking productive.

>but he still has those tendencies
There's no spectrum you retard. Just because a guy talks with a lisp and dresses nice like gay people tend to do, doesn't make him gay
>All criticism is an attack
I don't see any of this as an attack, just wrong information. And I'm not attacking you
I think you're trolling
By that I mean they are "normal" or more well-adjusted than me. I was angry and talking shit when I said that. But whatever believe me or not, thanks for trying to help
Some anime is cool though. I don't watch subbed shit, but I like a few like Cowboy Bebop and Outlaw Star

You can't hold a job now? Is it because of this anxiety you mentioned? Feels like you should look into treatment to be honest.

:-/ stop thinking so highly of yourself. You aren’t any better than the next person. Maybe get out and interact with people and you’d see that.

>I don't see any of this as an attack, just wrong information. And I'm not attacking you
>I think you're trolling
Exactly, which is why you ARENT a narcissist. You haven't devolved into personal attacks against anyone else as a defense mechanism against a threat only you can see.

What have you accomplished with your life?

This is Yea Forums You fucking idiot. What kind of people do you think are on here? Actual intellectuals like yourself?

I haven't tried. The longest I've held a job is 3 months. I've been in treatment and it doesn't help. I fall into the category where I'm just well enough to not need treatment, but not well enough to deal with having a job like a "normal" person. The only thing I can do at this point is just deal with it and go to work every day with more anxiety than the average person and try not to get overwhelmed
I know man
Yeah, i don't know what those guys are on about
Basically nothing, I had a few jobs and managed to save up and buy a car, but then I quit working and sold the car. Now all I have are my savings which are dwindling and no friends

You might be more intelligent and "complex" than others, but that doesn't mean you're useful. The farmer with an IQ of 80 might not be able to comprehend chemistry, but he's out there busting his ass to put food on your table, and without him there would be nothing to eat.
Everyone has a place, and what truly matters is that they are happy in that place and being productive at the same time.

Learn to be smarter, mostly dumb people think that way.

Every single post you did itt shows with ever increasing certainly you are a narcissist.
Everyone itt is telling you are one.
You deny it.
I think your problem is obvious.
You are a narcissist.
You are welcome for saving you thousands of dollars in worthless psycholist sessions and psychiatric crazy pills.

I have been smoking weed daily for several years now and the only cognitive difference I've noticed is that my short-term memory and focus got somewhat worse. And even that goes away if I stop for a few weeks.
Benzos might do the trick though

the fuck? dude, there are fags in this world that love cock and pussy. That's a spectrum. There are people that think they are better but still subconsciously see their flaws which send them into a horrible depression. It's called a narcissistic tendencies you fucking idiot.

Mad much? You haven't been here long enough if you actually think this place hasnt been taken over by millennial redditors such as yourself. You bitch about narcissism at the drop of a hat, and slander Trump so readily.

Like you're NOT the garbage that ruined this place. Pic related, its the only reason you even know what this place is.

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You're right. I really don't care if I'm smart or not, I just want to be happy and find my place. I have no idea how to do that so I just lash out at people that have done it by calling them stupid
Kek
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Truth

>I've been in treatment and it doesn't help
Did they happen to give you a diagnosis or is it just garden variety depression? There are tiers of therapists, is what I mean to say. You start with counselors (for everyday problems and depression), then go to psychologists (for personality disorders and slightly more severe things), then psychiatrists for things requiring medication, then psycho-therapists for behavioral restructuring and severe mental illness. Going to the right kind means getting the right kind of help as opposed to "welp idfk what your problem is, suck it up and get back out there" type shit.

Doesn't sound very great.

I've seen people with pretty low IQ's accomplish great things in life. Find something to excel at and then worry about being cynical.

Do you know what a candy ass is? Let's see who has been here longer you fucking faggot

LMAO... Yea. Vote for a Meme. Vote for NEET-Bucks.

You probably fond this place like 2 months ago.

Was that your trap card?
Is that the oldest meme you can personally think of? Or was it just the meme that was circulating at the time you arrived here?

Next he'll be asking me if I remember giga pudding while posting >LMAO
repeatedly and unironically.

