What do I do, guys?
Tried everything to forget about her, from whisky to whores. It ain't working. Everything reminds me of her, and if that wasn't enough, I dream of her every night.
Please give me some good advice. I can't focus on my job, my time off, anything. I'm considering offing myself just to end this shit.
Try some heroin and if that doesnt work just murder her and post proof. Or stop being a fag
You could try growing a pair. That usually helps.
Hit the gym
She's too far for me to murder now. And I couldn't do it anyway. Nor do I want to. And I'm too poor for heroin.
Very poetic and original, thank you.
Tried that. Only thing I managed to do is lose 6 pounds and strain a tendon.
Seriously working out made my Life so much better.
Obviously. Not much I can do about it now: can hardly lift a damn glass of water with strained tendon. Guess it's just insult to injury.
At least I don't have to lift anything heavier than a paper stack on my job.
Keegan?
The hell's that?
bump.
Watch kpop and jpop
As someone whom was in a 5 year relationship then she cheated. I could say. The best thing I did was really think about myself . What makes me happy, what was the last time I did something for myself. I started working out didnt care if I didn't like it just did it for me. Pick Up some hobbies that I like to do on my free time. Started to go out alot. Reconnect with friends and family. Keep myself busy even if I had down time. After a year and a half. I still sometime think of her but, It doesn't hurt anymore or do I really care as I have some many new ppl and things in my life. The only person that can make you happy is yourself bud. It's a hard road believe me, but you will be happy in the end.
You are worth more then you think.
you tried to move to start a new story?
What you say is nice, user. But the thing is: what made me happy was her. Every text, no matter how small or insignificant. Every time I heard her voice. Her presence made me love the world, for all of its flaws.
Now that we are no longer, everything is bleak to me. All my hobbies are suddenly no longer interesting. My family doesn't understand. Friends were major help, but not enough. I'm having trouble keeping busy as my mind constantly runs to her.
I still love her, no matter what. I'd marry her if I could. Wouldn't mind banging only her for 2-3 times each month and never seeing another pussy in my life.
I may be worth something, but at the moment, I feel completely worthless: I couldn't keep one girl.
It’s ok. We all were scared when we first moved or if our moms house. She probably misses you too. Give her a call.
Have sex. Hookers don't count.
I almost laughed. Would if your attempts at humour weren't so sad.
honestly? good trip on shrooms always gave me a good reset, even if it turned bad I feel like I learned something
You stop making threads about her genius.
I don't feel like going through the effort of wooing girls just for one night stand.
And it doesn't feel as good as it used to. She flashes in my mind and I feel guilty, and just like that, my libido hits negative digits.
take a vacation if you can afford it cheap country like cuba or something. or southeast asia
I'm a Balkanite. Good vacation spots aren't too far away.
Had a vacation recently, didn't help much. Kinda worked while I was there, all came back when I went back to work.
don't want to sound like moralfag but have you tried therapy? Most therapists i have had are all shitty judgmental cunts but there are some that have worked for me.
you're in the wrong mindset. she's a bitch that cheated on you and she doesn't deserve shit from you. think of her as insignificant, just some girl that taught you how to love but left you for the better women out there. she cheated on you faggot, you're not a cuck are you? get mad at her
Tried that too. One of the first things I did. Waste of time.
I'm sorry but what? She didn't cheat on me.
How long's it been since you broke up?
Seven months today. Part the reason I decided to write it down.
Not a very long time, but a lot of shit happened from then to now, and not having her as my beam of light made it all sevenfold worse.
When did you last have contact with her?
Twenty days ago. It was just her brief response to my numerous " how are you" type messages.
If that counts.
Bump
You sound exaclty like me user. Down to the timeframe. Idk what to do. I want to reach out but it will probably destroy me even more.
Working out is a good idea and I think that we both probably have shitty lives so we depend on someone else for our happiness and we have to work on ourselves first to be happy and healthy. We can do it.
How did it end OP if she didnt cheat on u?
Genuine advice: She's gonna die anyway so why bother.
Double advice combo: It's your life you're living, not hers
STOP talking to her. that is step one. remove her and everything that reinds you of her away. block. delete. burn. here for you user. fuck her
Meditate
Time.
So that's your problem. Cut her off and move on. You need to get a good few months or even a year or more away from her.
Hhhhggg i know what u mean , just give yourself time and stop the drinking its shit and helps nobody just get you fat
We kinda just... Grew apart, I guess. By the time I realized just how much she meant to me, it was already too late.
OMG STOP YOU CUNT ITS OVER
Op needs to stop trying to make himself feel good, and get back into life.
Dont overthink it, that only makes it worse.
Just think about her and cry. When you are tired of crying don't stop, cry more. Force yourself to cry as much as you can for few days. Don't numb the pain experience it in the flesh. Don't leave the house be depressed af. When you become tired of being in that stage start doing stoicism. Have a cold showers and workout. Do the nofap meme for a while and start improving yourself.
