So i told my GF of 6 years that i needed more closeness and more sex cuz a hug every week and sex once every 3 months isnt enough. She tells me its my own fault for making every hug etc sexual so thats y shes doesnt want them anymore.
So i ofc realize my own fault in this but how the fuck do we solve it? When we talk about it she always says -well get a gf who wants sex all the time then!
Wat do?
She's fucking Chad.
This is the most honest answer you are going to get. You need to have a serious talk to her without fighting or throwing jabs at eachother. Then you need to determine if you are even sexually compatible. Come up with steps that both sides can take to resolve issues. Its not one side or the other. Relationships are hard work if you want them to work and things dont alwasy go the way either person wants. But if her answer remains go find a gf that wants sex that pretty much says she doesnt really care if you dump her ass. I think that speaks volume in itself. Unless of course you give her the same stupid answers when she asks you to clean up your side of the street.
Unironically she kinda sounds like a bitch. I've never heard of a (presumably young?) relationship that is that devoid of touch. Also go to /adv/ if you want advice.
She's a prude cunt, ditch her.
It sounds like she's losing interest in you. Try taking her out on dates, being nice, and stop being so fat (especially if you've gained weight or started dressing worse since you started dating her).
Sounds like shes not into you buddy.
Bro no joke but I've been with my gf for a year and we have sex like 2 times a night minimum, that's crazy, how long has she been doing this or do you just not have like a very high sex drive? The whole point of having a gf is that you consistently and frequently fuck, I know 20 times a week may be a bit above average but once every three months? Are either of you cheating? Otherwise I just don't get it
Take her advice. Get a diff gf. Also quit being a beta bitch. If these are things you want from a woman, why are u with a woman who won't give u these things?
WOMEN MAKE RULES FOR BETAS, AND BREAK RULES FOR ALPHAS.
You're just being hit with some rules and restrictions. If she was with a man that maximized her hypergamy he'd be getting plenty of sex. Start looking for other women because this one is on the way out as soon as she secures a better guy, and trust me, she's looking.
Thanks for the advise. Yeah we're only 26 so that also makes me wonder if its normal or not. We did talk about breaking up today so we'll se where that goes. Cuz i said if she loves me she should show it one way or another or else what seperates us from friends really?
I look amazing with my clothes off
Like so amazing girls just want a piece.
Get good looking. You dont need the best face either. Just get a nice body
Leave her.
Healthy relationships usually have sex on average 3 times a week. Of course some couples have slightly more or less depending on their sex drives and of course other life commitments can in the way from week to week.
How is the rest of the relationship? Is she supportive with other things? Does she compromise with other things? I guess because of this probably not. But if she is and its worth saving then admit your faults and ask her what you can do to keep it going.
But be honest with yourself. If your best bro came to you and told you he hadn't gotten any from his gf in 3 months and she directly said to get another gf, how quickly would you convince him to leave her ass?
I have crazy sexdrive but 2 times a night only happens at the start of the relationship every1 knows that. When the new love fades the sex decreases. And mine has almost dissapeared so thats y im asking for advice :)
Thanks man really honest answer. Yeah we lived together for 5 years noe and i do most of the housework wich bothers me alot.
There are underlying issues that need to be resolved. Don't worry about your sex life as much and worry about your real lives first. If you resolve whats going on there you might find the bedroom activity picks up.
Do you guys still do things for eachother? Do you guys appreciate eachother for the things you do for eachother? Some relationships are just over and thats that. Other's are just in a rut. Only you two can figure that out.
Bruh I'm 34 and have a 2 year old kid, me and the wife still fuck about twice a week (which isn't much) no it's not normal.
Hope youre right. Its so wierd aswell we talked bout having kids wich we both want minutes b4 we had the fight. I just dont get how she can talk about having kids when we dont even have sex. But yeah i prob think about the sex part to much. I'll start focusing on the relationship first.
Beta bitch.
The answer is simple, and she already told you. Get a different girlfriend.
>When we talk about it she always says -well get a gf who wants sex all the time then
Yea Forumsro, she straight up told you what you need to do. Why are you asking us?
>can't imagine someone not wanting sex constantly.
