Aight Yea Forums I feel like I should put this here and see what you think...

Aight Yea Forums I feel like I should put this here and see what you think. It's a long story that I will cont in replies if needed, so if you want to help a fellow user then stick around.

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I was with this girl for 4 years in a relationship. The first 2 were great, the 3rd was meh and the 4th had this "settled down" vibe to it. Felt like we were an old married couple. People were envious of our relationship, or at least how it seemed.

The sex was very frequent in the beginning, almost every day, if we skipped a day, we'd hump like rabbits the next one. It started to fade away tho, it turned to being dry for 2 months, and then getting some, then 2 months etc.

I was very skinny, so I thought maybe that was the problem, my BMI was horrible, 195cm tall with 55kg, looked like one of those skeletons in biology class. But nope, that was not it, she just drafted away emotionally from me because we started literally acting like friends to each other, and not lovers.

It was december 2018, we moved to a foreign country for uni (same uni). We met new people, hung out with them, spent time together mostly when doing paperwork around the city, or if we're home. But even when we were just home, one of us was doing college work and we didn't spend quality time together.

One day, she tells me she's going to a study group, I'm like fine no problem, just don't stay too late and please let me know if everything is fine from time to time. She's like ok. Comes back at around 11 PM, she smells different and doesn't tell me about her day. This was immediately suspicious because she ALWAYS tells about her day in DETAIL. She just didn't this time.

The day after I take her phone and her face changes colors and expression, I find the conversation with this dude that was long as fuck. I look at her, ask her: "If I start reading this, will my guts turn at one point", and she just mumbles crying "yes".

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So I sit down and read, and read. Endless conversation that can be compared to those beta kid conversations some of us had with our crushes in middle school. But at one point, after the little date they had watching a movie at his place, there was a message around the time she was already home that went along the lines of: "What if I stick my dick in your mouth".

Alright, that was gut wrenching, but what was even worse is she responded in a positive way, something about her scratching his chest.

I left the phone there, in tears, because everything crumbled at that point. And she breaks up with me in a pussy way of "let's have a break".

Agony ensues, I sleep in the same bed with this girl and there's nowhere to go.

The following months were a disaster for both of us, we had to cope with this breakup, it wasn't easy for either of us, mostly because we slept together in the same bed and lived together still.

It was on and off. First it was shit for me because she'd go to this guys place one more time, suck his dick, and then he went limp when he had to fuck her, she never met with him since (don't ask how I know this).

Then it was shit for her for a whiiiile, because I started gym and eating, gotten my BMI to normal (went from 55kg to 74kg in 4 months). I mean, I was hot as fuck at that point not gonna lie. Then I found a girlfriend in our home city and she was jealous as fuck, but she found a boyfriend which was my friend at the time. But it was a rebound for her and it didn't end well.

Then, I was just horny as fuck at one point, I guess we both were, and while she was still with that friend of mine in relationship, she comes to my room and sits down on my bed and we talk.

At one point, she lies down on me to hug me, and stay there on her phone afterwards. I was horny as fuck yo.. I grab her ass and she's like hey no doing that while you have a girlfriend.

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i feel ya
still 4 years with someone is much more than most of poeple here will ever have ...

also
>suck his dick, and then he went limp when he had to fuck her, she never met with him since (don't ask how I know this).
how you know ?

And I'm like... I don't. Then she tells me but I have a boyfriend, but I brush it off and start making out while I touch her all over, and she then says "now I'm officially a cheater", nothing happens cuz I had no condoms around, but she blew me while I fingered her (her favorite position for oral). She came, I came, she went to her room to sleep.

So basically I cucked my friend for the next 10 days, and she breaks up with him after his birthday. The following 2 months were us having sex and her having emotional breakdowns cuz she loves me but doesnt know if she wants to ask me to get back together.

She does eventually ask me, around 20 days ago, before I was supposed to go to our home city for vacation, but I tell her "let's wait a bit more".

