Am I wrong here? Do I really not understand?

Am I wrong here? Do I really not understand?

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women should never be allowed to look at webMD

you didn't respond the way she wanted to, you dun goofed.

What an insufferable boring cunt. You try to lighten the mood and she just shits on you, why the fuck are you even talking to her.

No she's definitely over reacting. But you can't tell her that obviously

You're both retarded.

Tell me why every woman I know has anemia, fucking throw a rock in a mall and you'll hit a bitch with anemia.

I know, and I usually accept that, but this is ridiculous lol, like what am I supposed to say? I'm not a mind reader, or maybe I'm just a retard lol.

Idk why I text her tbh, she's only ever nice in person.

I know, I'm at a loss honestly, I feel like there's nothing I can say. If I just apologize it's like a "shut up" and most women don't like that. Idk, I'm stuck lol.

I hope this isn't your girl op lol

Plausible. I know I probably am.

I'm starting to think you're right. Like instead of working I'm here trying to make sure I'm not like crazy lol

You say "that sucks :(" when a woman complains about something and nothing more, ever, unless they're about to do something profoundly retarded, then you step in and stop them

She already has both..

>Why does every woman have anemia
Dude. Periods. Blood and iron loss. It's common in women.

Are you retarded? Someone says they have a dr for their confirmed cancer, you dont say i hope you dont have it. Like shes already diagnosed. Youre not lightening the mood. Youre being intentionally ignorant and cant supprt her because you're suggesting shes not really sick already

I don't want to open the text because I have read receipts on.
Turns out waiting is a viable option?

Do women realize they goofed when you let them chill out or what?

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She doesn't know if she has them, she's going to get tested.

>Dude. Periods. Blood and iron loss. It's common in women.
Wow I'm dumb lmao

No. Her apologizing doesnt make you right, it means she'd rather apologize then attempt to conquer your stupidity

>like what am I supposed to say?
idk what's her relation to you? dating, or friends ?

There are billions of women on this planet, man. Just by reading your texts I can understand your context but either she deliberately ignored it or is really so dumb that she can't glean an understanding that you're actually concerned for her. She wants pity, not concern. Move on.

dont respond and wait for her to say something, reply in one word. make her be a big girl and call you. women are like dogs mixed with babies they need their ass whooped either physically or mentally. fuck her shes craving for something to be wrong with her, shes toxic.

Calling anons retarded and your reading comprehension is at a third grade level. Fuck off until you gain a few IQ points.

Dating

That's hot

probably would have kept it the same until she said
>"i hope you have neither" ...
where i would have probably said something along the lines of "i'm sorry you feel that way about me trying to be optimistic for you, but this dick ain't gunna suck itself"

Lol probably.

I feel like she ignored it. She probably wanted me to say something else. I hate that.

So it is not only me, this gave me a boner.

My advice would be something like this:

"sorry, I came off wrong. I am sorry you are going through this. How are you feeling?"

Don't try to cheer her up, since she clearly does not want it. Instead, give her comfort.

truth been married for 8 years with 2 kids every 3-6 months me and my wife go at it "wrestling" but its just me dominating her then its like hitting a reset on her

Some people do feel like victims. They want someone to understand how they feel.

>anemia
You are aware girls go through puberty, right?

That's a problem with women you'll unfortunately encounter a lot. They literally cannot function past their emotions and the entire conversation you had with her was just her trying to extract pity from you. If this is the kind of woman you want to be with man, more power to you but I wouldn't tolerate this kind of bullshit.

Narcissist. Get the fuck out while you can.
That bitch will try to convince you you're the one who's wrong no matter what.
Fucking run. Fast.

The only thing you don't understand is how to make a joke.

Copypasted for later use lol
I think she wants attention, like most women too.

YOU UNDERSTAND ME user

I'm doing this.
Will post results.

More wisdom married user!

That's a good point too.

I thought we established I'm actually retarded lol

how old is she? Bitch got arthritis?

She's not a victim, she hasnt even been tested for either of those things yet. Your argument is retarded and your shits all fucked up.

If there's any online diagnosis to be given here its that this girl is showing symptoms of having borderline personality disorder.

I'm not a therapist but I've dated quite a few different types of girls and I know this behavior. It's a red flag user, she only acts nice in person because she's not fully comfortable to be herself around you yet. She feels comfortable acting irrationally in texts and pretty soon you'll be noticing her getting upset for no reason on dates too its just a matter of time.

Listen when I tell you this, if this girl does in fact turn out to have borderline personality disorder get as far away from her as possible, delete her number, block her from Facebook and by the sound of it you'll be dumb enough to stick around long enough to have to possibly get a restraining order.

Those stories you hear about crazy women ruining people's lives is true. Take heed to the early red flags and when they start saying things like "you didn't respond to my texts the right way" then it's time (which is now) to take a step back and realize the emotional and mental turmoil this girl will cause you isnt worth the greatest sex you've ever had / social status of having a hot girlfriend.

Also research BPD. It's real shit and something most guys don't learn about without first hand experience. Now you know, user so don't be dumb.

>I think she wants attention, like most women
correct

have you responded to her yet?

Old fag chiming in.
I'm betting she's a Pisces. This is classic passive aggressive abuse, next comes contempt... she thinks your beneath her, cut bait and run..

Tell her to test positive for AIDS then block her

>this girl is showing symptoms of having borderline personality disorder.
>I'm not a therapist
you can't infer that from a few texts
Sounds like she's could be on her period, just roll with the punches

Probably right, but we are taking about how she feels, and feelings are not always based on rational thoughts. She is indeed being pessimist, but telling her this will just make the problem worse.

