>25yo
> havent had any friends or gf for the last 10yrs
> cant make friends because im silent & boring af and have have nothing interesting to say & I feel like people just simply dont like me
> how do i comeback?
I am taking surfing lessons and trying to lose weight even though i am not that fat & going to psychologist in a few days,. I just want a normal life, wtf should I do? I dont want to die alone...
Should I end it with a helium mask?
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Smoke weed.
you're 25, not 45. you have plenty of time to turn shit around. join some local clubs and involve yourself in activities with other people. if you're quiet and people notice, just say that you're shy - this will elicit sympathy.
you can do it, user. don't give up!!!!!
become chad
I do it whenever offered and also I join anything someone ever invites me to which is kinda rare since as I said im silent and boring
I am trying but even when I join these things I feel like it will end up the same since I'm, the quiet retard who doesnt say anything...
But thanks dude, I love u..
How lol, I want to not give a fuck but since I dont talk much it kills my confidence
go get a job as a service Adviser.
My advice is listen to podcasts of some buddies with good chemistry. Smodcast straight up taught me how to banter.
God bless you Kevin Smith/ Scott Mosier.
I can relate to this.
You don't have to kill yourself, but you should accept the fact that we're fucked. It's all going to go downhill from there, and as the years pass, the lesser are your chances of getting away with the good old "oh, I'm just a shy/tired person" excuse for being an awkward silent person.
Another think that will soon (or already has) become a problem, is your health. It's going to spiral down really fast. After a few years of isolation and no real desire to wake up and achieve something, your body chemistry will simply change. And it will change in a really bad way: loss of appetite, insomnia, feeling tired, high blood pressure, diabetes, loss of libido, etc.
Anyways, I hope you get better, but that would be too optimistic from me because I am in that situation and know that we're basically fucked at this one. So I guess I should conclude this with: see you on the other side, buddy.
Peace.
how to become chad 101
>people's opinions about you are worthless
>society's standards are useless
>get riped and flex on the weak
>acquire women
also get your testosterone level checked low t will fuck you up
The first step is to talk to people OP, just let try to have conversation with random people. Its going to be award at first, but over time it'll begin to develop naturally within your personality.
I'm a web developer now and money is the only reason I havent killed myself yet so I feel like if I change my job from my current one which I like I will kill myself in a few weeks
I am listening to some standup podcasts in my language but it hasn't helped me much... But thanks anyway. I will check out that podcast
I have these things aswell lol, feeling tired and insomnia. But I refuse to give up yet. Even though I gave myself a promise 10yrs ago if i didn't fix myself I would suicide. Have to keep trying bro.. fuck... Some days I feel like suicide is the only option but I have a little sister and because of her I cannot ... :'/
I am trying to workout at home but havent been able to keep regular gym going schedule.. I have tried before. I like football tho but hard to find a team when I am alone...
Commit to one social act that terrifies you everyday. Could be anything, but it has to be something you would never normally do. I was terrified of talking to people, so I would make a point to go to my local park and compliment someone on their shirt or ask someone to pet their dog...heart was racing afterwards, but it felt like a real acomplishment. Good luck my man, when you beat this funk you’re gonna be talking to people like a pro
home workouts can be very effective pushups pull ups etc eat protein afterwards drink water
>The first step is to talk to people OP, just let try to have conversation with random people. Its going to be award at first, but over time it'll begin to develop naturally within your personality.
I live in a small country so there is not many places I can go to but might try some parks, thanks
I got 2 10kg dumbbells so I can do alot with these, but still hard to keep regular schedule
>if you're quiet and people notice, just say that you're shy - this will elicit sympathy.
This is not fucking true at all
Don't think things too much. Don't be so picky when it comes to friends, but don't take shit from no one. Don't be so picky when it comes to women either, but don't let any woman manipulate you. You're young kid, it's too soon to be frustrated.
At first i thought OP might just be a dick but you sir have taken the cake in this regard
I 40 years alone, without friends I have never kissed
only sex with whores
and I'm relatively happy
Do confidence building activities faggot.
Start going to the gym at least 4-5 times a week.
Go to dentist and get your teeth fixed/improved.
Start grooming yourself: hair etc.
Go to a men’s grooming place and have them fix your hairstyle.
All this shit will build your self image.
Also, clean everything.
Your car and house needs to be clean and orderly. It’s a subconscious reflection of your life
I actually am not picky at all about friends and my gf standards have gone down to 0 basically, I love anyone who will even give me a little attention. I was bullied in school 10+ yrs ago and since then my life's been fucked but at least now I know to not let anyone fuck with me or they will regret it lol. My own thoughts 100% align with what you said atm. But thanks dude I think I still got a few years but if nothing changes it will be the same so... idk what to do to fix myself.
Good to hear man, I know all that matters is that ur happy but as I said I dont wanna die alone, I want to have friends and/or gf and I dont wanna die alone, its my biggest and only fear in life :/
I didnt expect so many people try to help me and actually give a fck so thx guys i love u all
Dude u gave me a nice motivation boost, I will clean my whole apartment & car now even if I'm drunk af.
My teeth and hair/beard are not that bad imo, I go to a nice barbershop every few months
I agree with u fully but still, this doesn't fix me being silent and not talking at all at work for example. I'm eating & doing everything with other ppl at work so I'm not alone but I just dont have anything to say so I cannot form friendships with anyone and even though we are together at work we are not friends and they dont really care about me because I'm silent & boring...
