Therapist user here again things went really well so let's have another session

Hmm sounds to me like you have attention deficit disorder, have you talked to your doctor?

alright, ill get on that. thanks doc.

Welcome last bit of advice keep a journal, it may be handy to recount your emotions for that day and what made you feel like that

What is the mechanism through which AA works? What are your thoughts on it?

can't fall asleep - fells like i'm dying... heart starts beating extra... for a month now... horriffic

Do you also specialize in sexual orientation?

Well I have never personally had to go through AA but I know of a few people who have, from what I've heard and read you essentially replace alcohol with religion, if that's not your bag then there's medication that you can take that will make you sick if you try to drink alcohol

i actually do, i dont write in it alot, hard to keep up, but ive had it for around 4years now. lots of crazy shit

I have gathered certain medicine from my time working at a farmacy, enough to make myself sleep and never wake up. 500mg oxycodon, 1000mg+ in benzodiazepines, diazepam aswell as lorazepam and i have domperidon so i wont throw them up. i've planned this for a while but im too big of a pussy to finish it. Ive spent a while in therapy, grouptherapy aswell as individual therapy. I am very good in recognizing what i'm doing wrong and usually can rationalize my negative thoughts, but I just cant seem to 'rationalize' my feelings away. They win vs my brain. My self image is incredibly bad, if I do something good I immediately see the negative side to it. It feels like the metaphorical mountain is too big to climb and I will always stay this pathetic human that has no skills, nothing special going for him, no talents, no discipline, no energy, barely any friends, no social skills, social anxiety, fear to fail and probably alot more i cant think about.. Negatives always weigh heavier than positives. I understand that with anxiety, the way forward is to confront that anxiety, expose yourself to it and go through the experience and eventually it will be easier. But this isnt always the case for me, there will always be a form of anxiety in things i'll do in life and it wont get better, I just have to go through it.
I just think its unfair I have to go through things like this while other people dont. Why cant i be 'normal'?

not sure why i've said this all, im sure it was a hard read aswell lol, i just couldnt stop typing.

Definitely talk to your doctor this sounds dangerously serious

I specialise in nothing but I also have no judgements, yestersay I helped an user realize he was Asexual

fun fact you are diying faggot every day is closer .

No I haven't, I was last at the doctors for anxiety after quitting weed and they are insinuating I'll be put on antidepressants when I come back. I really don't trust them to make such decisions and I feel too mentally unstable to help them decide what's best for me

who cares people are overrated retards with problems like yours just stop being such a fag geez

Got myself a therapist a year ago because of recurrent depressive disorder and I found out that I am more of a lost case than I originaly thought I was.

I am 26 and I essentially live with depression since I am 13, before that I rarely was happy, especially around others. When I was alone I was alright, a regular kid, just not around others.
There was always an aspect in me that sought after a healthy relationship with the people I am surrounded by, even though in general I want nothing to do with people and I do not care about their personality in the slightest I always wished for them to be healthy and happy once they were around me.

Throughout my teens I've had bad experiences with many people and I found myself more and more hurt by the way they live their lifes and how they treated eachother in the process.

Not in a way that I want to dictate how to live but as I observed others I realized for myself, that the sort of happiness and healthiness I wished for others was for them a mere chance thing that might or might not happen as they got involved in various undertakings that very often lead to obvious contradictions and as a result - in war.

I never understood how a life could be lived in such a way and from that I continuously grew more distant to people.
Nowadays I can say I am no different than I was in my childhood, only more firm and confident in what and who I am, and that essentialy I have no real connection to the vast majority of people out there.
This irritates me greatly as I wonder about my place in this system as I do not wish to slave away 14 hour days just to continue to be able to slave 14 hour days.
The two main things I have always, since I was little, considered for me was becoming a hermit or suicide.
Right now, becoming a hermit is what I'd rather have, in general however my purpose in life is preperation for death.
That means I am already fullfilled, I do not need to go anywhere and in that sense I do not have to fight with anybody.

Hello Therapist, i had last week for the first time an episode, where i had two voices in my head arguing and then when they went away i was in shock and felt terror. I think this has to do with long cannabis consum (but i hadn't smoked anything at this point in time for atleast 4 weeks) and an irregular sleeping pattern.

Since then i had trouble sleeping. I would be tired and could sleep but always with disruptions. Now i am at a point where i tried to sleep, but due to stress i can't till now (1 am where i am). How fucked am I?

Don't know if anybody would read this so I left it at that.
Sure could continue I guess.

im ftm, im also bisexual but, im not sure if im a top or bottom and im just confused

are u a female?or just a huge homo that cant face reality

hi!

Who do you rape mostly? milf, teen, child? Are you also gay?

user while I don't know you personally I can tell that from your writing you are a highly intelligent person, and I hope I can help you becuase I was like you a few year ago, and my friend the road ahead is tough I have had a gun in my mouth more times than I care to remember, but user I want you to remember this you can always die, but you won't always get a chance to live, and while I may not be able to stop you from doing what you may do I want you to promise me that you will make the most of every single one of your days, make someone smile do something nice for someone else

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fun fact everybody is a scared delusional faggot like you

Definitely reccomend seeing a counselor, as they can coordinate with your doctor to find the right combination of meds that will help

you dont know what happens after death shitlord

my relationship ended. I wasnt happy, she wasnt happy, her reason was that she just didnt want a relationship - however 4 weeks later she is in a new relationship.
I didnt want to be in the relationship, but why do i feel so shit? is it just dumb psychology of i dont want to share my "toys" etc or am i just retarded.

