I was a 25yo virgin when I met my 23yo asian qt. After a while we engaged and are set to be married.
She told me she only had one other bf for 3 years (took her virginity). She told me i was the first white guy she ever dated, and didn’t date any other guys for 6 months before she met me.
I got insecure and read old emails and recently and found out that she actually fucked a white guy a month before we met in the time period she was single. I read the way she talked to him and said stuff about his dick. I was destroyed. I confronted her and she tried to make it seem like he was asian, but later admitted to him being white. She didn’t want me to think she was a slut, she said it was a bad point in her life and she tries to Black it out.
I didn’t believe that was all and read her old Facebook messages. Saw she made out with at least one other internet date about 2 weeks before we met. I confronted her again and she said she did go on internet dates and made out with 2 of them, had sex with the white guy from above, 2 others she just ate dinner. She said she never did anything besides make out with the other 2 because she didn’t want it to lead elsewhere. 4/5 guys were white guys, and she even asked her cousin what to do to keep a white guy. White guys are her type.
So now we went from no guys to 5 guys, 1 person sex and 2 makeout. I don’t believe it was just makeout if she had sex with the other guy. She said after the guy she made out with 2 weeks before we met, she felt disgusted by what she was doing and stopped.
She’s been absolutely loyal to me, but I can’t shake the lies.
Nah homie. Its one thing if you ask her and she just comes clean about everything. Depending on the confession, it may be forgivable. But if she gives you the truth a little bit at a time, and everytime you dig, theres more and more dirt, then sorry bro, you'll never find the end of that hole. She's probably a sweet girl who had a fucked up phase, but that phase is indicative of her as a person, and I promise theres TONS she isn't telling you.
Joshua Thomas
That’s what I’m fucked up over is the trickle truthing. I honestly wouldn’t have cared about this shit if she told me from the beginning. But now it’s like I was sold a product that doesn’t really exist. I would be fucked if later on down the line I find out she slept with a bunch of other dudes. I don’t think I could handle that shit.
Kayden Jones
What do you think? Trust your gut. For me her lying casually about something that she might as well be honest about would be a deal-breaker. I'm in a slightly similar position (first serious relationship, gf had previous partners) and she was hesitant to talk about her sexual post at first but she told me pretty fast and it's not a big deal at all because it literally doesn't matter, it doesn't change her as a person, but lying about it would've made me struggle to trust her with everything else as well.
Doesn't mean I don't understand her a bit, she probably doesn't want to be seen as a slut by the man she loves.
Talk with her and listen to your instincts. Could you trust her again?
Jaxon Edwards
Sorry man but shes lying to you, shes been lying to you, and shes going to keep lying to you She's definitely a slut and she knows it but sees you as a source of income and doesnt want to throw you out if she admits to being a whore
If shes going to lie about things like that, why wouldnt she lie about bigger things, like being unfaithful to you?
Connor King
0/10
Dominic Anderson
yeah, the "trickle truthing" demonstrates that she's able to internally reconcile and justify her wrong doing as long as nobody knows. Not healthy. She may be loyal in regards to other men, but the lying and thrill-seeking will manifest in other ways, it always does. I've had girls like that, they want to be loyal to a good man for once in their lives, end up drinking, stealing, having texting-affairs over social media, shit like that. The bad always finds a way to get out, always.
Ryder Taylor
My heart felt like it could trust her, but my gut was telling me she still wasn’t being honest. And that’s when I found out about the other guys she made out with from internet dating.
When she told me, she said she felt disgusting and just wanted that period in her life to not exist. She wished she met me earlier. That it wasn’t indicative of who she is. I never have doubts of her loyalty, but it makes me question that if she could lie to my face so easily about that...if she cheated she would be able to lie and have no problem hiding it.
Jordan Ramirez
Why does her past even matter? She broke up with a guy who took her virginity, went on and explored her options, then found you and the rest is history.
Don’t be an idiot and let your insecurities ruin your relationship. Good luck to you both.
Robert Jenkins
Why do you really care about what happened before you came along? Why is it any of your business in the first place? Are you afraid she's gonna cheat on you? Are you really that insecure?
Relationships are built on trust, and you're clearly not mature enough for the level of trust that a successful marriage takes. The best thing that could ever happen to her is for you to break up with her, because you're utterly worthless as a husband and a man.
