I asked this girl out, she said yes. 10 minutes before I was to pick her up, she made an excuse not to go. Second time was tonight. We had dinner plans. She never even bothered to call or text. She just didn't show up. I texted her and she literally said, 'oops, forgot.'
Can someone please explain to me wtf is the deal here? I've been out of the dating scene for awhile. I don't understand this one bit.
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this is literally what they do. you can't think about it too much. she can smell your thirst and has other options so you should do the same
walk away
/thread, women are terrible people these days and are super into mind games. She wants you wrapped around her finger. So anytime she says jump, you reply, how high?
How is it thirsty to ask a girl out? Isn't that what people are supposed to do?
>10 minutes before I was to pick her up, she made an excuse not to go.
You were Plan B. Plan A called her back.
>walk away
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Move on she is either retarded and cant remember and you dont wana date a retarded women considering women are generally already retarded, and that's double retarded. Or she isnt interested, and instead of owning it is just gonna ignore ya until you go away
I'm never asking her out again, that's for sure. I just seriously don't understand it. It's not like she's young either. She's thirty and I'm 35. I work with her too. So that makes it even more fucked up.
Dont give her another thought.
Forget about her and move on.
It’s a lie when they tell you women mature faster than men, or even at all. The fact she’s 30 and still does that shit like a 16 year old is the most intense red flag I can think of
But why would she agree to go out with me if she's not interested. That's what I don't understand. Why not just say "not interested" or "no thanks."
>Bitches ain’t shit but hoes and tricks
Why the fuck would you tolerate a girl "forgetting"
Make her ask you out. Honestly, don't focus on her alone. Not to sound like a cunty new age shithead, but let her slip away; if it is meant to be, if she is worth it, she will find you. Find others in the meantime. You will make her jealous while developing yourself and living well
OP, as a chick, I can say she's just a cunt. We're not all cunts. Just the majority of us. Don't even bother with this bitch.
On the other hand, as a person with crazy fucking anxiety issues, I can see why she'd do that. If she doesn't seem to have a social life and is awkward as fuck, it might not be her fault.
Also, look at the big picture: is she doing this to everyone, or just to you?
Its not “thirsty” to ask her out. It’s thirsty to keep trying after she’s blown you off twice.
This guy is probably correct.
The other explanation is that she never wanted to go on a date with you and is too immature to know how to properly say no.
One way or another, you need to stop contacting her - you’re done here, full stop. Save your dignity.
I don't tolerate. I'm not asking her out again. But the first time she made an excuse. I was like "that's fucked up but whatever." The second time we made plans literally an hour before we supposed to meet. Then she just didn't show. It's fucked up. I want to punch her in the face.
>Also, look at the big picture: is she doing this to everyone, or just to you?
I don't know her at all. I just met her as she started working at the same place I work. She was all happy and smiles and excited about our first date. I thought I knew women pretty well, but this just makes no sense to me. How can someone be like this?
In my experience dating, most women (not all, but definitely most) do not know how to properly say no to a date when they don’t want to go, so they just stop responding. It’s more comfortable for them to just not respond than it is to say “I’m just not interested.”
Should've ended it after the first time mate
You're probably right. But now I know, for sure, that she's out of the picture. I feel sort of like a lemming though. Like it was all just a game to her. Pretty fucked up to do that to someone. Especially someone you work with who has been nice to you.
she said yes
you thought alright a yes means a fucking yes not a mind game
you don't have to put up with it op
just move on, don't take it personally as with anything in life and keep it rolling
go fuck a hooker, go enjoy your freedom alone, and go get some wings and drink a beer or something man
your life doesn't revolve around her
>just move on, don't take it personally as with anything in life and keep it rolling
thanks bro
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Lots of girls are flakes. You aren’t that important to her so ditch her.
I don't know what to tell you. There are a lot of people out there who don't care or understand when they act like pieces of shit. Some people have blind spots regarding this in dating, some have no respect for property, some are insanely egocentric... You're not asking about dating advice, this is a question about why people behave badly.
This is unacceptable, kill her and everyone she is friends with OP
>I may have just put myself on an FBI watch list
>You're not asking about dating advice, this is a question about why people behave badly.
That's right. But not just why they behave badly, but why they would do in this way. I'm not spring chicken. I've met a lot of shitty people in my life. This one came from out of the blue though. I literally think she must get off on doing this stuff. Like I said before, it's pretty fucked up.
Because you work with her dumbass. She is trying to make you not like her and be the asshole so she doesn’t look like one or will take any blame. That is exactly how she is thinking about this. Not saying that it makes sense that just how women think and handle situations like this. She can’t say “no” because thats “rude” to a woman (leas rude than forgetting I guess) but if you react to how she is doing these things and be an asshole she has a good reason to tell everybody why she said no. She won’t have a good reason till you give her an excuse and the real reason she is doing all of this is because she isn’t into you man. It’s really not a big deal. Get over it and move on.
Basically this.
Unfortunately women always act like they're wandering through the wilderness. You need to just interact with 25 of them that you like on a regular basis. If you like one, just talk to her normally, don't even 'ask her out'. Just go places she goes and end up dating her because you two do the same shit.
Women only like things because it's part of their life. If they forget about it because they can't see it that day or because it's inconvenient at the moment then they move on. You have to just keep injecting yourself into their life periodically and see if it happens.
>we're not all cunts
don't ever take advise from chicks, they dont take responsibility for their actions. yes they are all cunts but only if you give them the leverage. online dating usually gives the chick all of the power if she's somewhat attractive. go get rejected in person 100 times and see how you game improves
I'm taking some big steps back from her. Keeping workplace interactions to a minimum. I have a feeling she's just waiting to #metoo me.
just shrug her off
not to sound like a homo but get interested in another female or something man
as retarded as it sounds never go to jail for a woman
never risk that
don't press on anymore
don't ask
don't care
don't even invest yourself in the slightest
it doesn't exist (the chance) so don't ruin it for yourself by turning from a hint that wasn't received to a creepy weirdo that definitely didn't get the message that is now "harassing" her
damn
you work with her
dude, fuck her
if you really give a shit about your job even if you don't just look somewhere else
i'd fuck some coworkers only if it wouldn't possibly come back to bite me
Welcome to women OP. Half are dumb as fuck and the ones who aren't dumb are crazy. Have fun!
But this isn't dumb or crazy. It's just mean.
Then I'd definitely say she's just a bitch. Or an airhead of epic proportions? Either way, not worth the effort.
Is this still op whining? Didn't you get it that your best option is to accept that she's shit? Move on, and don't let this shit stop you. Prepare to show some stamina/endurance/determination/ignorance/... until there's one that is not shit (to you).
This is the correct answer. A lot of women hate saying no, so they ignore the situation instead of giving you closure. Trust me, she was never going to go on that date.
In my experience it's not just women, it's men too. It's just easier to ghost people then to say it to their face.
Try to get her fired at work.
Do you see her all the time at work. loser.