Hello OP, I am a freshman psychology student. Aiming to become a neuropsychologist, dreaming of becoming a representative of the branch and general psychology. E.g. like Neil degrasse Tyson is for Astronomy.

>How realistic is my goal?
22yr old, not the smartest, huge interest in psychology, I love playing mindgames with people, almost to the extend that I manipulate them, for the fun of it.

Other questions;
>how much do you earn?
>are you a private therapist? Or work for a firm?
>how do you cope with everyone's sick stories?
>are you married?
>where are you from?

you cant face another nigger fucking your whore dog and you feel like a cuck thats it

Fun fact, ur a turk

Thanks user

>I love playing mindgames with people, almost to the extend that I manipulate them, for the fun of it.
lol u think people not notice your fucking shit retard they are just good people

samefag

Give me a seconed here to reply
Definetly sounds like bipolar schizophrenia if so highly reccomend medication
If you don't already have a partner find someone you feel comfortable enough to experiment with you'll never know how cold the water is until you dive in

That's as incoherent as the rest of your logic probably is.
But lets hear it.

Not an actual therapist I just happen to enjoy helping people out with their problems

>almost to the extend that I manipulate them
Do you realize that you alway manipulate them even when you don't try? It's like breathing to you really. Maybe you should repeat a class or two.

On the other side they also already manipulate you in various obvious and not so obvious ways.

>it's ok we all like to play pretent, that's life

you didnt answer my post

every being in this reality is mentally ill and scared of something

I feel like I lived my live automated and I didn't realize actions cause a reaction.
I didn't internalize routines and habits because I feel like they don't work.
I'm unable to have any kind of commitment and very self-aware,
How do i fix myself?

Relationships are definetly tough, and you are allowed to feel whatever you want to feel, you could just feel betrayed because her reasoning was she wanted to be single, yet is already rebounded, so you could be taking it personally, just distract yourself from her and give it some time friend

Not OP, but make sure you cut out all caffeine. If you get eat or drink something with caffeine in it in the afternoon, this can make it difficult to sleep at night. Your body and brain may be still adjusting to not having cannabis in it every day also. Good luck.

>Not the smartest
If you thought you had to be smart to talk about a subject that no one knows anything about on TV, trust me, you're wrong.

>fight with gf of 6 years often (she has gained a lil weight don't want her to become land whale)
>GF of 6 years leaves me
>we don't talk for a week
>gf ends up sleeping with a coworker
>get back with gf
>find out after she lies saying she didn't see anyone
>still with her cuz I love her but the thought of her sleeping with someone less than a week after leaving me really haunts me daily and every time we have sex

what do? do i leave her even though i ;love her?

Pretty good looking guy, can replace her easily but idk if it will be the same though I have dated her for so long she's like family to me

Ok sorry user You seem extremely intelligent, I would seek out an opportunity to maybe put your skills of obeservation to use, find something else to master, diversify yourself, the reason you feel like you do is because you've had enough time to analyze yourself

I applied to the Navy (My dreamjob since I was a kid), and they still haven't replied, now for a while.
Further more, after my bachelor's degree I went back to my parent's house 800KM away and I have no friends in this shitspace.I haven't seen a friend in over 4 months and I can't manage to make friends at the gym or at the bar.
It's been a week that I've been contemplating suicide, either by plastic bag or drowning.
If the navy doesn't accept me I'm fucking lost, I've only ever wanted to do that, I fucking hate civilian life.
Can anybody talk me out of An Hero?
I haven't told my friends because I'll seem like a crying bitch, and my family will be annoyingly over me and probably put me in a hospital.

Hey user, that was a very well thought out argument you put out there, yes, some people find out I am full of shit, but that is usually the case when I overdo it, or spend more time with someone than I originally thought It would last. But most people I hang around with really believe I am who I say I am, and adjust themselves. And take over my fake habbits. And I just love that. I know it makes me a very bad person, but I can't help myself. It's so easy with some people.. I get girls, 'friends' that help me out with what I need. Comnections all over the city, biggest negative to this is that I forget sometimes who I really am, and think I am only who I let myself be in function of the person I am talking to and out up the facade. Also never long lasting relationships.

Scars are scars and the fact that you do have them means that you are still here.
Illness means a continuous loss of energy and I do not see how this applies to all beings existing right now including myself.
Why would anyone consciously live like this?

That is the hot question to me.

Reply hazy try again

Right, and i have all her passwords to social media on my computer etc, ive not been on them but the temptation is there. Should i delete them + all the nudes? Im literally dumbfounded by this feeling, i loved her and im glad it ended so why do i feel so shit that shes with someone else (im 24 live on my own, planned to move in with me)

Sorry, just trying to vent somewhere

she will cheat on you again but who cares is only sex atleast she cares about you most people would let you die in the street hungry

Break up with her you fucking cuck. She doesn’t love you, she bounced another dick as soon as she could. She probably already had the guy in mind as you were breaking up if not before.

My girlfriend left me after 5 years relationship. She made out with a guy on a party and regrets it and want to come back. I feel like a dick because i don't do seconds.

Obvious answer is obvious

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Dont ge fooled most people do the same things you do or worse you never know

Hate to break it to you but if you keep having those thoughts you're just gonna drive a wedge between the two of you, you'll have to either let it go or let her go

gf had a rough past, she switches between being very cold (much less affectionate, doesnt want to say "love" for example in any way), and her normal self. Any tips for making her feel better and perhaps shorten the phases in which she's different? Couldnt convince her to see a therapist yet.

wtf, are u me?
how old are u

Suicide is never the answer user, if the navy doesn't get back to you try the coast guard or the national guard, try that for a few years then try the Navy again, don't let one failure be your demise, that's not the Navy way

What led you to become a therapist?