Now, I came back from the vacation but she's gone for 1 month. And I started having feels for her. I "smothered" her with my feelings for a couple days, she kept repeating: "we'll talk everything through when I get back and see if we want it, until then, you're single, use the time while I'm not there". At one point I still pushed talking on the phone, and she just tells me "please stop sending me those emotional messages, it's awkward when I'm with friends and then I feel like an asshole for not responding". I'm like okay I won't. Then she starts comforting me in a sweet way saying to get my mood back up and that we'll see each other soon. I never heard of her since that call, didn''t message her, she didn't message me, it was around 6 days ago I think. I'll keep it up like that until she comes. I have a girl I'm going out with smoking weed and possibly gonna nail her eventually, so I can get my mind off it.

What do you think Yea Forums, what should I do? Should I give her another chance with extreme ultimatums regarding cheating and/or falling out of love again?

I mentioned how she talks about everything in little detail. Well, this was her way of coping with a breakup, having an emotional high ground on me, telling me about all this shit.

Dude. You are a cuck and sound super needy. 1/10

as a alltime beta i dont feel comfortable enough to give you advice, but i would go with one more chance
but i am always giving my friends "one more" chance and end up being sad, lonely and pissed

good luck bro (sending some user love)

also coz of UPC modem i presume you are from EU ... if you ever find yourself in middle europe we can share user joint and diss her :)

Yeah living in Vienna right now, hmu if you're around here

Sounds like she just wanted to see if she could still "get you" and now that she knows she can is uninterested again. Use her for sex but that's about it.

Yeah was thinking the same thing, I'll just keep the contact cut until she gets here and have a way around it. Impossible to "just have sex" with her, she gets clingy and then the sex stops if you're not giving proper attention

Talk with her user, if you want to go back with her the most important thing is talking. Why did she cheated on you? What was she lacking that she looked for another man?

If she cheated you once she'll probably do it again. Make sure you at least know the reason and that she promise not to do it again and that she would talk to you the next time she feels unpleased. If even after this she does it again its over forever.

A relationship requires constant dedication, don't ever take something for granted. People change with time even if its just a bit. A long term relationship is establishing a routine that you both are comfortable with.

And if you see that she just wants you for sex like user said, then just fuck her till you don't want more and then dump her, she's a hoe.

She lacked affection, dates, someone to listen to her when she has problems (I'm a problem solver so I'd instantly interrupt her emotional speech about a problem to give her a solution). We basically became just friends, so she needed something more, and found it in someone else. Don't blame her there. I blame her for lying and cheating. Yeah I'll in-depth talk everything through with her when she gets back

Ok, good luck with that user, whatever comes out sometimes is for the best.

Ok user, I'm not saying I know what you've been through exactly or that I'm a relationship guru but I'll share my thoughts here.

I think you're unsure and scared of the consequences that'll come from whether you act one way or another.

I've had friends like this in similar situations and they postpone the big decision for as long as possible because, in theory, you should be able to keep the options flexible. But the thing is, not making a decision will just cause agony and might make things worse because your decisions have no hard backing.

So, you should just make a hard decision. Whether you stay with her or dump her is something you know best as you know best on how you feel with her, how you think about each other, and how much of her you can handle etc.. Whatever decision you make, you've got to be firm with it, no matter how you feel or what she says.

Sorry I couldn't fully answer your question and just went on this rant but tl;dr, make sure you set up clear decisions and not wishy washy shit you can change in the future just because you feel like it.

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Be always present of how the both of you want that relationship to go.
And Yeah, just do it, talking too much time will only make things worse.

And if everything fails come back here and post her nudes. That fucking butt looks great.

I'm aware of this, if she feels stuff for me and still finds me attractive, I'll go for it, if the relationship feels wrong later on, I'll end it.

Of course. The only problem I have right now is anxiety, since we're not talking and shit. I have to go through 1 more month of this. But I have stuff to pass the time, like this other girl I'm seeing, gym, and a dude that I call my best friend in this city

pic related, like her tits?

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you've gotta do what you think is best for you

Maybe stay single and nail all of the chicks you want? Maybe your ex/half girlfriend/whatever is really great to be with and you wanna be with her... then you need to take in to consideration what she wants as well. Does she wanna be with you again? Does she want something casual? Is she going to leave for someone else?