OP what are your initials and do u happen to frequent Louisiana
Wow, how fascinating! Bet that helps a lot!
fall in love with someone else
That's... a strangely good advice.
MV, and I do not. But you've gotten me curious: why Louisiana? What's the story?
If only it were that easy, user.
Bump. I'm also curious about Louisiana.
Your story and the timing and everything fits a friend of mines story down to a tit.
A bizarre coincidence. But a fun one. In a way.
people are beaten, reped, abused, every day is like hell for some and they carry on
and there is this faggot considering offing himself because a girl don't want him
yeah life must be so hard for you
I don't recall asking you to decide on that.
And I'm considering offing myself because I'm as is incapable of living a normal life.
Fix your grammar before trying to sound high and mighty, cunt.
that's the spirit
When my first gf broke up with me (after 1 year) I was devastated. I wanted to off myself.
After half a year I found someone, dated her 5 year (I was poor as dirt), married her, got kids, over 10 years married now.
Best thing that could have ever happened, was not being with the first. Life would have been a disaster. If she didn't want to be in this relationship, consider it a divine intervention, for you to dodge a bullet, and avoid a life of misery.
second language my beta friend (but yeah it's not excuse)
look into emo and start cutting your hands - that'll help, no one understands your greater than anyone's pain
I want to see it that way user, I really do.
But for me to consider marriage despite barely being in my twenties... I hope you can imagine just how special she was (and still is) to me.
I haven't been with many girls (hooks don't count), but I'm bloody confident that it's really only her that I want. The rest can only serve as a pastime.
I'm not into that shit. I hate pain.
And if you can't understand, or simply won't make any effort to, move on: you'll get no reaction from me.
mines been ignoring me for some time planning to off myself soon
You can't force people to love you. If she didn't wanted to be with you for whatever reason, that settles it. I know it's hard to accept it, but think about it: What's the point if you're in a relationship, and the other person feels nothing? You can't force people to love you.
All my friends that got married had girls they would obsess over - myself included. All of them are happily married, not with the girl they went over. A relationship that goes only one way is imho extremely unhealthy.
Maybe I'll write some stories if you're interested.
The next one will be special. I’m dealing with the same thing user. Just turned 20 and the only girl who actually made me feel special doesn’t want to be with me anymore. But we’re still young user. Do things for you. Work out, get a hobby you enjoy, improve yourself. Things will get better. There will be others.
lack of abundance mindset. Find Alpha Male Strategies on youtube if you want to become enlightened about the female nature.
I know I can't. But God knows I'd like to.
If you want to write some stories, I'm all for.
Others, yes. None quite like her, thought.
Get a Dream, it might sound stupid, but it works, it gets you focused on something else. doesn't have to be big start with something small and build up.
try pain or bbc
This will surely make you forget about her, trust me - try it.
either you are here for advice or you are here just to bitch about how it's bad. You just received a primo advice
lost the love of my life 10 years ago and still think about her often, but we gotta realize that there is no going back. the only real advice is to be thankful for the time we had with them and move on somehow. OP know that even tho you miss her a lot there is no reason to think that you won't be able to find someone else that can make you happy. doing drugs and all that bs is not going to fix anything and just make you more miserable and unfit for a new relationship. in simple terms: deal with it and move on, that's the best you can do really.
> 1/?
> be me.
> 19 at the time, just failed admission to university.
> met this amazing girl 24, awesome looks, funny, we share some interests - music, games, church
> fell for her really bad, like really-really bad
> we become bf and gf
> my_first_kiss.jpeg
> terrible kisser
> my_first_1000_kisses.jpeg
> spending time walking, talking about music, life, etc.
> i work a terrible job, because no skills, below minimum wage, in Romania
> all my free time I revolve around her
> she tells me women needs to be conquered every day
> I grind for her love
> go to art galleries
> support her in what she does
> go to student theather - most students can't act
> i try every day to be romantic
> sometimes I have terrible days at work, arriving late
> every day is grinding for her love, and is very rewarding just being with her
> I learn more about her
They’ll be special in different ways. Time heals all wounds. You just need to distract yourself until time can work it’s magic.
Go on...
> 2/?
> she has schizophrenia
> omg.png
> she has some uterus condition where she can't have kids
> man_that_sucks.tiff
> you know what, I'm here for the long run, don't care what issues she has.
> I will marry that girl with whatever defects she has
> found some random letters of hers from previous boyfriends
> confront her about it
> she tells me she had over 6 boyfriends, had sex with more than 10 people
> i'm still a virgin
> life_sucks.jpeg
> decide to forgive and forget.
> from time to time tells me about a crush she had on and off since she's a teen
> that guy is super popular doesn't care about her
> I go out of my way to try to be with her
Damn, neighbour. That must've sucked ass.
