Alright so I'mma give the full story because I want y'all to understand all the factors going on here so you make an educated response to the situation.
-So due to a divorce, I got kicked out of my apartment and had nowhere to go.
-One of my coworkers offers me a room for no rent since he knows I'm up to my ass in legal fees. Doesn't mind since he's not using it anyway.
-One day, I notice an old high school buddy of mine taking out the trash and find out he literally lives in the same apartment complex.
-I mainly just go over and hang out at his place and sleep on the couch like an extended sleepover and he doesn't mind since at anytime I can just go back to my place.
-Been here a few months now. Friend doesn't charge rent which if he tried, I'd just leave since I'm not taking a room nor using anything, just a couch no one uses in the living room which no one uses though that being said, it's not like I'm a total leech. Consistently offers meals on my dime, buys him a few games he wanted without him asking, drives him whenever he needs a ride (had issues with his mom taking his car) and even one time he asked for some help with the rent and bills since he was in between jobs. I literally ask how much he needs. He needs $650, only asked for $200. I give him $700 so he's not broke for the month since his roommates didn't have enough to help pay.
-He also owns like 7-8 geckos with their own heating lamps. One of them is slightly overhead where I sleep. Ask if I can turn it off at night, says no. I get it since they need it. He puts a basket on the side of it so the light ain't as bad. Smart move but his girlfriend who comes over takes it away and tells him it's a fire hazard.
Fuck but I'm not paying so I'm not gonna complain.
-He finally got a job that pays well.
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Dude is pretty much a nerd and kinda awkward but we get along pretty well but the years haven't been kind to him.
-He literally rages out over shit. Like should be on a watchlist rage.
-Roommate forgets to lock the door so he decides to stick a knife into the wall with a note saying to lock the fucking door.
-Fucking throws knives at the wall in the apartment for fun despite he renting.
-He once had a wooden totem pole thing but one day he got angry since a dude flicked him off in traffic so he takes a hatchet and goes to town on this log and fucking wood shavings and shards all over the hall and his room.
-Don't really mind since again, it's rent free, he's an old high school buddy and I've been through enough abusive and trauma situations that it doesn't bother me too much.
-Also says shit about wanting to kill random people including his roommates and me. At first you could joke it off but he always talks about it when he gets angry and it's pretty constant enough where now I'm not comfortable. Even says how he can easily kill me in my sleep and that sometimes he watches me when I am.
-If there was ever a crowd shooter like that video game Hatred, it would be him. Honestly feel he should be blacklisted from owning a gun.
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Now here's the main issue.
-Dude always had his thermostat off, apartment was always like 78-82 degrees hot. Constantly sweating at night with just tshirt and shorts.
-I understand from a poor man's perspective that's money he could save so I don't fuck with it.
-He finally gets a job and after awhile, I ask if it's cool to use the AC since summer is right around the corner. -He's cool with it.
-One night, it's like 79 degrees so I turn it on to around 73.
-Start to drift asleep, thought about turning it off but was too tired. -Wake up to him screaming at me at 3 in the morning.
-Dude is full on yelling at me, saying things like "do you think you're slick" and saying how it's freezing and screams that he keeps it hot for his geckos and that the vents aren't even open.
-Half the conversation I'm not even all there from the sudden waking and due to childhood trauma almost borderline disassociate.
After he leaves, I'm just sitting there for almost an hour. I never put the thermostat below 70 so it wasn't my intention and didn't have a chance to check if it got colder than that since he rips the panel off the thermostat. The cages all have 2 heating lamps so it's not like they are completely out there in the open and I get it, if someone was neglecting my pet, I'd be angry too but not like he was. Didn't even know the vents we're closed, never had an issue since it still cooled the place down so never even noticed.
I can't even see him as a friend at this point with the way he talks about killing me and his roommates easily and how he could scream at me like his kid. I just wanna know what y'all think about it.
Shit, Yea Forums don't fail me now... I'm interested in what y'all may have to say.
Learn how to greentext you retarded coprophagic boy molester.