BPD fag here.
I don't think it's so much that, idiots like us tend to be more hurt than outright aggressive. I stated above that I think she may be a narcissist.
That's the kind of shit my ex would pull and she is actively trying to destroy my life. It's fucked. I finally got away and she can't stand it.
Sadly, we have a child together now.

As soon as I went off to type.

I have nothing to lose, so I'm gonna start to take less of it after this and if it doesn't work out we were better off apart anyway right?

Big rip

Bigger rip

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jk 25, her mom has it and she's like 4'10" so she thinks she might.

I wonder if I can talk her into getting diagnosed, if I can't I think I'm better off running like you said.

Not yet.

All women are like this lol

LMAO

That's an interesting perspective, I don't think we hear enough from people who actually have these disorders.

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That's the point, I'm squarely in the corner of "OP should get the fuck out before she causes real damage".

DTB (Dump That Bitch)

Not even a genuine apology, just her trying to shame you into feeling sorry for her.

Cut your losses. Fuck her one more time and then end it.

It is definitely an option, to stay away from people with pessimist tendencies. Having said that, we don't know that woman. She might be going through a hard patch. It's not a decision that should be taken lightly

You're autistic, but I think I'd have been able to figure that out if I were her, and know you didn't mean anything by it.

That said I'd probably stop texting you.

Time to dump her OP.

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She has it. She tried to hint to you this because maybe you forgot. Instead you double down.

In a nutshell you just suck at communicating. Probably why you're here asking this fucking question.

Pic related. It's OP.

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You dating a gilf boi?

Gmilf*

She's needy and you're insensitive. Just back out, this won't end well.

I've had many conversations like this. She can't admit that she's wrong, and overreacted, and makes you out to be the bad guy in her mind. Wait until she gets her friends involved so she can have people on her side. Fun times.

Feels that way.

I can't, I love fucking her, if I do that I'll end up staying lmao

Lol

Damn boi I'm a retard.

LMFAO I wish, then I could just pull the plug or hide her pills

His best option is to get away from her ASAP. There are billions of women out there.
She hasnt even been tested you stupid roastie, learn to read.

user, you sound like you would have some interesting stories for us

If theres one thing girls love it is negativity.

Have you tried chatting her up about depression and suicide thoughts?

I'm not sure why it's a rip. You also said my other comment was an interesting perspective.
I'm just telling you, I kept giving into that kind of behavior with my ex, and the more you do, the more they feel like they can give. They beat you down and condition you to be responsive to their abuse. They will get close to you and find out what makes you tick. It will get to the point where you live in fear. And if you let their claws sink in deep enough for long enough, they rip one fuck of a chunk out when (IF) you finally pull yourself away.
I was pushed to the brink of full blown insanity.
She started trying to convince me that my perspective is so flawed, that all of my reactions to everything were inappropriate and wrong.
Just be careful, user. No one deserves to live like that.

I'm just glad, that although there are many different perspectives on this, and that though I might not be completely wrong, that we all agree that I am in fact retarded.

Rip because I think I do have to leave lol

It annoys and exhaust me to even think about the mental bullshit this girl put me through. The fucked up thing is, I still talk to her.

Do you still fuck her tho

post them titties boi

Here,

I feel this so hard, bro. They literally cannot admit when there was any fault on their part. They use triangulation to validate themselves and try justifying their actions due to it. "I may have over reacted, but I asked so and so and they said that you were wrong and I should honestly break up with you." ..
Like, I had so many sick fucking conversations with this girl. I have a ton recorded (it got to the point where I'd record things in case the cops got called due to her erratic behavior). It gives me fucking chills to hear them.

This

Unless you somehow knew she had those things, you're not wrong and she's just being a bitch about it.

Don't listen to these kissless virgins. When she said that it's a guarantee, you can ALREADY tell she's in a bad mood. When a girls in a bad mood, your stupid jokes won't make her feel better, in fact it will make her MORE angry that she can't be cheered up by it, so don't try it after the first time. She was quite literally begging you to affirm her emotions. That's all chicks want, to feel valid. You're not insensitive and she isn't crazy. If she believes there's even a chance a fucking nightmare if an illness is at get doorstep, she's gonna be emotional and unstable about it. Wouldn't you?

OP all you have to do is make her feel like her feelings aren't crazy ramblings but that of a sane human being. And if she snaps at you, don't think it's AT you, but at the situation you're sadly now in too. If you like her, she's cute, and listening to her talk isn't nails on a chalkboard, you guys will be fine.

>Tldr Don't dump her cus some virgins on the internet tell you to, do what you can to accommodate her and make her feel valid, and if she doesn't do the same for you, THAT'S when you dump her.

2/10 for making me reply at work cus of these dumb ass virgins

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I dated a girl with BPD a few years ago. Didnt know it at first of course, but she showed the warning signs early on. She flipped out because I didn't want to go to the only restaurant she was comfortable going to and it was overtly aggressive and we hadn't even met in person yet. After that she started sending bitchy texts after misinterpreting almost everything i said but was still persistent about meeting up. Well I was dumb enough to meet up with her anyway so i could have sex with her and then got into an actual relationship with her and let her move in with me a month later.

She was by far the worst person I've ever had the displeasure of getting close to. She was completely childish and irrational about everything and always pushing my buttons and starting shit.