What made you think I'm a dick?
Wait until you talk with the psychologist. It will take time. I suggest reading 'how to make friends and influence people' because it's more a book in how to be successful than any self help book you'll find. It's old, but it is still fact. This is how you run a business or just live your life.
I doubt you'll find it anything new you don't already know, but it'll help you understand it so you won't feel so bad about it. It's not your fault. You obviously care.
I will read it, just bought from amazon. Thank you man
That's the best advice I can give. Yea Forums has never helped me finds friends, let me say. They can tell you which porn star is which tho.
you're basically fucked. the best you can do is continue being in some club and sperg talk with the other members, and slowly learn a bit of social skills. it will take many years, and you'll never be fully normal, but there's a chance you'll become somewhat tolerable.
I'm slowly working on becoming an extrovert. I'm an awkward 24 year old virgin and I've been shy as fuck my whole life. I've made tremendous progress. I'm even talking to a girl right now. There is hope, OP.
This partially true, but it's not as bleak as you make it out to be. It's not hard to figure people out, and it's not hard to be "normal" once you realize that literally everybody is weird and fucked up in some way.
Find the most normal person you know, and talk to them for ten minutes. You don't have to dig very deep to find something they're nervous about or insecure about or feel guilty about.
youtube.com
It won't be easy, but you gotta just get out there and start saying things to people. There really is no other way of getting over social anxiety. Literally just do it.
Jordan Peterson has helped me a lot.
yeah, but this guy lost 10 years of social contact in his most formative years. he's not just going to be a normal sperg, he's definitely a megasperg.
hahaha
So I will try to join as many things as I can
Good luck dude I hope u make it
How do I talk to a normal person if I have no friends. I think the max i can hold a conversation for is a few minutes if I have some topics to talk about beforehand lol... I literally just say things like have u head of X news... have u heard of Y news... and a few sentences about that and thats it...
I'll watch it, I have tried to not filter my thoughts but its really hard. I usually don't even have thoughts I just think of nothing...
I have seen some of his videos but still I think it doesn't fix my social retardedness
>be me
>16 y/o, posing as girl online for attention
>now 26, about to graduate engineering university with two degrees
the best thing that happened was working with my dad
that started the fountainhead of misery that lead to me inverting my life to what it is now
you need to change something, what you're doing right now is not getting yourself where you need to be
I always recommend changing something to people who are stuck in a loop
my change was letting an user hack my computer and figure out my trap identity
identity that was running for 4 years
I felt something physically shift in my head when that happened, I still feel the dread from that day
my dude you gotta find a passion, something that makes you think even when you don't want to. You NEED an internal dialogue with yourself, otherwise you're a zombie.
Most people are zombies that don't think about things very deeply, you gotta find a way to get out of that trap if you're stuck in it
Hey dude don't give up, the surfing lesson part can be a good thing for yourself, hobbies that include going outside will eventually lead you to meet new people and it's most likely that you will find a friend like that. Also hobbies can make you an interesting and therefore a likable person. Don't give up dude!
21 yr old here, same situation. My mom and dad were beautiful but I came out looking like a monkey. Lifes unfair as fuck.
hahaha. But you are good now? I think you will be fine with your engineering degree unless you are socially retarded like me...
I know I need to change something, but I don't know exactly what. I will try all the things people suggest here but I guess there is no easy way out for me... I am kinda fucked at this point and I can only blame myself for being such a retard for the last 10 years.
I love football but haven't found a team to join, who wants a retard like me in their team lol
Thank you
dude find people that share common interests.
how do you do this?
Search literally google search where there are gatherings of people like you
like cosplay? go to cosplay things
card games? there are card game places
flying drones? follow the pattern
next you need to find the courage within.
yes it is scary to take that leap..... 1000%
but literally if you don't nothing will EVER change.
you can practice social interactions by going to any store and just asking the people who work there questions about some bullshit product. Literally doesn't matter what it is. Just have that interaction, repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat, until you have confidence to talk to people who dont talk to you......... you must have self confidence, however, understand that people will most likely never give a fuck about you. Not because of YOU, but because HUMANs are this way, only caring about themselves. It's still worth while living though
also have you heard of omegle? you should definitely try it out.... you literally are put in a position to talk to someone random and they also want to talk to you! I think that'd be a great way to learn to talk to people
Omegle was horrible for me. I inevitably started using it to jerk off with strangers, and then started exploring new fetishes, and went down an extremely deep dark rabbit hole. I avoid that site at all costs now.
Play dungeons and dragons!!!
Will try googling for more shit to join
I have no problem talking to people when buying something for example, but when I'm just in a group of people I never know what to say so I'm just quiet while everyone else is talking. Then I end up being the weird guy that never said anything and is therefore boring and not interesting / might aswell not be there.
I have been on there but it's mostly bots and doesn't relly fix me since my native language is not english and also I probably need help talking irl not online. Not sure if I could hold a conversation in facebook since as I said I havent had friends for 10years... I talk to family but not any friends
>burn it all user
you would be surprised by how little the world of engineering expects of you
I am fine now, and being hacked into was the best thing that could have happened to me
I recognize where I was, and where I am now
I drank heavily then and I do now, which is why I respond to posts like this
there is a fire that needs to be started, and every day that this fire is not lit is a layer of difficulty that gets added to it
fuck all of these quick fix it solutions, you need to burn your way of living from the bottom up