I've been to psychologists and one psychiatrist for anxiety. I wasn't severe enough to be diagnosed so they just put me down as having generalized anxiety disorder. They just put me on antidepressants and tried CBT. The medicine made no difference and the CBT helps but I think it would take years before it gets better. And the best CBT for me is to just get a job and interact with people daily, I think.
You can excel at anything if you work hard enough, regardless of IQ. I just lose motivation because of anxiety. At this point I'm happy working any job and being able to be good at it

Here's a similar problem.

I own my own business, but it's not doing great and I'm getting burned out. I've never been able to work garbage jobs for more than a couple weeks. I'd rather be destitute than work a slave's job. Here's the thing though. If I need to find a new source of income I'm basically fucked. I have a really hard time lowering my self to start an entry level job that isn't going to help lead its way onto something I want to do with my life.

About the only thing I believe I'd be willing to do as a slave's job is being a janitor. Basically I cannot stand working a shitty job directly under someone or with the General Public.

WTF do I do with that?

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You have no idea what you're talking about. I'm talking about the filters Yea Forums used for certain words back in 2011? do you have any idea what I'm talking about, you faggot?

....that clip was from 2007.
this is your final (You). do you understand what that phrase means?

This place is ruined because of fuck tards like yourself.

This place use to be glorious. Now we have this faggot OP here who wants us to feel bad for him because everything is just so boring.

How about this? How about you and OP go anhero and get the fuck off this Yea Forums

You probably are smarter than the average bear, but the problem you're describing isn't what you actually think it is. You're not too smart. It's just a general inability to relate. All things considered, the difference between the smartest person you know and the dumbest person you know isn't nearly as big in practice as you'd imagine, it just feels that way when they're unable to connect with each other. This is evident by the fact that you are unable to find other "smart" people, when you know deep down that there has to be plenty of people smarter and more complex than yourself out there. Sit on that for a while. Why are you unable to relate to the people around you? What kind of things make you feel alone?

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Be a janitor and smoke weed. That's my plan

>And the best CBT for me is to just get a job and interact with people daily, I think.
You're probably right. The fact that you can hold down a job is promising though. The thing people forget about therapy is it requires active change on your part in order to manifest reliable "results". It's not just "take this magic pill and everything is fine!" You have to change your routines, your normal way of doing things, because they're what got you in this mess in the first place. The best place to start is probably increased social interaction but also restructuring how you participate in it. This thread is a pretty good example of a place to start. Introspection leads to longer lasting results than slapping a label on it and calling it a day, know what I mean?

I can't smoke weed. It makes me ache and feel like shit so it's really not a good idea. Could fuck up my muscles. Yea, that's a thing. However I acknowledge how rare that is.

Dude, you didn't even address if you knew about the filters. You're just responding to shit with shit

There is a difference between a dream job, and a job that pays the rent. You can work as a pizza delivery driver, and in your spare time work towards your dreams, without relying on your dreams to pay the rent. It kind of sets you up for failure once you realize you have no clue what you want day to day, but you've sacrificed everything that kept that day to day going just to examine this intangible question of yours. First step is probably asking yourself what you want to DO in your spare time? Paint? You probably enjoy art. Could be a painter etc. Shit like that.

clearly, you dont.

Yea Forums is a fake reality where everyone thinks they're superior to the rest of the world and each other. It's a fantasy for weak minded individuals who can't compete in the real world, so they come here to convince each other that it's not worthwhile to try and be a better person.

Just give yourself a week or two off Yea Forums (and other toxic online environments including social media) and you'll see.

I kinda do in my spare time what my business is, but the market for it just falling out the bottom for it and it's killing me.

by recognizing they aren't. You just have an inflated ego. Because unless you Elin Musk level then you're just a slightly more aware ape. Its your jobs to elevate others in your tribe.

Stop internalizing your cinicism as some kind of wisdom.

Everyone has their own problems, lives, and perspectives that are completely different from you. Everyone has their own understanding of suffering.

Any superiority you feel is vanity.

Yea Forums is better than the mainstream social media
Have you seen Facebook and Twitter and Instagram today?
People are nuts.
Yea Forums is nice.

