How can you tell if a girl is flirting with you?
I have no idea how girls work, and I'm talking to this one woman who seems kind of into me, but I can't tell if I'm in the friendzone or if she's actually interested. I really want this to work out, but I don't know how to keep it going in the right direction. What do, Yea Forumsros?
Is she giggly around you? Does she go out of her way to talk to you, or hang out with you?
Drop that nervous shit you've got going, you're sounding like a faggot. You probably won't know if she's flirting with you or not, it's just how girls are, but try to stay cool and act normally around her. If she makes an advance at you, you make one at her, go back and forth and there you have it. Easy
She's not the giggly type, but she does keep eyecontact for long periods of time, and she laughs at my jokes. I know that isn't enough to know for sure, but from what I've seen she isn't like that around other guys. I don't know for sure though.
What if I just think she is making an advance when, really, she isn't, and I make an advance at her which weirds her out? My autistic brain can't tell the difference.
That response was just "lol do it"
Yeah, not very helpful.
But that's all you can do though, otherwise you'll just be sitting in a corner fidgeting with your shirt sleeves for three hours while trying to muster up the courage to ask her for a coffee date
This is a classic, girls are terrible. Some of them will be up front with you, others will hint at you like crazy. Before me and my girlfriend got together (lesbians) she sent me a video for my birthday of her dancing with a body-pillow that had a sign that said "You" taped over it. In front of a fucking rainbow flag. My dumbass just went "Aw thanks, that's so nice of you" until two months later when I realised she was into me. All this time she had been waiting for me to make a move first. Girls are dumb, boys are dumb, point is she may or may not be flirting with you, but if you don't take the first step she might lose interest in you.
Wow thats quite a story. If she was this obvious with me I would have no doubts, but i guess she's one of the hinting types.
way too little info
unfortunately for you you (through no fault of your own) learning how to pick up on tells and tricks girls use to flirt is going to be a long arduous learning process. The real trick is being someone worthy of dating; at that juncture your confidence will be self sustaining and that will create a positive feedback loop that attracts to you the women you want. Don't stress about this girl it might not work out, but worry about what you have to work with and make sure you have enough to back up you claims of who you are and what you can do. Without that you'll never be worth dating.
Especially don't do it for the pussy
post video
Obligatory tits or gtfo
laughing at your jokes is just a sign she COULD be into you
it's so hard to find a balance though. On one end, I want to be confident, reliable, forward and socially dominant, on the other hand i don'tt want to come off as a creep or "too pushy". I'm just nervous, then I get nervous about getting nervous aaand now I'm venting about it here in a desperate attempt to learn something. I'm really not doing it for the pussy, although it would be nice to get laid eventually. Thanks for being so understanding, user.
I know, it's no promise at all and part of me doesn't want to get my hopes up.
Alright give me a minute
Part of it
If she gives you a handful of spiders you're on the right track
I know it's going to sound cliche but seriously, pick up a hobby, not something to kill time, but something you love doing, something that makes you speak with passion, something that makes people look at you when you talk because you know what you're talking about. There is no greater pussy magnet than the power to inspire others.
And again this isn't going to be your trick to "get the girl" mentioned in the OP
but you will get a girl worthy of who you are
This is honestly one of the best pieces of advice I have ever heard. Thank you, I completely get it. I've been wanting to get into some hobby, I feel like I am dedicated enough to actually get good at one, I guess what has been holding me back has been the fact that most people who are good at something start out early, when they're kids, and I didn't really have any hobbies as a kid either. Do you know anything that could be fun to get into? Preferably something creative.
Casually touch her arm/elbow/shoulder...not sex pest kind just a brush if she leans in to it shes into you if she pulls away I've got bad news for you son
That's for you to decide, but for me it's History/psychology/D&D, I just look up literature and learn stuff for fun. Keep in mind my GF doesn't know anything major in these areas but like I said she loves listening to me speak on these things and she asks me for all kinds of advice on how to deal with customers and family.
My only advice on this part would be to have no expectations. I cannot stress that enough.
Drop the whole "is she into me? am I doing the right things? I'm scared to do the wrong thing" shit, right now. Go into it thinking she is into you and that you are going to get with her. Confidence is key. Know how a skinny manlet like me gets with constant 10s? Confidence in myself that I can do anyfucking thing. Ask her on a date to the movies, it's good because you won't be forced to make small talk and you will have something to talk about with her for a while, and it will gives you guys a thing she won't have with other people. Do the "yawn-arm-stretch" thing, but do it very obviously so it's funny and cute. Bitches eat funny and cute up. At the end of the date when you two are parting, listen to the tone of her voice and look at where her eyes are looking. If she's looking at your lips then she wants to kiss. Don't kiss unless you're getting the signals. Whether the date seemed like it went well or not, tell her you'd like to go on another sometime. Do Not Ask. Second date, have it be to a food place and say "Hey I was gonna go get some food, do you wanna come with?" Shows she's not the priority of the date, that you'd be letting her tag along. Big dick energy move. You're on your own from there, Godspeed user you beta, don't ruin it
for me it is bikes, all kind of them. there is an athletic but also a mechanic side to it. perfect if you are a little nerdy, as you prectice this sport alone. as for creativity id go with music and painting, maybe also cameras and video editing (im not the user you was talking to, just trying to give some tips)
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it doesn't hurt to do things with your friends either, especially in a coed environment, you'll get a better feel for what kind of humor/language/actions girls enjoy
confidence for the sake of confidence = spaghetti
It's all about slowly (or fast, that depends) escalating. Fist: you gotta talk to her. Make that a regular thing. Go to her and chat her up. Talk about weird shit you saw on the street,about weird coworkers, about weird stuff you saw on netflix. It does not matter what, all that does matter is it is that it is stuff that feels new to her. Stuff she would not see by herself.
