I get horrible performance anxiety when it comes to sex...

Try viagra or it’s generic a few times to see that gets you past the mental edge. Or therapy.

If you are afraid of sucking, just accept that you will, do it with someone you dont like that much after not fapping for 2 weeks and do it

I'm not a beta when it comes to pulling women but yeah I agree it does suck being a beta when it really counts

It is not about attraction, it is about being comfortable with yourself and being comfortable with the other person.
Used to have the same problem too. You can get past it, just quit putting so much pressure on yourself to be amazing in bed. Just say fuck it and go with the flow and what happens happens and try again tomorrow

If you can't perform sexually you are a beta period. It doesn't matter how good of a disguise you can put on or how good you are at manipulating girls into bed; if you cannot wiener them you are an insecure little biiiooootcchhh to the core and probably can't change. Good luck

I'm not afraid of sucking, I'm afraid of not gettting hard in time for when they take off my pants or touch my dick. Which in turn makes me not hard. It's a shitty cycle

I have no problems getting hard and having sex when it's in a relationship. If it's a one-night stand or hooker I have to pop a Viagra or Cialis or the like to be able to do it or else I'll be as limp as a wet noodle.

Practice on hookers

Don't push your shit on me, you're far more insecure than me

What's the cause? Trauma? Bad experience? You're anonymous, just say it

Are you me?
The best I got was I did a 30 day no fap then tried to have sex and my dick got like 60% hard, I was able to stick it in, but immediately felt something running down my dick and she asked:

>wtf did you came?
>(me) n-no
>*pulled my dick out*
>I did came and didn't feel a thing and didn't even had a bonner.

STOP
CARING
ABOUT
HER.
in other words:
you get yours, and she'll get hers.
you don't serve the other person in sex, you serve yourself -- and that'll be hot to her.

Same here. Have you had any issues with taking viagra physically

>30 day nofap
>Doesn't expect to cum immediately from penetration

A few times I've stayed hard for like 10-15 minutes after cumming when I took that stuff but otherwise no ill effects

No trauma, just naturally a pretty anxious person, I just disguise it really well with an extroverted personality

take some proxac, sertraline (SSRI)
or some benzodiazepine

the former will help a little with the anxiety but more with the sexual dysfunction by making it harder to cum, and the later only with anxiety

I think this is great advice and if I could follow it, it would work for me but I can't seem to get my mind to think like that in the moment

Shit man I'm a pale skinny 5'6" manlet and I'm out here crushing 10/10s. Know why? Because I'm confident and have faith in myself. That's what attracts and satisfies women. I beat up the cervix and treat women like Goddesses during sex, and this fact alone gives me most of my confidence. You can't even get hard homie don't get upset and assume things cause I'm telling you the truth about yourself and you can't accept it, turn that negative energy around and get some sexual confidence

>>Doesn't expect to cum immediately from penetration

That's not the problem, the problem was I came and didn't even notice.

Does viagra help if you are fast on the trigger?
I don't want to take viagra and pop in 12 seconds

Sorry to hear that man. I've heard if you force yourself to jerk off without coming for much longer than you normally would, that translates into sex really well

Viagra doesn't help with cumming too quickly, the only thing that helps with that is experience and pacing yourself

>I'm afraid of not getting hard in time for when they take off my pants or touch my dick.
user you're not in a porn movie. You don't need your raging boner rip apart your underwear. You start with foreplay, lots of it, get comfortable with each other. You can easily take an hour playing with each others' bodies, girls love that shit. What turns off girls is actually the kind of guy who wants to instantly put it in. You will have plenty of time to get your dick ready, and even if it doesn't work the first time you're together you can still make her cum several times with your fingers and tongue. If she cannot accept that things might not go perfectly, or hell, if she's not grateful that you still do everything to make her feel good, she's not worth it.

Not op but I get barely any pleasure from sex. Always been like that. I didn't manage to work out masturbation and succeed till I was 20. And even then that's a whole rollercoaster if it will work or not.

