Got in a night with my gf over some bullshit...

Got in a night with my gf over some bullshit. Decided to go to the local bar and drown my sorrows but I'm starting to get second thoughts and thinking about going home and patch things up. Tbqh the fault was hers and instead of talking things through she started to passive aggressively telling me to stop screaming and raising my voice despite the fact that I wasnt screaming. Should I take an L and patch things up or wait for her to make the first move. What would you do in this situation to keep your dominance in the relationship?

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I'm not trolling here I just sharing my controversial opinion. I think that's a tremendous mistake and one guys constantly make because it's the norm. In reality you're not getting anywhere in life in terms of Happiness by having someone toxic like that in it. I know it's hard to believe but there are women out there that don't do passive aggressive bullshit like that. Those are the ones you're actually going to enjoy a marriage with. I've had two divorces so I can't say this isn't based on experience unfortunately

You sound sane.

The thing is that I'm quite good at arguing since I've been a salesman for the majority of my adult life. I think that she pulls this passive aggressive bs because she dont want to lose an argument and resort to this childish behaviour instead. user, I have really invested a lot.of time, effort and money in this relationship and want things to work but she really makes me so pissed off sometimes that if I dont go out and drink myself retarded I will end up beating her ass up and get myself locked up. I think we can get through this becaus2 w e dont argue a lot but when we do this shit happens and last time I was the better man and ended the fight by coming home and hugged her and such. I think this is not good in the long run because it can change the power dynamics in the relationship and she will take advantage of it.

I know you don't want to hear this but it's very possible you've been just wasting your time. A happy marriage never makes you go out and drink. Please believe that. There's nothing else I can say beyond that

Fuck man. I know you're right but I'm starting to hit my mid 30's and dont want to end up as a lonely fuck.

I'm 35. A divorce is infinite hell. I wish I could just repeat that sentence on end until everyone in the world believes it. Trust me it is worse than anything else

I can imagine. Not married yet, my nephew is getting baptized this weekend, both me and the gf are supposed to go there together and she will meet my entire distant and vmoae family for the first time. I have planned to propose to her after this weekend l, because I wanted to wait until she met the family and se how they would get along. I've bought the ring and everything. Why did you get a divorce, what happened?

My first marriage started out with constant patch working. Usually we talked things out and it was okay but the arguments started becoming more frequent. At one point I just couldn't handle it anymore but she called for the divorce before I pull the trigger. My second marriage was basically a rehash of that because I didn't learn my lesson. I'm currently dating someone and so far there have been absolutely no issues. I know it might be foolish but she might really be the one

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Why do u need to dominate a relationship.
Maybe u should stay single and figger out why ur such a fucking low self esteem loser.

>Two divorces.
Lmao. Maybe ur the problem.

U can't be serious....

stfu white knight cuck fgt women are tools waiting to be used

I used to have girl like this. She would argue over pointless bullshit, have a temper, and would hate to say sorry. She was hot and the sex was great, but she drove me crazy. One day during one of our many breakups she decides she wants to move all the shit out of my house while kicking and screaming. I tell her, no come back later when you calm down. She wouldn't accept that, so I forced her out of my house, basically had to drag her out (She was kicking and screaming I was just defending myself, I never once got physical with her, even though she woudl with me). Anyways she ended up calling the cops, the cops sided with me, obviously since she was acting crazy and it was my house. They told me to cut contact with her and to not deal with her ever again. I heeded their advice, and my life has been amazing ever since. Only reason why I never broke up with here was because I didn't want to go through the trouble of finding another girl. I realized this comes from a scarcity mindset, and that there are endless amounts of girls out there. Girls peak earlier than men and are in a rush to get married quick before their biological clock runs out, that is they get ugly at a young age. Us men can be jacked, have lots of money, and live a CEO life style up until 60's. I've seen 50 year old boss men marry 24 year olds many many times its normal. Now I jsut focus on myself, improving my lifestyle, health, money, and I have way too many girls flocking to me. I'm in no rush to get married. I do have this one girl, who is perfect, never once screamed, is a go getter, makes her own money, does ANYTHING I say, cooks, cleans, I mean I haven't found anything wrong with her yet. I told her though I want to take things slow, I've never once called her my girlfriend, and she does everything to please me. I know this is the type of girl I should get married to, yet I'm not in a rush, and this makes her want me more.

It seems like that is always the issue. Those small arguments that lead the way to a big issue. Me and the gf have a really great time when every thing is good. We get along, sex is great and both me and her make eachother laugh. I jatebthe fact that these fucking small things can make a relationship so toxic.

Because no girl like a non dominating man you cuck.

Thank you user I really needed to hear that. God bless you.

I really don't see it that way. The big problem is the fact those arguments can even come about in the first place.

But shouldn't a healthy relationship have some arguments? I mean, I heard that arguments and resolving arguments make relationships stronger.

You're completely right. Constructive arguments are necessary for a healthy relationship. Unfortunately those are pretty rare and most arguments aren't constructive like that

no problem. Remeber solitude is not loneliness. Solitude is good for you and i crucial for a man seeking personal growth. I for one love being alone, I love the fact that I don't need anyone, it makes me feel that much more powerful. When girls see that,they love you even more. Of course I don't do these things for THEM, I do it for myself.

With this perfect girl I talked about, I mean she's so awesome. I almost feel bad because shes banking all her marbles with me in the hopes that I will marry her at some point. There's a high likelyhood that I won't though because who knows maybe someone else even better will come along, since I'm in no rush, and plus, I get bored. Maybe we will have threesomes with other girls. I've been with many girls, they all show their true colors at some point, either some insecurities, daddy issues, temper, pridefullness. This girl hasn't, she's a passive girl, does what I say, has the same interests as me, even the same political views which is rare (traditionalist conservative). Hell she's even pretty funny, good vocabulary. I attribute her to being this way because she has a good set of parents. Many girls don't.

Anyways, she's still a girl, one of many in the world. Im just glad i've met one that has the perfect temperment, so at least I know their out there. In the end, the most important thing is my personal growth. Cut out all negative things in your life, drugs, drinking, toxic relationships. Read books, work out, proper nutrition, vitamins, be the best version of yourself, and enjoy doing it.