Ask a psychologist anything

>though his version wasn't exactly accurate.
Expand, extrapolate, and defend your assertion.

My understanding of Freud was that he was more right about his theories than he was wrong. He was so correct about many things that it became absorbed into the culture and by and large many things people assume as common knowledge about psychology these days originated with Freud but none of them know or remember it originating with him. The only things people tend to remember about Freud now are the few things that didn't become a homogeneous part of the culture (i.e the few things that people consider he got wrong)

This might be more psychopathic than narcissistic, as narcs typically do not hold this level of transparency with themselves. No narcissist thinks he is.

Bottom line: you probably do not care one bit for other people

Best way to deal with generalized anxiety without meds or therapy?

Whats the solution to intimacy issues?

FWIW, OP is a liar and a fake, which is sad because even if they were a psychiatrist all they would be able to do is write you a prescription that their big-pharma-drug-dealer wined and dined them on with all sorts of kick-backs in order to get as many of their patents as possible prescribed and buying their products.

So you would be drugged up, often it's a crap-shoot in the dark, you're signed up for a few more weekly sessions which are time fillers until a month or more has passed on your new medication whereupon you have to 'self assess' how you feel now compared to a month ago. If you feel less l like you did then the drugs are working, welcome to a life of drug dependancy. If you feel 'worse' then your dosage is tweaked for a month at a time for up to six months, at which point if it is still uineffetive then you are switched to a different brand/type of drug and begin a new six month process of the same guess-timation.

They are only glorified GP's, with maybe a semester of psychological study tacted onto their medical decree. You think you are narcissitic? Then you shouldn't spend time around a shrink.

Freud was wrong in how central sexuality was. I'm not just giving you my opinion, I'm telling you the current state of the paradigm. For instance, babies have a natural instinct to suckle; Freud would see this was primarily sexual, whereas in reality it isn't very sexual at all. Nature is pragmatic and often combines things when it saves energy (nipples are for sex, procreation, and feeding). Likely, Freud, with his theories, was wrong about the centrality of sex because of the generally repressed period, which fit his model, but also gave it its biases.

He was right to see what he saw, but his interpretation proved wrong later on. If you have specific points you'd like me to discuss, or questions, I can elaborate on that, but be precise.

>(i.e the few things that people consider he got wrong)

There is a lot.

>without meds or therapy
Kek, you think a psychiatrist is going to answer this. There are ways to do this of course, but it doesn't fit within their lucrative business model, so don't look for answers here.

Finding the cause. This will more often than not be related to how you were raised. It's 2019 but people still vastly underestimate how influential parents are.

I can recommend books for you to read, you might find useful information.

This one is so you understand what anxiety actually is.

>stone age defense mechanisms that don't work in our age, but worked fine to escape/fight beasties and other humans

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My favourite issue.

Courage, trust, and the right person. You need to dare, most of all, and realise that nothing wrong can happen (and if you think something wrong can happen, maybe the person isn't the right one). I'd need details to say more.

>a psychiatrist all they would be able to do is write you a prescription that their big-pharma-drug-dealer wined and dined them on with all sorts of kick-backs in order to get as many of their patents as possible prescribed and buying their products.
I'm a psychologist, not a psychiatrist. I do not prescribe medication, ever. Just so you know.

worth a try. i'm pretty desperate at this point anyway. i'll resort to sucking cock if it helps me be more stable minded
i was raised pretty normally. i've just always been shy and sensitive to emotions. i get anxious easily and angry easily and overwhelmed easily when things go wrong. i think my brain is just fucked up

>Kek, you think a psychiatrist is going to answer this. There are ways to do this of course, but it doesn't fit within their lucrative business model, so don't look for answers here.
For your information, an hour of therapy costs around 150 dollars, which is a whole lot more than medication, so your argument doesn't even stand on its feet.

Wow that's a whole lot of assumptions and blanket statements there. It seems like you know OP very well and your statements are purely objective!

What would you recommend?

Is it true that you just can't do it on your own? You can't?
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Not OP, but by confronting the deep seeded, unresolved, traumatic issues from your childhood and past. Intimacy issues usually occur from bad relationships or experiences with your parents or parental figures in your more formative years.

Chances are you had some sort of bad / overbearing / distant / abusive / absent / etc. mother and this has lead you to have inner resistance in fully trusting other women and people. There is a fear that if you open yourself up compltely you will be completely vulnerable and could be hurt again in the same way this parental figure hurt you in the past.

You may not even consciously realise that this is why you have the issues you currently have, but it is highly likely. I might be able to give you some more specific advice if you can confirm the person and/or type of bad relationship you had with them.

>i was raised pretty normally. i've just always been shy and sensitive to emotions. i get anxious easily and angry easily and overwhelmed easily when things go wrong. i think my brain is just fucked up
Or you don't realise how your parents actually are, or what "normally" really is.

1. Do your parents truly know the person you are?
2. Do your parents ever put pressure on you emotionally to get you to do what they want?
3. How much do you like them on a scale of 0 to 10?

>tacted
That's a fucking beauty right there. I'm gonna fucking use it now.

I can count on one hand how many people I care for, but those are people I really do care for. I always believe people need to somehow "prove" themselves first before I basically un-shitlist them, unless I need something from them of course.

>Is it true that you just can't do it on your own? You can't?
One important thing is an outsider's perspective. You will regard your life in a different way from others' lives. You may normalise a lot of the abnormal behaviour in your past (or current life). That's where a therapist can do a lot of good, by challenging what you think is normal.

You can do a lot on your own, that will depend on your resources, but having an ally will make things a lot more efficient, faster. Depending on the problem, you must not be alone with it.

OP here, and I second all this. I now wonder who this user is and what they know, but it's good stuff.

>I can count on one hand how many people I care for, but those are people I really do care for.
Do you care for them or do you know them to be useful? If people are just a commodity to you, you may be a psychopath. If you'd sacrifice a lot for them for no other reason than you love then, then you may not be a psychopath.

>but be precise.
You be precise, champ. First the baby suckling thing is pure BS. He is even famous for saying that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, although I'm sure you couldn't smoke one without getting a chub or drooling on the end so much it becomes unsmokable.

Freud wasn't 'wrong' on the sexualised nature of some of his theories, he was just the first person to recognise the correlation and causation of these aspects. At the absolute very best you could make a legitimate claim that (very few) other psychologists expanded on his early theories and provided more indepth examinations of motivations of human psychology, but this hardly makes Freud universally wrong. It's simply providing an expanded explanation or insight, but if you can't comprehend that then you would be on about par for all the fucked up drop-kicks that wash up with some sort of therapist lisence. Way too many of those people have all sorts of fucked up psychological histories themselves.