Times change. It sucks. I used to want to open up a book store, and I still do. But actual books are a thing of the past. I didn't foresee the invention of the Kindle but it definitely changed my plans long term. Can't predict stuff like that, and it's not on you for not seeing this. What you do in this business is..what you WANT to do in your spare time or it just is because you have to keep the business afloat?

>when you know deep down that there has to be plenty of people smarter and more complex than yourself out there
Yeah, I know
It's just anxiety. Most people can start a conversation and make friends easily. I've never started a conversation with anyone. All my friends I've ever had talked to me first
Also, most things people talk and laugh about just bother me. I don't understand why people laugh at things sometimes and it bothers me. And I don't know how to hold a conversation well
When I had a job for 3 months every day before work I would stress about going in and being around people, but after the first hour it would get better, and then the next day the stress would be back. I felt like it would never go away so I quit. I just hope it goes away after a few years
Drinking works too
I don't think that's true
I only have an inflated ego when I'm mad. At the end of the day, I'm just an asshole that can't fit in
I know

I'm really fucking depressed and the poor people in my area have been taking advantage of me. To the point I've almost not been able to pay rent for my shop a few times this summer.

I'm back in the black, kinda, but I'm just having a really hard time staying motivated. I keep making a few steps forward and then someone comes in a just fucks it up.

>I just hope it goes away after a few years
It might. Co-workers are people, with their own lives and shit. People that you have to form relationships with in order to succeed. Thats a pretty scary thing, but remember when you were a kid, and making friends was as simple as walking up to someone and asking if they want to play? Maybe that same process could be used at your job rather than the dread of having to interact. Just looking at it like an opportunity to either make new friends, or make new acquaintances to exploit later on. A tool, if you will.

>and the poor people in my area have been taking advantage of me.
Ahh shit, I feel you on this one. It sucks being the asshole that turns people away but at the same time, where you're at now is the only alternative. They'll just keep coming back, asking for the same things expecting you to react the same way every time. It sucks. But it really does sound like you're ready to step away from this routine and make a new one.

Well to be honest, what I do in my spare time is even older and more irrelevant to the market. I don't mine working on newer stuff, but with everything being disposable and the older bigger corporations are turning it into what the Auto industry has become. In ten years my business will be %100 obsolete and the only thing I'll be able to do is deal in antiques in an area that has little interest in that market.

I'm not ready to walk away yet. I'm just struggling to get my head above the water and keep it there. The worst thing about me is my god damn avoidance issues. Saint Johns Wart is helping though. I'd have lost it already this summer with out it.

I've never started a friendship, all my friends have talked to me first. I just keep to myself until someone talks to me. I'll try to work on that

I don't know man, you'd be surprised how many facebook pages exist of people revamping antiques and making them into viable furniture alternatives. Craigslist has em all over the place. There's a niche for all kinds of shit. I'm even seeing snails, infected with that worm parasite, being sealed in resin and sold on Etsy. There's a market for all kinds of weird shit. I just think it might do you more good to try, and MAYBE fail, than to keep on this way and always wonder what could be.

I just figured it might help, yknow? Sometimes looking at it in a new way is enough to start the process of handling it in a new way as well. But it all happens in your own time. Dont push yourself out of your comfort zone to get reaffirmation of why it existed in the first place. Its more about learning new skillsets.

I think I understand what you're saying. And there are a few small batch manufacturing projects I've been neglecting. Maybe I will try that. Thanks user.

You're right. Thanks for the advice man

Just remember guys...

You're only human, and you can only do so much what what you're given. Take it easy on yourselves. We're all here to grow, and we're all struggling with it in our own ways.

easy easy

>I've never started a conversation with anyone. All my friends I've ever had talked to me first
I can fuckin relate to that.
Protip: Alot of people read into silence politeness and wisdom. When you're quiet, they just think you are being polite, a good listener, or thinking deeply about what you hear. I hope this helps with your anxiety. It sure helped with mine.

If anything, I spend more time silent these days than I ever have, whilst communicating more effectively than I ever have, and feeling less self conscious about my proclivity for silence than I ever have. The meme that the majority of communication is non verbal is true.

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That makes sense and it does help. Thanks for the tip

I started fuckin with xanz heavier, I’m a junior in college, can confirm

i've seen people do much more than i have with much less than me so i don't really buy into this hippy bullshit