What can I do to become more interesting and likable?
I already started working out and have a decent body going. I am learning a new language and hope to learn more after and have gotten a few new hobbies I will try to become okay at.
What else is there to do?
What is the secret to being someone people like?
I'm already earning some decent money too so what else do I need? I am all ears
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Have a good sense of humor, be adaptable, and dont take yourself too seriously.
First off, well done on getting your ass off the couch and doing something with your life.
Secondly, don't try so hard user. The right people will cross your path at the right time.
Instead of looking for people who you think you are compatible with, rather be versatile in conversations with the people who are in your space. If they like you, they like you. If not, then they can fuck off. Just treat people with the same amount of respect as you yourself would like
>Have a good sense of humor
Yes! Forgot that one. I think I have a good one in the sense that I don't get offended by anything. But how do I become funny? Is there any way to do that?
I get that, don't go looking for people, yeah. Thanks!
I guess just practice makes perfect? I need to be the person that, if you talk to me one on one, you at least can respect me, no matter what I just said.
you say that like its something i can pick up at the store. how does one develop a 'good' sense of humour?
The last part "if you talk to me one on one, you at least can respect me, no matter what I just said."
I would disagree here user. Remember, respect others. So get a feel for the conversation. Read the room, if you are in an office enviroment and you are talking to a colleague, keep it professional, maybe cracking an inside joke that only you and that person will understand. Also do not try filling silence with something to say. We all know silence in a conversation is awkward to say the least, but trying to fill that gap of silence with something that is a dead end road conversation just makes the upcoming moment of silence in more awkward than the first. Listen inventively. Listen to what the person has to say and think of maybe one or two follow up questions for the person to keep them talking. People LOVE talking about themselves, so always try and push the conversation back onto the other person but also peppering in a little about yourself. ""Oh you started learning how to juggle, that's pretty awesome, how many things can you juggle at once by now?"" (Wait for answer) ""That's awesome man, I just started learning a new language"" (They will respond with) Oh that's cool, what language"" and so on and so forth. Keep conversations light and breazy and stray away from anything that may be offensive (in this day, it's almost impossible) but a general rule for me is stay away from, religion, politics and race. It's all about reading the person (not judging)
Respecting won't be a problem. I respect everyone.
Thanks for this advice user! It puts things into perspective and reminded me of a few things I already thought about.
Do you think a bar or some place would be a good starting point for some practice on this? Perhaps I could work on my sense of humor there as well.
Obviously it happening naturally is something I would want when it comes to that, but what I mean is just simply practicing reading the person and just getting a feel for how to do things, you know?
watch a bunch of well-constructed funny stuff, make a habit of it. eventually your brain will dissect what's funny about it and you'll start seeing openings for similar jokes in the real world.
i say well constructed because you could watch mind of mencia or something but you'd just pick up how to tell race jokes and yell. and that can be funny but if you're trying to meet people, watching something with jokes that're a little smarter will help you be more varied and think on your feet more which is better for a general audience.
will definitely try this as i am pretty desperate to build a more pleasing sense of humour. you got any other recommendations? would help a lot
The next step is stop being a faggot and for that you should stop sucking dicks inmediately, hard for you but doable.