At work right now and thinking about this girl I’ve been seeing. I need some advice
Met this girl on Tinder. She’s 24 and I’m 20. I’ve been seeing her every Sunday the past 3 weeks since we met as it’s my only day off and she has spent the night every time. She also lives 45 minutes away from me which sucks. Last Sunday we went to a strip club and met a couple there. We went back to their place and they were swingers. Things got a little wild and my date got uncomfortable so we left. She stayed the night and we spent Monday together. I like her a lot and want to spend as much time with her as I can. I got her a cactus and want to give it to her but I feel weird asking her every Sunday if she wants to hangout. What should I do? Should I not ask her until she asks me? I feel as if I’m the one in control and always initiating stuff. I want her to help me out. She knows I got her a gift so maybe I should just let her initiate the next time we hang out?
You can tell her: Hey femanon, I bought a present, let me know next time you want to hang out! You can also give a hint or tease about what it is like but don't take to long because it may die haha. But that's optional and depends on how close you guys are
Jace Perez
It sounds like she may not take you as seriously, user. Tinder is an app specifically for casual sex. You are falling for a girl who most likely signed up to tinder just for casual hook ups.
You're the one who is wrong here, user.
Henry Jones
>I got her a cactus not going to touch that autism
if you want her to initiate a date with you then you need to start thinking about whether you can manipulate the conversation to your advantage, an example like
>you: i had a nice time last Sunday, even if things did get a little weird >her: haha, yeah, it was nice, i like spending time with you >you: i like spending time with you too, if you are free next weekend we should do something, just let me know if you'd like to
that way you have 'putting the ball in her court' so-to-speak
Nathaniel Nelson
Do you have nudes cacti boy?
Connor Hernandez
Try and take it slow. Meeting someone awesome for the first time can make you feel like they're completely flawless and you can't get enough of them. I don't think it'd be weird to keep asking her to hang out seeing as how it is your only day off and she seems to be into you too, spending the night and all. Just be honest with her, but realize that too much of a good thing all at once might not be the best thing, like listening to a cool new song on repeat for days then it's kinda worn out.