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Definitely delete it all, isolate yourself from her, and give yourself time to get her out of your noodle

i feel that i've peered a bit too deeply and for a tad too long into the abyss. like elo said;
>the music is reversible but time is not. turn >back. turn back. turn back.

youtube.com/watch?v=tHQhqVDz6KY

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I'm still a fucking child, 18.

most of them fear physical pain and they will do anything to not feel it

Well if you feel like making an exception for her try the relationship again, but you have to be willing to forgive her

You say exactly the same as my therapist does, whom I deem a very good man.
I suppose now that I hear it again in this very place I must atleast admit to myself that there is some truth to it. Atleast the part of my having had more than enough time to analyze.

You actually did help, I think that was what I needed to hear.
I already worked all my life to see as much as I can, try as much as I can, master whatever I can muster the strength and reason for.

I sort of realize now that all I do, I really do it for others. Exactly those whom I feel so betrayed and oftentimes disgusted by, seeing them helplessly fall beneath their own level again and again.

It's an abstract feel user and I will stop it at this point.
You really did open a knot there even though I heard that before.

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Holy shit, I was just thinking about what you just said today, the question that follows then is.. how do you spot someone playing a game? I noticed I give myself away when I'm drunk, under harsh questionning or naturally over a period of time. So I look for those openings in other people where I can catch their BS. Not easy tho.. but it makes life so much more fun!

Dude, their goods have limited time offer. So that how this Gender have to operate. If you both were unhappy, its better it ended. Stop looking after her.

Is buying rats to torture them ok ?

youtube.com/watch?v=gg8JYYyWSPg

I loved that scene.

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Be there for her friend, find out what makes her happy, and do those things, if you want to spend the rest of your life with her then you will do anything to make it work, stay strong for her user, when she's healed up you'll have a much stronger relationship

No clue maybe the people you trust the most kill you in your sleep it happened before or maybe your enemy helps you

True, that's basically what I had in mind... Thank you user!

Focus on stepping back from yourself, take time to weigh out your decisions start makimg a routine out of something small (I have to open this drawer everyday)

she didn't technically cheat, just sleep with some immediately after we broke up.

Does this include physical therapy? I fucked up my shoulder benching. Google says I’m not
>retracting the scapula

Wtf I thought that was kinda a meme?! In the meantime, how do I speed up healing?

Plot twist I am your therapist see you on Wednesday

No, but there’s nothing stopping you. Are you looking for some kind of validation from internet anons for what you want to do?

Yeah I understand that, But I want to be respected by colleguea more than I want the generall population to respect me. If my peer reviewed content is precise enough I will start putting out content. But I know I should start somewhere. Youtube seems to be a good way to start

But we meet on Mondays and you said you were gone for 3 weeks.

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Hmmm try something in the pool?

>low impact won't feel too bad
>it's a pool so bikini chicks?

Would've been amazing if I was right
>nice trips

Go back to shameless you limp dick

>What led you to become a therapist?

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Just had a kid a few months ago. I'm miserable. I never wanted kids, and I never wanted to get married. I have to pay for my mistake for a lifetime, and I know that. But what really makes me sick is knowing that this sweet little angel has to pay for my mistake too. And the woman who carried her has to pay for it. I don't hide my emotions well. I'm tired, I'm cranky, and it's affecting our relationship. I don't know what to do.

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Sometimes you eat the bear, sometimes the bear eats you.
I'm going for a long drive now, have a good one.

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Definitely not, I hope that you're just trying to be edgy, if not definitely talk to someone as that is very psychopathic, if you don't wanna do that then buy a snake so that way people won't think you're weird

You can allways go for a pack of ciggs dude but are you that big of an asshole

Hi therapist, im 34 m in full time employment in a "satisfying job" married, love my wife, have wanted to kill myself for fifteen years and it just gets worse.

have a real therapist i talk to every week, on my fourth antidepressant on my sixth dose increase.

why bother? i still want to die

Well I would definitely seek separation, just be a good person and pay your child support

Public pools are public pools. Most people are average or ugly.
So
>bikini chicks
Meh

What you observe is a future that becomes reality only when you bring it closer to yourself.
What I mean is that you forgot how to live without that perspective that you have.
It's one perspective out of many possible perspectives.
Maybe a small twist in your life can help you bring you back on YOUR track.

5 minutes of an exercise of your choice can go a long way.

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This sound cliché to say the least, but I never trust anyone, learned that the hard way. To the extend that I don't even trust my parents when it comes right down to it. But if I can redefine the word Trust into: the feeling that said person will obide by the notion or agreement that was made. I like to test out that form of trust by randomly testing people, starting of with easy things and slowly putting more trust on them with 'fake resposibilities' that are still under my control. E.g. take this money and buy lets sayy 25g weed. I know the price of weed, and I know which dealer has which tyoe of weed. If I see that he has tried to fuck me kver in any wah shape or form. I will take notice but never let said person know I have more info. Then it is up to me to find a suiting respons for the broken trust.

SSRIs are a meme

Cutting worked wellish for a while. But it’s super addicting because it makes you feel so much better, you start needing more and more though. It helped me through some rough times.