Then see how she reacts. If she soaks it in, you made the first step, if she seems bored or weirded out she's not into you.
After that: get physical. Start harmless, remove some imaginary fluff from her shoulders. Lightly slap her her back when she was funny. Hug her from the side when she said something nice. All just very friendly and unassuming but let her get used to you touching her.
When you have reached that point it is important to escalate quickly. This is the moment when you could slip into friendzone. Take her to a new setting. Something you guys have not done before. Maybe a BBQ with friends, maybe Karaoke singing.no matter what, it needs to look like friends doing something nice together, no matter what you do, don't make it look like a date.
And when she comes with you, escalate further, laugh with her, touch her casually and then talk about some deeper things, share some experiences, something deep. It's important here that you don't stay in the negative. If you or she shares something bad, painful make sure you point out how that helped you/her grow. End on a positive note/mindset. Touch her while you talk, in a non sexual comforting/reassuring way. And then tell her how you enjoy talking to her, how you feel that you can trust her. Look in her eyes and go in for the kiss.
I have done this routine countless times, always works. Sometimes it takes me weeks to go through all the steps sometimes I can do it in one evening. Depends. But I always get the girl/boy in the end. (yes I am bisexual).
Picking up girls was my hobby.
Play League Of Legends, get good, once you are a high rank, e girls come flocking to you. Im in Gold right now going for plat, one of my friends loves to hear me talk about it even though she doesnt play much. Nevertheless we have fucked A LOT so there is that lol
Keep telling yourself that slugger
that's a great hobby to have if you want to get laid nerd
I don't have to, I'm not a beta male trying to chad it up for the sake of pussy
Yeah alright, I guess I have to keep them at a low. It's hard when you're overwhelmed with this new-crush-excitement though. I'll try to think of something.
I'll keep that in mind, thank you, chadlet.
>Don't kiss unless you're getting the signals.
Are there any other signals I should be aware of
I heard girls love guys who can draw and shit, maybe I'll get into that. I used to paint as a kid, but I never did it consistently enough to improve.
Her and I have a few mutual friends, would it be a good idea to suggest hanging out as a group just to get a little closer to her without it being too much pressure on her?
She responds well when we find something we both dislike, she loves ranting about politics, women, society etc. Thank you for all the advice.
I'm not interested in e-girls
I don't see how you would want to insult me, and then even with the most 80s insult ever. You know that nerd are cool now. Also that even picking up girls got totally needed up. Pick up artistry iss a nerd thing.
So to all you said I reply with a sound: yes!
we're so proud of you son
I miss the era where all you had to do was hit a chick in the head with a club then hit her guts with your meat club. Flintstones had it easy af
wow, just rub your happy life in our faces why don't you?
>good for you, mang
Yes. Suggesting something together with friends is the best. Hang out with her without making it feel like a date. All the best guys I saw picking up girls always said the same thing that is also my credo: I don't date. I just don't do dates. I spend time with the girl/boy. I find stuff to do together, I never date.
just hang out with your friends, doing it just to hang with her will be pressure subconsciously. But getting to hang out with her would give you a better idea of how she is outside work so I'm not discounting it but just hang out with your friends, and when she gets close to ya you can flat out admit you're crushing on her, but if you're afraid of her response you're in it for you, not for her
oh my god you're a fag, it was a joke
I'm sure you'll get a pastel gf too one day, user
Look nigger you know she’s into you alls you have to do is invite her out to do something like go to a concert or watever then whilst you have her in your car take her to a secluded area and then rape/behead her do it faggot you know you wanna do it you little freak go ahead do it
Also. Never listen to lesbians for advice. They are not helpful. It feels like they are but they aren't. Don't ever forget lesbians are not into girls, lesbians are into drama.
As well as gays are not into boys, they are into easy Sex.
I asked a DJ at a nightclub why all the girls were into him and he shrugged and said he guessed it was something he was born with. I died inside.
Well meeting girls on the internet is literally the evolution of our species mating ritual. "E-girl" in the sense im reffering to our biological girls that will worship you as a god if you get high rank in League Of Legends, here is the math: girls like a guy who is confident and skilled, you get Gold or higher rank=means your better than the majority of players in the world. Its the number 1 played computer game globally with over several million active players. So if you get good enough then you have a desirable skill in nearly every country on the planet. This means you can use this to get a girl wherever you want.