I had to end up getting a restraining order after breaking up with her another month later. She threatened to burn my house down and I spotted her driving past my house one day months after I got the restraining order.

Now whenever a girl acts the way the OPs did, I cut off contact right away. No way I'm risking going through that nightmare again. I almost felt like I needed therapy after only dating her for two months.

Sure I'm no therapist and you can't just assume the absolute worst from just one incident of irrationality but I'm just warning you from one user to another to be careful. Bitches are crazy and will literally ruin your life, its not a joke so tread carefully with these animals.

Oh my bad. I thought you were saying like "what a RIP!" as in..."load of shit" or something. I think people say that, right? Maybe I'm imagining shit.

Wow, you are one stupid motherfucker.

Well, true. There are more than 1 million. But how many will you meet if those? How many will you be able to attract of those? How many will be willing to have a relationship with you? Chances for companionship is something that come mir then once, but that doesn't mean that one should throw one away at the first sign of trouble.

Besides, this kind of behavior is extremely likely to happen in almost any relationship. Looking for one where this doesn't happen isn't realistic and will end up with solitude.

Hell no. She's to busy enjoying the single life and fucking who she wants without feeling guilty. And, when she msgs me, oooo I'd better get right back to her or I'm a piece of shit, but it's ok for me to msg her when I need something and be ignored for 2 or 3 days. I don't miss shit like that.

Sup faggot, I'm not a virgin and I'm also at work telling OP to drop her like a hot fucking potato, thereby invalidating your whole argument. Care to try again?

You make a convincing argument user.
I think she's mad because I'm writing a 10 page paper instead of dicking her down like she wanted me to.

t. A kissless virgin

Ohhhh nah, some people do say it like that, but I'm not that old lol

What doctrine states OP has to stick around for any reason? He isn't in the wrong here. If he's able to start dating this chick, he definitely has the ability to date others. If she values his company she should be the one to change.

Bitches are crazy, but either you're a literal retard or leaving out a large amount of information.

I'm glad you got out of that user, I hope you find someone who treats you right

That's what I though, close the thread and love on.

I'm actually going to sincerely ask you. Not just as an user, but as a human, to look up the signs of narcissistic abuse. If it starts to hit close to home, you need to get out. It might hurt, but I promise you, it won't hurt worse than what she will put you through while you remain with her and after you've left.

I had almost not enemies two years ago.
Generally small town, but I was pretty well-received or at least without real hatred directed toward me.
Since we've been apart, she's gone on multiple smear campaigns via social media, tried to get me fired from my job, tried to make most of our mutual friends choose between her and I, continues to lie to others about me and drag my name through the mud. I've lost at least a couple dozen "friends" / acquaintances over all this. I figure it's no big loss if they're going to drop me over that shit, but still. There have been some moments. They're dangerous people, bro. Be careful. Be smart.

I didn't say that he had to stay. I said that he shouldn't take that decision impulsively. Could be just a rough patch. He even said that she is a delight in person.

Fuck, bro. Aging is seriously such a huge concern and fear of mine. You just made me sad. lol..kinda lol.
I'm still not 30, so I guess I've got that.

From the way OP spoke of her, this isn't the first time shes done this so I'd hardly call it impulsive. And her being nice in person is great and all but considering how addicted women are to social media all it'd take is one falling g out and suddenly she has everyone e on her Facebook friends list up in arms towards him.

EXACTLY! She got people that had no business in our relationship, into it. They would give her "advice" and usually it was something negative, like they she should just ignore me, and just do her and all of this stupid shit. it honestly ruined our relationship even more.

Those are just assumptions you make

For an introvert who doesn't put himself in organic situations to meet women then yeah it's much slimmer because dating app girls will always be the bottom of the barrel mentally and otherwise and using that is already seriously limiting your pool of potential mates.

You're just fooling yourself if you think all women act like bratty children or mentally unstable ppl with personality disorders. You just have to keep looking and dont get infatuated with anyone until you get to know them in person for a while first. That's the biggest mistake we seem to make.

There are so many girls out there. The probability of finding one that is capable of making you happy isnt as low as you think it just requires work and experience and determination.

Made from experience. Your assumptions are no more valid than mine in any case.

This is no good. She will learn to be more closed. Tell her you want to know how she feels.

Oh no lol I'm sorry, it scares me too. But I think that's why we have to do whatever we want now.
Take chances, out yourself out there, if you want to do stand up go do it, if you want to draw, draw. Be happy :3

I might pull out my DSM V, the site I went to had 7 and she hit 2.
That really sucks man, burning Bridges on you, that girl is an actual psycho...
Now I'm genuinely concerned. Funny this is, that list reminded me of my ex completely lmao, she even stole and turned my ex friends against me lol

What assumptions did I make?

>I am x so your argument is invalid
The only thing that led me to believe the people here are kissless virgins is the fact that you along with all of them said to just drop her at the slightest sight of problems. Someone who isn't a kissless virgin would know that dropping someone because of a bad sign is a sincerely bad idea. Only someone who thinks their dream girl has to be based and never have womanly problems is a faggot who wants qualities of men in a woman, or a kissless virgin.
Makes sense as to why you're here though, both of those scenarios explain why you're on this website squeeling like a pig

Been there. People I didn't even fucking know or talked to before were calling me a bad person and an asshole because of her and her stories.