It would be great to just do it for me. But it's always for her seeming I get no sensational from it

Cool story brother

It's always the girls that rush for it, not me. But you're right. I just feel bad when they go for my cock because I can tell they feel like I'm not attracted to them even if that isn't the case

>helps with that is experience and pacing yourself
I'm asking because I heard that on viagra you can come but keep pumping with no slowdowns.

I use to be the same way, then it got better on it's own, I can now get a hard-on and keep it, problem is porn ruined me, regular sex is boring and it takes me an hour to cum, my gf loves it, I'll throw on a cock ring and let her have it. But yeah stop fapin and try a cock ring, also could go either way but try smoking pot, itll either relax you and make sex feel even better or put you more in your head and make shit even worse, depends on the person, good luck user, oh ask her for anal I cum way quicker when I'm pumpin her asshole

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Marijuana works for me. Also having sex in the morning is a good way to start and you aren't all stressed. Just eat her out and finger her at night until she's satisfied, then say you just want to cuddle. I'll sometimes wake up at 2-3 am raging hard and the girls I'm with love that 'night assault' as I call it

i have this issue and its my worst nightmare. i have cockblocked myself with a 9/10 that i work with because i was so shook of not being able to get it up.

i need help

Been there man :/

No you're not Charlie, now get back to providing us with some supreme content at twitch.tv/moistcr1tikal

nope. thats why im a wizard

be honest with her. tell her you need a while before you get into it, to take it a little slow. Women will understand because thats how they all are anyway

I have a different problem

When with a partner(s). I can last for many hours. Breaks in between of course. Plenty of bang sessions. But I can never cum. If I had to estimate how many women I've been with I would have to say over 30. I have no problem staying hard if its nice rough sex. But I just can't finish. I used to get mad blue balls back in the day but not so much anymore. Usually when the women leaves I just rub it off myself to finish the job. A pretty hefty load depending on how long we've fucked.

Before anybody jumps to the "It just means your gay" BS, I have tried oral from another man and giving. Just to see. I've done threesomes too. Still no cum. I had a girl that wanted to try prostate place because she was determined that would make me do it. I never was a fan of anal stuff so it was a no from me.

Anybody else have an issue like this?

When will you finally fuck her you literally two faces mask wearing faggot

yea. I only cum from handjobs, sometimes the girl can do it but 95percent of the time I have to do it myself. Don't know why exactly but thats how its always been

Foreplay like a motherfucker. No joke.

No one is gonna complain that you ate pussy too long, just be good at that. It's not hard.

Work on breathing consistently and really getting into it. It's all about confidence, which is easy to find when you're making your partner squirm.

The best part is if you still can't get it up, you still ate the fuck out of her. The conversation is no longer "Yeah, he couldn't get it up..." but instead "Yeah he couldn't get it up, but he ate pussy so well." Might even come back for seconds.

Good luck, user!

Yea but I'm talking not cuming at all. From head, handjobs, anything. Some girls get really close sometimes it seems, I can just never put myself in the state of mind to release like i can when Im alone.

I've had this issue off and on. But last weekend I met with an old hookup, fucked the shit out of her twice without even thinking about getting it up....in fact I was almost too horny (still lasted a while though).

Points include:
* Experience, chilling out
* It might not get up right away, but don't be discouraged. Lie there, stroke her body, talk to her, enjoy being with her.
* People are saying eat her out. DON'T do that. In my experience it's not a very good move. It's more of a distraction and a way to kill time. Rather just lie with her, maybe finger her, and have her touch your dick.
* No fap could help but probably isn't a cure all.
* Most importantly, familiarity with the girl is the greatest remedy to this.

Guessing you get distracted thinking about what she might be thinking and so on. When alone we can just focus on what feels good so its much easier to cum

You probably jack off too much.
Next time when you're done fucking jack off with the girl there
Learn to jack off less. Let your dick heal and become more sensitive again.
Eventually you'll be cumming in that pussy.

Once a day or maybe every other day. It was about the same thing when i was a kid.