>There is a lot.
Again defend your assertation with specific examples. Cite your sources.
>There is a lot.
Ok, so like I said

>sacrifice a lot
I would, but partly because I know for a fact they would also do so for me, which may or may not make them a commodity to me.

Mfw I'm a happy 23 year old psycopath

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>First the baby suckling thing is pure BS.
What?

>He is even famous for saying that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar
Yes, it just means that not everything is to be taken as a symbol. I don't see how that connects to human development and the centrality of sexuality, though.

>I'm sure you couldn't smoke one without getting a chub or drooling on the end so much it becomes unsmokable.
I have no idea what your point is here. It seems you're working on very idiosyncratic premises that I am not aware of.

>Freud wasn't 'wrong' on the sexualised nature of some of his theories,
He was wrong in how central sexuality was in the stages of development, yes. He was also wrong on latency and many other things, but that's not a problem: this is the nature of research, you're always more wrong than the people who come after you. I'm not criticising Freud.

>the absolute very best you could make a legitimate claim that (very few) other psychologists expanded on his early theories and provided more indepth examinations of motivations of human psychology
I don't understand, a lot of psychoanalysts did a ton of work to expand his own, and neo-psychoanalysts are a thing too. More generally, psychology as a whole worked from his research as well.

>It's simply providing an expanded explanation or insight, but if you can't comprehend that then you would be on about par for all the fucked up drop-kicks that wash up with some sort of therapist lisence. Way too many of those people have all sorts of fucked up psychological histories themselves.
I think you're talking about yourself a whole lot there but don't really understand the topic. That's why I suggested being precise instead of generalising.

cont.

>Again defend your assertation with specific examples. Cite your sources.
About what, specifically? I gave you a specific example and you just sort of ignored it casually. You said it was BS, without explaining why/how, and then did nothing with it.

Another example is that Freud thought humans, after their early sexual stages, experienced nothing sexual until their teens. We now know that this is far from true and that even the stages don't function exactly how he imagined, and this is obviously a bias from his time period. Freud also thought women were incapable of molesting children sexually, among other biases. That should be precise enough.

I can't say you sound like a psychopath. They aren't very happy usually.

I posted to a psychologist here like a few days ago.

But tldr

>Diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder at teens years

>1 ended up in a mental institution for 1 year and was diagnosed with unspecified schizophrenia spectrum.

From there guys view, user said, what I got when I was a kid to please my parents (nothing sexual, just making them know I'm obedient) but I never did anything for myself..

Im not interested in life and I only like helping people, randoms at most, anyone tbh just to make myself happy.

As for the traumas

>Forced to watch porn and Gore by oldest brother
>Raped by cousin at age 7
>Watch my one older sis get raped by one uncle and he forced me to do things
>Watched a lot of people get jumped and killed in streets
>Have seen decapitated bodies when I went out of country
>Mom was a sex slave at the age of 11 and had first kid at 12

This is just a part of my history and I don't know how to deal with them, I can't work because I panic.. I've seen therapist, psychologist and counseling services but it doesn help, I feel much better with out meds and my ideology and self identity makes me, weird..

Other mistakes Freud made:

>belief that the unconscious grew from the conscious
We know, biologically, that organisms become conscious with evolution, not the other way around. Freud thought the unconscious happened after consciousness, as a way to repress "bad feelings", but that's a very narrow definition of consciousness and does not work with regards to basic biology.

>primordial horde
This is based on absolutely nothing Freud could have witnessed, it is pure fantasy. It isn't even observed in great apes

>therapy done without therapist in sight
We now know this is by far not very efficient for good therapy. Most psychoanalysists don't even use this anymore, and not even the famous couch.

How does it feel to have a degree no one respects? Much less impressed by?

What would you say are consequences,if any, of being a long-term pathological liar? In regards to one's own persona, that is

Well, damn... I recommend cognitive-behavioral therapy, as it is the most down to earth and practical way to heal yourself. There's a shitload to heal, there.

It should enable you to be able to work. Just find a good, reputed therapist.

>One important thing is an outsider's perspective.
A counter-balance to this point is that a Psychologists business model is founded upon this statement. If people didn't rely on this belief being widely held then a poorly regulated, easy to enter industry would largely dry up.

>but having an ally will make things a lot more efficient, faster.
Having someone you see once a week for 50 minutes of which you are charged a full hour, always, always, results in years of therapy. First it can take tens of hours to break through inner resistance you have to openly discussing the most intimate parts of your personal life and inner psyche workings to someone who is a complete stranger. Most people take a long time to open up to that level, no matter how good the psychologist things they are. Then there is the sheer volume in traversing the story of your life (supposing you have decades of life experience) which takes a lot of time to talk through and sort out in your own head as you are retelling the events of your life - and then which requires you to further straighten out and get in formation to further explain this detail to another person.

Finally, there is the sheer math of the situation. 50 minutes a week is under 4 hours a month. It's a little over a full-time week of work in a calendar year. Which is even less than it sounds because a portion of that 50 minutes a week is eaten up by pleasantries, revising previous weeks topics and notes, time spend thinking on a particular question or getting stuck on one particular topic or point which could be minor in the scheme of things but which takes forever to process.

Note: I'm not saying the things I'm describing aren't ultimately beneficial. Sorting yourself out in your own head is the most benefical that (CAN potentially) come from therapy. However, I am saying that you need to be lotto-winning lucky to find a competent thearapist, and ontop of that one who isn't in the business of keeping you on

>How does it feel to have a degree no one respects? Much less impressed by?
Everyone I meet is impressed with it and loves to ask questions about psychology. It's only on this website that people don't respect psychology (and it's usually Americans), because they think psychology is women's magazines and Dr. Phil and stuff like that. Other nations generally know what the deal is.

It's not my only degree, but I've never experienced anyone not respecting that field or expressing disinterest. Sorry.

Huh, I never there was a thing as that, will take a look at it, thanks user

Nobody will trust you anymore. You may also end up convincing yourself of your lies and weaken your connection to reality.

I could never kill myself but I always fantasize about how much easier it would be if i just died on impact in a car crash.
How fucked am I?

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...their billing list for years at a time as you provide a steady paycheck and income for them. AND of top of all of that, if you somehow get the first two parts, there is the added aspect of the fact that at

>A counter-balance to this point is that a Psychologists business model is founded upon this statement. If people didn't rely on this belief being widely held then a poorly regulated, easy to enter industry would largely dry up.
You're turning the argument over to make it sound like a conspiracy.

>if people could repair their own cars, mechanics would go out of business!