Dude, honestly, that sounds like more than BPD. But it's a tough one due to it's main components and that each one can come with different levels of severity. It's just, usually, BPD folk tend to be more sad when they get upset with a partner or someone like that. Quiet and scared. The explosive anger usually has to be something that's been building up, but not properly addressed. It sucks either way. I can feel myself sinking when either one happens (the anger or the crippling, silencing sadness that pushes me into a borderline catatonic and numb state), but I can't stop it. I know what's happening and I can't even reason. It's like being on autopilot in the passenger seat and someone cut the breaks anyway. I feel like a fucking retard sometimes..

Armchair psychology is dangerous and stupid

Calling her mentally unstable because of how little we have seen is not fair

"Could be a rough patch"

How's this? Should've asked before I sent tbh.

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That's also a good point...

"could be" denotes that it is a possibility. I never presented this as a certainty.

That's almost the same advice I gave a friend just a day or two ago.

And yeah, I mean, maybe I'm wrong, but I remember a mutual friend warning me about her when we started dating. "You're dealing with a textbook narcissist." I laughed and told him that was silly.
It takes a while for it all to come out sometimes. And sometimes, they're so good at what they do, you happen to overlook it and sometimes even seriously think that you're the problem.

Much better. Wait for response.

Seems like the perfect girl for someone with a messiah complex... good job OP

That's better. This thread is full of crazy autism, so here:
*You're a dick for making jokes when she needs support
*She over reacted
*You're both clearly under 21 and thusly have bad communication skills
So just work on that and you'll be fine. Unless she's 20+ she shouldn't be showing signs of BPD unless she has it real bad. At which case she'd know about it and you'd probably be aware from her, her friends, or family.

Truly, no one gives a fuck. People like you seem to think there's some kind of inherent value to people and enduring stupid shit like the chick in OP could lead to something fruitful. He could drop her right now and end up with the woman of his dreams tomorrow.
If you count BPD as a "womanly problem" then you can go right on ahead and take every single female with BPD for yourself and keep em. A man that gives a shit about himself doesn't have time for it and you can bitch about it until you're blue in the face but the fact remains that no one has to put up with bullshit that they dont want to. Are you a female, perhaps? Because you sound like one.

Yeah. It makes you become on high alert all the time. Wondering if something will be taken and represented to someone as a sort of transgression. You never know how they're going to present the situation to others either.
She did get caught in a few lies from a couple mutual friends though, and I giggled hard that day. But yeah. Triangulation, gaslighting, nitpicking, projection, deflection, subject-changing. It was all there.

You sound incredibly selfish and lonely

That easy to weasel out of it eh? All right, all of those things I said "Could be" true. There you go.

I already admitted I could be wrong.
I mean, duh, I'm definitely interested in the subject, but I don't anyone to be put through anything like that. And I'm also only giving my opinion based on my personal (both self and professionally diagnosed) issue.
Either way, I think we all know what we want here; ICE CREAM!

Selfish yes, lonely no. Cry about it.

Sounds like bitches being bitches tho, which isn't BPD or narcissistic behavior.

Here it is boi

Thanks fam, I'm trying to not do anything like drastic until I know more, so I just want to see if I had any fault in this and how I could move forward.

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This is what happens with 90% of women. Just drop her. She's a cunt that only thinks of herself and wants a reason to be dramatic. There's nothing to understand here. Save yourself OP

Spoken like a true, fragile, kissless virgin

a better response to the OP would probably something like, "yeah i hope you dont have either, but i know you're strong enough to over come them if you do"

its totally okay to wish the best but they are probably going through a lot of stess and theyre thinking the worst. Saying everything will be okay is a lie because life is a piece of shit and will always know you down. humanity is supporting one another and helping when where we can for those you care about

No argument? Thanks for playing.

well we'll never really know.
as long as you're aware you're not a professional and thusly your opinion isn't valid beyond poorly linking dots together.

Indeed. It could be. And if they were true, he should probably do as you say and find another woman.

But let's not recommend him doing just because of this messages. It's a superficial way to make such an important decision. We don't know much about this woman.

And, you're an asshole that has no idea what you're talking about. You're probably one of these people with a victim complex, that tries to twist everything everyone says around to make you feel like you're right. You're like most of the abusive girls that guys are talking about in this thread.

BPDfag here.

DUDE. That's the kinda shit my ex would say, man.
"It's like you don't even care. Like..your responses are just robotic"

The thing is, she conditioned me to be like that. If I spoke too much or joked or was too frank, she would turn me into a villain. So I tried to be just.. cut and dry.. then I was robotic. Then I'd try to think more before I spoke, but then she turned that into me not saying anything and thus, accusing me of not caring. It got so hard. I'd spend car rides in silence after she would chew me out for not responding to her fast enough and she'd just blast the music when I tried to talk.

Wrong crop, she weighs like 100 pounds, all her weight goes to her boobs and hips and butt. So I'm not sure if she's happy about this lol. Like she has a really flat stomach and everything, idk what to say at this point.
Like obviously I wanna tell her her body is hot af, but that's probably not what she wants to hear. Idk.

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>she's only ever nice in person.
Most women are, it's only on text/emails..etc the real person comes out, ie when they don't have to have balls to say what they truly think.

whoops. was for....

You know user, you're right, I was being pretty shallow in my response.

How am I an asshole for telling OP to be reasonable and that people can both be at fault in situations?

See? Receiving understanding not only made her open up, but even made her question her own negative feelings about the situation. ;)

Keep providing understanding, and you two will be OK.

I dont think this decision is as important as you're making it out to be. It's literally just dating, not a divorce.

