> be me > get broken up over a text today >dafuq.jpg the sex was great, she was a 10/10 on hot crazy scale. > kinda sad, but not enough to be suicidal or ruin my 2 years opiate free like in the past. > realize I just wanted the sex and to help get over fiancee that died. >realize I don't need anybody else to be happy. kinda worked. I miss my fiance again, but don't want to die over her being gone anymore. >choose to focus on myself and my happiness. > deciding to buy a dodge demon tomorrow as a distraction/new hobby to keep myself busy and not fuck up my life. >decide to invest more in my business. >only have to take care of myself now. being alone sucks but I can do/buy myself anything I want. >above average well off, not struggling, not rich, but have expendable income now that I'm single. >it all went to ex before.
what do I do now? keep learning to be happy on my own? buy stupid shit as distractions from mental issues? find another bitch as a replacement to cure loneliness?
what should I do to take care of myself and just be happy for me. will post wins for good answers
Start working on your body. Thats always a good distraction
Jackson Clark
post more op
Hudson Ramirez
I'm asking for random advice
Ayden Walker
but porn pics are random pics too
Oliver Nguyen
already have a pretty good body. been hitting the gym for a year straight and seen great progress. not very worried about my appearance. or body at all. im at least 7/10 alfa with above average dick
Camden Gray
what more would you like? specific details? about what? I'll tell you anything
Nathaniel Long
You should join a club to make friends! Where are you from user? I'm from a singing club that has chapters all over the world. You don't have to be very good to join, and we love making new friends.
>what do I do now? Join us at /fit/ for /SIG/ >keep learning to be happy on my own? Yep. I'm alcohol-free for close to 2 years now. It's a struggle, but things get better. Make some friends, hang out. You don't need to live in solitude. >buy stupid shit as distractions from mental issues? No. Material stuff will only numb the pain. Learn to be happy without that stupid shit. Put your money into your business, or learn a craft. Maybe buy a guitar? Buy something that you can actively use and have a hobby with. >find another bitch as a replacement to cure loneliness? No, it'll only fill the hole in you until she's gone. You can always get laid. Don't get attached yet.
Never ending drive to move forward. Fill you life with things that keep you moving in a positive direction (hobbies, preferably ones that include socializing) job, people, education. Be busy. Get yourself moving at a right clip moving forward, and eventually you stop to take a look around and realize you haven't thought about that broad in months. Takes time, maybe years, but you get there. Invest in yourself, lean into things with positive outcomes (get a degree, work out, work more and get a promotion). You have to use that negative energy and turn into into a positive.
Brody Clark
interested in this club. have a few close friends I chill with. cut everybody toxic out a while ago. I have no talent, so guitar is a no go. also limited by time running a business. I get material shit is just a bandage, but it's always helped before and these are my hobbies. examples. buying a new gun, I get to go shooting and enjoy the outdoors. a new car, I love cars, Im an adrenaline junky. I skydive, motorcycle stunts and racing. want to learn to fly and do aerobatics. wouldn't do any of this if it negatively affected me financially. you're right about just filling a hole. I don't want that. I also feel like this last girl made dealing with my loves death easier. I've never loved myself. used opiates for 10 years straight and tried to suicide 20+ time. I don't want that feeling again and it's starting to come back. im trying soo hard and just want to be happy for me.
there's a chapter 30 min from me. more info about them?
Samuel Cruz
What kind of business?
Nathaniel Reed
It's very legit. It's the world's largest singing organization. I think we're sitting right about 80,000 members right now. Everyone will have different experiences at different chapters of course, but I love it, and I know lots of other people do.
We like to joke that sometimes we sound like a cult, because anytime we try to recruit people we get too excited and start saying things like "singing this music will change your life. If you try it just once you'll be hooked" but that's because we actually think that.
Most chapters are male only, because we only started allowing women to join around a year ago.
Here's a chorus in California that became our international champions a few times: youtu.be/2EZ3k10Hpp4
There are groups for all levels of ability though if that seems too intense for you.
Michael Peterson
>New gun Good idea, consider joining a shooting club >Car Good idea, is also good for transportation >Dealing with opiates Did you ever go to any kind of rehab or counselling? It might be useful. I avoided AA due to Christian themes, but I found a secular group which was nice.
Adrian Sullivan
What's the name of the chapter?
Ryan Lewis
Would appreciate more pictures.
One question: Have you tried meditating? It was useful for me to become more grounded. I can get you some download links to Mindfulness In Plain English and Zen In Plain English, both are excellent introductions.
Asher Gray
tmi
interesting. never thought about singing because not talented, but maybe I'll try. at least just to meet ppl
never thought about a gun club but I'll try. new car will get better millage than current one and be a fun hobby. I have tried rehab and counseling. they never helped. I did it on my own this time just through will power of wanting to live, be successful, now I'm trying to figure out the happy part.
Dylan Reyes
tmi
sorry on phone. will be posting more
Dylan Barnes
I have tried meditation. it's great temporarily for anxiety and over thinking, but hasn't been much help with anything else
Lots of our singers have never sung before they joined. There is no requirement to read sheet music for most places, and any audition will be very simple
Oh I thought you were asking for more information about the chapter, and I was like "how am I supposed to know?" Basically the Barbershop Harmony Society has been around for over 80 years now. We sing music a cappella in four part harmony. Barbershop is a very unique sound because the melody is in the second highest (instead of the highest) voice, and we usually use what's called homorhythm, meaning all the parts say the same words at the same time for the most part. There are groups for men and groups for women and groups that are mixed gender. There are groups that aren't very talented, and groups that go to the international competition we hold every year. Every person is who is in it is there because someone invited them, and they found out they love to sing.
Meditation is weird. It's about sticking to it. However, it probably won't work for everyone.
How about exercising? Are there any physical hobbies you enjoy? Hiking? Weightlifting? Running? Rowing? Skiing? You can find meaning and community within these hobbies.
Mason Richardson
Still here mate. Keep posting, your ex is really hot.
If having sex comforts you, have you considered trying to find a friends with benefits?
Cooper Jenkins
Your fault for dating an attention whore. Dyed hair, tatoos, and peircings? Did you really think it would last?
Angel Jenkins
I'm sorry that this is a very hard time for you, the fact that you are still going proves how strong you are. You are an inspiration me, a random person you may or may not meet.
Stay strong brother.
Camden Lewis
interesting. it sounds like something I'd try that would be a healthy outlet and get to meet people. definitely better than staying home gaming, going to bars with friends to stay busy I will definitely give it a shot. ty.
I just don't want to give enough info to where somebody could figure out who I am
Leo Fisher
Women like this are good for sport fucks and thats it.
Adrian King
Oh don't worry. I spent a lot of time trapping, so I'm 100% behind not accidentally self-doxxing. I hope whatever chapter you go to ends up being a lot of fun!
Sebastian Reed
hiking, backpacking, weightlifting. I do all 3 frequently. but a lot of times alone and that makes me over think things and have to endure the pain
Dylan Mitchell
Why not join a weightlifting club? Or look for a hiking society to join?
Gabriel Stewart
I didn't, the sex was great, and things were just easy. we understood each other. no fighting. just having great times great sex and enjoying life. starting to realise I don't need anybody and getting past being co dependant, but it's hard feeling alone. in a way it helped me star to move past my loves death
good idea. never thought about clubs for things I like.gonna look into some. these are great distractions. but how do I move on. find somebody else and just live a normal life? that part scares me. nobody can ever replace my love
See where things take you. My best friend and ex-girlfriend hung herself in May 2017. Life goes on in a weird way, and connecting with people still feels strange, but in a way, when we live on, they live on within us.