Not everyone has the time to study psychology and become a therapist. It takes around 8 years.

>Having someone you see once a week for 50 minutes of which you are charged a full hour, always, always, results in years of therapy.
False. Sessions for adults are usually a whole hour. The length of the whole therapy depends on the problems and the goal. Therapy normally lasts about 6 months, but it can be 8 weeks.

>Most people take a long time to open up to that level,
Most people who have chosen to do therapy have already decided to open up, otherwise they wouldn't start.

>Then there is the sheer volume in traversing the story of your life (supposing you have decades of life experience) which takes a lot of time to talk through
You don't have to tell your entire life story depending on the issue.

>that 50 minutes a week is eaten up by pleasantries, revising previous weeks topics and notes,
Never met a therapist who did 50 minutes. Therapists don't do pleasantries and they certainly don't revise their notes during your session.

You're heavily biased and ignorant of the topic, I'm afraid.

Not very. It's called "suicide ideation" and it means you suffer from depression. There is likely more to discover but you will need a therapist to find out why you suffer from depression.

Hi OP, our knowledge has developed fairly recently in this field so that is one cause I am aware of, but, why do you personally think it is that people from older generations who on average had more traumatic experiences (post war, etc) kind of "sucked it up" and went on with their lives, whereas now seemingly everyone is running around with some sort of prescribed mental issues?

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Few patients do years of therapy, but some not only want help for a specific problem, they also want to be accompanied in their daily lives. Some patients come because they have no friends and nobody to care for them. A therapist is a replacement for this in some ways. It's more efficient than a waifu, because the person is real, and therapists usually give a fuck, that's why they chose this job. It's easy to tell if your therapist cares or not.

Therapists have no reasons to be ashamed of making money, it is a job. A tough job that requires years of studying and practice. It is frequent that therapists spent more years studying than psychiatrists.

>weakening connection to reality
Can you please elaborate why this is a bad thing?

Champ, you said a baby suckling on a tit was sexualised behaviour. You then went 'Whoosh' on the cigar is just a cigar quote - which was Freud poking fun an his own work being heavily involved in over-interpreting sexualised insight into every-day actions. If I have to spell it out for you putting a phallic shaped object such as a cigar into your mouth could be a classic Freudian interpretation of placing a penis in your moth and preforming fellatio. Now if Freud could admit that sometimes when you smoke a cigar you are just smoking a cigar and not latently wanting to provide oral sex on a penis, then a baby biolgically needing milk from a breast is hardly sexualised behaviour. I said provide your sources on your one (paltry) example, which you haven't, and instead have provided some very vague diversion technique infering perhaps I don't know what I am talking about and your don't understand the cigar symbolism.

> Freud also thought women were incapable of molesting children sexually,
I could make a strong case that society in general still largely agrees with Freud on this. It's the reason that you Never see a female teacher who has sex with her teenage students recieve an equivilently harsh sentance as a male teacher who has sex with a female student. Although a female teacher may get a conviction against her, she never does serious time, and often it's a slap on the wrist and a conviction may be suspended. Whereas the male teacher is percieved as a sexual predator, a pedophile, and will do hard time (even where the female student was 17, a willing participant).

I'd be really intersted to heaer your thoughts on that one, and how this theory of Freuds is still 'outdated' considering this very real reality.

>why do you personally think it is that people from older generations who on average had more traumatic experiences (post war, etc) kind of "sucked it up" and went on with their lives, whereas now seemingly everyone is running around with some sort of prescribed mental issues?
Excellent question. I did a conference on just that.

Here's the raw deal: previous generations didn't have the anxieties people have to deal with nowadays. They grew up as happy kids without a care in the world, whereas nowadays kids are told every damn day how dangerous the world is and how fucked up things happen constantly. This does tremendous damage to a child's mind. Contrary to popular belief, there's a lot more trauma going on nowadays than in the childhood of previous generations. People didn't suck it up, either, they became alcoholics or abused other substances. The only difference is they didn't talk about it much, but the damage was the same, if not worse.

Everyone has mental issues, just like everyone has physical health issues. Humans' bodies evolved to adapt to the stone age, not the stuff we have now (and I'm not arguing to go back). Stress and anxiety were meant to be short-lived last resort solutions to escape immediate danger. We now use this to worry about any number of things for months, years, sometimes decades. It wrecks us.

Previous generations had a simpler life and a whole lot less to worry about. You see what this place does to adults, imagine children with iPhones and a connection to any porn online.

you want a professional opinion? you're crazy.
you want a second opinion? you're ugly, too.

>Can you please elaborate why this is a bad thing?
If you can't tell reality from your fantasies, you are bound to make mistakes, with possibly risks for yourself and others. You might also live in an illusion, and this always comes at the price of a crash eventually.

Truth, beauty, and justice, user. Always.

Fuck, you really shouldn't be listening to the OP on this shit. He's sprinkling enough half truthes in all this crap that there's a danger that some of you poor fucks will take what he says to heart.

The more correct answer to your question is not so much that other people will stop trusting you, which will happen, but you will stop trusting yourself. And when you stop trusting yourself you stop respecting yourself, and then there are deep seeded problems of resentment and contempt which will arise in your life, probably as self destructive patterns which further cripple your relationships and life situations.

Have you ever considered why you lie so much? If you had to sum it up in a sentence or two, why do you do it?

>Champ, you said a baby suckling on a tit was sexualised behaviour.
No, I said Freud thought of this behaviour as primarily sexual, that sexuality was the motor behind all of humans' instincts and motivation, when it isn't so. That is what I said.

His entire model is sexualised, this was one simple example.

>If I have to spell it out for you putting a phallic shaped object such as a cigar into your mouth could be a classic Freudian interpretation of placing a penis in your moth and preforming fellatio.

You are needlessly aggressive.

>Now if Freud could admit that sometimes when you smoke a cigar you are just smoking a cigar and not latently wanting to provide oral sex on a penis, then a baby biolgically needing milk from a breast is hardly sexualised behaviour.
You are not familiar with Freud's theories then. This isn't a matter of interpretation, that's the heart of the Freudian model: every stage of development is fueled by sexuality, for Freud. Oral, anal, phalic, genital etc, they're all sexualised. if you're trying to tell me that Freud didn't think sex was at the heart of his developmental model, I don't know what to tell you, because that's exactly what the model is.

>I said provide your sources on your one (paltry) example, which you haven't, and instead have provided some very vague diversion technique infering perhaps I don't know what I am talking about and your don't understand the cigar symbolism.
You seem ignorant of Freud's model. The example was clear and simple. You talk of symbolism when I am talking about psychological development. Do you even know the Freudian model for development? If not, read about it first, argue second.