There are a lot of things to consider here dude. Look in to your heart and you'll know what you're supposed to do. But remember! Always have a plan B just as a precautionary measure. Anything can happen.

good luck dude

Cheers man appreciated, I'm still trying hard to get plan B's and C's, but my game is off after 4 years of this, but I can't say I'm not trying in the end

Very nice

You have a deal, in one month from now, if everything fails, I'll post all that I have

I feel as im about to enter that area, but with other way around. I srsly dont know how to proceed. Been together 4+ yrs. Live together. In beginning she was gorgeous but now she has put on weight. Dno call me shallow but all the sexual desire has faded. I love her the most but i truly crave for some action. Im not a guy who can get any woman i want so i might sometimes feel like im trapped or i cant get anything better anyway. But the thing is i love her with all my heart and want this to work. Im just afraid that if at one point opportunity presents, what will i do. We havent had sex for multiple months now and at one point i drunkenly said i dont desire her cos she fat. Dno just felt id share. Mby u can find something or anything.

Godspeed user, no matter what happens at least cum in that tight pussy

Don't make my mistake and pull the same thing like my ex did that I just talked about.

Sit down with her and put your cards on the table, tell her to put hers if she has anything that she's hiding because she is scared to tell you.

Do not drain your energy for no reason. You ARE a guy that can get any woman he wants, it just takes effort and a specific approach. Do not underestimate yourself, ever, unless you are like Steven Hawking was, then you're doomed.

You have needs, and if she doesn't fulfill them, then you need to step out of your comfort zone, end it, enjoy life as a single person, improve yourself further with hobbies, looks, friends, events etc, you'll find someone else you like.

Those are my 2 cents

Ha, she was once on BC, it was amazing cumming inside holy shit, but then she stopped and demanded condoms, aight, better than nothing. Just before I left I fucked her without a condom using the pullout method, her period was 15 days late she was scared af

no, you shouldn't decide based on what she does.

she's going to act in her own self interest.

What i meant was think of it for yourself or if you really need help, get a non-biased judge to discuss

I do want her. I want to fuck her, cuddle her, hug her, go out on dates and shit with her, all those things ya know, but I need to know if she wants it the same way like I do. If yeah I'll probably go for it

Don’t do it user

why not?

This is gay ass fan fic and we don't believe you.

Don't ever do the pull out user, it's not worth the risk, condoms all the way.

>What do you think Yea Forums, what should I do?
Shut the fuck up.

And yes doing it raw feels incredible I know, but not worth it is she's not on bc

lmao, how does one make this shit up. idk how to prove it.

it sounds like both of you find the wrong things important. when you look for someone to be with you're supposed to look for someone stable and mature who is capable of real love. love and sex aren't mutually exclusive. you have to know the person you're with will stay loyal to you even if sex becomes impossible, so she has to be modest and certain of what she wants. this girl isn't stable, nor mature. she puts good experiences before serious responsibilities, and it sounds like she's not got a real plan for her life - she's like a badly behaved child.

dump her. find a mature woman who will take you seriously.

This is why you never let a chick move in with you until you're married

good point, I like this. We got together when she was 16 and I was 18, now she's 22 and I'm 24. I'll take everything in consideration before I make the decision

I didn't "let her move in". We rented the apartment together in another country so we can split the bills and study

Very nice. Post more of her my nigger.
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>now. I'm officially a cheater
She cheated on you before so..

I don't have any more non-nudes, don't want to share those yet, but I'll deliver if it doesn't work out

>she cheated on you before so..

That's the hilarious part about it, according to her words, they just watched the movie and nothing else. But I see it as Schrodingers cheating, I will never know what happened that night, so I call it cheating anyway, if not physical, then it's emotional. But same shit in the end

Emotional cheating is worse anyway

moar I wanna nut to her

Idk, yes to some extent. But myself, I'd "forgive" emotional cheating more than I could ever "forgive" sexual. But that's just me

i think this may be the last non nude that I have

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Love her big ass. I bet dicking her down doggy style is awesome

Yeah it was. I don't have big girth, so what I loved to do was make her lie flat on her back and squeeze her ass to tighten it up even more, super good

on her stomach* lol

God I love doing that to my girl

God I want to fuck that

Thanks I guess hahah

No second chances,she will outplay you again once she's done with fucking.
Keep your dick in her and thats all.

