Can we get a feels thread? Happy,sad,excited or anything, i'll sart

I am alone lately, in regards to friends, and it has been a bit difficult. I have a nice lady by my side but I am not much of a romantic. I enjoy her company and she keeps me from going insane from isolation for sure, but romance tends to fill a very different well than friendship, and that well is running dry unfortunately. I haven't seen my last friend in almost 3 months now.

I have one friend who would occasionally hug me for slightly longer periods of time but I have not seen him since May.

>You're not alone
I literally am though.

>Things will get better.
I mean this in the nicest way possible, but no one has ever been comforted by empty platitudes and posting them tends to just frustrate people. I understand you may not feel you always know what to say in some situations, but if you are going to seven words you should ask if it really needs to be said at all. I hope you can appreciate this isn't coming from a place of anger, I just notice people doing it a lot and it seems it becomes the burden of the person you are trying to comfort to make you feel like what you said meant anything. Things don't just 'get better'.

Nice trips!
But you're right things won't just "get better" you gotta try my dude.

>you gotta try my dude.
Sure, but all you said was 'things will get better', and I never claimed I wasn't ever going to try to make things better or that they wouldn't.

Wasn't me, i'm OP. Anyways,ask your lady friend if it's okay just to go out alone to a sports bar (or whatever hobby you're into) and try and just strike up a convo with someone.

>Ask your lady friend
I wouldn't need permission, let alone to tell her about it, I only see her once or twice a week. I have been attempting all sorts of meetups and events and bars and just going out into the world to connect with people but I haven't had any luck unfortunately. Even if I did, it wouldn't change much. It takes a long time to grow an old friend.

It's easy to for me to say blah blah rain won't last forever, sunshine is around the corner and shit like that, but from what you've told us, you have an outlet. You are very lucky among a lot of people on this website, try to smile about your pluses. Nothing that is said on here will get you out of that hole, the most we can do is get you to think. You have a girl who cares for you, perhaps online friends who want to hear from you. When I was in that hole, and I learned that no, I am not above the power of advice, I am not above counseling, and I am not a lost cause. Confide in your friend, family members if you got them, even an old teacher works. Things won't just fix themselves, that's up to you to heal. You don't drown by falling into the river, you drown by staying submerged in it.

Oh got ya. Maybe join a boxing or some sort of martial art gym to meet some cool people. Even if you don't hang out with them often at least you have some people to share a hobby with.

>but if you are going to seven words you should ask if it really needs to be said at all.

I've always found simple words of kindness are better than none at all - depends on your perspective I guess. No offense taken by the way, it's all good.

Regardless of the lonliness I've also experienced in my life, I still try to have a positive outlook.

I've been an only child and never had any really close friends since my family kept moving houses - I've been to about 5 schools before graduating. I've never had a relationship either, so I am definitely familiar with the feeling of lonliness. I've never been intimate with anyone in my 26 years of life while watching my (now distant) friends getting married and starting their own lives.

And through these experiences of being solitary, I feel it's through these hard lessons in life that we learn the most about ourselves.

Where about are you located maybe a Yea Forumsro could meet up and not kill you but like hang out.

Adding onto my own post - I'm in no way trying to invalidate your feelings. I feel the same way.

I meant to say there's others out there who feel the same way as you - so you're not alone in the sense that there's more of us out here that feel the same way too.

I'm not good with words.

You guys are terrible. Truly, utterly, terrible. Go to /adv/, stay out of feels threads. Jesus Christ, imagine someone inviting you to talk about your feels and then they all just give you some mightier than thou lectures. You guys seriously misunderstand the point of these threads, and really the point of people just sharing their sadness. Do you honestly want to be met with middle school level advice and platitudes anytime you just share a sad thought?

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t.faggot who wants to wallow in his own sadness

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just remember ur mom loved drugs more than you user :^)

This is the first time I've come into these sort of threads, I thought I'd just try and share some of my thoughts and feelings as well.

I'm sorry my post did not reflect what you were expecting. A little positivity in the darkest of places never hurts.

Absolutely. It's a harsh truth, but she's better now and i'm thankful for that. Better for her to be sober than all drugged up though.

Oh, you're right, I just wanted to wallow in my own sadness... in a feels thread. IF ONLY I HAD JUST BELIEVED THAT THINGS GET BETTER I WOULD NO LONGER HAVE TO WALLOW.

Neck yourself. Feels threads are great. I love them when I am happy and I love them when I am sad, and I always call out when someone is wallowing in self pity. My friend died. It's sad. It's hard making new friends. It isn't wallowing to grieve.