I have a step-mother who had basically treated me like a second class citizen to my own half-brothers throughout my years of knowing her.
She has:
>openly bitched about me on the phone to her friend, while I know for sure she knew I was in ear shot
>had screamed a rant at me that it was my own fault when one of my brothers had whipped the other in the back with a Cranky the Crane toy. Apparently because I didn't come and tell her that they were fighting. I was 8 at the time.
I lived with my Mum past the age of 6, so shit that happened past then occurred during holiday visits
>one brother had asked why I didn't live with them. Before I had a chance to respond she turned and told him that I hated them and didn't want to be with them
I was never a kid that would misbehave badly, but I wouldn't really question why I was getting into shit so often. I constantly felt like I was a misfit in that house, and couldn't understand how I could please that woman. Looking back now, I really feel like she just didn't want to be please, a total stepping on egg shells situation.

I guess what I wanted to know is what was up with that woman? My Dad was nice enough to me, but he never questioned it either.

how do i deal with generalized anxiety?

>I could make a strong case that society in general still largely agrees with Freud on this.
Wrong, for one, and irrelevant. The fact that people are "also wrong" doesn't make it right. Women do molest children and the opinion of those who don't know about it does not matter.

The rest of your argument is about justice with regards to the sexes, not about whether or not women molest children. The case you cite also generally involves willing participants, albeit minors. You are not good at arguing.

>you want a second opinion? you're ugly, too.
Stolen from Team Fortress 2's medic. You homo.

I know I'm on Yea Forums user so I'm not seeking the ultimate truth here, I like to broadening my horizons even if it is just listening to different opinions.
>why
Because it's convenient, mostly. I also feel like pretty much everyone is constantly lying, anyone trying to make a good first impression, for example, is in my book a liar because you they are not giving a truthful representation of themselves.

Doesnt every mental problem boil down to an unaddressed fear?

>I guess what I wanted to know is what was up with that woman? My Dad was nice enough to me, but he never questioned it either.
>I have a step-mother
That's your answer. Studies show that step-mothers hate their non-natural children even more than step-fathers do, and the stats are fucking worrisome about this.

Find the source, work it out. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is your best bet for this. Try it.

>Yeah, okay guys, let's take the word of a 'therapist' who spends hours on Yea Forums trying to convince the saddest Yea Forumstards to seek therapy because his business is so slow that this is the only way he can conceive of drumming up more patients.

I think killing other people would be pretty sweet

>Doesnt every mental problem boil down to an unaddressed fear?
No. Schizophrenia isn't the result of fear, for instance, neither is autism. You would be correct in that many problems are maladaptive coping mechanisms, though. Fear is an element in all problems that come from trauma, but it is by far not all the potential problems one can have.

That'd be a good point if I was actively hiring patients here, but I'm not doing that, as it would be stupid and inefficient. My business is doing fine. I just don't do my job for the money only, and here is a good opportunity to help people who would otherwise not seek it.

Interesting points, thanks.
Switching the topic, why is it that siblings who have received the same or similar upbringing, who also are more or less in the same environment (small age gap) sometimes tend to develop into complete polar opposites, i.e. one sister is educated and wants a lot from life while the other one is an addict of some sort, to the point of the addiction affecting her life in a big way?

That makes sense, my Mum's boyfriend is pretty reasonable to me in comparison, even though we've popped off at each other a fair few times

>>if people could repair their own cars, mechanics would go out of business!
If most people knew how to top up their water and oil or change a tyre then yes, they would not need to go to mechanic (who are also notorious for ripping people off) for minor things that they could easily attend to themselves if they had been taught how.

>Sessions for adults are usually a whole hour.
Questionable. But perhaps you charge them accordingly to allow time for your note-taking and admin after they have left the session. Although, you are drumming up business on Yea Forums, so I doubt you have a full-book and therefore have few time constraints on admin work outside of sessions.

>Therapy normally lasts about 6 months, but it can be 8 weeks.
The only thing you will be acomplishing in such a short time period are minor tune-ups like changing a cars tyres around, or an oil change. But yeah, if someones mother-in-law moves in with them and it's stressing them out but their wife gets bitching whenever they complain then maybe you could help them by letting them vent to you for a few weeks and (maybe) give them a few strategies to cope with the situation (which they could find online with a basic google search if they were self motivated or a good researcher - so the real benefit is a bitching session)

How do keep the parallel between work and life? Do you sometimes do/wish you could do more with your clients? Have you ever hurt yourself doing that? Do you lose sleep because of shared trauma?

>Questionable. But perhaps you charge them accordingly to allow time for your note-taking and admin after they have left the session. Although, you are drumming up business on Yea Forums, so I doubt you have a full-book and therefore have few time constraints on admin work outside of sessions.
It's not questionable. It's always an hour for a session, and shorter sessions are usually given to children. Also, I never take notes during a session. I might write down something I want to ask about later on, but I never take notes.

Also, user, it is Sunday today.

As to short therapies, if you're dealing with a phobia of dogs, 8 weeks may be more than enough to solve that.

My gf has constantly been overthinking and completely emotional in random fits of moments. I have tried to convince her to talk to me about how/what she feels when she undergoes her irrationally emotional state of mind. She has agreed to do so in the past, but when it happens she just shuts down and isolates herself once more. At one point, she initiated an argument because she thought my invitation to join her friends and I to have a conversation was just an excuse for me to use her as a cheaper means to get to the revenue (since my car broke down, I temporarily use Uber). As of now, she is isolating herself again after years of my attempt to positively enable her to unbottle her feelings, and attempted to ease her to be more forward with her problems. Unfortunately, it has not changed and she is going through isolation again. Help please --- young adulthood adulting

>How do keep the parallel between work and life?
I leave work behind when I go home. Optimism is my weapon, it works for me and my patients.

>Do you sometimes do/wish you could do more with your clients?
No, because I can't do more. And I shouldn't.

>Have you ever hurt yourself doing that? Do you lose sleep because of shared trauma?
Therapy always hurts me in a sense, but it's good pain. The kind that leads to something good. I don't lose sleep over what I hear, in part because I have been through much myself, so, if anything, I feel less alone when I am told about hell.

Your girlfriend probably suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. It's a complex condition but it fits her exactly. It varies a lot, symptoms may vary in combinations AND intensity; one need not have all the symptoms at the highest intensities to match.

Do read about it because this is highly problematic. It's so serious you may want to reconsider the relationship.

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And here's a summary of Freud's model. Just to show that every stage revolved around sexuality.

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>an addiction can only be cured by causing a different addiction, albeit a less self-destructive one hopefully
Would you say this is true, OP?

