So I was seeing this girl for just over a month. She is an absolute smokeshow. We had sex on the second date and continued to have sex every time we hung out for the first few weeks. And we hung out a 2-3 times a week most weeks.
One day she brings up relationships and stuff starts probing me about past relationships, if i was seeing anyone else etc. I told her I was seeing other girls and asked if she's ok with that to which she said it is fine but she doesn't want to know about it.
Here's the thing. I get the feeling at that point she wanted to be exclusive, but i really don't like just jumping into things and burning bridges with other girls despite how much i liked this girl.
Fast foward a week and we are at her house and she says she is too tired for sex, so we go to sleep. We have sex again the next time we hang. Then dont have sex the time after. Then we hang once more and again, no sex. So I ask her wtf is up and she just says she doesn't feel like it. So I tell her i'm not interested in continuing to see her if we aren't having sex. I even explained to her that I would be her boyfriend and drop the other girls if thats making her uncomfortable. She said that wasn't it and doesnt want to be in a relationship and just "didn't feel like it" and she would hit me up in a couple of weeks. I gave her a kiss and left and told her to hit me up down the road when she changes her mind. She was always the one to innitate hanging out, she even called me to come over the last time we got together.
Its clear to me that she lost attraction for me, still liked me but the spark went away for her. Here's the thing though, I don't think I did anything to lose her attraction.
I think what happend is she wanted to be in a relationship, and I didn't, so subconsciously she built up her walls and pushed me out.
This has happend to be in the past with other girls asking about being in a relationship then a couple weeks go by and boom, they dont want to get together anymore, or want to be friends, etc.
What do you guys think? And how do I play it differently when she likely calls me in a few weeks to start hanging out again?
Alexander Fisher
How old is she OP?
Julian Martinez
She is 23
Hudson Parker
Yeah, you fucked up. Never tell them you’re seeing other girls. She gone bro.
Post her nudes
Camden Smith
Yeah when you mentioned other girls you were done
Ian Carter
>I told her I was seeing other girls and asked if she's ok with that to which she said it is fine but she doesn't want to know about it. >Here's the thing though, I don't think I did anything to lose her attraction.
Choose one. I mean, you basically confirm option 1 with your last sentence.
Joseph King
You dun goofed OP
Ian Turner
this.
i get that you're beeing honest and all, but... well... don't, at least don't say it directly, you could have sort of implied it somehow and kept her doubting, it wouldn't be so definitive
Luis Miller
Well so like how do I recover from this, do I call her and tell her I fucked up and to take her on another date, or do I wait and hope she calls at some point in the future?
Blake Morales
Are you asking why they lose interest eventually? I mean, you straight up told her you didn't want to hang out unless you were having sex, right? Sounds like you're the one putting up walls. And the way you framed the boyfriend thing makes it sound like you expected her to have sex with you all the time in exchange for you dumping other girls.
Easton Nguyen
I know bitches be difficult and shit, but maybe next time you find someone you really like, stop sleeping around? Pretty sure its too late for this one though
Aiden Diaz
The only option is to say you really want to go exclusive with her and date her. But you can’t play it off as cool, you gotta act like you really want that. And she will either be happy and date you, or be so turned off by now that it just pushers her completely away for good. It’s the best option to totally resolve the situation
Asher Howard
Kek! This! Sounds pretty alpha, but contrary to populair believes on this site, its actually not really what woman want
Jose Clark
Well when I left and said I would drop other girls (although in a pretty fucking retarded way making it about sex) she said she deffinently did not want to be in a relationship
Should i give her some time first?
Luke Rivera
Bruh. What do you even want from this girl? Are you chasing her now just because you're afraid to admit failure? Sounds like your relationship ran its course, move on and learn from your mistakes.