He can’t kill you if you kill him first
My main issue was if I was in the wrong here. I get his perspective on it but he shouldn't have fucking acted like that. It honestly makes me want to forget him as a friend and just leave him to stew in his own shit.
XD yeah, I wondered why it didn't work.
I wish but he's bigger and more easily prone to violence. Dude fantasizes about killing us and random people on the daily.
You need to get your shit out of there and fucking disappear. You really didn't do anything "wrong" per se. You're paying and so should have a say in the temp of the place. Doing it without discussion is shitty, but not-murder worthy. The geckos will be fine with their heating lamps, so that's a non-issue. You might also consider reporting him to the cops or something. Shit, dude.
Just leave dude
Just get out. Some people I've learned get fucking crazy as they get older if they don't have a satisfying home life. And what I mean is a woman to feel some actual love from. He's frustrated by other things and is prone to anger.
Slash his tires before you leave.
Fuck you think so? He was an old high school buddy and I know better than most how much the legal system could fuck you up. Just so it's clear, I'm not paying him rent since I'm just crashing on the couch, I've told him I don't plan on paying him and if he has an issue with it, I'll go. Also since I don't pay, I don't fuck with anything without asking. The thermostat I did ask if it's cool to use now and he said sure. That being said, it's not like I totally abuse it, I offer to buy him food whenever I go out, gotten him a new games that came out, driven him when he didn't have his car for some time and even paid him $700 when he didn't have enough one month. He's been unemployed for a few months and I guess his roommates didn't have enough and he only asked for $200. I asked him how much does he really need he told me about $640. I really do put his generosity of him letting me bum out in mind even though I technically got my own place next door.
leave you leeching nigger... get your own place or sleep on the streets you bum
He literally fucks this one chick almost every other week and he still acts like he's got all that went up frustration too. She comes over, bitches about whatever mess he's left the place, cleans it for him, fucks him and that's it.
I do have my own place. I stay next door with a co-worker, I just figured since I live next door, why not just hang here with a friend? I figured it would be better than an empty room though now...I think that would be better.
just hanging on someones couch can be irritating to others..like his roommates or girlfriend
Are you Jerrry from Rick and Morty?
I called it. Unsatisfying home life. What he's missing is a loving woman to come home to in order to get that stress off. What you're describing sounds like random shitty encounters for him. He's mad at other things but you need to get away from a psycho like that.
OP you sound like a begging nigger thats leeching off 2 people...why dont you man up & get your own apt or live on the streets like you deserve
I get what you're saying, trust me but I have asked many times if it's cool and I help everyone here out with rides, food and even money sometimes. They really don't use this couch or the living room plus the couch is broken anyway, has a hole in it in the middle (That he fucking broke) where the cushion sinks in, it gives me back issues nowadays. Trust me if I thought I was overstepping, I'd go.
Should I tell him off about that shit and go or just go? I feel that if I leave, he'll just say shit behind my back because of it since his dumbass thinks he was in the right.
The divorce is eating my paycheck. I literally have to pay my lawyer $1000 a month and this court shit has cost me almost $9000. I couldn't afford rent and with shit my ex-wife has been saying about me, I might be losing my job soon. My coworker who I'm staying with understands this, I've shown him the receipts for the lawyer so I'm not just being some bum ass nigger.
I think you will have to swallow your pride and stay in that other open room waiting for you. Also he is probably going to murder someone he literally sound like a serial killer starter
When you leave be casual in the brief conversation. Be confident, clear, and cut that shit short. Once you've packed say "oh hey dude I'm leaving so you can have your couch back. later." If he starts to get weird say "you okay?" and then pause and let him realize he's being stupid. Then just casually leave. If he talks shit he has nothing substantial to talk shit about.
Pride is the least of my worries, I was just wanting to know if he was in the right. I only hang at his place to hang out with people.
I really don't have anything I brought with me. Just my blanket and computer. I just can't believe that's how he'd treat a friend especially after all I've done to help him. I gave that asshole $750, driven him, gotten him food and even video games he really wanted but couldn't get because he didn't have a job, I even helped to get him recruited into the military since he didn't know what to do in his life and hopefully some structure would help him. Dude was basically living off his parents GI for college but stopped going for some reason so they stopped paying him the stipend.