Dude, that often sounds like a chore. Everyone is different. Y'all just need to find someone you're compatible with.
This op
If she wanted your dick she would beg for it leave before you walk in on her with tyrone
Have you tried rape?
Yes, but also find a new partner, have had friends in similar situations of all walks of life and eventually she’ll be turned away completely, she’s not making “get a new gf then” comments for nothing. Find someone who will respect you and your urges, while also respecting them and theirs. Being with someone is a partnership, both have to put in effort and if one really isn’t or trying to, then it’s time to find a new one
Btw does any1 have advise on being more asertive at home? I do most of the housework and Its driving me crazy but she gets frustrated with me everytime i bring it up. I explained today that if she loves me she wouldnt let me do all the housework.
Sidenote. Also a bit frustrating is we can sometimes every month have a quick awesome oral session where i eat her out and she freaking loves it but when i ask the same back another time shes never in the mood.
43 with two. Wife and I fuck at least once a week, more when we have time. In fact I’d say we fuck more now than when the kids were little.
OP, if you’re not satisfied with your relationship sexually, you have the right to bring it up. If you’re not happy with what your GF is willing to share, you have the right to break it off.
6 years is a long time, and it will be tough, but think about 6 years down the road with her, situation as it is now. You’ll be worse off, probably seriously resentful, and that alone ought to be enough. Think about yourself here.
Read “No More Mr. Nice Guy”.
Communicate less, do more. Stop seeking what you want from her, and focus on filling that void with honest self care.
Thanks. I think ill start to be more asertive at home and tell her its her time to do the dishes etc and if she doesnt start to comply ill tell her this shes not respecting me and im going to move out.
Let me guess .. you're the one paying the majority of bills/food etc ...
Ill read it thank you!
Yeah i feel like its time to stop pleasing her and to start pleasing myself. No pun intended
Actually we have it pretty good on thoose parts. We split all bills 50/50 and try to pay roughly the same on food.
red flags op. try to fix it together. also thats kind of a dumb reason. part ways and find someone comp
Ditch & move on user
Just for reference I'm in a 11yr relationship with a 2 yr old, we still have sex atleast once a week
Okay so iv've come to this decition.
1. Im gonna stop being a beta when to comes to housework etc and actually get tell her directly when its her turn to clean
2. Im gonna start taking care of myself better. Dress better and start working out.
3 profit? Hopefully she'll gain more respect for me when she notices i put myself first and dont bend to her will anymore. And maybe she'll even get a bit afraid of other girls looks when i start to look better.
Sounds like a plan?
>11 yr relationship with a 2 yr old
i know mathematically it can only mean 1 thing but like.. PHRASING
shes struggling with mental health issues
Op is faggot
break up with her... and then take her back. make it dramatic even if you dont do drama.
she will respond and things will be different.
Hey cheating solved my problem. The wife and I were only having sexual once a week but then I had a 3 month affair with a younger girl, now we fuck about 6-8 times a week after I told her about it.
Dump the useless whore
Ever want a threesome with that 11yo?
Get out! She’s either cheating or has something wrong with her. No right woman would act this way.
...
Congrats, you’ve figured it out
Idk, maybe she's a keeper or maybe she's fucking some chad behind your back
She is. A depression that had its worst a few years back and is now much better but still under the surface. She blames all her behavor on her depression and i bought it the first years but now i feel it has become an excuse. Who the fuck doesnt clean their own toilet for 6 years? Ive had enough.
You sound Indian, which was your first mistake.
Abandon her literally as she has abandoned you figuratively.
Your pic is bullshit. Even for the most undesirable men, the most undesirable women are definitely not seen as a 'catch'. Even your fat beta ass would't consider pic related a catch.
Dude you're literally baiting now
>gf wants kids even when she refuses to have sex
How fucking straight forward is that?
Sounds like you're being used and you know it and you just want to deny it.
Women are more mental with their hornyness, men just get a touch on their peepee and they would fuck Shamu under the right conditions.
Intimacy counts more in the long run than just physical sex, but you both sound super young, it will take many many years and many relationships to realize that fact.