I apologize for flying off the handle there I have just not had /this/ kind of experience in a feels thread in almost six years, and then probably another four before that. I can't say which one of those you were but it was astounding how on the same wavelength you three were there, it was terrifying. It was like trying to express something to a parent when you're in middle school and they just suggest inane nonsense that doesn't actually take the time to address what is wrong. These threads are meant to talk about feelings, not advice, sure the two can go hand in hand but it felt more like I was being largely ignored in order to make other people feel better about themselves with how 'helpful' they are.

These two posts are where it's at, even if simple.
They expand upon the feeling and the dillemma. Even when they don't ask questions they managed to talk about something that allows for further discussion. Insisting upon solutions just means that someone has to either be rude and reject your 'help' or turn the situation around and comfort you by pretending to have been helped.

I've been getting manipulated and abused by the same girl since I was a 14 year old kid, I've cut her off many times in the past but she always gets in contact with me somehow, and for some reason she's the only person I'll go absolutely retarded for, she's made me feel a deeper hurt than anything else I've ever experienced and for some reason I always jump at the very first chance to give it another shot with her, recently I've let her re-enter my life like a fucking idiot and she's trying to get me to impregnate her, I know that's a horrible idea but for some fucked up reason it just feels right, maybe because we've already tried to have a kid two times in the past when we were pretty much kids ourselves, but the toll this woman has taken on me is something I won't ever be able to forget, I know this isn't an interesting story at all, but typing all this out feels so fucking relieving. Thanks to anyone who bothers to read it.

Who cares? Like you said, A little positivity in the darkest of places never hurts.
That is just some random ass dude getting butt hurt cause this post isn't a trap post on Yea Forums

user I respect what you're trying to say and I do agree that spamming SUNSHINE IS COMING isn't helping people worth shit. but every single feels thread we all confide in each other, the feeling of comfort I get when anons would offer me words of encouragement never slip my memories man. i think different people respond differently and we all have trouble communicating those issues, which is why i'm such a big fan of these threads existing. for some people, these threads are that outlet, to get shit out and maybe even make a friend.
im the poster of

How about you post a feels post then?I read it man, glad you shared it with us.

It's all good man, I'm usually only ever a lurker so I wasn't expecting my posts to have that kind of reaction, which I'm okay with too.

It was an interesting insight for me that I'll keep in mind for next time.

>IF SOMEONE DOESN'T LIKE MT SHITTY ADVICE THAT MEANS THEY ARE THE GAY AND WANT TRAPS
Exactly as a I described, a middle school mind. Thank you for proving my point. God forbid you might be fallible!

I'll leave you boys to your thread. I may not agree with it but if you guys get what you need out of it enjoy.

There are words of encouragement and then there is an insistence upon ideas. Describing the deep need for physical closeness with an emotionally close friend isb eing met with
>well go to a bar
>go learn a martial art
What is the appropriate response at this point? Does it become my responsibility to pretend the other person is helpful to get them to stop, thus encouraging the behavior, or is getting a bit aggressive perhaps appropriate after trying to explain it calmly once before? Words of encouragement are great, Feels threads are often great because of them, but when you're met with platitudes and then people disregard the emotional context in favor of their 'advice' suddenly it doesn't feel like positivity or encouragement, it just feels dismissive.
>oh you have a deep need for physical closeness with another man, something you were embarrassed to even mention to us? yeah just go to a bar.
Sometimes highlighting something using aggression is the only way for people to really understand what they are doing. Life isn't always hand holding.

I did, and I also responded to other people's issues as well in this thread.

Thanks dude, good luck out there.

Same thing happened to me, my mom left me when I was five due to hardcore drugs and was in and out of jail so for at least 7 years throughout her life. I had an accidental overdose last year and survived, I'm 24 and have my own life but she rarely visits.

She is still on and off drugs and I didn't know she was constantly asking my dad for money. She doesn't really visit but when she does she spends her time at the casino rather than around the family. She doesn't seem eager to be around the family very much.

I don't message her much, why do she isn't eager to reply.

I have left is my dad, who still works day today and his time is limited. After my accident my life has been hectic because everything that I need to do the work is messed up in some way or another, my memory, my speech, my motor skills, etc.

Fuck man, all I can say is good luck to you, I really do wish you the best.

I miss her lads. She was my best friend and I haven’t seen her in almost 3 years. She offered to meet up last weekend, and I was riding on a massive high before being pulled right back down when she canceled on me the next day. She said she promises we’ll see eachother when I get back from college for the summer, but I don’t know anymore. I don’t know if the person who was my high school best friend still exists or she’s someone else, I can’t tell and I’m clinging that I’ll find out in person...

I teared up some on that. I wish everything will go for the best for you man.