Idk how many girls you've dated but if you don't throw in some explanation points or emojis, you'll get thst response a lot.
Literally just think maybe you lack the experience to tell the difference.

Even more arguments to take it easy on her. She is going through an insecurity patch.

WEEEEEY FATTY BOOM BOOM

Don't have to. You've obviously never stuck through with a relationship in your life, and seem to have a "holier than thou" look at life, so there's no point in arguing with you. I'm just here helping OP get through his relationship problems and you're here to prove you aren't a virgin by saying that because he DIDN'T break up with this girl at the drop of a hat, that he's just fucking his whole life up. It just really suck having such a mentality, I pity you

There is no proper way to respond to girls calling themselves fat. Just fyi. There's a 'best in this moment' but never a right or good way. Just storm through, user, some days aren't as easy as others. As long as you don't sperg you'll be fine.

Not for us. We are unattached. But maybe OP has more strong feelings for her.

I mean, my first response to this thread stated that there was little context to draw much from, but it reminds me of my ex, which, if it was a similar situation, I would recommend leaving.
I'm not trying to toot my horn on an anonymous message board, bruh. But I wouldn't mind potentially offering someone insight or opinion that may end up helping them evaluate their situation.. That's all. I don't wanna be the new Jesus or anything.

Because she clearly overreacted. She's going through something in her life, that's understandable, but she's clearly taking it out on him. It will only get worse from here.

i will stop talking about me
>> i gained weight.

yeah, its good that youre trying to better yourself but be careful to take everything on the internet with a grain of salt because no one knows your situation but you. everyone here is gonna dump advice or insults and then forget about you in an hour.

learn but be smart user. you got this

Well good on you I guess but it really just sounds like you might not be great at talking to women. I've gotten the robot thing too, I have a completely different text style for when I talk to girls, exceptions excluded ofc

I've had like four legitimate girlfriends and I've seen a few others here and there. My longest relationship lasted over five years and I've always been told that I'm pretty articulate and communicate well, whether it be through text or verbally. I use plenty of emojis and I don't ever dare try to do super serious shit through text unless it's urgent and out of nowhere.

I'm actually in a relationship going on 6 years now and haven't once tried to prove one way or the other about my virginity, because I dont give a fuck if you think I am or not. I never once out up with emotionally manipulative bullshit and here I am years into a relationship with a woman that doesnt act like a child over words. I dont need your pity by the way, pity from women means jack.

I had a girlfriend like that. If I didn't respond how she wanted she would always try to make me feel guilty. She became really manipulative with time.
I got out of that toxic shit, it's not worth it.
Your girlfriend is probably going to carry over her texting behavior to real life within long.
Just a warning though, you do you.

She could be doing it to other people too. If there getting to significant other status then toobadtoosad that's what happens when you become a confidant.
I mean I know social situations confuse a lot of you but comeon

I gained weight too. My cock is swollen as fuck

Are you guys retarded or just willfully ignorant?

She rationalized her behavior by blaming it on her insecurities. An irrational thinking double whammy

Whatever you say
>artistic works of fiction and falsehood

not true. if they talk and are honest about everything one of two things will happen. they'll work through it or it will end as it should.

in both scenarios it has gotten better for user in the long run

This guy gets it. Too many guys stick around bad relationships because they either think they can't do any better or the sex is amazing and she's hot.

You are not captain save a ho and you don't have to put up with a bunch of crap just to get your dick wet.

Go home, /r9k/

I don't want to sound like THAT GUY, but I'm relatively self-aware. I know I'm really reserved at first, but I've been told by quite a few girls that I'm super charming, funny, and charismatic. I think I'm a weirdo who makes bad jokes but knows how to communicate effectively and play "the game". I don't know. I guess it's just one of history's mysteries.

You just proved my point to a T.
>Not trying to prove I'm not a virgin
>Hurr I've been in a relationship for 6 years

Accepting that your feelings are not being rational and accepting being insecure is a pretty mature thing to do, I believe.

I got some advice for ya, goy. I'm old as fuck, and my second girlfriend was a fucking psycho. She was the first girl I ever fucked, so I was all in with no escape. (I was 15)

Here's my advice. First and foremost DON'T EVEN THINK OF MARRYING HER OR GETTING HER PREGNANT.

Beyond that, if you like fucking her, keep on going. I'd gradually take longer and longer to text back. Make up some excuse. You're busy, your phone is acting weird, you JUST now got her text 3 hours later. Totally weird, huh babe? I was happy to hear about how Starbucks got your drink wrong AGAIN!

But you CAN change her. My wife pulled some crazy bullshit when we first got married. Fortunately my first girlfriend was a crazy bitch, and it helped me think things through. Now, I got my wife trained, and we've been happily married for 28 years. In fact, I've got her so well trained that I could tell her that I would do anything for her, and she wouldn't take advantage of me saying that. (No, totally true, as unbelievable as it sounds)

But again, NEVER get married, NEVER have a kid with her. You're the man, you are in control of what happens in your life.

I won't lose any sleep because user thinks I would bother lying about the number of girlfriends I've had. My most recent one was a total bust though. Now I have gone back to wasting away alone. idec at this point.

you sound like a 16yo virgin from 2006

It would help to understand you if you typed in english, instead of conceited twat bs. You're probably just like her, that's why you're trying to make it seem like her tripping out is nothing.