Foot rubs. Back rubs. Hand and arm rubs if you both use computers a lot, leg and tendon rubs if you both walk a lot.
Even gentle face rubs will do a lot for intimacy. God speed young man, life is a rollercoaster. Listen to Baz Lurhman's song Suncreen to get some future perspective.
Focus less on pleasure and more on care and growth. When you let yourself slide, very things around you slides too.
And don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Just cheat on her, if you can’t have sex with her do it with someone else. If you’re too moral for that, then you need to be aggressive with initiating it otherwise your girl is gonna rule the relationship. In all honesty you need to man the fuck up, realize your worth and get laid user
30 with 1 kid. I fuck my wife atleast once a week.
29 3 kids its sporadic, i could go from 11 times a week or once a week
My wife was the same, I somedays worked 14 hours a day... 14 fucking hours and came home tired and hungry and had to do the housework because it was all dirty as fuck.
Im going to kick you out of the fucking house if you dont stop being a filthy and lazy bitch I said to her. Always looking at her phone and doing nothing. She improved little by little.
About our sexual life, we fuck atleast once a week but she never wants to give me blow jobs. She used to do it a lot some years ago but now theres not even a chance.
I dont care though, theres always someone willing to do it on the streets.
Sounds like my wife. Gets old bro.
She wants kids with me now, but I'm not sure anymore cause of your exact reasons. Your not alone brother.
I did this to my wife before our kids. Go out buy paper plates and plastic utensils. Dont use regular stiff just throw that shit away and when she bitches about dishes being done tell her you're not using them. When it comes to laundry just do yours. Cleaning up? Just clean up a space you call your own could be a table a part of a couch whatever
>Wat do?
Exactally what she suggested. Get a gf who wants sex all the time.
Brilliant idea. Thanks!
Time for a new girlfriend, one that's either more into you or has a higher sex drive. This sounds like she isn't into you and doesn't want sex with you or possibly ever.
"Every hug is sexual" also sounds like a few crazy switches are flipped. Probably past abuse, I'd again move on. You can't solve that and it will make your life a crazy hell.
old man here. You want different things from a relationship. Move on. She's not going to change, so find someone more in line with what you want.
do it and get a second GF. one is not enough
Its prob my fault every hug is sexual thats the problem. Its like an bad circle of i dont get enough satisfaction so i seek it at every oppurtunity (hugs etc) so i made them sexual even when sometimes i just want i hug she thinks i want sex cuz i sometimes move my hands down when hugging her. Told her i would not toutch her for a while and see what happens. Shell come to me next time she wants something instead.
Bail. It only gets worse
Don’t try to manipulate her to get what you want ‘if u loved me u’d do this for me’ screams petty as fuck. Same with trying to get her to pick up the slack don’t spontaneously just stop doing her part for her, tell her you’re going to not do it and give her a couple of reminders before you stop. And if she threatens to leave then let her fuck off and find someone you’re more compatible with, because it sounds like she’s just using you tbh
listen to your gf and get a second girl.
Just pretend nothing's wrong and jerk off in the shower. You'll be fine. Better than dying alone.
found the Yea Forums user
Go to an adult swinger site like AFF or SLS.
Build a profile and make sure you mention you are playing with permission.
Go to town.
I bet after the first or second go round your GF dumps you.
>Yes, she is fucking on the side.
I just love watching all the virgins stuck at home watching too much doctor Phil have so much fucking "advice".
Bitch don't want your dick, dump her bullshit ass and go find one that does. Sex is part of such a relationship, if it's not, whoever is getting the no is getting played. You taking her out? Spending any money on her ass, or your time? If after any of that you ain't getting any, she's playing you for a stupid chump.
No, no two relationships are the same, no two cunts are the same. Shit girlfriend A likes will get you kicked out of bed if tried on girlfriend B.
THERE ARE NO ONE SIZE FITS ALL FOR BITCHES!!! Just some basic facts like I've explained above.
It takes WORK and SKILL to get into the pants of bitches you wanna fuck. Get good at it, and even if you're a 7, you can have 9's and 10's buying YOU shit.
Real love's another story. Love is insanity and anyone who says otherwise doesn't know shit about love. In love no rules apply.