Jose Richardson
are you stupid? first the retards itt have no clue, you should say you are dating other girls. and yes, she will be bothered by it. but after you hung out the first time and no sex, you should not have met her again after that. let her ask you to hang out a few times, and say you are busy. she will want to see you more, when she finally does she'd do whatever to be your #1 again and have you get rid of the other girls
now when you did the full beta move of 'i can get rid of the other girls for you', that sealed the deal and theres pretty much no coming back from that, especially with how clueless you are
YOUR MISTAKE WAS NOT TELLING HER YOU ARE DATING OTHER GIRLS, THAT IS GOOD. YOUR MISTAKE WAS TOLERATING SHITTY BEHAVIOUR, AND STILL SEEING HER, WHEN YOU DID THAT AND YOU WERE STILL RUNNING AFTER HER IT REINFORCED TO HER THAT SHE CAN WITHHOLD SEX FROM YOU AND YOU WILL STILL CHASE HER
Ok but now I told her im not putting up with it, so in your theory shouldn't she be begging for me back in like a week ?
Jason Thompson
Dude, you don't get it. You fucked up and let her walk over you. This shit is done for real, move on to the other girls that you are talking to and make sure to remain mysterious and to not supplicate.
Jack Richardson
eh i mean you can get her back in theory, i've done it and helped people do it a few times but its a lot harder now that you fucked up. if i were you i'd just move on you can get her back if you let her come back to you, you will have to make yourself appear as interesting and that as many girls as possible like you, maybe 'accidentally' becoming friends with some of her friends and maybe fucking one of them would do it, but again thats a lot of work if i were you i'd just move on
Idk, man, i usually hold your mentality around women, but I think this case is different. She kept hitting me up to hangout, always initiating. I kept things interesting.
The only other thing I could see it being was her "testing" me so to speak to see what I would do.
Camden Martinez
Dude, you fucked up massively. Move on from this girl and most importantly, learn from your fuckups.
Mistake 1: You told her that you were talking to another girls. You should've seen this shit test coming from a mile away. Don't tell her everything that she wants to know, remain mysterious. Women are famous from jumping to conclusions, so she knew you were talking to girls even before she asked you that. SHIT TEST FAILED.
Mistake 2: telling her that you were willing to drop the other girls for her. Women don't like compromises. Women want their man to make decisions for them. You made yourself look like a huge cuck by making YOURSELF exclusive to her.
Move on and leave the girl alone. Life sucks. Learn, adapt , overcome and keep your perceived value superior to others whether they are men or women.
Leo Parker
op is a massive faggot who is socially retarded and don't understand the fundamentals of human relationships. also why the fuck you don't post some nudes you stupid son of a goddamn motherfucking bitch
Wyatt Cruz
imo just try to hang out with her and ignore both the other girls topic and the relationship topic, just see how it goes.
You should also go after her this one time since its probably a test to see if you really care or just wanted to smash n' dash
Don't chase tho, just initiate it this time and try not making it 100% about fucking
if you want a relationship that is, which from your posts it seems like you do
Text her asking to hang out right now and see how it goes, good luck bro
>Idk, man, i usually hold your mentality around women, but I think this case is different. >but I think this case is different Dude, listen to yourself. You are considering this broad to be special, you are getting into the one-itis territory. She will lose respect towards you from every interaction from here on. CUT YOUR LOSSES AND GET THE FUCK OUT. This girl does not respect you anymore, if she contacts you is because she wants attention/money/time and she knows you will give it to her no problem. You might as well prentend that this girl is a ghost. block her and move on.
Evan Jackson
You dumbfuck. NEVER, EVER VOLUNTEER INFORMATION TO WOMEN. If they ask specifics. Be honest... because they will know if you’re not.
Otherwise, don’t answer or volunteer any info.
Logan Ramirez
Alright boys. Here's the plan then. Im going to move onto other women. If/when she hits me up in the future I will put less time into her and see how things go, if things go well again and I dont fuck up her shittests i will inform her I want a relationship and go from there.
If she never hits me up there are plenty of other hot girls who probably on the same wavelength
