Alright, why are you sad Yea Forums?

Ahhhh... Do you and your friend engage in this sort of behaviour often?
Cos, it might be a case of others not getting inside jokes or mannerisms

it's kind of a thing we do, yeah, but i guess i was too hard on the guy because i seemed to actually hurt him.

Ah damn.
Have you apologised?

yeah

I'm sad because a friend was unnecessarily abrasive toward me when I reached out to them because I was going through some serious depression.

and..?
Did they accept it?
If they seemed kinda distant, sometimes people need space for a while.

How were they abrasive? Were they being unsympathetic?

they seemed distant. i'm giving space and time and whatever.
i think it'll blow over soon enough

Yeah~
That's good to hear that you're thinking that!

They told me "Its not my job to care or do anything about" [your problems]
Some friend

Oh dear...
Have they ever acted like this before?

Nope. Everything was roses until this.
I suppose it was just a fair weather friendship.

The annoying part is I helped them through their bullshit,
kind of expected the same in turn

have you cried op tell me

My best friend has been pushing me away lately. She has really bad depression because she's a lesbian and recently was in a bad breakup. I've known her since we were small children. I'm getting really concerned for her. She's so smol and cute, she's like the twin sister I never had. I wanna help her, but I don't know how, and I feel like it's my fault she's sad. Before she became a lesbian, I tried dating her, and I ended up doing a lot of fucked up shit to her mentally. I feel like it's my fault she's gone down this path, and I'm trying to make up for it.
She understands just how sorry I am, and she's forgiven me, but now she's terrified of people hurting her, so she pushes people away after a while, fearing they'll see her as worthless and stupid. She's been cutting herself a lot lately too.

I wish I could make her understand just how valuable she is to me. She's the only reason I haven't left this mortal coil.

cried tonight my dude.
Long story short I'm in a long term relationship (>5 years) but I've fallen in love with another girl, of whom I'm really close friends with....

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I hope everything turns out okay for you!
I've had quite serious mishaps in my friendships but the important thing was to be mature about it and move on~

I'm sad because someone i would die for blocked me from everywhere, because her bf is paranoid as shit (but i think he did this, she unblocked me from one thing to tell me what happend)
I'm not sad because i feel alone, i mean i can handle that
I'm sad because she might be with someone who can fuck her up, and i can't do anything for her

how would you make her understand? What would you do?

can you not meet up with her somehow?

Essentially, I'm torn between two people.
The thing is, they're both amazing. But in different areas....

What does she got that your actual relation does not have ?
You wanted something new ?

I kinda understand what you feel... I fucked a relationship like that, i felt too guilty at the end.

Shitty dealer sold me a lemon car for far too much. Considering a fraud suit.

I don't know. I really don't. I want to get rid of all her sadness, but I don't know how.

She's in love, i don't think i can do anything.
If she does that, it might mean i'm not that important.. But on the other hand, she told me that she feel really bad for that, and i know her words are true
Maybe one day she will wake up and realize it was a bad idea all along

So, they're both pretty similar except the other girl is really into vidya games, the same ones that I like too. She's got a similar sense of humour to my gf and she does a science subject (my gf doesn't, I do).

Shit man....
I've got my fingers crossed for you (and her)

A hard/cringey option would be to muster up the courage to tell her that outright.

Also, my current gf is my first ever gf so... maybe I do want a change? But I don't want to lose her either....
I genuinely love them both and it tears me up inside.

I've already told her I want to get rid of all her sadness, but that made her feel worse. She said she didn't want to weigh me down.

Ah shoot, that stuff.......
Unfortunately, there's no other way than trying to convince them that they're not weighing you down and taht you're doing this stuff because you care for them, and not because you feel obligated to.