I've been married 20 years this year to a woman I dated for barely 10 days. We've had several threesomes and kept one for going on 8 years.
Before them I got more ass than a toilet seat at a women's music festival.
Get out there. Make mistakes. Learn and find what works for you. Fuck this sausage party circle jerk.
I'll keep it real with you. You met her before the age of online dating. Tinder, Bumble, PoF, CoffeeMeetsBagel, etc. weren't that popular and so your girl settled with you. At this point in time, she's realized that she can upgrade to someone better than you. You have two options now. The first is to put her in check. Go up to her, have a spine, say that you want some pussy when and where I want. This method is called forced submission. If she agrees, good for you. You'll have to stop being such a beta bitch though. Check out CoachRedPill or EddieFews on YouTube. The second method is to withdraw all your attention. Completely isolate her. Most guys recommend 80/20 contact, but i'll go as far as 95/5 contact. She should be initiating 95% of contact and when she does, don't spend more than 5 minutes on a call or send more than 10 texts total. When she tries to regain control by guilting you or shaming you for attention, tell her that you're just really busy grinding and don't have time. No further explanation needed. If you do it correctly, you'll have successfully conditioned her to give you what you want in exchange for your resources (attention, dates, etc). YOU HAVE TO HAVE A SPINE. Bitches ain't shit.
She’s fucking everyone at her job and school except you. You’re her designated doormat now. Enjoy...
had sex with my ex nearly every day for the 6 years we were dating. I only stopped when I lost interest in her and we eventually broke up
middle aged male here. no, it's not your fault. it's not you it's her, and this is something you can't fix. some would say "but we've been dating for six years!" that's a fallacy. you can't get the past back. getting hung up on how long you have been together is how a shitty relationship turns into a bad marriage.
get out, get out, get out. and for christ's sake, get laid. you are wasting your best years on the bitch!
Force fuck her
>she has depression
You'd be surprised at how all encompassing depression can affect people. And it affects everyone in a different manner.
If you've mentally checked-out, then do your partner a favor and break-up. With proper communication. No yelling, no accusations, no shift-blaming. Simply explain that you two are headed in different directions, and when you imagine your futures together, your idealized future doesn't feature your partner, or that when it does, the situation you imagine it to be, is not the one you want to live by choice.
Just don't cheat, and don't drag this out. That's torture, and I'm sure you would never want someone disrespecting you in that way either.
You both deserve to be very happy. Both of you. Not just you.
BOTH OF YOU.
You're either full of shit or a worthless cuck bitch that deserves to have your punk ass genes die out.
Have you EVER fucked her? Shit, are you a fucking virgin and she claims to be one?
This whole thread smells like bitch bait.
that's also called rape. let's not do that, ever. k?
She already told you what to do.
get a gf who wants sex all the time
100% honest man. Youd be suprised how used to a situation you can get over a long relationship. But at some point youll have had enough like me atm.
listen to your gf and get second girlfriend who wants to fuck. every woman has limits.
What country are you in? Because if you ain't in China or some middle east country with legal polygamy, your story makes little sense. 5 years shacking up? So it ain't an Islamic country.
Scandinavia.
You need to bounce. Also the chance that she is cheating on you is extremely high.
Dude I've just had the same sort of shit go down.
Girlfriend struggles with mental health, gets too anxious to have sex a lot of the time, doesn't clean much, doesn't give me much affection. Stuck it out for a while but it got too much. I was living with her and her parents which wasn't ideal either.
I split up with her and moved out within a day, and she didn't freak out or go crazy like I thought she would. I got my own place, and she actually improved everything and after 2 weeks we talked again and it was like talking to a different person.
Now she comes to my place and we have sex every time we see each other, we talked about everything we hadn't bothered to talk about, opened up about sexual things and life things and things are completely different, and it doesn't feel like an act either.
Break up with her dude, but don't pussyfoot around, you've had enough and you're going. Go stay with your mum or whatever and if she doesn't bother trying or goes and get someone else, then you didn't lose much did you? if she doesn't and after a couple of weeks when she's not gonna be an emotional wreck when you talk to her, she might get the kick up the ass she needs.