T. Ex-depression user

helping others wont help yourself, it just fills the void for a few seconds
youtube.com/watch?v=cuDKfGi_7-I

Chronic depression is a bitch isn't it, give the medications time to work, maybe your therapist missed something do you have feeling of extreme happiness followed by intense sadness?

solving the captcha

Was trying to make a joke, but yes I would reccomend low impact exercise it could be seized up, if all else fails go see an actual physical therapist

Why tho ? It will end anyway

>this is true

It's called embracing the madness, if you are suicidal just let life kill you friend til then make the most of your time here

Right now the best description of life i can come up with is;

when you've been playing a board game for hours and its clear to everyone you aren't going to do well, and you want to give up, but you have to keep playing for everyone else.

I'm not even an idealist who thinks you can win at life, i just straight up don't have any desire to keep going, the anti depressants stop me from feeling like killing myself in the instant, but they also stop me from feeling day to day.

Got to post the nudes here before you do anything else.

Sometimes I get the urge to kill everyone around me. What the hell is wrong with me?

Had same problem, went to kinetherapy. This is what the dude told me:

>fucking warm up shoulder everytime u go to gym
>correct your posture
>time heals all wounds
>fucking warm up the shoulders
>don't overdo, never overdo shoulders again.

If you fucked up ur shoulders benching, ur not benching right. Ask trained people, look at others, learn, and again... warm up those shoulders..

I've tried this argument, and Camus says, if life is absurd then you are free to make your own meaning and take pleasure in the absurdity.

Still got to wake up every morning, and go to work for my owner to earn enough money to struggle to pay for my home owner.

Well I am an anonymous head on the internet so I can't really stop you from doing anything, I can reccomend that maybe you don't want to keep playing this board game but maybe someone enjoys you playing it, instead of focusing on you failing instead try to look at what you've accomplished, you said you had a kid? And where married? That's amazing friend, juat because you aren't where you want to be doesn't mean you can't enjoy where you're at

How can I stop letting the outside world dictate my life, even when nothing happens rather than taking action I wait since I actually dont know what I want or how to go about doing anything really.

I just want to be usefull for once i my life.
Help.

cut expenses, change lifestyle, work less, pay less
>profit?

Intrusive thoughts user, they are perfectly normal and could mean that you are over stressed, take some time to yourself

>morbid curiosity
>boredom so u fill ur mind with bs like this
>not knowing how to deal with anger
>because everyone thinks of it.. maybe its in our nature to kill?

Whenever I am in class, and someone sits in front of me, I fantasize of just gripping said person by the neck and dropping my weight and power on that turtleneck till it pops. And just keep hanging in such a position that no one can get me off of said person. my arm gets twitchy and adrinaline pumps through my veins whenever I think of it. It makes me feel so alive. Maybe one day I'll do it. I wanna hear that popping sound, I am specially training my arms for this sole purpose. And They getting BIG...

But isnt meaning nothing more than a function derived from identity? What worth does meaning even have other than distracting yourself from the reality we are unable to grasp?

Sounds like you have executive anxiety, start out by making small decisions try to pull yourself out of the moment, work on staying calm

You have a kik, Doc? I really need some help with anger and it's too long to explain here :/

It doesn't and that's the wonderdul part we can find something that exists in a vacuum and mold it to what we want

I have achieved lots of things, I don't have a kid (I never wanted one and i find my nieces tiring), I've achieved things that would make others go wow, I've had great jobs, I've had great hobbies, I've travelled, I've fucked, I could move and pay less, but whatever I do, I have to get up and leave my bed and make money or I die, so why not die.

I have zero pleasure any more, yesterday I edged for three hours and came so hard my dick is red and sore, and that was the highlight of my year so far.

Here ya go

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Niggers are my problem

Wheee!

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Hmmm are you doing anything creative?

Explain

If I stop holding onto the moment time just speeds up and nothing changes, I demand change but dont know what or how though. What is the difference of a small decision comapared to a big one?
I know rationally that I am free to do alot but I feel limited in every way since I am simply overwhelmed and discouraged.

Niggers ruin everything everywhere they go. There are niggers here. Not much to explain.

Hey nigger, stop practicing medicine without a license. You're a therapist, not a physician.

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Oh I've done cutting, running out of space.

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no need to prove anything. quit job and stay in bed for as long as you need. I mean it, you are free. you have this one life to make out of what you feel like.

I am always procrastinating. I get close to achieving my goals but never follow through. Pretty damn good shape but not the body I want. Sitting here instead of going to the gym, same excuse for the last few days. Make pretty good money at work but I work in sales and can do a lot more if I put more work in. I just waste a lot of time and put things off. Condo is a fucking mess, laundry has piled up. I don't stick to my schedule of cleaning when I should so it just becomes a huge task that I always push to later.

So close to having my shit together. So close, all the time.

How about you and I go to a nigger country and ruin everything for them there?

We are only a few thousand generations out from throwing feces and screeching like the monkeys we are. Traits get selected and reinforced when they increase the chances of survival at least up to the point of reproduction.

They don't need help. Remember when I said niggers ruin everything everywhere they go? They've been there for a long time. All nigger countries are a disaster.

Arent we molding delusions then? Sure we can create our subjetive reality, tell any story we like to justify and view our experiences under, but are we not alone in that world? Do we not demand more than our stories, attepting to break out of them? Ironically by creating more stories?

Small decisions would be like what socks am I going to wear today sometbing that has no impact on your life versus a big decision like what job am I going to take, it's all about the impact that is has on you, once you're certian of the socks you wanna wear then the rest will be easy

Was it rape if I fucked her even when I didn't want to? I keep fucking women just because they seem to want it but I always feel sad after I cum

This is a lovely ideal, but forever is a long time. I have about six months of sick pay, which I'm running down now.

what does making something out of your life even mean?