Has there been a study regarding people's outrage on sexual preferences? Things like the increase of "genders" that people identify us. They almost feel like zodiac signs and fortune tellings with how people "choose" what they identify as rather than actually knowing full well as to what they truly are

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And here's the best manual on how children actually develop.

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Sure, but it's a lot more efficient to find what the person is lacking and work there. Substituting addictions won't solve the problem, though it may alleviate issues for a time.

Haha this is the sort of backtracking toothless argument I would expect from someone who works as a psychologist. How is it wrong? Your argument is "Freud was wrong", and "Society is also wrong, but 'I' am right because I had to write an essay for my professor and that is all that matters".

To make any sort of argument you need to clearly state and explain your definitions. Molestation, or sexual abuse of a minor, is legally being involved in sexual relations with a person under the age of consent, or someone within your car regardless of age (e.g. if you are a child's parent/grand-parent/teacher/priest/etc.). Now, under the law, which is a reflection of our values and standards in our society, which are a reflection of our current psychological development and evolution, if a teacher male or female has sex with a student they are guilty of sexually assault/abuse/molestation of a child. The law recognises that and the teacher is prosecuted.

But this does not change the fact that despite (very recent law changes) now reflect a supposedly 'equal-oppertunity' prosecution of child molestation that people don't still inherently agree with Freud that women can not molest children. You see that in the unanimous judicial outcomes from female teachers brought to trial for having sex with a male child. The male child is largely seen as a lucky guy, or nearly a full grown man who just happened to have sex with a female teacher. Whereas the Male teacher having sex with a female student is always without exception percieved as an agressor, or a preadator. That is psychologically true, and is borne out in the judicial outcomes. Freud was right about that, because you can see it play out in reality.

The fact this bares out is probably rooted in biology and evolution. Now, I'm not dismissing outliers, there are outliers for every situation, but when 99% of cases match Freuds assessment, and your whole society lives in a manner which vindicates his assessment....

The only addiction I haven't been able to let go is stupid really, nail biting. I've tried to identify what emotions I go through when I catch myself doing it, and I can stop for like a week but then I just randomly do it again without being able to control it.

>Has there been a study regarding people's outrage on sexual preferences?
What's an outrage on a sexual preference exactly? Studies on what people identify with generally show the overwhelming majority of people identify with their biological sex, and I mean overwhelmingly. Most people don't "identify", they just see what they are and roll with it. I don't know about you, but I almost never see transsexual people with my own eyes, that's strictly a Yea Forums obsession.

How long does it take to get over the death of a loved one?

This is a fair assessment. Psychologically this is referred to as 'authenticity'. The more authentic a person is the easier it is to respect them and trust them.

Most people struggle with this concept and as you say are always trying to put an idealised version of themselves forward to make you like them or think well of them. When the reality is that if they were authentic and presented who they are regardless of the conequences that you might not like them because of it then even if you didn't like them, on some level you could respect them. And you can intereact and trade with people you respect. Even if you don't care much for them personal level.

why do y'all always try bringing up triggering subjects when talking? and why are your set ups so intimate and uncomfortable. fucking gay.

>Freud was right about that, because you can see it play out in reality.
Freud said women did not molest children. He was wrong, women do molest children. What you are talking about is a different topic entirely, and Freud didn't address it at all because he believed that women never molested anyone. You have serious cognitive problems, dude.

This is a coping mechanism for anxiety. Typically, you do it when you are under stress. It's comparable to children sucking their thumbs when stress, it's self-comforting. You might want to work on the stress/anxiety instead of the act itself.

>How long does it take to get over the death of a loved one?
Varies wildly. As long as it takes you to find another loved one, I would say. But even then, who knows.

Don't you think its a little bit weird, for someone with a 3 year psychology degree too offer paid advice too other equal mammals of the same age, same IQ and same life experience.

Are you ok with 60% of the population thinking all shrinks and psychologists are kooks?

>why do y'all always try bringing up triggering subjects when talking?
Because these are the knots that need to be undone, so you can be happier.

>and why are your set ups so intimate and uncomfortable. fucking gay.
So you can allow yourself to trust another and be helped.

CBT 'may' work. I'm sketchy on it's effectiveness. There is strong literature showing that implementing new mind-patterns can be effective if you are diligent enough about forming them (stop smoking or not getting anxious) but the new patterns are never as strong as the old patterns and if you have a period of stress you can revert back to the older stronger patterns easily.

There is a reason that AA is one of the most effective cures to alcoholism, and it isn't the CBT aspects, it's the Spiritual aspect of it.

Psychologists are either old men who couldn't do a real job or young rich women who can afford the years of training and then like to drop their occupation into conversations cos it's a trendy job.

I work in mental health and psychologists are generally useless. They don't do anything a nurse or or OT can't do. They're all middle class posh kids.

>Don't you think its a little bit weird, for someone with a 3 year psychology degree too offer paid advice too other equal mammals of the same age, same IQ and same life experience.
With 3 years, you can't be a therapist. It takes around 5 to get your master in psychology, and then 4 years of practice before you get the title (in my civilised country).

No clue what you're on about with the "same" stuff. My IQ is 158, so I will rarely have patients with the same, but I don't get your point. Enlighten me.

>Are you ok with 60% of the population thinking all shrinks and psychologists are kooks?
I'm a pretty good cook. What's the source of this? In my country, people don't think that at all, but then again, we're highly educated and our psychologists are held to a very demanding standard.

AA is bullshit and manipulation.

I never said you were signing people up from here, but reinforcing 'therapist' rhetoric among the saddest of the sad people who click on a psychologists thread is clearly designed to propagate things like 'you need a therapist to help' which is ultimately going to create more patients for your industry.

Yes, it is a commercial industry, not a profession.

Google is your friend on this. It's more biological than psychological.

>Psychologists are either old men who couldn't do a real job
If it's legal, paid, and people want it, it's a real job. Not everyone can do this job. If you can't care for others, people won't continue with you and soon enough, you'll be out of a job. Therapist (which is a fraction of what psychologists can do as a job) is one of the jobs where you sink or swim based on merit alone. And yeah, listening to people's horror stories all day isn't for pussies.

>or young rich women who can afford the years of training and then like to drop their occupation into conversations cos it's a trendy job.
You have some clear biases and silly beliefs. I run a team of therapists, many of whom are women, and this isn't what happens, but believe what you prefer.

>I never said you were signing people up from here, but reinforcing 'therapist' rhetoric among the saddest of the sad people who click on a psychologists thread is clearly designed to propagate things like 'you need a therapist to help' which is ultimately going to create more patients for your industry.
So, do you think mentally ill anons can help themselves?

