What do you do when your girlfriend becomes distant, cold, doesn't text first anymore and ignores you when you're near ?
I've tried making it look like I don't care for some days but it's like she doesn't care. She laughs with other people in front of me but goes almost silent when we have to interact.
I get that she might want to breakup but then why spend 2 months doing this ?
I haven't done anything wrong to my knowledge, I thought about the possibility of another guy going around her but I just don't see it.
We've been together for 4 months and she's been avoiding me like the plague for half of it. Her friends and other people have been asking me if we're still together and I don't even know what to answer.
This is really messing with me everyday now, I need to do something
What do you do when your girlfriend becomes distant, cold, doesn't text first anymore and ignores you when you're near ?
She's probably not into you or worrying about something else. I would end it and find another girl.
you break up with her with dignity.
you don't want to be with someone like that and I would bet you think you deserve better.
She told me she still has feelings for me but that she feels a bit lost, I don't know if I can trust this statement, she insists since the beginning of our relation that if we break up she wants us to stay friends, I don't plan on staying friends though.
I thought about breaking up with her, really, but I see her everyday because of school and I know that this will fuck me up especially when she finds someone else. I can't risk failing my exams
You might think that we've not been together really long but I believe short relationships hit the hardest when they end and I'm a HSP so all these emotions I'm feeling right now are very intense.
Do you guys have sex regularly?
>4 months
>School
Lol.
at first we did, we haven't had in a while now
Yes I'm young. I'm 18
Man up an have a little conversation with her, but your relationship is pretty fucked up imo
There you go, your relationship is probably ending, break it off before she does. Have a straightforward conversation about it first. And make sure you are not made out to be the villain among your mutual friends.
She asked to talked a week ago. I found it weird, I thought she would break up with me, but instead she said that she wasn't sure, and that I wasn't there for her when she needed me (she's been finding excuses not to hang out with me for a while so I don't know what she's on about)
I figured it's fucked too.
Dude she wants you to break up with her so she doesn't have to do it. "I'm just lost" "You're not there for me" there's another guy user and she's definitely cheating. Do yourself a favor and fuck her closest friend before she exposes you as a cuck.
the only way you will know is if you open a dialogue with her. communicate, and if she won't tell you anything is wrong and continues to act this way just break it off. either you will work through your problems or nothing will change but either way you will have your answer.
Find a new girl. Yours is broken, and probably cheating on you
drop her like a rock
How can I possibly know if she cheated on me ?
She actually talked about this when we first got together, she was telling me how I could trust her not to cheat because she's really not like this
You think I can make her spit it out ?
bump, now I'm worried I'm being cheated on
dude take my advice. you can't know anything unless you communicate. either all your questions will be answered, or all your answers will be questioned. in either case you will know what to do.
Just be assertive and straight up ask her wats up, she will probably come up with the "I feel lost" bullshit, and just tell her that you are also lost in regards of not knowing what she wants or if she is even putting any kind of effort into the relationship.
Do not let her drag you around like a possession while treating you like the bottom of her shoes.
Thats why you need to look for someone that actually has convictions, and while this happens rarely at such an early age, you will get experience.
Uhh,
you have 2 choices and 2 choices only.
Move on or be a bitch.
You can continue to be beta or just dump her ass.
But, I hate to be the one to tell you this, Yea Forumsro, but she has already moved on. She is just hoping you lose interest and stop contacting her.
She is kind of a cunt for not just dumping you, but you're kind of a pussy to be putting up wiht this.
There are literally BILLIONS of other women and you stick with the one that doesn't want to be with you?
Fucking brilliant!
This is simple enough to test:
Just don't text her tomorrow and see if she initiates. I got $50 that says you could not text for 2 days and she won't text you.
Fuck her, Yea Forums.
this
i guess ask her whats up
Just stop calling stop texting. And dump her. Then watch her blow up and laugh at her.
She's fucking another dude.
If not, she is no longer attracted to you. Sorry user.
>What do you do when your girlfriend becomes distant, cold, doesn't text first anymore and ignores you when you're near ?
You leave her because she's no longer interested in you. Or you wait until she cheats on you or leaves, herself.
Your relationship is done, user. I know it sucks, I've been there and it sucks ass, but that's what's going on. People who are into you don't just ignore you. This isn't a test. This isn't a "cold spot". She lost interest. It happens.
