This is probably the opposite of a problem for a lot of you but hear me out

This is probably the opposite of a problem for a lot of you but hear me out

I've been dating the love of my life for 11 months now, we've been perfect together. When we first met she was decently attractive, above average: but over the time we've been together she's gotten so fucking hot its insane

This girl is so absolutely and completely out of my league it's insane. I know that she does love me and I know that I love her but I'm starting to lose my feelings for her.

I don't know why, but the fact that she's so amazingly beautiful and hot gives me anxiety and makes me want to kill myself for whatever reason. I don't know what to do here guys, I want to stay with my girlfriend because I do love her, but the fact that she is so much more attractive than me and so much better than me in every way is starting to make me feel bad and put me down.

Has anyone ever been in the same boat?

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You should kill yourself just for being so retarded.

*Gets gorgeous girlfriend* "Welp, better die now."

The fuck?

You should post tits first

I know man, I know

shes fucking gorgeous and all I can think about is how I'm unworthy and how I should kill myself for being with her, and then I think about how retarded I am for thinking that and want to kill myself even more

I can't win

If you feel like you owe her something for being above your league, how about doing your best to make her happy?

Just wait.

As soon as she leashes herself to you (kids, mortgage, etc), shit is gonna suck.

Trust me.

I do my best to make her happy every day and I never show this side of me to her, she has no clue. She loves me, I make her laugh every day, smile, we have a good sex life, everything is perfect in our relationship.

It's just me.

Wow that's the worst case of self sabotage that I ever heard of...

Why won't you let yourself be happy?

I don't know :( I fucking hate my life

I fully endorse and agree with the replying user.

You sound like a bitch trying to understand how to let down your lesser aesthetically pleasing partner.

Tits or get the fuck out.

If she really loves you, she will try to help. Communication is always better than silently letting things get worse and worse.

She’s not too hot, there is an unbalance here, which means you need to start trying a little harder on improving your own self, it’s simple but harder in practice but there’s your solution

Thank you a lot, I'm probably going to lightly address this stuff with her later tonight, and work on figuring out what's so good about myself. There's gotta be atleast something, youre right. Thank you

Just start going to he gym more or even 10-15 pushups a day and go for walks. It'll make your cheast a tad bit bigger and itll bost your confidence.
Happy trails user

Grow a penis and/or get married.

Sometimes secrets actually make marriages last longer.

I don't mean infidelity, I'm talking there are just some shit you MUST keep to yourself.

If not, you'll end up with someone just as bad as you are and never have a chance to gain status via a symbiotic relationship.

Stick with her, man. Fuck all her friends well, and become a GOD.

Poor judgement call bro

OMG WHAT A SHIT LOAD OF PUSSY ASS WEAK WILLED VAGINA DRIVEN ADVICE,.... AND IT WAS TAKEN TO HEART.

OUR KIDS ARE DOOOOOOOOMED

I know where you are coming from... You are young and have hopes and expectations, then you get old and you realize that you never accomplished what you wanted as a youngster and never will...

But IMO OP is not a total failure if he managed to land a girl of his dreams, so I want to encourage him to not feel like one, that's all

lets see her

Your brain is feeding you bullshit emotions. Get this out of your system with someone that is not her, maybe a professional. And at least try not to feel bad about feeling bad about it. It might not even be your fault.

If you think you are not good enough for her, pretty soon she will too. She is probably already picking up on your change in "attitude" and your anxiety. It will drive her away for sure. The opposite is also true, act as you did prior (as if you are good enough for her) and she will assume that is the reality. I would suggest using this new "anxiety"to motivate you to improve yourself and your own attractiveness, lift weights, earn more money, etc.. make it a competition... (without telling her of course) even if she does leave you, at least you will be in a better position than if you let this opportunity pass you by. Let this light a fire under your ass. You have her now, enjoy her and take what you can from the situation, and stop worrying.

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You're a great guy, but you have a fucked up attitude OP.

first of all, and are probably both right

second, you're letting your own selfish insecurities blind you. She's her own human being, she has her reasons. When you obsess over your own perceived inadequacies, you're ignoring her in a sense. When you love someone, you should want to understand that person, which means understanding why that person likes you. Your fear that she's too good for you is kind of an insult to her, because it implies that her attraction to you is something shallow and superficial. Stop worrying about yourself so much OP.

if you open up and show weakness, she will eventually leave you. these faggots saying 'ask for emotional support/let her help you' are clueless betas
as soon as you show some deep weakness, they will never forget it and eventually hate you for it

/thread

Guys this gets posted ever couple of weeks, leave it alone

I've been in this situation. You have two options:

1- Let it go because on your current trajectory, it will eventually crash and burn when she realizes that you feel inferior to her. She'll become turned off and resentful, and it'll hurt like hell for years afterward

2- Stop being a bitch and work on yourself. Work on your self esteem and do therapy or personal development work until you feel you are not only worthy, but that she's actually fortunate to have you. Obviously, she sees redeeming qualities in you. It's your job to find them too.