So I become a CEO, so I become a weed dealer, so I spent my life saving baby puppies from extinction, I'm telling you, I am approaching emotionless, why exist?

you are the light through which the light breaks, allways. you cant escape subjectivity

Socks are great and all but I tend to just wear whatever happens to be clean, it does not feel like a conscious decision I have any real control over.

>can we do something about it?
>should we do something about it?
>what's the best way to cope with a negro nigger?

Had this kind of conversation with an user yesterday, you might be Asexual

Don't you? Surely you could find a matching pair or a not matching pair, do you have different lengths of socks?

No, they are niggers and niggers act like niggers.

No.

A gun.

Independece? Finding something you like to do?

This is a lovely thought experiment, but why choose to experience pain over nothing?

Of course we never could. I am asking if we are trying to through stories, because if we were to hypothetically all share the same delusion would it not be reality? A step away from isolated subjectivity?

Why do we need a consistent story for ourselves? What purpose is there to find in compulsory delusions?

drugs booze sex and food

change perspective?

That was a pretty niggery thing to say.
>Not being happy with niggers
>not doing anything to cleanse the earth of niggers
All talks but no walks..
I say we blow up as much as we can. I am muslim so leave the bombing to me.

You exist because life tossed you into a meaningless existence, killing yourself is only giving life what it wants, life wants you to feel like nothing matters, because it doesn't, there's nothing you can do about it so you might as well enjoy sonething

Help me, OP.

Imo it is batshit crazy how easy it becomes to endure pain once you have an excuse. The reason peple choose pain over nothingness is boredom and for the drama, for the story you can then tell yourself. It is an odd way of giving yourself a use or function. Everyone wants to be useful and it is easy to make up somethign surrounding an experience, regardless is positive or negative.

I'm planning to cut contact with my dad.

While Id like to never see him again I expect to nevertheless see him at my half-sisters birthdays etc from time to time.

Im thinking of informing him by email and/or indirectly via his wife. Its kinda shitty but Im uncomfortable with phones and we live 500 km apart so the alternative is to do it during one of my half-sisters birthdays or to visit once extra for a meeting that probably would deteriorate into shouting within 10-15 minutes and leave me having to walk to the station.

He has been physically and psychologically/emotionally abusive all my life. Im in my mid 30s and spent about 2/3 of my specialized PTSD treatment discussing my dad with the last third being spent on the near death experience at work that helped me get the PTSD diagnosis in the first place.

Im not upset with my dad and have thought hard about how I want to continue. The cutting contact is not intended as punishment. Im not even angry with him. I just want to protect myself better.

Any advice/questions?

I theoretically do, theory and practice are not the same. I am aware its in my head, doesnt stop me from feeling powerless and overwhelmed.

Life doesn't want anything, we are both nothing, and the length of our existence means nothing.

I've done everything I want, I've done lines of coke and fucked women and stayed in beautiful homes and laid in infinity pools, i have a home and a family, i have a job and i have 'purpose', all i get from anybody is whattaboutism 'oh you just haven't climbed a mountain' so i climb a mountain, 'oh you just havent been to southeast asia' so i fucking go.

ALL OF IT HAS NO INHERENT FUCKING PLEASURE, AND NO MEANING BEYOND BRAGGING RIGHTS

Not OP but I have/Had similar problem.
You work out, so this prob sound familiar.
Everyone can go to the gym
But not everyone can keep going to the gym
-> power to push trough is what makes a body builder.
Sticking ro a schedule is the most important thing to achieve anything. Let it be Fitness, school, household. And it is never going to stop, so best thing is to accept this fact. And it will get easier. Start with household. Move on to gym then work. Make it fun, give yourself a treat aftee u done something. I get an orgasm when i come home and everything smells nice and looks clean af. So I keep it that way.

im sure he dosent give a shit if he beat you up so fuck him

This is the first reply in the thread which isn't just kids saying, well get (x) and life will be better.

But enduring pain becomes the excuse.

have you ever done anything YOU want to do?
maybe shit on others opinions just a little bit.

To bad its a loli thread now

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so fuck it dude just anhero if you really want it that bad the ones alive will just keep living and forget about you in some years

Welp im out

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Been going on and off for years. I'm in good shape and get compliments, I just can't get to my goal body as I never follow through completely. Same with my home and work. Nice place but its dirty. Good job but I could literally be over 100k/year if I got it together. So I settle for less.

Sticking to the schedule is what I have trouble doing. My time is well managed I just don't follow it

your perspective is crap, why is everything just pain? are you in your puberty?

No no no no no no
I said hentai thread!

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Tf did i just say?

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If you seek relationship with other caring individuals youll have to seek them out.

You may also want to join Mensa if you want more interesting conversation but Mensans are not more emotionally mature than average people so youll still find most of them lacking, sadly.

You do need to take care of yourself more and value yourself and your own well being at least as high as your fellow man's.

Im low key wondering what made you be so near altruistic in your actions. Utilitaristic is clearly more fair. In my case it was trauma/abuse.

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Whats a mensa?

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I think i will, i used to worry about what people would feel

then i worried about how i would do it and if it would work

now i just think, i'll hang myself in a bathroom in a public building.

my family will hate me for it, but i don't care because i wont be physically capable of caring. at least i will have done what i can to shield them from the seeing a corpse/dealing with the aftermath shit that i can.

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Well what is it that bothers you then? If meaning has no meaning and most experiences are just IRL Karmawhoring why attempt to keep up? Can you not just be, floating around in an incomprehensible universe?