>You are these things
>No I'm not, and idc if you believe me
>SEE? GOTTEEM
Your brain is mush.

do you realize she is human and has complex feelings, are you suggesting that she is hopeless because even she cant understand when she's going through.

user is doing right, he seems compassionate and caring enough. why is it wrong to see the best in people despite their flaws and ,maybe help them understand their flaws and encourage them to be better

Found the white knighting self loathing incel who thinks women will be into him one day because he's the nice guy who always takes their side

I was 16 in 2006, and I was, sadly, a virgin. I wouldn't be speaking this way if I weren't on an anonymous image board, ass clown. I'm just being completely honest. Are you upset that I can honestly say these things, or are you seriously being a dick to strangers for trying to help out another anonymous stranger?

No you're just too stupid, inexperienced and cucked to realize when a spade is acting like a spade.

The shittiest ones always rationalize their behavior with the victim complex shit. Oh boo hoo you couldn't look at yourself in the mirror because you're insecure about weighing 100 lbs so thats why you were a bitch to me.

Its pathetic that men allow them to act this way. It's no wonder so many of them suck like OPs gf

>No I'm not and idc if you believe me
>Goes the extra mile to point out a 6 year relationship, OBVIOUSLY proving you're not a virgin
Keep grasping at straws virgin, Maribeth might want you in 5 years

dr ruth in da house

Big rip

I really appreciate that user

Probably

Lol

I'm a fucking retard tho lmao

Lol

Yeah, I just want to be better in general, even if it's gonna end up being better for another girl.

Also yeah, I try to things through first. Thanks for the warning tho, sometimes I get a little carried away so I should really chill lol.

If she does I would just have to be done

LMFAO I should reply with this

I'm retarded

I used to be one of those hopeful guys as well, until I actually got into a relationship, and endured so much mental torture, that I don't look at anyone or anything the same anymore. She ALWAYS mad me the bad guy, even when she was the one in the wrong. She lied a lot to, and got mad when I would call her out on her lies. She would always get friends and family involved, and guess who they saw as the bad guy?

You're a man
You'll always be in the wrong

t. Unloved roastie

why are you so hateful? who hurt you that youre so distrusting and sexist. standing up for yourself is one thing but in doing so you shouldnt hurt some one in the process.

she definely overreacted and misplaced her feelings but everyone does that. For example, someone cuts you off in traffic and so you start hating everyone on the road. you misplaced your anger from one individual to anyone that comes too close to you.

so im reading these and none of what any of these assholes are saying is going to help you... Learn three rules when talking to females....Ok and cool and whatever will get you everywhere. emotionally crippled cunts like her all you can do is just say ok to everything so they dont try to guilt trip you and close you off like they are all you can do is fuck em and ignore em

found the butthurt forever alone in El
I mean whether or not you're helping is entirely up for debate. If you've been in a toxic relationship, you'd know someone in one isn't going to get warned about or out of it because of anonymous message board. If you don't like people being a dick to you, post on reddit

The "patriarchy" isn't an ideologically subverted idea for no reason

...or you find a healthier relationship

BPDguy here. SAME SAME SAME.
This is why I was telling OP at the very least to just BE CAREFUL. I put myself out there for this girl. I cared so much. I did everything for her. She threw me on the ground and walked on me like I was less than dirt. And boy, she didn't hesitate to push every button I have and hope it makes something happen. And in the times that it did... You'd better believe she was like lightning to put the word out.
There was no right. There was no fucking way to please. You jump, and she raises the bar while you're in the air. You fall, and she spits on you. From the ground, you throw a little dirt in her face and she screams about how you assaulted her. Fucking pathetic person.

right?

Dude, that's assuming everyone is going to react the way I did, and that's simply not the case.
Also, I'm used to assholes on here, but usually the threads that get this in depth and personal don't last, or don't contain as much needless hate. Either way, idc. Good on you.

Aight bois, trying to or nah, let's find out

You know people can have BPD, do that shit, and have those be unrelated, right?

Spotted the mentally ill woman.

Forgot the pic

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"Thankfully the only person who could possibly help you is me. Here's my opinion. You're welcome" -user the Great, 2019

You said you hope she has neither. which means if she does, in her mind, she's not what you want. I see what she's saying, but she's saying it because she is over reacting.

So don't share wisdom gained from actual experience dating women with other anons because what, muh feminism?

Go prep the bull

Oh shut the fuck up.Seriously.

I had a few HS friends who thought they were witty, always had to come up with some smart-guy response to every comment. I'm not friends with those people any more because it gets more than annoying. They'd say shit in cars like "falling rock? You think they use the same rock over and over?" and "Do not enter? Then why is the road here?" stupid asshole stuff. Once might be amusing, a hundred times, it's super cringe debate club nonsense. I imagine thats how this chick feels.

Useless comment #2, I knew a chick with bad arthritis in college. If you think its a joke, you're not as smart as you think you are. Arthritis fucks people up bad, the younger you are the worse it will be in later years. The chick I knew probably has fingers like boiled shrimp by now.

I'm the one with BPD. I'm speaking on the relationship I was in with someone who displayed incessant narcissistic tendencies.

Mmmmmmm that makes sense in a way too actually

>screenshot of text message
>am I

If you have to ask the answer is yes. Sage.

lmao you really suck at it. stop trying to make the perfect response to her, same way you trying to make the perfect response to every moron who wrote something in this thread.

inb4 "so you do think I'm fat. Why did you mention the gym"

Another one that always has to be right, while everyone else is wrong.

Wow. That is McCringe to the max.