But what happened next?
she started to cheat and made me clean up creampies
feels bad man...
> 3/?
> vacations are terrible
> she goes back to her home, that's an 8 hour train ride
> we live pre-internet era
> I can only call her, but it's super expensive, and I'm poor as dirt
> days go by no response
> I'm consumed, just thinking about her
> In two vacations I managed to get some money and go there
> met her parents
> they like me, because I'm probably the first bf that they get to see
> in general I'm polite, and what not
> when the vacation is over she comes back to the university city
> back in the university city, life goes on like before
> get invited to one of their group counseling things
> met a bunch of other patients, with different conditions
> I get admitted to university
> horrible summer vacation
> after the vacation something awesome happens though. she has no place to stay anymore, so she moves in with me in the dorm.
Okay... Then what?
Do not end yourself over a mate. It's dumb and selfish.
That said, block her on everything. Stop talking and interacting with her on all fronts. Its going to be hard to do but it crucial to moving on. After you cut off all contact its time to get a new hobby and this hobby should deal with other people. The more social interaction you have the better. The name of the game is distraction as the human brain is only good at focusing on a couple of a things at a time and the more time you spend not thinking about her the further you progress in moving past it.
You will always feel something but it will eventually not be this crippling. You have to stick to the the plan too because any contact is going to reset your 'get over her progress bar' to zero as will long bouts of border and being alone. Talking about her is fine with friends, just not to her. After each week things will get a little easier. One of mine took about 2 months but I made it through.
> some things piss me off though
> she comes one day full of happiness. some random dude on the street tells her that "you look like a princess"
> how the heck can I compete like that? every day?
> regardless, I try harder
> write notes, flowers, we see the city, etc.
> one day we are supposed to go to the theater.
> borrowed a suit, some shoes, they are killing my feet
> got her flowers and what not
> arrive there
> we are at the wrong building, the play is in another part of the city
> noooooooooooooo.png
> we get a taxi
> not only I'm poor, I'm poor without legit income, only money from my dad, since no more job due to university
> arrive there, the play is started, doors are closed you can't enter.
> "it's only your fault user, you didn't check the tickets"
> wut.png
> we bought the tickets together
> rage like no tomorrow, got on a side street, removed my shoes, unbuttoned my shirt, went bare foot back to the dorm
> but regardless, I'm still over my head
> meanwhile she keeps flunking exams
> she has schizo, that means taking pills that make her fall asleep, while she tries to learn
> friends make fun of her:
> "she's in standby mode lolol"
> I rage, and feel really bad for her. her sickness it's secret.
> one day she tells me she wants to move to an university closer to her home city
> in the middle of the semester
> 5/? nononononononoplsno.png
> she tells me upfront with 1 month or 2
> I beg her to stay
> I plead with her
> it will be the same thing over there
> "user, we can still be friends"
> winter approaches, and the day when she's supposed to leave comes by
> "user, will you help me take my luggage to the train station"
> "NO. WAY."
> I'm mad. I'm sad. I'm broken inside. All emotions from the last year unpacked roam free in my head.
> a friend helps her
> 1 week I sit just in bed
> sometimes crying
> not my proudest moment
> she was the one
> what to do now
> decide I won't live with feet in two boats
> what's in the past stays in the past
> won't be friends
(OP)
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This is starting to get sticky.
don't think about her. simple as.
> 6/?
> I can't be friends because I need closure, not random playing with my heart
> a magic change has happened though
> before her I was a beta noob shy, not able to articulate what I feel, or trying way too hard to impress
> not anymore
> now I was dead inside
> decided that if in the future I'll have a gf, won't be like the first one
> not older than me (max 1 year older)
> no theater lol
> no conquering every day
I hear ya dude. I've been there.
How good was the pussy ?
> 7/?
> go home and throw in the garbage all the letters from her
> every single note, gift, etc.
> in. the. garbage.
> doubts in my mind if i did the right thing, after all she was part of my life.
> regardless, what's done is done. cannot undo garbage.
> 6 months later I met another girl at a picnic
> also poor as dirt, she works a terrible job (unrelated to my previous job)
> she's pretty. not gorgeous, but i like her.
> similar family background
> tell her that I'd like to spend time with her, but that doesn't mean I want to be her boyfriend
> later tell her that I want to be her bf, but doesn't mean I'll marry her
> literally, that's how I would spoke with her
> tell her how I see life, learn how she sees it
> no_theather.png
> we don't like the same music, but it's ok
> our relationship starts moving forward
> "I love you user, because you're so open, and don't try to impress me"
> well, there's that at least.
> i'm her first bf, she's my 2nd gf.
Get some meth instead of heroin, much cheaper. or just kys.