What is it that you actually demand of existance? Is it an explaination or goal? A story to tell yourself? Maybe something else entirely, it doesnt matter.

Stop expecting others ideas to be reflected in your reality, just embrace the absurd.

Worst case is that you waste some years of life, what do you have to lose?
Death is always gonna be there so why not procrastinate suicide?

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Noooooo dont do it

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My pedo

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You do you, boo. No one is going to want you to achieve more. They'd rather see you fall. Even you take comfort in knowing you could to better but don't do it. One day u will be older, look back and say.. why tf didnt i do it then.. i guess it wont matter even. Ur average.. so you could settle 4 this lifestyle. No one is going to judge.. no one cares... everything you do, you do it to urself. If ur not happy with this, change it. I dare you

i wish, im 34, and now i meet people and they talk about how hard their lives have been for the last three whole years of job problems, and i look in the mirror and see a fat bald man instead of a teenager.

just do be a piece of shit and blow yor brains in your living room

Idk why yall so deppressed about but im having a great night

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Sure pain becomes the excuse, but in what context?

Mostly to victimize the self, to have a rationalisation of ones feelings of powerlessness or inadequacy.

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Louis louis louis ckkkkkk

Therapist..... you mean...

THE - RAPIST ... aha beware the mind killer!

No guns in the UK, and even if i could 3d print one, i cant 3d print ammunition.

and don't be sad, you didnt know i existed until you read this post and you wont remember i did afterwards.

You know my grandpa tols me its never to late to life life, he had a shitty job as a plastic surgery guy.
He quit when he was 50 and then started to do all kinds of things.

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How about you?

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Its a support group for people with atypical intelligence.

Me boi

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And his grandson is posting loli

Whats worse then a rapist?

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A child

Dude its atleast something. We could meet but obviusly you wouldnt

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This is like a Facebook post that someone finished writing and thought was incredibly profound.

>this place
>having lots of sex

I came back from my drive.
I can't say anything about "what made me so near altruistic in my actions".
I sort of always understood the unconditional possibility of stopping, whatever it may be, just to consider the situation and make the best of it.

Like when someone strikes up anger in you, can you take 5 minutes or even a day to let it sit and only then give an answer?
People love to get intense and tend to hurt one another in the process.
It's all fun and games until someone loses an eye, they say.

I wish to be well, strong and growing and I want all others to have that too. Seeing the many ways they manage to defeat themselfes bothers me alot and I am afraid that I might inherit such a tendency without realizing it because I am constantly surrounded by it.

so how do i become adequate to my own thoughts? how do you achieve power within your own mind?

my mind is like the Arnold Rimmer of minds, given the free expanse to imagine whatever paradise it desires it would saddle me on a beach with a wife who hates me and crying children.

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Is it like the super intelligent or dumb?

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ok... my wife is sick, and i'm tired of being chained down. got an amazing woman all over me at work. i just want to dick her hard. wat do?

Am I wrong tho?

Dubs

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It's atypical, he said it.

Neck you fucking pedophile weebo

Go fuck em if your wife wants you to be happy shell be fine with it

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Yes you are

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No, because all you've posted was standard talking points with no substance or plan to enact change.

Double dubsssssss

K

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I think it would mean more if he heard it from you directly in some capacity. If you relay the message to his wife, she's left to her own devices to give him her interpretation of your words. Given the brief information you've provided about your dad, he doesn't come across as, and I mean no offense by this, the type of guy who would care much about an email.

If it's known you're uncomfortable with phone conversations, I think that's honestly your most effective way of communicating how you feel. It's an uncomfortable message you're delivering via an uncomfortable mode of communication. It's just that important to you. Plus, if the conversation takes a turn for the worse, you can just hang up. Write out what you want to say and stick to the script. You can always email him if the conversation goes sour.

Does it matter that I am, tho?

Well you aint gonna stop me cuz im in a wonderful mood today wooooohooooooooo

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To bad no triple dubs

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I have no idea

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posting this autistic shit makes you happy ?

Im amazed no one is triggerd by this little “invasion“

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If you go back a little further in the convo, I set out a basic plan. It's not life changing but it's my perspective on how I manage schedules and make them more appealing. His reaction had nothing that made me think he actually wants to change his lifestyle. So I posted that general no nonsense motivational yet pessimistic facebook post. So, yeah..

No no no its not that easy

I got laid tonight im drunk and i snorted coke
Doing it sober would be just autistic

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It was fun for as long as it lasted

Oh no its no cocain its something against pain

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Oh it isnt anymore?

my days are long and boring, sometimes i want to die because of the same grind over and over and over again

i want to die all the time, i get that life isn't boring, just i am bored. games don't fulfill me, which hobbies would anybody enjoy ?

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By getting a spine and understand the personal standards and expectations that you put on yourself. Figure out why you have the ideas that you have. Once you are aware of these you can reevaluate and work towards changing or upholding your sense of identity and thus your feeling of worth and adequacy.

That or you just throw your sense of self out the window and live off of old poptarts, thats what I do.

Should i stop?

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My days are too long and boring and if i do something exciting its over in a mo ent

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I know deep down, my vague statements made it impossible for you to agree or disagree, and my statements is not falsefyable, so it really doesnt matter.. so I win! Now you have to post you best and most fapped to loli image xx

Your dubs made me curious and resurected my interest in replying

this one idk why i guess it reminds me of someone?

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You know whats better than dubs?