>Yes, it is a commercial industry, not a profession.
I won't comment on how dumb this sentence is.

Addictions are more psychological than biological. The very reason why addictions even BEGIN is psychological, not biological.

Stop using deflection, or ill track you down and bash your fucking face in.

>Your girlfriend probably suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder
Yikes! One paragraph and you are able to make a prognosis! No wonder business is booming!

Any reputable therapist would have asked more questions (or any) to get a gauge on whether her behavior actually meets the DSM-5 definition of BPD.

>It's so serious you may want to reconsider the relationship.
Also immediately sows seeds of doubt in the relationship as a whole and recommends considering it's termination (again based on a fucking hack prognosis within two minutes of meeting a 'patient').

That's one way to cause ongoing hardship for someone and mop up their mess in many, many future appointments.

I'm a RMN. Horror stories are bread and butter. I've worked with a lot of psychologists. Recently the majority are posh public school educated girls who could afford the cost and time to train. They don't do anything that a decent RMN can do. The one bright point is they love a bit of rough. I'm a council estate kid. The psychologists have partners much like themselves, posh, middle class and geeky. When they hear your stories, experience real masculinity and see a real man, you're like a curiosity to them. You can hear them getting wet. I'm v ugly, my face mashed from rugby but to them I'm like a wounded warrior hero returning from a great quest. Believe me, of you got a psychologist as a partner she's either fucking someone she works with or thinks about them when having beige sex.

>prognosis!
Yikes indeed...

I'm not OP, but I think he's right. user will read about BPD and will let us know if his girlfriend fits the diagnosis (not prognosis, moron) and then we shall see.

user with a BPD woman, tell us what you think.

>Any reputable therapist would have asked more questions (or any) to get a gauge on whether her behavior actually meets the DSM-5 definition of BPD.
Let's pretend Yea Forums is just like a therapist's office, sure! But then you pay OP, faggot. OP is kind enough to give his time for free, what the fuck more do you want? This isn't an actual therapy session, fucknut, this is OP kindly giving his professional opinion for nothing. To ask him this question IRL, you'd have to pay 3 dollars, homo. Appreciate what you are given.

>Freud said women did not molest children.
And I made the case that this assertion or mind-pattern is still by and large shared by the vast majority of mankind to this day. You were then given examples of how this plays out in society.

Now, if our entire societal and judical systems play out in a manner based on the psychological dedillictions which match Freuds statements on this matter, then why are 'you' 'right' and the way reality works out on this matter wrong?

You have a very black and white two deminsional view on this topic and you seem completely incapable of lateral understanding or thinking. This makes me think you are very much on the the CBT-end of the 'therapist' spectrum. Who are like the day-labourers of the industry.

>You have serious cognitive problems, dude.
Kek, well if it's your 'professional' opinion....

Hello incel, nice larping. The only true part is that you're ugly. Now fuck off.

>And I made the case that this assertion or mind-pattern is still by and large shared by the vast majority of mankind to this day.
Yes, but it's an irrelevant point, it's another topic entirely.

And not a word about the fact that Freud's model of development is entirely sexualised. No surprises there.

You're just red-herring about a topic you brought about that has nothing to do with Freud.

Ok, believe what you will. Hit a nerve?

>And I made the case that this assertion or mind-pattern is still by and large shared by the vast majority of mankind to this day.
Actually, it's not. Most people know women are capable of molesting children. This user has some serious retardation going on.

How much stock do you put in the MMPI? The Rorschach test?

I like this post.

>in my civilised country
You have to be from UK based on how much of a cuck you seem to be. Which country are you from which is so civilised? (BTW a true marker for 'civilised' is not disparaging on other countries you deem 'less' civilised - I'm assuming you are trying to push your inferiority complex onto the US since you would probably face social ostracisation if you were referring to actual 3rd world countries like african or muslim nations as 'less civilisied') Which is ironic.

>My IQ is 158
>but I don't get your point. Enlighten me.
Kek

>we're highly educated and our psychologists are held to a very demanding standard
fucking lonely uni student with delusions of future grandeur

t. real man, not one of them homos!

I don't use the former and the latter is a projective test. At most, you can just measure whether someone responds "in the norm" or not. It's more useful to discover how a patient thinks and if he has any specific obsessions. I use it to fuel conversation and see if anything comes up, not to gather data or find a diagnostic.

>So, do you think mentally ill anons can help themselves?
Compared to being exposed to hacks like you... Ya

>imagine raging like that in someone else's thread
Wew, user, have some dignity.

>psychology is a scam
>American education

OP showing his true colors and samefagging like mad

u mad boi??

She does fit the bill though

Based OP is based.

Yeah, I mad.

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so when are you gonna kill yourself?

I'm the same. I wouldn't sacrifice anything for them tho without expecting anything in return. And I'm not very happy but I'm also very anxious. I thought psychopaths were calm?

Psychopaths virtually know two emotional states: boredom and fear. They are not typically calm people, but since they feel nothing most of the time, they appear "calm".

You probably never had a true friend in your life, and never loved anyone either. That doesn't necessarily make you a psychopath. You may also have been raised by asocial parents who had little to no friends.

>Yes, but it's an irrelevant point, it's another topic entirely.
It's not irrelevant, it's the whole point. If the vast majority of people agree with Frued, that women can not molest children, based on their ACTIONS - because they act out this belief in society (re the examples I provided) then this is the whole point.

Again, you continue to be very literal and spectrumy in your standpoint here. You took a class where you read that if a woman touches a child sexually then it's sexual molestation - 'duur that's the defintion....'.

But that is just some other asspies definition. An asspie from within the 'academy', the same academy which feeds all the BS that spews out of the gender-studies departments which weak-minded people are starting to take as facts, but I digress.

You can't escape the fact that if society plays out a reality which is more aligned to Frueds belief on this than your asspie academy definition then he is vindicated by more evidence than which you have been able to provide as a counter-argument (i.e 'none')

r u gay?

>Most people know women are capable of molesting children
Cite
Your
Sources

Because society by-and-large doesn't agree with you. Otherwise female teachers would do serious time for having sex with male students. At least to the severity and social stigma that male teachers who have sex with female students endure.

Your feeble minded intellect and lack of any tangible source or articulation to back up your arguments is really telling about your stature as a human.

Do you work the shaft?

If you needed a book to convince you that religion isn't mere superstition, you're an idiot. The fact that you "hope there is a God" only proves the point further.

Kek, imagine being so brutually ass blasted and wreck that all you can come up with is some sort of grasping at straws retort about dignity (of which you have none).

