i got an issue with tinder i typically get a lot of matches but when i message i get very little back and forth and i' am not sure exactly what i should be doing
if there's no bio i just say the typical >"hi, hello, yo, whats up" which rarely gets a response if a bio is present i try to message something relevant to their bio in the best why i can think of but that only slightly more effective than the previous strategy If their bio is perverted i try to go that route but this typically fails at this point im stumped and idk what i should be doing this is especially strange because i have no problem talking to people irl even literal strangers but when it comes to tinder i' am shit what should i be doing?
When you match, wait a day or two before sending them something. If you message right away you look desperate and that is unattractive.
Always have your first message be a compliment about how they look, how you share a similar interest with them, or something along those lines. Women love talking about themselves
i usually message as soon as i get the match because i always have my phone on me so that something i'll definitely note
Chase Nelson
Don't send dic pics unless asked for
Alexander Hernandez
That's the biggest mistake I've ever made, and I used tinder for a solid 3 years until I finally stopped and just went out and started meeting people.
Never just say "hi hello whats up" because that shit is unoriginal and are hardly a jumping off point for conversation
Brody Sullivan
bump
Ethan Edwards
This is retarded, nobody cares if you message right away just don't say hey or some boring trash. More on this in a second
Jason Fisher
>i have no problem talking to people irl Sure user
Landon Carter
This No girl is going to resond to "hey, hi ect"
Dominic Scott
okay so i should not go for a cookie cutter greeting noted what else?
Aiden White
Always keep the conversation flowing once you get it going. If you feel like it's dying, ask her a question about literally anything that will keep her talking
John Morris
So, the best method i've seen working overall on tinder, and mind you this still only works 50% of the time, is taking a second to mention something in their pictures or bio obviously but let's face it girls have terrible bios and more often than not their pictures are just them with their friends-not much to go on. At this point you have to think of what you're going for, if you're like me and want to find yourself a sweetie then sending 2 even 3 sentences isn't completely out of line. The best thing you can do is compliment them on something that you know other tinder retards(and guys on tinder are complete retards i've seen my friend's matches before) haven't mentioned which is hair, eyes, makeup, MAKEUP, if they have a cute nose, if you like their cute little dress, anything but their ass or something like that. The first few messages of tinder isn't about being rick smooth, it's about getting noticed. The other I asked a girl to tell me more about western myths like the skinwalker because she mentioned an interest in mythology in her bio, and backed it up by saying she had pretty black hair and boom still talking three days later. Everyone needs to remember this isn't /r9k/ god rest their souls. Lack on intersocial skills isn't just relegated to ugly people, the fact you mentioned alot of matches makes me think you're about as attractive to me between 6-8. You can do it, just remember that with some girls on tinder no matter what you say they'll already have their mind made up, so don't be dissapointed when you hit them with your best line and get unanswered. At the end of the day of the day I think nowadays that dating apps are a drain on anyone's conscious and mental health and you should focus on going to bars with friends or social gatherings, but i'm still working on that part, I met my ex gf at a small concert once that could work but make sure you have a good wingman.
Bitches on tinder rarely want anything other than an ego boost Use an app like bumble were a woman has to make the first move.
Jacob Sanchez
i've never heard of bumble b4 how does it work?
Isaac Perry
>Always compliment how they look?
You seem to know what you're talking about and I am not an incel. On that note... Really?? This works? I've been avoiding compliments too early on for over a decade because I always felt it made them feel that's all you like about them and you're a creep? I always go purely the social connection leads to sexual tension route.
Jaxson Hughes
If you get their number afterwards and you have a somewhat jokey conversation I will definitely send them an occasional image of me doing cool shit in the past or meme, it really depends on the type of rapport you have if they're an edgy sort of meme queen they might think it's funny. Never, ever lead off with that though or use gifs on tinder that's weak, I also don't use emojis until I know they do. You're a man, or atleast a grown boy, emojis are immature
Wyatt Gutierrez
Exactly like tinder, but you can't message a woman until she messages you first. The bonus is you start on a good foot every time, a message means shes obviously interdasted.
Dominic Gray
do many people use it?
Jonathan Reyes
Met enough girls on there myself, but I think with all these apps geography and local culture is a huge factor. I'm in Toronto area and everyone here knows what bumble is. The last girl I went on a date with had only ever used bumble.
Jose Hill
i live in a city to so i should have an issue with that then