Jacob Taylor
Depends. That history isn't a big deal, but why the lying? Maybe she's afraid you'd think poorly of her.
Austin Baker
Sounds like you're whining and insecure
William Gutierrez
She never has drink or party or anything like that. She was cheated on in her first relationship (stayed in the relationship) and she said she was just trying to feel good about herself again. Getting attention. But she realized after a few months of doing it, that she didn’t want to live that kind of life.
Jaxson Myers
>Be with a lying whore Nice
Liam Brown
>Relationships are built on trust And she broke that when she lied to him.
Benjamin Parker
bingo
Sebastian Butler
Yeah I guess it’s just that if she could lie to me for this long so easily, then she could easily do other stuff behind my back and hide it.
I guess it does really boil down to not trusting anymore. I feel fucked.
I haven’t thought about a life with anyone else besides her for 5 years. I do everything and anything with her, and feel lost when she’s out of my life.
Gavin Hughes
Lol women and men lie about this shit all the time. Who cares.
Samuel Jones
so he didnt break her trust be going through all her private shit without her consent
Connor Ortiz
take it from an oldfag, if her loudest, longest farts don't make you involuntarily cum your shorts, then she isn't the girl for you
Jaxon Rogers
You’re right. I’ve put on about 20lbs since we met, and we’re in a line of work where everyone looks like a fucking model. But why lie to me? You can’t start and build a relationship on lies
Christian Brooks
I would just treat her like she is treating you. You are her arm candy to show her friends and family how she scored a white guy. IDK if you have a good job but if you do you have all the more reason to be worried. If the girl is Viet then there's a high chance she is a gold digger. There are some Viet chicks that aren't but she sounds like she's in it for the status. Fuck her till you are bored and then find a clean Asian waifu.
Ian Williams
Yeah she’s Viet...
Asher Butler
And I’m in a career that currently makes $120K+bonus usd. But she’s in the same line of work, just lower level
Ayden Hall
She didn't even know you back then. If she has been true to you then have to trust her. Would you have slept and made out with some chicks if you had the chance before you met her? It's not that easy to find good a virgin girl.
Asher Thomas
That’s true too, I feel like she experienced something that I may have missed out on.
Ayden Jones
Could be worse OP, she could have a had a train run on her by some nogs
It's tough to say since she has her own income. Does she have her papers? A Viet chick offered me 50k for fake marriage.
If she was only telling you the truth little by little then that's a bad sign imo. I don't have the ability to be the bigger person and forgive for something like that.
It really depends on how you feel. Do you want to move on with her or cut your losses.
Gabriel Flores
She was the chick that took your v card that’s why you’re so stuck on her. If she was so willing to justify and back track on everything she said then what is stopping here from doing it in the future. Don’t be a beta faggot and call it off. From what you said your job isn’t that bad and you’re still young so you can find another chick. Hopefully one who doesn’t withhold shit when you ask them the first time.
Eli Scott
She’s already a US citizen. She’s losing a lot more than I am by marrying me. She has an inheritance in Vietnam that she’s basically giving up to marry me.
Based on that loyalty I absolutely love her and want to marry her. But I saw shit I shouldn’t have seen when I snooped, and it fucked me. Names and certain phrases will trigger me and I go into a crazy asshole state
Cooper Price
I will entertain this obvious bait.
Yes you dumb POS. Don't kys (or do, whatever) over a dumb slut being a dumb. If it was born with genitals it's a dumb slut. If it was born with a mouth it's a dirty liar.
She's an off the boat Asian? You might get fucking guinea worm
Oliver Lewis
Not a bait. I don’t have anybody to talk to because nobody else knows she did this shit. She kept it hidden because she was ashamed. I feel embarrassed about it too
Ayden Taylor
are you really going to throw away a potential wife just because she has some experience? OP is a faggot who will stay a virgin for live. Man up bitch and accept her.
Vietnam money doesn’t mean shit in the US of A fckin nigger
William Howard
Holy shit you're pathetic. Did you ever think she lied because you're a fucking pussy? You need to call off the wedding not because of the lies, but because she deserves better than you.