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so you are on drugs makes more sense

Im all but convinced that I have high functioning autism, several counselors and and therapists as well as my parents have suggested this and my little brother has it worse than I do but hes been diagnosed. He is a child so hes getting help for it, I am 21, is there even any point in getting diagnosed at this point or is it just easier to live like a normie and hide it? If anyone can weigh in on this I would really appreciate it, I was gonna ask my grief counselor but he killed himself a few months ago.

Being able to step back and stop yourself from lashing out is one of the traits an unusually emotionally mature person would have...
aconsciousrethink.com/3879/15-traits-emotionally-mature-person/

People are affected by those around them, even if they try not to be. You can't choose all you surround yourself with, but you can choose some. Choosing to have people who are as nurturing as you (or at least very nurturing) will allow you to improve further.

I wouldn't worry too much about becoming like them. Most people don't even reflect on their actions, much less analyze themselves and control their mental growth. It's wasteful to allow unnecessarily many hurtful people into your life though, because even if they don't tear you down they'll certainly stump your growth.

This was personally very disappointing, yet i am happy you posted it

What?

Ftp 187 boiiiiiiiiii

trips

U tried

> be m, 28 y/o male
> on 72mg concerta for ~3 years now
> single for most of that, recently started dating seriously again
> realize my dick doesn't get 100% hard anymore majority of the time
> realize almost no random boners for a long time
> can fap but not quite hard enough for sexy times
100% sure meds AND porn use are to blame, any idea on if one is a significantly larger factor than the other? Is my penis forever ded?

Trips of course!

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I was diagnosed fairly late and honestly for me personally it was not worth it, since it only resulted in people trying to convince me to sign up for weird ass fit-into-society programs. If that is the kind of therapy you are looking for the sure, go for it. I just saw no point since I had already developed my own methods to navigate social and societal situations on my own, also I like to be accountable for what I do and say rather than screech about "muh autism".

Meds maybe but porn?

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I'm 35, I was diagnosed at 32. Also high functioning.

The reason I got the diagnosis was because I needed assistance the state would provide, and because I needed reduced expectations at work.

If you need a diagnosis or not depends on your situation. Many autists who are high functioning enough to cover their diagnosis still get stressed out at work. It's not unusual for them to get burned out from trying to work full time despite needing to spend a lot of energy on maintaining the facade.

I was able to compensate for my autism enough to be passable (and probably non-diagnosable) until I got sick in PTSD... and once I got that, I "became" autistic too because my mental injury prevented me from being able to compensate.

If you think that could happen to you, or that your state would provide you assistance you might need down the road, then getting a diagnosis could make sense.

If not, then by all means settle for self-diagnosis. Read up on autism so you know what kind of things others wont understand, and so you know when and where their behavior will be weird to you.

Cool

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I fap daily, but sometimes the ADHD takes over or the concerta makes me concentrate on wanking for a while and I end up cranking it out for an hour or more...

She looks like a girl i had a crush once

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Even cooler!

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Cant wait to reach image limit!

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i think i just run out of happy chemicals or mood stabilizers like serotonin with my limited supply

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what kind of readings would you reccomend? I have been in several disabled focused theatre troupes since I was young because my parents are disabled and also wanted me to volenteer a lot so i have enough ways of maintaining the facade of being a normal person long enough to get through most days and if i burn out I feign illness which isnt hard because my kidneys are fucked up and I take meds for it that can make me get headaches or tired. I havent really done a lot of research other than the stuff to help my brother and the usual stuff anyone would know. What would you say I should read to understand more about why people are so fucking weird all the time?

What you mean limeted supply?
Its not like you cant refill it

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well i use up whatever i have, drain it and the supply slowly restores itself

depression doesn't help , but a repetitive and empty day doesn't either, i know what i must do but i hate days like this. i went without 5 days of sleep before and i won't go back to it again.

may as well go to 155

You know what pisses me off the most?
That im good with many people in school
(idk what it is pre-uni)
But nobody wants to hang out with me or invite to a party. Sometimes im completely ignored and i always get the feeling that everybody talks smthng behind my back.

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Fukitdude

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meet me there lol

What even is that

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you would love it lol do a little research

My mom died 24 days ago after a 3 year battle with lung cancer. I spent the last 2 weeks of her life by her, and I watched as she died. During this time i've OD'ed twice,broke a bone and 3 knuckles in my hand, and drank more alcohol than I ever have.
I can't sleep. When I do all i see is my moms lifeless body and I hear an extremely loud ringing noise. I have nearly constant panic attacks. I don't know what to do. My mom refused to tell me how bad it had gotten. I thought she was in remission until i was told shed be gone soon. It's all so fucking unfair.

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What do i have to research im only getting results of some poemon shop

Sry to hear

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i know what you mean, chances are they probably are. if you are still in high school then this isn't abnormal, people are assholes there and i've often looked back in disgust at some of my actions.

don't take your social 'status' at school too seriously cause those same people gonna come back to you later in life, up to you whether you wanna reject them or not. most them may be ignoring you due to peer pressure

It's a chan like this but not 4 its 155

If you can make it through it, I'd probably recommend borrowing a book on the subject. You can blame it on trying to understand your brother better if you like.

If you want lighter stuff, I think this one is okay: harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/signs-of-aspergers-in-adults.htm

I generally disagree with the description that autistic people are unempathic though. I find them to be very empathic, but since they don't react to the same things non-autists do, they come across as lacking empathy when they don't get upset (or care about) something that would upset a neurotypical.

They're often very clearly empathic towards animals though for instance.

If you wanna talk in private you can email me at [email protected] and we can exchange other contact info. (I'm not Russian.)

.gr

*hugs* Honestly, being upset within the first few weeks of a parent dying is reasonable.

