But I’m a mom. I have a 6 year old daughter. And I don’t enjoy her. She’s a great kid... honestly she is. But something is WRONG with me. I don’t enjoy her. I don’t like to be around her. Her presence literally irritates me. I don’t know why. I’m not mean to her but I know I can end up being cold because I put up with her as much as I can and then I end up saying something like “Okay, all done talking now” or “You’re talking too much and I can’t focus on that right now”. And then I just zone out onto my phone. I tell her I love her every day. I hug her every day. But I often feel like I’m just trying to make the hours go by faster. I make her dinner and then sit her at the table and she eats alone and watches TV and I go lay on my bed. I know I’m a piece of shit, and I desperately WANT to not feel this way. But I don’t know how because I don’t know what exactly is causing these feelings. On paper I look like a good mom. I throw her elaborate birthday parties, she’s in tons of dance classes, she has nice clothes and toys. But emotionally I just am not there the way I should be. And I try but I always end up just feeling this overwhelming irritation towards her for just being a normal kid and it’s not rational or normal. And I’m terrified she’s going to grow up to be a depressed kid. She’s already an anxious kid which I know I created. My need for order and compliance has made her meek and she doesn’t stand up for herself. And I know I love her. And the second she’s asleep at night I feel waves of guilt hit me and I want to wake her up and tell her how much I adore her. But then when the moments come where I could show her that love and attention, I don’t. At least not as much as I should. And it’s always a little forced. What is wrong with me? How can I fix this? :/
Well it sounds like you much like most women nowa days have no business being a mother. Probably don't have any more kids because it's just going to get worse.
Joshua Price
You are as normal as the rest of us. I have a 8 year old daughter that i cant stand to be around but i keep up appearances and act like i love her but i dont
Elijah Clark
Its a complicated issue, but the first step should always be posting a picture of your tits followed by your butthole
Jacob Kelly
You should give her up for adoption to a better family. Everyone lies about how they treat their kids. I don't believe you and you probably treat her worse than you're letting on. How the fuck does the phone occupy your time over your own flesh and blood daughter, the human who will carry on your bloodline. Give her up and fucking kys. I hate your kind of people the most.
Jonathan Green
^^^ This.
I have two kids of my own and I'm taking care of two kids from parents like you. NBD. Life gets better for the kids, life gets better for you. Win-win.
Benjamin Phillips
Kill your self you stupid fat bitch. Don’t get jizzed in next time
Kayden Butler
Also, get your tubes tied, please.
Ethan Evans
Giving her up for adoption at this point would be awful. Basically admitting to her that you don't love her and hope somebody else can do a better job, which they probably can't because few people want to adopt older children
Thomas Rodriguez
t.father of the year
Isaiah Moore
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Wyatt Foster
I would never give her up. I DO love her. And she’s an amazing awesome kid. I just need to find a way to figure out what is making me not see that when I’m with her and be able to enjoy her and cherish the moments with her.
Bentley Phillips
where is the father? when is the last time you had sex? where are the grandparents?
Carson Lee
Have you been to a counselor? Maybe you need some meds?
Jordan Green
My husband is here. He’s a great dad. Honestly I have literally no reason or excuse to feel this way. We own our home, it’s in a nice neighborhood, she goes to a great school. We live by family and she sees her grandparents and cousins every week. It’s all in my head :/
Mason Phillips
Have you ever read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle? If you truly get rid of your ego and live NOW in the present moment you should be able to enjoy everything and everyone. This book has changed me and my friends lives. Highly recommended. It would fix all your problems if you read it or listened to the audiobook. Take to heart the things it says in the book and you will change you and your child's life forever.
Nolan Robinson
I don’t really have time or spoons for therapy and I’ve found that therapy doesn’t really work well for me, but I do take anxiety medication and it helps a lot. Without it I have absolutely zero, NO patience. Super short tempered. It helps a lot. It’s just not a fix all I guess.
Hudson Green
Thank you, I will look that up today.
Henry Richardson
tl;dr
Tits or GTFO
Jaxon Collins
Pic and timestamp show us you are realy and we are not talking to some fucking grandpa having fantasies of porn fags talking to him
Ayden Jackson
After you read The Power of Now, you can read the second book by Eckhart Tolle called A New Earth. It goes into how to parent your child in the present moment and various other Dynamics of living in the present moment in our egocentric world we live in.
Robert Carter
>kek Yea, time stamp gramps
Dylan Adams
Well I am not uploading a picture because it’s the internet. But I’m not a grandpa or a weirdo. Just a mom who feels like she’s failing her kid.
Also. I know this is Yea Forums. I know it’s Yea Forums. I know and expect a lot of the responses I’m getting, and choose to ignore the shitty ones. I know that the sort of advice I’m asking for is probably what I won’t get. But I don’t really know where else to ask, so I’m hoping a nugget of wisdom comes out of all this.
Ryder Morgan
We need a pic of foot or hand to prove identity, gramps
Carson Nguyen
Show us your gaping shitpipe ya whore >You concider owning up to it, to your man? Can't work on something if all you're doing is hiding it.
PLOP OUT THAT GAPER
Caleb Martin
Do u drink, smoke, or do drugs? Does your family have history of mental illness? History of neglect or abandonment? Something bad happened to you at a younger age?
Juan Long
You're bored with your life and your transferring that boredom into hostility towards your daughter. 1) ditch or at least severely limit your social media. You know the saying the " the grass is always greener on the other side" now thanks to social media the grass on the other side is the entire planet rather than people you have physical contact with. Of course your life, everybody's life, is going to seem shitty in comparison. 2) find some interests outside of work and family, boring people are going to spend more time being bored because they don't have things to occupy their mind 3) stop overcompensating by "I'm buying you activities" for your daughter. This is just exasperating the situation because this chews up more of your time but does nothing to increase you personal connection with your daughter 4) instead do things as a family, take hikes, do short afternoon canoe trips, go to museums find things that you would enjoy doing by yourself and include your daughter to share that joy together. 5) talk with your husband and don't immediately go into personal attack mode. My guess he knows shit is up but doesn't bring it up because it will lead to arguments. 6) seriously ditch the phone, ditch the game apps, ditch the social media. Nothing in human history has spawned more human misery than the internet.
Samuel Johnson
Thank you, so much. I really needed to hear ALL OF THAT. You are completely right about social media and games etc. And the activities with no personal connection. Thank you so much. All of that is completely sound advice and I am going to act on it starting today. I am going to take her to the park after work to look for painted rocks, even though I know I won’t feel like it. But I need to start somewhere. Thank you so much
Robert Carter
Dont let your kids annoy you, you will do horrible things to them. Jordan Peterson has a great video about it
Hudson Howard
You're a pathetic, uneducated cunt. Hopefully someone ends you behind a bar one day.
Jaxson Phillips
You're also failing Yea Forums by not posting a timestamp with your tits. You're just an all around failure
Jose Collins
Just in case this isn't a pasta.
Adoption.
Adrian Robinson
You should just strangle you're daughter already and neck yourself. That's where this is going anyway.