Lets have a cry together user. Been there done that man.

I haven’t cried over someone who isn’t family since Freshman year of high school but definitely still feels bad. I seriously don’t get her shit, like if she’s trying to get me to orbit or what or she’s really as lonely as she says she is at times, because it seems she doesn’t have many close people besides her boyfriend, her reason why she canceled on me.

Bump

Almost ready for my story

>Meet this cute guy from France on /sock/
>Of course he can't be from the US, that would be to easy
>We chat for two days
>I'm not even joking
>But we click and I develop a mind altering crush
>we talk about visiting, about what we want in a partner
>It turns out I'm not too much older
>I need to visit Marseilles to tend to a friend's grave
>I realize that the money for a flight would be worth it
>Get on Orbitz and find a series of round trip tickets from Minnesota to Paris for $750
>I buy the tickets knowing I have 24hrs to cancel
>I tell I just bought what I've done
>He tells me I should come to see France, since we've only met
>That he's met with people before and the other guy was so turned off he just walks away
>And ya, I'm moving quick but tickets to Europe have to be bought months in advance to remain reasonable, that I can send him a picture of me
>I like traveling, I'm middle aged, don't need those $750 for something else, and might as well take a chance
>That he can wait to deliver a picture of himself until after I land because then it'd be too late to turn back
>He finds me as average as ever and doesn't have any interest in meeting
>I'm crushed
>I cancel my tickets
At least I found out in time.
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Damn, that hurt.
My biggest fear is that any online friends will leave if they see how I look, I feel actual disgust in my own appearance. I've lost a lot of my motivation to take care of my appearance and love myself. Little while lies and self pep talks get real old after years and years. I want to meet up with them but my anxieties make me scared. I hope we both get it a little easier someday.

>That he can wait to deliver a picture of himself until after I land because then it'd be too late to turn back :P

Of course I forget the emoticon.

I kind of lied, I haven't cancelled my tickets yet; I have until 18Mar29 at 2359hrs. It's only $750, I could go anyway. I'll think about it for a bit.

Where do you live? Where do your internet friends live? Do you lift weights or any cardio?

I used to, it's just real easy for me to point out my flaws. Lost a lot of weight, gained some of it back, I don't feel like doing anything recently. I work, sleep, and try to not think anymore.
I have one long lasting friend who's living in Croatia now, some East Coast like myself. I know it's unhealthy to keep things so far away too personal but, hard to help it. I fear if I lose her, I'll lose the rest. In reality, they've reassured me over and over they don't care about my appearance, and I want to believe that's true. I used to take multiple showers before going out with my high school female friends because I felt so unclean. I feel like the issue is deep rooted and I just wish someone would come and say tell me that I'm really not ok.

>On a less edgy note
A trip to Paris still sounds like a hell of a trip, but maybe you should keep the money safe instead when you can really enjoy it, we can't take it to the grave after all. I'd give it some time and more planning

So, you're from Croatia? Or the US East Coast?

Ya, I'll probably end up cancelling and going to Australia in September. I was in no position to make a move, but I saw one set of tickets for $750; though I'll pay about twice that.

It'sreally warm now so I'll start running again. And I need a 43" barbell; I have one but its thread is non-standard.

I should see Eastern Europe eventually. From Germany to Austria to Trieste to the SE in the former Yugoslavia republics up to Tallinn, and then back home. I've never seen that part of the world.

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I'm on the East Coast, I know a lot of what I need to do, it's just hard to put it into action. Wish I could eat a pill to give me ambition. I'll try to run again too soon. Hope you work out where you want to visit, there's too much out there to be secluded to our little islands.
Wishing you the best, probably going to fall asleep soon, 5 am. Hang in there.

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Are you in NYC?

NJ, and same, images not working for whatever reason

I would have flown through NYC on my way to Paris.

It was such that it was cheapest (by a $200-$300) to buy one round trip ticket to New York and then another from NYC to Paris. It was a little difficult making sure I could make the second leg of the trips but I got it done.

Point is, I can cancel my NYC to PAR flight without cancelling my MSP to NYC flight. I'm trying to figure out if you'd like to do something in early July.

Reading that message made me feel hit the right spots. I appreciate the gesture more than you could ever think. It warms my heart to know a complete stranger would be willing to do something like that for me. I'd really love to, but I'd have to decline, I'm just too invested in work now and I won't be getting any vacations soon, the your thoughtfulness just now was enough of a gift to me. I'm going to try my best to become more physically active again. I know it probably might feel like this talk was insignificant, but I needed really needed that little nudge of kindness. Thank you, from one user to the other.

Good morning, user.

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