Bonus: don't be so hung up on looks. You're thinking like a man. Men value looks. Women value character. What is it about your character she finds attractive?

best of luck user

Don`t anoy us. Jump from someplace high, or do Helium. Just do it.

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Sounds like you should seek professional help and counsel from a licensed psychologist or whatever rather than an image board full of people telling you to kill yourself. Also why the fuck are you asking for advice in Random and not Advice.

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you are fucking retardede

Is this how you thank us?

OP here, I've been reading all of your responses and thank you guys so much. Honestly one of the posters here is right, I'm not sure why I posted in random instead of adv but I'm really glad I did.

Thank you all for taking the time to give me real responses, especially:
Honestly, not to be a dumb ass or anything but I feel really motivated by your responses. Thanks Yea Forums! I wouldn't have expected such a great response from here and I kind of expected to be shamed and called a faggot, but thank you so much to everyone who participated and helped me out.

I hope you're all doing well also. Thank you.

100% this, if you feel unworthy, the best thing to do is make yourself into the kind of person who you would feel worthy of her.
Do things to make YOURSELF better and that will make her happy indirectly as well. I'm sure you can think of all kinds of ways to do this. Read more books, work out more, work on diet, better grooming, whatever kind of self improvement you can think of.

Lift weights. Get hobbies.
Be attractive to other women.
THAT IS THE KEY. I'm in the same boat, but after I've been working out, I've been feeling way better around her.

Controlling her MIND is more important that controlling her body. Be attractive to other girls and show her that

there are 2 kinds of men. one that constantly requires validation from his peers, never backs themselves and has no self esteem, the other finds ways to self validate, feels good about what they accomplish and has a healthy ego

if my gf was hot as fuck, i'd be proud of myself for bagging her. why aren't you user?

>Has anyone ever been in the same boat?
Yeah I choked her in her sleep and buried her in the desert, now I'm happy knowing that no other guy will ever get to sleep with her.

Become worthy then. It's really not your girlfriend's fault that you don't value yourself, and maybe you have a good reason for that. Or maybe you don't, I don't know you. Anyway, do what you think you need to do to deserve her.
Alternatively, she might think you're worthy of her for whatever reason, so you could try talking to her to see if you can find out what it is. Be careful how you go about that, cos there are many ways to look repulsive while doing so.
Can't give you anything less vague, as I don't know either of you, though looking for advice on Yea Forums is a solid red flag to begin with.

post pics lol

Hey man, think it from your GFs side. How much shit would her life suck if you left her/fucking die? If she is out of your leag or somehow she is unhappy she would leave you. Looks like she is not leaving anytime soon so be there for her. You've accomplished something that Yea Forums has never had so don't fucking pitty yourself, be happy, keep loving

do what you will but post her nudes

it's just your evolutionary instinct telling you to leave her; leave her; it's the most ideal outcome for the betterment of your species

> Comes to 4ch for relationship advice
> Actually gets some decent advice from good guy anons

Huh.

I married someone who made me feel the same way for a long time. The answer is simple: fucking prove that you deserve her. You could work harder, improve yourself sexually or physically, succeed financially, etc. When someone of that caliber cares for you the way mine does for me, you don’t fucking waste time trying to digure out why; you buckle down and become stronger.

>What is u should probs start working out for 500

Fine

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pic with face + tattoo + name?
eesh, i hope thats NOT your girl user, bad move

This.
Use your anxiety as a motivator to get fit and reach your girl's level.

Stop being a fucking retard and just tell her how you feel. A relationship wont work without communication.

how did you meet?

but yeah, only answer is to become a better person
but you are scared.
Scared of becoming a better man, because your attraction to this girl seems like it stems from the idea you have that she is too good for you. It's like you know sub consciously you will lose your attraction for her if you improve as a person, because your main turn on is her being too good for you.
I dont know but that's my impression.

Relationships only work really well when there's parity. If one perceives himself as worth much more / much less than the other things like what OP descibes happen. There's only harmony when both contribute equally to the relationship - in whichever way. A cliched and stupid example would be that maybe she's super hot, but you make a lot of money. Maybe you're assertive and have your life together under control and she takes care of you in return. Things like that. I can't brain today to give better examples, but that's basically it.

Chip a little away at that pedestal you put her on and use the scrapes to build yourself one.

Also, this. If you perceive yourself less than her do something about it. Work out, take care of yourself, try to get ahead in life, whatever. If you don't she'll eventually notice your anxiety.

This guy gets it, too. Don't be that guy who's whining how life's so unfair and she's so out of your league. Go and do something about it.

Nope cant say. Why?

OP, you are clearly homosexual.