>I get that she might want to breakup but then why spend 2 months doing this?
Because breaking up with someone is hard. Most people don't like to hurt other people's feelings, especially if it was someone they were close to (and still cares about them a lot). I've been on both ends of it, it absolutely sucks, but the longer you drag this out the worse it's going to get.
>I haven't done anything wrong to my knowledge, I thought about the possibility of another guy going around her but I just don't see it.
You don't have to do anything at all for someone to lose interest. People get bored. I've gotten bored of girls, girls have gotten bored of me. Like I said, this shit happens. That's just human nature.
>This is really messing with me everyday now, I need to do something
Yes, you do. Break up with her.
Take it from an oldfag: end the relationship. This is not going to change. She is not going to "come around". There is nothing you can do, and nothing she can do, to get her into you again. End the relationship. I know it's hard, but if you don't pull the bandaid off now it's only going to make things worse.
You aren't going to, I already know that. But when she ends up cheating on your or leaving you, which she WILL if you don't leave first, you'll remember this post and you'll realize I knew what I was talking about.
Get a life. I mean that as an insult and literally.
Tell her how you really feel. Let it all out
>Just stop calling stop texting. And dump her. Then watch her blow up and laugh at her
I agree with this guy. Females give the cold shoulder because it makes them feel wanted when you try to get them to tell you what is wrong.
Ask her what is wrong once. If she doesn't admit what the issue is, then ignore the shit out of her. Trust me - it works both ways. She will be confused as fuck as to why you are giving her the cold shoulder. She'll get jealous.
The only way this will backfire is if she is fucking another dude. If that is the case, then you need to dump the cunt anyways.
There are sooooo many attractive females in the world. Don't get stuck on one. It's pointless. You will find another...and another...and another...it just keeps going mate.
It's over, I've been here once before. Just make sure you're the one who breaks it off ASAP.
>she was telling me how I could trust her not to cheat because she's really not like this
Bruh if a female said that to me at the very start of a relationship the first thing I would suspect is that she plans to cheat. Why would she say that instead of just not cheating on you? She wanted you to drop your guard. Trust me when I say its easiest for you to just walk away right now.
And relationships done. user what you have gotten stuck with, well... She's not going to jump ship unless she's got someone to go to. So your relationship is done, you aren't having sex. You've only being together 4months? I dunno, but nothing lost really. Only time. Move onto the next. Be polite with her, expect HS drama but don't play up to it, but you can't be friends with her. Won't work.
Good luck, learn from this and move onto the next. No, you weren't in love just lust, recognise the difference and bear that in mind next time.
>but what do I say
>what should I do
>how do you do this?
You don't fuck her best friend, you don't blow up on her and call her a bitch. That just makes you look like a cuck. Cucks can't face reality. Don't be a cuck.
You sit her down and talk to her about it. Lay it out up front, stay calm, and even if you want to, do not cry - people cannot stand dealing with a crying person that they aren't romantically interested in. They can't stand it. Don't do that to her, and don't make yourself look pathetic. Stay calm.
Here is exactly what you should say:
>I can tell something's up, and it doesn't seem like you're that interested in me anymore. Instead of dragging this out for another 3 months of you feeling awkward because you don't want to hurt my feelings, and me being stressed out and upset, let's call it quits now.
I guarantee, she will be relieved by your being up front about it and getting straight to the point. And you won't lose face (which her friends WILL find out about - that's just how dating works) by whining or crying to guilt her into staying with you; you will have handled it maturely and rationally. People respect that.
I know you love her. She doesn't love you, at least not anymore. The relationship ran its course. Leave her. Or don't, get cheated on, and have your heart shattered rather than only getting bruised. Up to you, OP.
Oh man, u have a long road ahead of u. Just break up, you have tons of pussy ahead
Jeeeeeeeeezus man! Honestly dude you can do a lot better TBH. Confront her about this elephant in the room and come to a conclusion. Weeping about it aimlessly is just you and her wasting each others time.
OP here.
Thank you for the sincerity anons.
I promise I'll have a last talk with her in the next few days and break up if she tells me the same bullshit again.
I'll insist on knowing if she's seeing someone else or not, I think I need answers to move on
I think she just got bored to be honest.