How do you handle a long time friend who turns exceedingly toxic when they play a D&D session? I have a friend that always jumps other's turns and acts as if he's the only one in the group. He'll meta game and bring out his frustrations about the game, out of game. He's condescending overall and is responsible for two of our players, both female, to leave the game entirely. He always likes to play a rapey character and makes the others feel uncomfortable while saying "it's not me, it's what my character would do."
As a person he's okay, but as a character he'll screw over the team, create his own side quests that he'll go on by himself. The DM does nothing about it and just kind of ruins the experience for a decent amount of us. I've talked to him out of game about the issue and he just gets defensive and talks about how I'm attacking him. I'm honestly concerned about our friendship because of all this. I'm thinking of leaving the group because I still like him as a person but I just can't stand playing a session with him anymore. What do you guys and gals do in this situation?
If you've already talked to him about it then the DM needs to say something (privately) and set better boundaries. If the DM doesn't want to address the issue then it might be best to just walk away from the group. If you're not having fun then don't play.
Jack Walker
Ask the DM to run F.A.T.A.L. instead and you can all be rapists together.
Jayden Russell
Sheesh... as someone who's dm'd and played for nearly 30 years, this guy needs a solid ass kicking.
The dm needs to lay down the law. Shit that denigrates other party members should never be acceptable, in character or out. If he insists, the DM should and can find a way to make that character dead asap.
If the DM refuses, you, as your character, should kill his. Or she can, if it's a she he's offended. I see no story related problem with this, to be honest. The worlds in which those characters exist have zero room for bullshit.
Joshua Gutierrez
Go back to /tg/
Jose Morales
I wish I had the slightest clue what the fuck you're talking about. But I get the premise. Assholes exist everywhere in all circles and there's only one way to deal with assholes
Nicholas Baker
Fuck them until they prolapse
Parker Sanchez
Sounds like you should ditch the faggot and the dm, and make your own D&D group. With hookers...and blow.
Isaiah Jenkins
Guess I have the floor.
Don't back down from this at all. It's going to hurt but a drawn out confrontation is what must happen. Face-to-face and continuously calm on your side. Bring up anything he's done wrong if he asks for proof. No matter how defensive he gets you must push until you get a definite answer to the question "Will you change?" If he says no then don't give up something you like just to keep a "friend" who seems to cause more trouble than good if he's just "okey". If he's a dick in game then consult the DM or your friends to screw him over.
Jayden Richardson
it’s a soup
Cooper Anderson
I blame critical role
Chase Martin
Have sex
Logan Cook
Have you tried not playing D&D?
Oliver Miller
In all seriousness, you sound like a faggot OP. I was in a DND group and it’s really hard to complete adventures with people who don’t know how to take their turns. Your friend is just trying to keep shit interesting. Female players Bwahahaha. If they’re not sucking your dick they have no place at the table. I’ll bet they were fat ugly whales or phillipino beaners anyway. Your DM sounds pretty cool for not letting you ruin the fun.
Elijah Parker
That would definitely get the point across but a direct confrontation would get everything in the open. The problem is not saying shit and then writing 2 paragraphs on a forum of shit you should have said to him. Be a man user
Mason Gonzalez
Find another group to play with
Brody Ross
Yes
Jace Sullivan
You got this OP
Charles Bennett
>How do you handle a long time friend who turns exceedingly toxic when they play a D&D session? I have a friend that always jumps other's turns and acts as if he's the only one in the group. He'll meta game and bring out his frustrations about the game, out of game. He's condescending overall and is responsible for two of our players, both female, to leave the game entirely. He always likes to play a rapey character and makes the others feel uncomfortable while saying "it's not me, it's what my character would do."
As a long term DM and published author in RPG games, I have seen this a lot of times. It happens a lot in RPG cons. In summary, this player is expressing a hidden evil intent in a very passive aggressive manner. Here are a few ways to handle these assholes.
1) Target their character with extra problems. Have a higher level NPC paladin show up if he is being "rapey" and get the character punished.
2) Never argue the rules nor how you handle the game. Give them a "my way or highway" ultimatum.
3) Kill off the character. If they player is a total dick, just keep on killing the character off in very funny and embarrassing ways. One asshole player at a cone got an anvil dropped on him from a local dwarf demi-god. Some of the other players got the Warner-Brothers reference.
4) If worst comes to worst, kill off all the characters, set up something where a the asshole player is to blame. Start a new campaign and do not let this "friend" play with you again.
I ended up doing #4 in high school and told this guy to get out of my life. After college, I found out he was doing time for date-rape. Dodged that bullet.
Jackson Parker
I agree 100% with you guys. I'll see what I can do with the DM.
My area is banned or some reason so I can't
I agree but I'm not sure that a loss of a friendship is worth it.
I actually considered it a broth but I don't disagree with you statement either.
I actually blame shitty RP.
I pay hookers, so I'm fine.
I enjoy D&D
You're right, I just do this to vent but I'll bring it up during the next game.
>this player is expressing a hidden evil intent in a very passive aggressive manner.
Holy shit, you hit the nail on the head. Yeah, I'm trying to get the DM to agree with me, but he seems to want to continue the campaign as normal. He's a decent DM but he has little backbone when it comes to this kind of thing.
James Mitchell
>>this player is expressing a hidden evil intent in a very passive aggressive manner. >Holy shit, you hit the nail on the head. Yeah, I'm trying to get the DM to agree with me, but he seems to want to continue the campaign as normal. He's a decent DM but he has little backbone when it comes to this kind of thing.
If you are a player, you can take your ball and go home. I had this from one campaign where the DM was a chronic drug user and he was harassing players whom did not do as many drugs, if any as he did.
I ended up leaving the campaign and starting my own campaign as the DM. I ended up taking half the players for my own gig. Druggie DM was a dick, I didn't care. Found other players and did the campaigns we wanted to do. We had fun even dated one of the girls playing in the campaign. It became a classic "DM's girlfriend" scene where I didn't get her a break in the game and we dramatized out relationship in the game. Looking back, it was fun. Heard she became a stripper in New York.
Henry Campbell
Who gives a FUCK?
Juan Smith
I do, It's a hobby of mine and I enjoy it. If you don't like it then why are you here?
Nolan Gutierrez
D&D should be fun. If it isn't, quit the group. Losing a friend who is an anti-social asshole who drives away others is no loss at all.
Brayden Myers
To make sure that you know that you are a HUGE FUCKING FAGGOT and that nobody gives a fucking shit about your nerdy faggot shit faggot.
Justin Clark
Your friend is Chaotic Neutral
Robert Thompson
not OP, but nice vocabulary, you fucking idiot.
Anthony James
It depends on how you consume it. If you're suggesting that the entire thing is a soup, aren't soups hot? Either way, wouldn't it be a broth if you considered it a soup? IMO it's still a beverage, just now in a bowl. >sauce like any fucking idiot would consider it a sauce
Brayden Morris
t. OP who is always a faggot
Isaiah Mitchell
>D&D should be fun. If it isn't, quit the group. Losing a friend who is an anti-social asshole who drives away others is no loss at all. Exactly. Whenever I run a game at a con, my opening line is "We are here to have fun. This is not a group therapy session nor a moot court. If you get in the way of people here having fun, get the fuck out now or I'll throw you out. The con goons will back me up."
Ryan Nelson
>Your friend is Chaotic Neutral I'd say Chaotic Evil. My experience has been they do not last long.
Jayden Carter
no they don't faggot look at you puffing your nerdy little chest out like you're relevant lmfao
Eli Jackson
Do what all white people do: go on a shooting spree and and then a black cock binge