>recruited into the mil
Uhhh... there's a possibility they can help him. It's just as likely that he'll remain kinda angry/disturbed. I mean, we have resources to help people like that but dude it's not good. We have people across the spectrum from chill to anger issues, but there's kind of a line where you can usually tell someone's more "off" than what we can deal with.
I do understand that risk but I figured that if he could get his life stabilized, he'd be fine. He also has debt issues and even a kid he has to take care of since the mother is basically not even there. The military really helped me out when I had no idea what I wanted to do in life and helped me to at least get a foundation for my life. It's a shame this divorce is literally turning these last 3 years into a waste of money. I have only a few thousand saved up and a car with almost 200000 on it.
You got someone prone to murderous rampaging into the military? Oh boy, can't wait to see him on the news...
Yeah, I might just call up his recruiter and let him know about that. I'd hate to screw anyone over like that but I just can't stand him anymore. His fucking temper tantrums are just too much. Fucker needs to realize what happens when he does shit like this. I'll probably try to convince his roommates to leave, they're kinda convinced that only they can help him and that he couldn't handle any new roommates or rather any new roommates wouldn't tolerate him. Dude has had almost 5 different roommates so far.
Just leave. Not a big deal. Find another situation. Better than dealing with that shit. It'll give you time to get in touch with yourself. Try being alone for a bit. You need it. Travel if you can. Travel is good.
>tell his recruiter
Yeah, and see if they can get him a good psych eval as part of his MEPS process. If the recruiter's good and the MEPS is halfway decent they can get a good psych to sit with him and see whether or not he's worth the risk.
t. Air Force who's known some loony motherfuckers in his career
You're right. I first did this because of the depression with my divorce but I'm over her now.
I'll let them know. He hasn't gone to MEPS yet so there's still time. It just pisses me off so much he'd pull this kinda shit with me. Air Force boy here too. Stuck in Dover for the past 3 years and thanks to my ex-wife for causing a scandal, I'll be leaving with an OTH too in addition to this court bullshit.
>OTH
Holy Shit ouch that's brutal. Never stop trying to fight that, man.
>Dover
There are worse places to be. Cannon springs to mind. Fuck that place with all of the cacti. But then again, I don't have a crazy ex to make or have made anyplace Hell. Seriously, never stop fighting the OTH and goddamn be better than her at everything.
I will especially since every job I look at requires either and Honorable or General discharge. Plus it'll fuck all my benefits up. I'm honestly fighting to stay in no matter what even if I gotta take an Article 15 for this bullshit. Commander even denied my conditional request to skill the board for a general.
I don't want to pry too much but what was the scandal about? Did you have an OK reputation before it all went to hell? None of your NCOs have your back/believe your side?
Billionaire lifepill
Bitch stole my phone when I lost it one day. Insisted on leaving no password on it. She put videos of girls on them to press for infidelity including her sister. Due to the scandal caused by it and the fact they practically have all the evidence they need, I'm pretty much fucked. I've gotten almost 14 letters of character from everyone at the shop and some from friends and family along with a psych eval (That I gotta pay $2000 for since the commander won't approve of one) some volunteer work and just the plea that they are taking this too far. I've given the letters to the civilian courts but not the military one for the discharge board yet since I really don't want everyone at work to know every detail which my ADC has told me if I refer them, they will call them up and show them the evidence. Work is the only normal part of my day and I can't lose it.
Fucking yikes.
>CC won't approve of a psych eval
Have you spoken with the mental health folks directly?
>ADC has told me if I refer them, they will call them and show them the evidence
That smells fishy as fuck. Get a second opinion from another base's legal office and record the conversation with their consent. Don't detail your case until *after* you've established their professional legal opinion on whether or not an ADC would detail evidence to witnesses/potential witnesses/character witnesses. That seems like poisoning the well to me.
Also, if you can establish exactly when you lost your phone then regained possession IDEALLY WITH CREDIBLE PROOF from someone you were with at the time, that will help. If you had location turned on, you *may* be able to get location/time/connection records from the service provider.