Another insult. Yes I am also a fag. Feel good now? You feel empowered?
Thanks dad!
u stoopid
Don't ever flat out admit you're crushing on her. Show her, try to kiss her, whatever. But never tell her.
too easy
Ah you must be Iron 4
Get a hobby man. I feel bad for you.
>Inb4 he says his hobby is trolling or roasting you
You can tell her only after you guys kissed.
yeah but I won so I don't feel bad at all
>Way distant future
>Humanity developed so far, they entered the fourth dimension: time
>being able to interfere with our timeline
>humanity essentially created itself by going so far back, they helped primates to evolve
>these future-humans are seen as something as gods in ancient times
>today, when we hear about alien sightings and ufo landings, we just see future-humans and time-machines.
>One day, Humanity will become an extra-dimensional-being
Alright then. Enjoy.
NO I'M PLATINUM NIGGUH EEK EEK OOK OOK
same fag
OP still there?
I prevented him from taking the obvious path to trolling you again.
at this rate I think he's good
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Platinum in a trash region so it doesn't count
Yeah I got it later. Cheers
Im the one that green texted. Whem he said "get a hobby" i replied before the troll because I anticipated him saying, "i do have a hobby, its trolling/roasting you" so I said "inb4 he says that" so op didnt get blasted
but it's still platinum
Thanks. In the end its all about empathy. But I tried to show a path to express said empathy.
Nah it doesnt work like that. Plat in a dogshit region is like Silver in a major region. Sorry bud
but it's still platinum
>shiny silver actually
but it's still platinum
It's a feedback process of presenting each other with ambiguous signals that provide a choice of interpretation and seeing which path the interaction follows.
If you both tend to take the path towards escalation, more intimacy, more contact, more lewdness, etc. you're probably into each other.
All that shit about "chemistry" and "being on the same wavelength" and "smoothness" is because each time one of these forks in the road has appeared, the path taken is the one you've both wanted and that each escalation is well within your level of comfort with each other.
VERY LITTLE OF THIS IS OBVIOUS OR EXPLICIT. In socially well-adjusted people, this interplay is almost entirely automatic and subconscious.
I think this nigga's mad you got platinum dog
It's subtle, but I think she may have been trying to tell you something.
Goodness. You are absolutely correct. But why do you sound so autistic explaining it?
Are you one of those you needed to learn it?
Is OP died?
I'd just ask "are you flirting with me?", what could go wrong really.
I'm not sure, maybe she put in some subliminal messages in the video. Girls are so mysterious.
Yeah I guess that's what I've been trying to do up until now, but it's always so vague with that method.
Got it
Sorry, I had to take care of some things
Everything. Do you even people?
You don't just point out the obvious. That drives people away.
This helped a lot, thank you!
I don't know, it would be so weird if she isn't ready to take that step yet. I feel like that would blow it
Have you seen this:
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Yeah I replied to that as well. It was great
Also a nice creedo to have: it's better to try something and apologise if you were wrong than never try.
I am obviously not talking about sexual harrasment or rape. But smaller more innocent steps in escalation. Just do them and apologise if you miscalculated. But it's important to try.
Yeah I made an effort writing that stuff. Was also nice to see a woman backing me up.
I just wanted to see if you heed my advice.
It's basically the same thing user said here:
I just wanted to express it in a way that feels easy to follow.
Yeah, I guess I'm just scared of rejection
I appreciate that a lot, thanks user
This theory sadly makes more sense than the flat-earth theory
ask her if she would like to go out sometime.
if she says no, then she is now in the "one word response" zone.
if she says yes, then you go out somewhere free insanely cheap on your first date.
if you get a second date, there's a good chance you're going to fuck, people don't really wait that long to have sex anymore these days.
We all are, and we admire the people that go for it nonetheless. That's why you gotta be that guy who goes for it. Don't rush in like a madman. Slow escalation as I explained. Not to rushed, stay within your and her comfort zone, but keep escalating. That is gonna make you attractive. Just having the balls.
This is the worst advice on this shit I've ever seen.
anything that revolves around you building something
You're in the friendzone if you have to ask. If she was interested she would suggest ways to hang out with you where fucking could happen. That's if you're too retarded to make a move or suggest something in the first place (which you are).
Say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?"
If you think she made an advance, reciprocate lightly the first time or two, then if she keeps it up you're in the clear.
If she gets annoyed, just say mb
Could be. But not necessarily. She might just be shy/awkward.
Nope. Never do dates please.
>be me
>be a femanon
>try to the best i can be by being nice to everyone
tfw i have now 50 orbiters and pathetic men making threads about it.
>fuck being nice
Psychologically you make people fall in love by asking them for favours. By doing favours for them you make sure to land in the friend zone.
No one's making threads about you you fat ho. What girl who finds herself here would ever be crushed on