I’m just here to vent and I fully expect vitriolic responses (if any responses at all) because it’s Yea Forums

I wish you the best, man. I sincerely hope it turns around for you soon. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

28 yo here. Have slight autism diagnosis, parents are retarded and didnt teach me responsibility in the slightest. Struggled with school, keeping a roof over my head and jobs and keeping them from 14-26 yo feeling like an outcast. I dealt with my problems by challenging myself on all my weaker areas. Eventually got a cutie 3.14 gf and recently got a contract with no enddate as an analyst making 50k/yr. Also have a nice car and inner city apartment. Work hard and take responsibility by having a bit of nerve and giving fuck all to things that shouldnt matter is my advice to you. Also showing a lot of intiative, communicating (properly!) and thinking strategically about work will help a lot.

That debt is your problem. Start paying that shit off and fast, or it'll choke the life out of you. Find a cause and take it up, like fighting against whatever shady company you owe debt to (FedLoan isn't really a government body). Being aimless at 30 isn't unusual ... your whole life up to this point has been guided by someone else, but now you're the one who has to make the decisions.

I love you too, OP.

26, have my bachelor's, never use, I'm in love with a woman who is getting married this year. She tells me she's in love with me too, but she won't call off her marriage

This is going to sound like a dick move, but I’m perfectly comfortable with pressuring my parents into paying off my debt, since they pressured me to incur it in the first place. I never really wanted to go to college, but I was lead to believe that college was the only means of success. As a teenager, I didn’t question that logic until it was too late.

I’m unquestionably in control of the decisions now. Only problem is that my options are extremely limited now.

That’s some brutal shit, man. Things are always more complicated with heartache involved. Heartache is far worse than loneliness.

I hope you find peace.

Everybody gets pressured into going to college when they're a teenager, same way everybody gets pressured into choosing a career when they're too young to figure out what's profitable and what's not, and what jobs are dying and which aren't. It's the hand we're all dealt. Speaking of which, what did you major in? You must have had SOMETHING you were aiming toward career-wise. Something you found satisfaction in, right?

Otherwise, have fun finding out Mommy and Daddy don't have the means to pay off your debt even if you do pressure them. But if they CAN, well ... your problems probably aren't all that big.

I went to school for art shit.

Yeah, I know. Don’t need to hear why that was a bad decision, I’m fully aware. It was a decision I made based on unfair pressure and misguided “college = success” rhetoric.

Parents definitely have the means to pay the bill, they’re just not happy about it, which makes me feel bad :/

Thanks Yea Forumsrother. I just can't actively try to break up a marriage that's probably gonna work.

It gets better though

>I went to school for art shit.

OUCH. Okay, I get it, you've heard that before. But for real, that's still SOMETHING. For a lot of jobs, it means diddly squat, but SOME places really need that stuff.

Are you GOOD at it? Are you GOOD at art (whatever it is, paint, graphics design, sculpting, etc.?) enough that you could consistently design something new, original, and lively every day? If you can, then you might be able to turn that into a skill.

In my case, I went to school for journalism. Feel in love with InDesign ... it's for page printing. These days, I design newspaper pages. Every. Single. Day. It pays my bills. Better than being a Bachelor Barista.

A respectable decision.

I’m not convinced that things naturally get better (in fact that’s probably the mentality that landed me here in the first place), but I definitely see value in believing that things can potentially get get better.

My life turned to shit in the blink of an eye, which means it can get better in the blink of an eye as well. I’m just trying to figure out how to expedite the process before I’m old.

I want to travel, create, learn, and ram some sweet poon, I just have no idea how to get out of this rut. I want my game back.

I majored in cinema/visual art stuff, but I became chronically depressed by the end of my college days and therefore made zero connections (which is extremely important).

I absolutely love it. I have never once doubted what I want to do with my life. I am extremely confident in my ability, but I am not AT ALL confident with networking or obtaining the finances I need to do it.

And that, in short, is my paradox. I have extreme confidence in my ideas, but absolutely no way of accomplishing them. Meanwhile, I’m surrounded by friends who have an abundance of resources, but not a single idea how to use them. It’s infuriating.

>but I became chronically depressed by the end of my college days and therefore made zero connections

Okay, this, too, is not outside the ordinary. I went through the same thing: no network out of college, thinking that I needed some silver bullet solution to this whole "get a job" thing.

There is no silver bullet. There is only many ordinary bullets, one of which might strike gold.

You need to start applying to jobs. ANY jobs. What you need more than a foothold in your field is job experience. IDEALLY something in your field or in your field's orbit. Get yourself to the point that you're sending out 30 applications per month.

Pro tip 1) Not every job description is a perfect indicator of what a job entails, so if you meet even half the criteria or 20%, go for it.

2) Align your cover letter and resume for each job using key words from the job description. This is all a part of ...

3) ...presenting yourself as the BEST candidate for the job. Not an adequate or "I can do 80%" candidate but the BEST candidate for every position you apply to. Follow this mindset and you can sidestep your own confidence and FORCE yourself to put your best foot forward. Once you've got your foot in the door, it gets much easier.

4) find someone you know (family, extended family, etc.) who you can trust who has some either direct or distant connection to your field and ask if they can mentor you. Go over your resume and nit-pick your cover letters or portfolios. In my case, a big obstacle was applying for white-collar jobs in a blue-collar family. Mommy and Daddy weren't any help, but my Aunt with a university admissions job sure was!

And don't worry about the paradox. That will always exist, and you'll be on the other side of it once you get a job. Good luck!

Thanks man.

I think a lot of that is easier said than done, but I definitely value the advice.

My problem is that acknowledging the issue and rectifying the issue are two drastically different things. The real gut-punch is the fact that I’m actually very close to someone who works on several prominent TV shows, but they aren’t willing to “risk their career” (yes they said those words) by helping me get my foot in the door. It seems like everyone has just unanimously decided that it’s not worth the effort to help me.

Also, for the record, I have a job, but it’s entry level bullshit. I don’t need a silver bullet. I need to figure out why the gun isn’t firing.

well I'll give you my story to compare too. i always sucked at getting girls. I finished school, went to college, dropped out after 6 months. between 20-23 i spent my time working at a call centre, but learning programming in the background.

I was scared, but at 24, i hesitantly applied for a programming position without any degrees, I just brought in a laptop with demos.

They fucking take me in. 27 now, bordering on making 6 figures. you are destined for failure. I'm a hustler, you are furniture.

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I lost my job recently, 27yo, no gf, degree in business but never used it.

I know there is a mindset to success, and as much as I have studied this subject the results allude me, witch is maddening. Essentially it's my weakness that's my problem, but I need something to care about enough to overcome my short-comings. I supose if you found this, it would help.

sorry if i'm no help. I saw you in the same boat as me and my heart went out.

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