The OD's are a problem though.

Do you have any social support system? Friends you can meet up with?

You need to take a break from mourning and remind yourself that life continues, and that you have people who care about you.

How do I learn social awareness? Or at the very least
>when people don't like me?
>when people "tolerate my presence" and don't really consider me a friend?
>When you are creeping someone out?
>when someone is creeped out?

Ok you went from 1 to 100000 real fast

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Ohhhh you mean that chan yeah no thanks

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dumb lol stop spamming weird shit please

Are you autistic?

I'm not being facetious.

Finally someone gets it!
You just have to say stop

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Im tired goodbye

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Probably not, but I know I'm dense for sure.

Hey guys, two weeks ago I hooked up with a prostitute while I was shitfaced.

Long story short, we went back to her place, kept drinking, she went down on me without a condom, then I had a blackout. I have flashbacks of opening a box of condoms, but I can't remember if we used a condom during the whole thing.

I woke up the next day in her bed, fully dressed. I asked her and she says we did use a condom, but I don't know if I can trust her.

Also I asked her if there was something I should worry about, and she said no

A couple of days ago, I went to the doctor. It turns out I have an infection, probably chlamydia or gonorrhea.

I'm terrified out of my mind that I might have contracted HIV. The anxiety is killing me and it's too early to get an accurate test

What do you guys think? how likely you think it is?

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Okay... you may wanna read up on the social difficulties high functioning autists have though.

It's tricky with social interaction, because people expect you to just know the social norms and usually don't tell you what they think.

You can try asking them straight up, but it'll still leave you being "weird".

You can try looking at others, see if you can identify clues when they dislike some other person.

HIV isn't a death sentence anymore, so it's not that scary. It's even been cured once or twice.

That said, most people don't have HIV, so your prostitute probably doesn't have it, and the transfer rate during regular intercourse isn't that high.

You're very unlikely to have HIV.

I appreciate it user, that actually gave me some peace of mind.

Legit psycho

I have a gf thats 4'11'', and sex really isn't that pleasant. What do?

Like probably most of the people that go here, I share a lot of those problems.

>It's tricky with social interaction, because people expect you to just know the social norms and usually don't tell you what they think.
And, arguably, a fair amount of these issues can be mended if these rules were made known of these things. A major concern/fear that I have is that they use talking shit about someone else as a way of talking shit to your face.
e.g.
>Person B: I think C is gay. He met my girlfriend, he knows I'm straight and yet he still flirts with me. wtf I'm not gay.
>Person A: C is a total faggot

Later
>Person A: Wow, isn't B a huge faggot?
>Person C: I think B is a nice guy, what are you talking about?

Shit talking is lame all around :( It's worst in high school I think.

I try to avoid people like that.

But there's the question of: Is it a genuine jab at the other person or a veiled insult at you? And my question is, how do you tell?

I think the purpose generally is to establish themselves as the "high status person" in the group by demeaning all opposition.

That said, I wouldn't really want to be around a person who acts like that a lot.

I caught my wife wearing a strap on doing anal to a man. They both say its the only they do because thats how he likes it. What should i do?

age/29
Going to be 30 in about two months.
Live with verbally abusive and hypocritical father.
~$20,000 in debit and can't afford to get my own place.
Been in the hospital more times than I can count for trying to an hero but I always fuck that up too.
I can't do anything right.
Father bitches that I need to get a job. Got a job and enjoyed working, he complains I work too much and beats my ego down again. I get fired for poor performance because of depression. He complains I need a job again, it's an endless cycle.
He hasn't had a job in over 15 years.
Girlfriend broke up with me because she would rather watch Netflix and go on snapchat with all her friends on the phone I bought her instead of spending time with me.
I'm generally too caring and always help everyone both emotionally and financially, and always end up being fucked over in the end.
I just don't want to wake up anymore, nothing ever gets better.
Suggestions?

Edit:
Had to repost from different device because I got blocked for no reason.
I don't know why I expected anything to work..

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My mental health is deteriorating and there is a high chance I have severe depression due to my experiences during I was young.

Now my memory is getting disoriented and there are times I can't remember the name of my relatives and my own dog. I have consciously giving up getting a better life but I'm trying to work at what needs to be done as long as I'm still functional atleast a bit.

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Well, what do you want?

If you like swinging you can offer to join them, and maybe top her friend. (Or ask to have your own sex partner on the side).

If you're strictly monogamous you can ask that she stop, but it can cost you your relationship with her.

Well, you clearly need two things:
1. a job
2. get away from your father

I recommend you go look for a new job, then as soon as you have any income, rent a room elsewhere so you can stop being beaten down by your abusive dad.

Well i was actually turned on by it so im gonna try it.

Have fun! :D

That's the issue, I have no problem working, I actually love working, It keeps my mind of shit, but the level of debt continues to grow because I don't make enough to pay it offz most of it goes to interest. I always have enough to pay my bills but not much more, I can never save up enough, I never have enough to move out, the real estate rates are absolutely ridiculous here as well, minimum $1200+/month plus hydro/water/gas, minimum wage pays roughly $1840 a month after taxes and with an average of $850 in bills every month, the rest goes towards paying off debt because I can't afford my own place and it's better to try and pay off debit than create a savings account, tried saving up and was declined the credit check because they did the math and even with what I saved I wouldn't be able to afford an apartment in the long run.
Kind of looking for an alternative as to how to cope with a douchebag father or a quick guide on how to be homeless but still remain publicly acceptable to maintain a job because affording my own place is out of the question with the amount of debt I've acquired helping people with financial struggles.