Colton Gomez
Listen you fucking cuck stop bitching about shit that happened before she met you, you are literally going to fuck up your relationship. If she wants to cheat on you she’ll do it regardless of how honest she was in the past or how honest she is no there is nothing you can do about it. Listen my guy the path you’re going down now is going to make you a spiteful controlling person and that’s something neither of you want so man the fuck up and forget it happened. If she lies to you again not about the shit that happened in the past but the shit that happens recently then yeah sure you have no reason to trust her and leave. Unless that happens grow a pair before you ruin everything.
Jose Johnson
I don’t care about the experience, just the fact that she tried to hide it and paint a better picture. I didn’t give a fuck either way, but it’s a punch in the gut if you found out your girl was slobbering over some other dudes dick a month before you met
Jayden Watson
you weren't even together then, she wouldn't have wanted to tell you all about that stuff because it'd be unnecessarily bothersome, but she was straight when you asked directly about it. if you love her, you love her, this really has nothing to do with that.
James Wright
fuck, guess i'm just more open to sex than other people. Trust your gut OP. maybe go see a mediator
The only wrong here is YOU reading her stuff. Who do you think you are to judge her? It is her stuff. And was all before you met. You suck.
Get a life. She does not deserve a whiny bitch like you. Also stop Talking about white and not white. You sound like a superficial racist.
Bah can’t stand you.
Christopher Roberts
She specifically mentioned it to keep up the lie. I didn’t give a fuck if I was her first white guy
Ayden Garcia
Never trust women.
Nolan Ross
I’m starting to realize why that’s said so much. I had a lot of trust in everything she said. It was all lies
Jaxson Cruz
Seriously OP you sound insecure as fuck “I went through her email” what right did you have to invade her privacy and dig up dirt on her in the first place? She’s not the problem here sounds like you’re turning into a controlling faggot. Fix yourself.
Lincoln Peterson
You don’t want advice you want to feel like you’re in the right, wake up call, you’re being a fag rn
James Bennett
This woman does not love you. The fact is she is perfectly happy lying to you and manipulating you to get what she wants and is willing to justify it. She's the type who you cannot trust.
I know it hurts. But you need to follow your gut with this. This girl isn't for you. Don't commit to her.
OP you are not insecure. You have standards. All these cucks don't mind that their women have been on a cock carousel many a time. They have no choice because that's all they can get. You are different.
Isaac Baker
We have awesome sex and she gives me everything I want basically
Aiden Baker
Wow humans have sex who would’ve known. Shut up incel cuck OP would’ve been slaying pussy if he didn’t spend 25 years being retarded
Charles Nelson
Get her to let you watch her get fucked by another guy. She'll tell you about everything she has ever done while his cock is inside her.
Gavin Bennett
for now. I guarantee you once she has you on a leash her true colors will come out. Why do you think every white guy left her before you? She learned how to hide it better for longer, but still slipped up with you. Don't be retarded.
Brody Sanders
That’s what I’m afraid of
Isaiah Reyes
Holy shit you're dumb. First off, why does it mater it was before you two met and judging by what you've written she isn't some sort of a slut. Second, it's fucking obvious the reason she didn't just come out and told you the whole truth is because she's worried about what you'd think and didn't want to lose you. If anything you should be pleasantly surprised and not a insecure little bitch.
Wyatt Garcia
>it's fucking obvious the reason she didn't just come out and told you the whole truth is because she's worried about what you'd think and didn't want to lose you
See You're the cuck husband.
>She: I can change I promise don’t ruin our marriage over this we can work things out. We can go to marriage counseling seriously talk to me. >She: Please don’t do this. Don’t throw away our marriage for what I did in college please.
What we’re reading here is the script for negotiated desire. Her real desire isn’t for his satisfaction or any real resolution for the deception of her sexual pluralism, but rather a solipsistic maintaining of a normalcy for herself. Our author has no other rationalizations to fall back on, denial of his conditions are no longer sufficient, and he begins to realize a cruel red pill truth – you cannot negotiate genuine desire.
Julian Roberts
OP I'll tell you right now that her lies will eat away at you forever. Now that you've confirmed she is a liar you'll constantly doubt anything she'll ever say. Honestly, it wouldn't be so bad if she just told you the truth. Everyone has sex. I don't expect any modern woman over 20 to have any less than 20 dicks. But the fact that she lied to you about it to get you to commit a huge fucking red flag. What else is she willing to lie about to get what she wants? Who the father of her children are?