We've known each other for a while, she used to date one of my black buddies then they broke up because he cheated on her and I was there to pick up the pieces

>the love of my life
there is no such thing, nigger. There is no "one". But ok, go on.
>she's gotten so fucking hot its insane
has she actually gotten hotter or is it just your brain playing tricks on you?
>attractive than me and so much better than me in every wa...bladidah
I think you don't understand what makes a man attractive. You might be an ugly imp like the Duke of Lauzun or Tyrion Lannister, but if you have confidence and ACT like an alpha, the girls don't mind (well as long as you're not too ugly seewhatImean).

You're an idiot, OP. Get your shit together. And if you don't feel "worthy" of dating this girl, then it means you're definitely not worthy. So man up and don't fuck it up you stupid piece of shit.

huh
why is she so amazing?

I've been there. After 2 years of being with her I got ed. Started taking cialis for her not to notice. My advice is the same as others here: talk to her. Communicate. You both love eachother. Tell her everything that's on your mind. Maybe consider psychotherapy (I'm guessing there more to your anxiety than just she being hot). You can do it. Not involving her will probably break you apart. She might not be able to help you. Maybe that part you have to do by yourself, or with the help of professionals. But you have to let her know. If not for being able to accept certain behaviours of yours, or giving you feedback.

Btw: since we broke up I've been single. Haven't been in a relationship for 5 years now. Not having her in my life fucked me up quite a lot and I'm just starting to get my shit back together. And it's not easy a damn painful.

>he cheated on her
Typical nigger

> was there to pick up the pieces
So you just admitted you're a beta. ya know what they say, alpha fuck, beta buck.

so i went through something similar good looking 18 yr old constantly do butt exercise you culd bounce a quarter off. we would get looks alot i thought people were jealous of me i was certain, i started watching cuck porn and then everything went off the rails. i messed up.

if i had set a schedule a day of the week or month like a confirmed date night. were i prove myself to her that one day were i could show my insecurity and only that day. flower shopping go to the tailor get an outfit for special dinner things that she could go brag to her friends about. i think the relationship would have taken it's normal course.

terrific lady day

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You should delete this, file name is her name.... and one quick google search = all of your info.. If that is your girl.

he cant be that stupid. he did that shit on purpose

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^a fat girl pretending her nonexistent bf is posting this.

Let an old guy weigh in on this one for you, OP. I'm 52 and my girlfriend of 3 years is 22. Of course, she's WAY out of my league, and not just with the age thing (tho that's a big one). Here's the thing about your girl: she doesn't KNOW that she's out of your league and your pointing it out to her won't help a damn thing. She's happy, you're happy, you're getting steady tail that you have no right to, so what's not to love? Your concern as a decent human is that she'll realize this and do better than you and you'll never find someone else like her, etc. etc. etc. Am I right? Any interest in my continuing with further details?

Jesus christ OP do NOT talk to her about this shit. Youre being such a crazy asshole right now that even you know it, dont put that bullshit on her. Im going to take you at your word and assume that she really has gotten way hotter which means shes actually working on herself and thats where all this anxiety is coming from because youre clearly not doing the same. Youre in the perfect situation right now, rise to the fucking occasion man. Dont be a bitch. Lift weights, work on your character. If youre too lazy to push yourself get a hard entry level job like air conditioning repair or carpet cleaning, if youre willing to work hard and get a decent manager theyll whip you into shape fast. She needs a good man in her life so become a good man, all your ancestors have been meeting impossible challenges for tens of thousands of years so you can definitely do it. Its pumping through your fucking veins like rocket fuel dude, own the anxiety, let it mold you into something greater.

good job

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Lmao yup she's better without you if you're like this. She could find someone better in terms of both appearance and personality.

lmao somebody should find her on facebook and rat out OP

>Taylor Fetzer
>nice

You have just confirmed yourself to being a faggot beta. You find a badass girl that is "out of your league" and your first thought is to leave her. You should instead keep her because the next bitch that is "in your league" will be a fat femanon furry and THEN you're going to wish you never dumped get later seeing she's with a Chad. Kys. oh and pic related. Dumbass

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she's swoll as fuck

OP is probably getting pounded by her pussy but he's proven to be too beta to take it let alone keep it. What a Shane

You should treat her like you don't deserve her. Be kind to her but be kind to yourself as well. If you respect her, then you should respect her preference for you as well.

Pics!

OP I'm in a similar situation, I've only been dating my girlfriend for 2 months, i'm 24 she's 28 and the most beautiful girl I know, luckily we're madly in love with each other so I don't feel how i felt at the start, do what i did and just talk to her about it and get her to confirm her feelings for you bro, if she isn't in love with you like you are with her maybe it's worrying.

>pic related it's my gf

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OP is probably some baby faced manlet
>no photos of him on her insta

That’s an easy one . You need to insult her frequently and often . But do so very underhanded . Like “you look amazing , if you would start doing some crunches you’d be perfect “ . This will keep her in check and make you feel better about yourself . Your welcome