Ever hear of tact?

just because you have BPD doesnt make you an authority of the topic.
is just saying that they can be unrelated and you shouldnt be saying another person has BPD like a fact

nigger what are you smoking. Nothing here posted is actual advice from actual people, it's all LARPing.
But you are aware those can all be independent things, right?

So if anything is to go by, we shouldn't be listening to crazies with bpd because they might be narcissistic and lie about their relationship in a one handed manner?
Like you could be doing?

im not not who you responded to but im smoking grand daddy purple

I need to work on that, big rip

Oh she's been asking me to go with her since I've been working out lately.

ALRIGHT ANONS IM GOING TO NUT CITY
Also yeah, final answer atm: OP was an insensitive retard, but OP will also think about the advice in this thread. Life experiences are invaluable, and I'd be dumb not to at least think about them.

Thanks to everyone who replied, if you have any ideas on how I could be less retarded let me know

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>anything but I am sorry

Why can't girls accept I am right about everything AND have sex with me?

MGTOW

good decision

Barf

Fun fact of the day: people with BPD are only capable of accepting they have a disorder, but not capable of admitting to even themselves when they're the problem

Dude, what? Was I claiming to be an authority of the topic? I was merely identifying which poster I was as a way to reference. "BPDguy with shitty ex"? Is that better? I was just trying to relate to the post, man.

Yes, I'm aware that one cannot be diagnosed or classified on isolated incidents. Why is that relevant? Because I was drawing on my own experience to relate to the post? I wasn't claiming absolutes or anything. Just food for thought, I guess.

But let's be real here, douche; the term "McCringe" is probably the most cringey thing in this whole thread so far.

You gonna be aight, goy.

I don't really take advice from edgy teens that say nigger like they're so cool for saying it.

In my experience quickly apologizing without knowing why to anyone has not worked out well at all tbh.
I got a lot of perspective on why what I said would be seen as insensitive to some people.

Ye boiii

Thanks user

I meant that BPD, Narcissistic behavior, and being an underhanded bitch can all be seperate things stemming from different things.
no body is cool on Yea Forums and I didn't post advice

fair enough im doing the same thing and and they were just trying to give the OP more info on their background.

i guess taking advice with a grain of salt and assessing what applies to your situation is the better course of action. good job calling me out

I think maybe one or both of us have misunderstood something down the line here. I've made no attempt at making that point or even coming close to it. Again, why bother lying here...? Especially about this. If I was going to LARP (would never), I'd at least have better lies, man. Come on.

You’re kind of an unfunny faggot. And yeah you’re probably wrong. Kill yourself

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Good job, bro! You make an awesome emotional crutch. Have fun with that!

There's no way this isn't proof of larping
>congrats for answering correctly. Your reward is that I'm getting on birth control so you can cum in me

You've never touched a girl in your life

yeah sorry, i also posted this i was wrong

On to the next one you betas will settle for the worst bitches

Either you're a fucking retarded faggot, or I am for taking that bait.
Absolutely inaccurate.
Considering my personal experiences and relationships, eh, way off.
I know that many with BPD have it worse than I do. But I can assure you that it's nothing we're not aware of and I'm actively in support groups for it and, well, trust me, we know how we can be. It really sucks when you have to question your own feelings so often, but it does make you quite self-aware.

Absolutely they can be. but, when it all falls into the same situation, yikes. I've heard plenty of opinions and observations from enough people on my personal shit to feel pretty comfortable. But yeah. I getcha.

So....so we're like....cool then?

No I meant you can admit it to yourselves but when it's affecting someone else and they call you out on it by pointing out that you're being crazy or not acting like a rational person you deny it and can't even admit it to yourself. So you gaslight and project and shift the blame onto your accuser. It makes everything so inverted and fucked up that you literally drive normal people insane

Are you autistic and a faggot?

>Are you busy today
>No, do you want to make plans?

>denying the reality of my situation
>I'm sorry, I misunderstood, can I do anything to help?

Autists can learn how to talk to people, even women. Get help

kk senpai :3

Also here's evidence that it's probably me who's just being retarded, I did this yesterday. Also look at my long ass dog. When I hold her up she's a long bitch.

yeah, i thought you were flashing your "badge" and take your word as fact. i didnt see your last posts and realize you were just sharing your life. so yeah we good

you should take your own advice

fat bitches aren't anemic. fit/skinny ones are not eating enough/well so they go anemic.

you just dont understand bitches. they just want attention, on their terms

dump this bitch unless she is giving you the best pussy you have ever encountered and even then, make sure you eventually dump her

Don't apologize. Just say "ok" and walk away. Don't turn around.

I like it much better this way.

Now if I'm not mistaken, we've got at least one a-hole left in here to come to an "understanding" with... .

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Oh look, retard forgot pic
I just want to show people my dog tbh.
She's a stupid bitch but I love her and bought her a shirt she immediately outgrew.

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holy fuck this girl is legitimately retarded

Post a body shot of ash

For sure, lemme see if I can find like a crop top pic

Liking someone enough to always be apologetic when they hint at it, even before your lightning fast brain understands, always shows above average dedication

"I'm such a pussy boi"

the fuck is wrong with you, you autist

ITT super beta comes for advice ends up running damage control thread

That's a big yikes from me dog, holy shit

I'm a retarded pussy boi?

I'm not sure if you're kidding or not.
Either way I wouldn't feel right just automatically apologizing unless I know I'm wrong, feels empty and like I'm compromising my own self worth.