>cheated on you
>cheats on bf with you
There is a pattern. Cheaters gunna cheat. Change your locks before she gets back.

Just have an open relationship, fuckwad. You clearly have deep feelings for one another, but you are no longer interesting enough, sexually, to hold her entire interest. That’s human. It happens to guys all the time. Most of them just cheat and lie. Just let her fuck whoever she wants, and you fuck whoever you want, and maybe fuck some people together as a team, and have a lot of fun and learned a lot of life lessons, and stop being a needy bitch.

You are only afraid of her fucking other people because of your own insecurities. Deal with yourself and stop limiting the way other people want to live their lives. Love and relationships and sex are about ownership, they are about mutual experience.

*are NOT about ownership

no sugarcoating hurts, but I appreciate it. We'll see what happens

Trust me. The honesty and trust that the two of you will build in the context of an open relationship will be more powerful than anything you felt in a relationship before. One day, you will suddenly realize that your jealousy and insecurity are gone, and you’ll feel like an enormous weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. My girlfriend and I have basically fucked most of our common female friends, and I’ve watched her get railed by a number of dudes, but we still love each other deeply and we consider it a fun hobby, and neither of us are ever sexually frustrated. Also, my girlfriend is way hotter than me, and I could never score the kind of chicks on my own that she brings home to us. She uses condoms for safety, And because it’s allowed, there’s no incentive to lie, so we are just completely open and honest with one another which is in and of itself basically a super power.

Listen fam, everyones gonna tell you the same shit "break up wit her/cut contact" but because of your pussy emotions, you're not gonna do that, you'll continue to talk to her and eventually get back together cuz your retarded.

my advice is, find a side piece to fuck when you're back together, you'll feel better. cuz deep down, you wanna hurt this bitch, i know you do.

or break up wit her and cut contact

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Maybe have an open relationship? Loyal partner and all the sex you want. Win-win.

And think of it like this way… What other guys are going to be willing to give her this lifestyle? If she ever wants to leave you, 99% of other guys are going to want her to go back to monogamy, and once she’s used to this, you’re going to be the only good guy around that can give it to her

dunno about any of that though. ill either call it quits or give it a monoganous chance. i dont think im capable of having an open relationship

i think that is inevitably gonna happen, i can post a pic of the girl that might be the side chick

Why? Because you feel incapable of dealing with your own jealousy and insecurity? Or because you feel like owning your partner is somehow the natural way?

Statistically, 70% of people cheat on their partners, most people just lie about it. Good luck.

This is some complex shit

I'm not emotionally strong enough to love someone and know that they came to my bed after they just fucked someone before they got home. Shit like that makes me want to puke. It's definitely connected to jealousy and insecurity. "There is time and place for everything, but not now"

Get away from her immediately.

I've been married over 20 years and we still enjoy each other every day and fuck like rabbits with zero drama......let it go man, she is not the one.

Can't get away for another 2-3 months. Still gotta share the flat and all this crap I am dragging with me. Need 3 paychecks to be able to move out because of initial down payment of 3 rents in advance, and the first rent.

post nudes

Yeah post nudes.

Understood, but whatever you do, get away from her.

I've been in almost this exact relationship and I'll tell you what you need to do: leave, cut off all contact and move on with your life solo for awhile. Her shit is toxic, you will keep repeating the same cycle but you will never trust her ever again and you will always resent her. Trust me Yea Forumsro, cut her out of your life, zero contact.

Women are less concerned about physical appearance. You probably failed to give her something emotionally at some point.

That's when they cheat.

Women cheat because women are trash. Stop putting logic to illogical situations because they always have some horse shit excuse for why they do it when the truth is they do it because they can’t fucking help being fucking retarded.

Yes, I failed to give emotional support in many things. We were friends, not lovers. And I never listened to her problems, I always provided solutions, and that was frustrating her