It's not raging to point out fallacies in your feeble minded world views and socially indoctrinated radical left wing leaning worthless education. Consider it a wake up call. At the very least now you know that you have zero real facts to back up the toothless assertions you try to impose on people.

>It's not irrelevant, it's the whole point.
The point was that Freud was wrong with his idea that sexuality was the fuel to development, motivation, and everything in humans.

>You took a class where you read that if a woman touches a child sexually then it's sexual molestation - 'duur that's the defintion....'.
I've had dozens of patients who were molested and raped by women. I didn't realise you actually believed the same as Freud and didn't know women could rape and molest. I stand corrected.

>But that is just some other asspies definition. An asspie from within the 'academy', the same academy which feeds all the BS that spews out of the gender-studies departments which weak-minded people are starting to take as facts, but I digress.
Showing your true colours now. You were never interested in discussing Freud's model of development, which is why you don't know it and never responded to me showing you evidence that it was heavily sexualised. You are a dishonest person and you have failed horribly in your childish attempt to sound smart.

You don't even seem to know what you're arguing for. Some (rare) people today still believe women can't be pedophiles, but that isn't because Freud believed that too: the error has the same origin, and it isn't Freud. I hope you are trolling, sincerely.

Recap: Freud thought babies sucked on breasts for sexual reasons, which was then used by the body to feed; this is easily countered by the fact that babies have other primordial reflexes that aren't sexual in nature at all (stepping, extending arms when dropped, grabbing whatever comes to their hands, and a few more, none of which are sexual).

In reality, nature uses breasts both for procreation and nutrition, two birds with one stone, as is often the case in biology.

See >in my civilised country

Have you ever met a woman (or anyone) who believes women never molest children? If so, where do you live?

This guy is getting upset.

is it scientifically possible to turn a girl into a willing sex slave. if so how?

Based on the ass blasting he has received in this thread he is probably trying to decide between pills or the curtain rope as we type.

The woman I love said she isn't ready to be with me but she misses me and wants to talk to me. She even said she misses cuddling. What's this mean famu?

t. edgy fedora

If you ever wondered why you can't get laid, look no further.

Willing is a tricky word. Not OP but my ex is or was a sex slave. After me of course. She says she doesn't like it but she stays there with him. Gets fucked in front of his other sex slaves. Won't listen to any advice from me.

Kek

This user is truly mentally ill. Nigga, YOU got assblasted by OP, with facts, evidence, and it's fucking obvious you don't know shit about Freud, for fuck's sake. You literally said babies sucking on tits was not considered "sexualised" by Freud, whereas anyone with 101 knowledge of Freud knows what his ideas were about that, you utter moron.

I don't get why OP keeps trying.

>a willing sex slave
Slaves aren't willing, so no, it's impossible.

Why am I so bitter

>ITT: retarded anons who think saying they're right means they are

Waste of a thread. I've seen your threads several times, OP, and I know you're excellent. Too bad you waste your time on morons instead of elaborating on posts that deserve more attention. Don't feed the trolls, as we used to say around here.

Godspeed, OP.

Not OP but it is possible life is just hard.

do you like being gay, or do you just do it for the chicks?

you know what I meant

Why is it so difficult for some of us to withdraw assistance from people that would benefit from being denied assistance?

>You probably never had a true friend in your life, and never loved anyone either.
This is true. But I don't like it. I also have an alcohol and drug problem.

I think OP left, shortly after realising the audience here included fools. Shame.

Next time, morons, don't show OP your true colours. He BTFO you good, for sure, and you don't have the balls to admit it, but anyone can see it. Quality OP, I saw her do it many times, never disappointed.

>when you get your ass beat by psychology OP

BASED

you may have answered yesterday, but i steeped away from my computer and the thread was dead when i got back.

i have two stalker, a couple, swingers. he stalks out of jealously, she stalks out of "love"

its been 3 years.

how do i make them stop?

planning on killing myself today over this.

>The point was that Freud was wrong with his idea that sexuality was the fuel to development, motivation, and everything in humans.
Backtracking.
I accept your gracious conceding of the point about Freud being correct on women can not be molestors - based on your complete inability to refute any of the points I have now repeatedly provided.

>I've had dozens of patients who were molested and raped by women.
Kek, do you advertise a specialty clinic for this specific trauma? Because statistically for you to have that many patients with that specific trauma in your location you must be in some sort of female-molesting-super-city-locus-point. Maybe you live in london or near some man-hating super-cult, but it's far more likely you are now desperately making up anecdotal evidence to back up your claims because you know that no real facts exist to do so.

I just don't want to be alone. I thought psychopats were very disagreeable. And I'm very dependent on other people.

>Some (rare) people today still believe women can't be pedophiles
I'm starting to think that you were probably raped by a woman, which is the only reason that makes sense at this point. Which is a shining reflection on the psychologist commercial industry in general - since who better to treat people than other victims with their unresolved pains and issues on the same topic. All my keks

Sounds like you missed out...

Hello OP, now you're not only using ancedotal evidence from your 'patients' to try and win your internet arguments (oh how ethical) but now you are samefagging to 'defend OP' to a level that no one of Yea Forums ever does.

Sorry I ruined your thread with the truth, boi

Are you me, user?

>Assblasted OP commiserating on his 'ruined' thread in another samefag attempt to save face.

Research a bit more before your next thread OP and maybe you will stand (even a slightly) better chance.

How do you know it’s the best one?

I'm you. But are you me???
Jokes aside. Tell me more about your problem. The shrink obviously left the thread.

My sides are in orbit.

I've never seen someone so assblasted before. OP, just go, this thread isn't yours anymore. It never was.

I'm very fucking paranoid, my father is too. I feel like people are out to get me or expose me. Or that the mafia is gonna kidnap me and rape me. I can't look at people with a smile on my face, but when they smile, I only look disappointed. They could've been my friend. I'm also very depressed and have trouble doing something productive and fun. People also tell me that I'm very introverted, I was only a month inside my house, didn't go out or contact anybody, but I had a very good hygiene. I took a shower everyday since I stocked up. But lately I've been hearing things, people talking and music from fucking nowhere. I also saw my sister behind me in the corner of my eye when I was brushing my teeth a few days ago. She just vanished, but I got scared.

>planning on killing myself today over this
Theme song to M.A.S.H

Cognitive dissonance

>Or that the mafia is gonna kidnap me and rape me
The mafia will always take an oppertunity to kidnap and rape you. But so long as it is a female-only-mafia you will never be raped, because females can't molest children (even if they kid-nap you).

Buy a gun.

>OP, just go, this thread isn't yours anymore.

Psychopath vs Sociopath: what's the difference, OP?