She looks like this rn, but she was thinner a few months back.
This is from a photo class I was taking so sorry about the moody lighting lol
I didn't catch the rest of her, I'm gonna see if I can find full body.

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>you ruined the sweetness
You just can't get it right with this bitch can you?

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This too

Lol

I can't get it right with anyone lmfao

What do I have to be right about? Choosing my friends, or juvenile arthritis is bad?

>I recieved much insight on the series of coincidental events which might be construed by other people as to have possibly been my fault

Get a load of your big head

>if you have any ideas on how I could be less retarded let me know
It seems hopeless, user.

If my stupid inkling is correct, he never will.

Damn boi galaxy brain responses out here

Lmao I know

It's a guarantee that I'm gonna run a series of relationships into the ground until I die bb boi

shit now I need to see her tits

What's funny is I noticed her tits got bigger last time we fucked. She makes my dick diamonds tbh

is she black or is it the lighting?

Tell her that the open and honest vulnerability makes you feel uncomfortable but your feelings for her are real

Yeah. The one you have picked up now seems like a train that derailed where you happened to be standing, but I am sure you are just warmining up.

I know that's right, brother. Same boat.
Just don't get too hurt, my friend. And don't get so lost that you hurt others. I know that shame. The guilt is a burden a carry with my every second.

Warming up my dick boi

That's really nice, I think I'm gonna say something like this.
Black, just realized the crop top pics are on SD card, brb

>that book
you know what user heh
you'll be alright and everything makes sense.
pls go, go and enjoy this person

>tomorrow's thread, what is this on my dick bros?

I've kind of gone through that, I know you're right user, spread that, because even knowing a bit, just being told really makes me think about it and that I should be more careful about that.
Giving is good, but there's a point where you have to stop.

Poly sci class, not for fun boi

Lmfao, that did happen, but with a white girl lol

Only good post ITT
such an amalgamation of whiteknights and autists here

At no point in this exchange did you seem to sympathize with her. You kept it very dry and emotionless on your end, and she was definitely looking for some emotional support. Literally even an “oof” would’ve gone a long way.

Not to mention she is albeit insecurely asking for the support and being blown off. Real stand up act.

Kek.sometimes you need to hold it in and tone it down.

And op, you write like a faggot. Why on earth would you write "I'm such a pussy boi lol" jesus christ. Just say I missed you and own it, and then if she calls you a pussy, switch it on her and call her cold or heartless. Don't call yourself a pussy for fucks sake, no one's going to keep you around for long like thay

No, I'm a dude. Thus me knowing how society sees me

uwu you think so user-kun~?

this. tbqhwy

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Because he is a supreme gentleman, that's why.

>dude so gay he comes off as roastie

In some instances yes. Especially if they are clearly acting crazy or say something over the top over text, and then you ignore it and watch it sit there, multiple times I've had the message deleted since I've left it on unread even though I've seen the preview on the lockscreen, or they'll apologise if it's something bigger.

The best way to deal with crazy shit is to either straight up ignore it, don't give it any thought, or ask her a question that is unrelated to the crazy point to change the direction of the conversation

Basically ignore everything she says until she demands more out of the relationship then move on to the next one

I need more male friends, I have a bunch but they're also retards, I have two over 30 that make a lot of sense, but one is gay so he can't really help with women.

Man I've been there, and trust me in the end it's gonna drive you nuts. Especially when stuff like this is regular.

They sound really close

You got me there

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If you don't know how to get your nuts rode you are gonna have a bad time

got'em

Well no, I'm only ignoring the crazy texts because well, they're not worth answering. If I'm geniuingly at fault then I'll accept blame. If you pick up on every message and become a little bitch about it it will never work.

Marking it on the board, stranger

You already got it covered OP. Might as well go for gold.

Op, don't nut inside this girl. 50/50 she is not on birth control at all.

Take her bareback, but cum on her face - not in the pussy.

Are you saying OP ain't a real nigga?

That's one of my favorite things to do.
Bareback, I make her cum and then I get to decide whether she jacks me onto her face, mouth, or I can cum on her tits or back.
Omfg it's so good to be with someone who's enthusiastic and into you sexually.
So many girls just fucking lay there.

Buttttt I'll actually wait to nut, she's taking them for the anemia, so I'll see what happens.

What scares me is that I know women who do that. My ex friends who are dating, the girl (obviously) wants a baby to trap him and has considered letting the birth control thing in her arm expire/not getting a new one so he can get her pregnant.

I'm the realest, whitest nigga out here boi, brb I'm gonna go do some real nigga shit >:3

why are you posting your idiotic conversations online? why am I reading this shit?

There we go. This.

>asking Mr. Cool Ice why he is so cool

First day?

Some big buff bulldyke is going to make you an honest wife

I guess at the end of the day, we know it's not good to jump to conclusions.
Although in most situations, we don't have the time or necessary frame of mind to take a step back to consider the other parties involved without allowing our ego to filter it to be something we may have come to expect, what's important is at least practicing mindfulness, both our own
and others' perspectives, and focusing on being present and nonreactive in these situations. Whether or not it's a toxic circumstance, these values and practices will provide us with endless possibilities for the future and help us learn when it's time to just say no.
I'm Jerry Springer.
Take care, Yea Forums.

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>On birth control.

That also makes women gain weight btw

Shes got dank ass titties

Also her hormones are probably all over the place OP. If she's being really moody, you just kinda deal with it. That's how she'll be. She'll get over it with time.