> didn't had sex with my first gf, thanks to her. I'm actually grateful for that - I know it sounds weird
>"I miss her, too."
Call me beta if you want, but I've never gotten that far. It was a romantic relationship more than sexual and we were both content that way.
Every night I dream about her, too. She was supposed to be the one. She was flawless, pure, and best of all - she cared about my well-being.
Now she's gone and she's never coming back. She would never miss me.
Damn... Like I wrote this myself.
Meth is great. I highly recommend.
> 8/9
> we learn to accept each other
> we grow more and more into each
> I realize how much better life is now, without struggling to impress her every day
> I can have a bad day, and nothing happens
> she doesn't require validation every day
> I can feel secure
> same with her, because I never understood the point of jumping through relations, so I'm not cheating
> I realize I wanted to be with her
> we decided one day to marry
> took us few more years to get money
> married
> finally married
> bliss.png
> sometimes problems
> we fixed them
> got really bad ~3 years ago
> thank God we fixed them problems
> more that 10 years happily married ~ 18 years together now
You'll never forget. No one said this was going to be easy.
Fr shut up
Too poor for heroin?
> 9/9
> I thought once what would have meant for my dream to have come true
> to marry my first gf
> constant struggle
> absolute nightmare
> what a disaster would that have been
> I realized her leaving it was the best possible outcome
> not having sex with her, so only had sex with my wife, outstanding. i couldn't care less what other people think, and that's thanks to my first gf, because I was super thirsty.
> throwing away the past, so I can start as clean as possible, one of the best decisions
> no friends, we stay in touch
> no letters
> Steve Jobs has a speech about these kind of moments: youtube v=UF8uR6Z6KLc
> why? because everyone secretly wants to be loved without having to offer anything in return. it's a form of validation.
> that's why some women flirt like no tomorrow, then: "wow user, you misunderstood, we're just friends"
> not being with someone who doesn't want to be with you, it is your best possible outcome.
> imagine being trapped in a marriage, or you trying to kindle a love that just isn't there.
> pure. bloody. misery.
How does it all end?
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
SUCK IT UP
DON'T BE A BITCH
That... That was quite the story, sir.
That actually filled me with hope
> Here user:
It feels horrible in the moment, but it's the best possible thing to happen given the circumstances.
This dude fucks! He knows what's up
Wrong user dude. She didn't cheat on OP
thank you
Hey man, just went through a breakup as well.
Like... It sucks, it will suck, and it wont stop sucking until it does. It is a slow crawl out, and it will all fucking suck for a long while, but one day you will notice you're not thinking about her, and you haven't thought about her all morning. It gets better, it fucking sucks, but it gets better.
...
OP here.
I'm about to hit the deck for today. But before I go, I just wanted to thank everyone who supported me and imparted some wisdom or at least a nice word to me.
I don't know if I'll succeed, but I'll try to move on. God willing, my story will have a happy ending.
I'll try to keep you posted on things to come, as much as I can oh Yea Forums. Keep an eye out.
Michael V isn't done just yet. His will to go on has been rekindled.
op is fag just smoke a bowl and play videogames
very nice story, could turn it into a quick romance cash grab, thank you.
You need to stop that.
Go find some other rebound chick or have some fun some other way
Take the dick out of your mouth and stop sucking so much cock
Op is a faggot confirmed
Pic VERY related
do a hero
stop acting like a pussy
You can't trust your own feelings now.
It's hard to appreciate the advice right now a or to understand that it's true, right now. Block this shit our of your head now. Eventually this will fade. Go find someone else, even if it's just too keep you busy until this feeling fades. I've been where you are. Now I'm 39, and married with 3 of my own kids that I'm going to have to worry about also going through this someday. I suppose that maybe it doesn't happen to everyone, but it does happen to a lot of people. And it does get better.
Hey OP, sorry you're going through some tough times man. Hope you're doing well soon.
Here's some stuff that helped me:
-No contact (no watching her social network stuff etc either, if you have specific stuff in your posession that reminds you of her: throw it out if possible. Don't look at old chatlogs or mails etc.)
-Harder no-contact: correct yourself whenever you think of her by thinking of something else.
-Get into stoicism (this youtuber "Einzelganger" has some nice content on it, but "school of life" and many other channels do too.
-Find something you've wanted to do or achieve for some time now and just flat out go and do it. if it's something that takes some time that's fine, just focus on accomplishing part of it every day.
-Keep a clean and tidy house (cleaning actually has proven meditative functions)
Good luck man! you can do it!
You weren't right for each other.
Life isn't a romance movie, it ends up more like greentext guy here. Except If never date appointing for 8 years before marriage.
Checked
same boat. look man im still fucking not over this bitch either. the facts are its over. you just have to try again or give up. im going to do my best but fuck man you cant let shit get you because it could happen all over again. bitches are crazy sometimes man even after multiple years