I hope those words help salve your blasted ass

Your fears are very real. One doesn't know where the line is. The ones close to you could betray you at any moment although they usually don't. The mob can target you at any time. Altho they usually don't. A simple spot on your belly can be a pimple or it can be cancer. You decide.

I don't see it as a problem as I'm feeling happy currently. Basically I used to be a fat vidya addicted faggot and used it for escapism from my surrounding. I took the steps to fix that in my late teens and now for a couple of years I feel like I've unlocked god mode but most people bore me, even the ones who I choose to get to know so I wonder why that is

What is the best and most harmless and yet quickest way to suicide? been in many different therapies and psychotherapist when I was a child. Now I am 25 and am 99% sure suicide is necessary. How you ask a anonymous psychologist recommend to take ones life ?

What about yourself?

>Copy: "Psychopath vs Sociopath: what's the difference"
> New Tab:
>Right-click in url 'Paste and go'
>Click on first few search results for detailed answer.

If you like ill-informed made up facts perhaps try quora. I'm sure OP has many posts begging for attention on other platforms than this. You could find his drivel elsewhere. Or read up on the subject from a more reputable source

>I'm not OP guise, I can't believe OP left
>OP comes back and posts 'problem posts / questions'
>OP then answers his own post to try and get his thread back on track

Nah uh uh, Asspie

Well, I think I can be helpful for once. I used to be what you are now and I fucked girls. People didn't interest me. I got really fat and I haven't fucked a girl in 5 years. Now people interest me more. I think it's based on fear.

I know the difference already. Just testing to see if the OP knows. If he doesn't know, then I'll call the op out. Simple as that!

OP could probably cut you in on his own exit plan. He is definitely knowledgable on this topic. But since OP also asked this question so he can answer it in another post, I suppose you already know this.

How do I get closer to my crush? We're getting closer, but he's always busy.

kek. think what you want faggot

>Assuming OP wouldn't just copy paste as well

I guess you got him!

I once thought I had hemorrhoids and that I was about to die. That was a year ago. I was really scared. I thought I was really gonna die. But it turned out that it wasn't hemorrhoids lmao. That's one time where my paranoia acted out of control. I wish that it never happens again.

Oh OP, stop samefagging

Can't you go larp in your journal? Surely you could spend some time in introspection trying to figure out why you are so desperate for attention that you pretend to be a psychologist online in an annoymous sushi trading forum

>hemorrhoids
OP has hemorrhoids from his childhood rape
the woman wore a dildo

I get you. I routinely think I have cancer. I've had fears about the mob. I've had fears of my family. I worry about my liver because I drink heavily. I worry about my brain because I've taken some heavy drugs and the EEG shows changes in brain structure.I worry that I'm gonna die alone. I worry that I'll get tortured and they wont let me die for another 50 years. Only torture. I worry that I won't die alobe but the people around me will blame me for tyheir misfortune.
I worry that I won't leave an offspring. I worry I will but he will hate me. I worry I will but I would hate him. I worry about my future wife. I worry I won't get a wife. I worry no one will remember me. I worry everyone will remember me badly.

Why do that to yourself? Clearly you have the willpower to not be a degenerate amerifat. And what's with the 5 years? Did you go to hogwarts?

Why can't I grow the balls to leave an unhappy relationship and why can't I let go of the feelings I felt for her before she changed

why cant i stop posting nude pics of my best friend sister

youtube.com/watch?v=LanCLS_hIo4

Not OP but I'm in the same boat, user. I changed though and not her, and I changed for the best and feel like I'm being held back by her, can't get myself to go through all the fucking trouble of a breakup though, and regular non tryhard sex is nice

I just don't know man. I was always ugly but atleast I put in the effort. Now I have no faith myself. I guess I just did it to prove something. Now I don't care anymore. I still want a relationship but I don't any of the responseabilties. I just want the girl to love me and ask nothing in return. Sadly I'm not hot enough.

I think i'm still not able to end things because to me it feels as if being is my comfort no matter how sad I feel on a day to day basis, we both went through some trauma together and it's completely ruined the dynamic of our relationship, she had an abortion, and although I love her to death (no pun intended) and i'd do anything for her, she's become very bitter and resentful after going through it for roughly 3 months - despite it being her decision and not forced on her. I just can't see us ever being as happy as we were and it feels like moving on would be easier than sticking things out, although sticking things out is what I want to do for her

>put yourself out there
>don't look for anything serious from the get go
>go to places where girls think the same

if you find someone interesting that way, happens, great, worst case scenario you just have sex with her

I can't have sex with random girls. I can't get it up unless I know she's in my control.

No girl will never ask for nothing in return you Ape - a relationship has to be beneficial for both parties and for that benefit you will be expected to put in some effort and give back. Hit the gym you troglodyte and stop bathing in your own self pity

I can understand that. At some point though it either has to get better or some shit's going to happen that will fuck one of you (or both) up. Depending on how young you are you might also be missing out on someone better as well. My 2 cents anyway, easy to speak from my perspective and I can't take my own advice in this case

Good luck, user

Well, fuck women then. I won't(pun intended).

Then take control over her, you're the one with the dick I assume. Also alcohol, or lack thereof sometimes can affect that shit

how do you unwind.
leave the problems people tell you behind in your freetime.

Thanks man, I'm 18 she's 20, uni coming in a month, living 3 hours apart, it's hard to imagine it lasting and getting better - although that's what i want to happen, it hurts that it grows more unlikely with each argument, best of luck in your case too, always put yourself first and NEVER feel guilty for doing so - it's cringe but we do only have one life and we can't waste it for someone else that doesn't make you enjoy the short time you have existing

My dick is disfigured. I need a lot of effort to dom women. And I'm lazy as fuck.

based

also
>18
>uni
>new contacts
>allthateasypussy.jpg

i want to fuck my step mom and i like to suck womens vibrator whats wrong with me?

fuck off aspie, OP

go learn about Freud

Why does Yea Forums love bbc?

Nothing, you are a perfectly normal hormonally controlled young man. Many little boys want to fuck their mothers, the fact yours is a step mom means you actually could fuck her and not ruin a parental relationship. Let's face it, she liked your dad enough to take his old dick inside her, why wouldn't she want the younger, fitter, new and improved youthful stamina version of your old man cumming buckets inside her?

All you need to do is get playful and affectionate with her when dad is out of the house. Offer to do nice things for her for a week or so in the lead up to the first attempt. Carry groceries inside, do some chores, crack some jokes, maybe a shoulder massage if you can pull that off without your boner digging into her back.

Then when she is liking you, get playful when dad is out and smash that pussy.

why do people overthink?